Ningen:


But it's very possible. Especially if he's using the same phone number for his WhatsApp account and Facebook. Is that the case here?

I get your point, but that is not the case here. No account was hacked. Ok, so how do you explain unplugging his phone from charging and hiding it in a stack of clothes before going for sports? How do you explain the call history? And exchanging numbers with women online?

Ningen:
An over religious person cheating?? It can't be.

Maybe his account was hacked.
She should go ahead and give him the money.

Hacked? Even WhatsApp and SMS? No, I don't think so. The religious front is a facade.

There was a couple whose marriage is barely 5 yrs. Before marriage, the wife was a successful businesswoman and all through the marriage, she has been supporting at home front and even her husband dwindling business.


Recently, she planned to pull out a huge amount of money from her business to give her husband to start over again. More like 40% of her working capital (7 figures). She wanted to gift it to him as a surprise birthday present. But she got the shock of her life. Her presumed faithful, over religious husband was having an affair and was all over Facebook flirting and sexting single girls.



Wife trusted him completely that she never snoop on his phone nor pick his calls. His dirts come to light when she discovered that he was been too possessive of his phone, apprehensive when she touches it, hide it stacks of clothes etc. The detective in her kicks in. And she saw things she would never have imagined.




Nairaland married folks, come and table this matter. If you are the wife, what will you do?

crackhaus:

Is Efewestern not a human like you?
See how he answered and backed it up with a location, that is the information I needed.

If you don't know the answer to a question, just admit you have no idea instead of getting defensive.

You are digressing.

crackhaus:

First of all, please list those places where married women can inherit properties.
Single unmarried daughters could be given an inheritance, but I'm not so sure about the married ones.

Is this happening to someone you know?
If so, where?

I'm interested...

First, this is not the issue here. And if I may ask, is there any law that states that father cannot include his married daughters in his will?

It's not about list of places it's happening. But how families decided to share their father's wealth.

wizflame:
When she dies or what?

I no even understand the question sef

No, her inheritance from her father.

Hi Nairalanders,

What is your opinion on this topic.

In a situation where a woman receives some inheritance from her father or a share of her late father's property, is she expected to hand over her inheritance (money) to her husband?

Married folks over to you. Women, how will you handle your inheritance? Men, how do you expect your wives to handle her inheritance?

TonyeBarcanista:
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Will you cease from disturbing my mention please? If you think it's chestbeat, good luck to you. Your opinion, which you are entitled to.

And FYI not all men are Pu$$ies that are controlled by women or by their witchcraft.

Meanwhile, I've made known my position and I'll appreciate if I'm not mentioned again on this thread.

Who is disturbing your mention? I NEVER quote you initially.


You are the one going about quoting every post that doesn't support your narcissism.


The feeling is mutual. And I'll appreciate it if you don't mention me again.

#Peace

TonyeBarcanista:

Only married people have opinion/ideology on what they want of their family life? Smh


Lol funny! Nobody have anything to prove to you but everybody know him level

And nobody should come online chest beating. We all know how it always end.

Some people will be forming Mr Macho online. Most of them can't do jack in real life.

Wilfredpat22:
And what is actually the problem or issue adopting a poor child and helping a fellow woman out. Sooner or later the child will know you aren’t his parents so what is the fuss about?

You are already bearing resentment to the child already. It’s better your husband don’t bring him in before you begin maltreating the poor child.

If you want First born rights, Give birth to your own on time or are you Infertile?

Maltreating a year and 6months child? Mtchew at your stereotypical attitude.
And who said the child is helpless?

Leave sentiment aside and read between the lines.

Op, Losing your dad shift the responsibility of a father to you. Which you are not emotionally, psychologically and financially prepared. Thereby causing depression.


In order to fight depression, you need to get busy. Whenever we are idle, our minds usually wander off and start bringing up negativity and all that is not the way they should be.

So try and start up a business. That way, you will have rays of hope. Slowly but surely, you will get over depression.

viettastitches:
The boy is your husband's son. all the secrets and stories are just bullsh*t.

You think he decided to adopt someone else's son when the biological mother who he claims to be his sister is alive,very close and can always destroy your web of lies whenever she wants her child back?

No,he is not my husband's child.

Actually, I came to know about this when I saw a folder containing court order issued against the father's child.

Hubby snatched the folder from me the first time I wanted to open it. Which heightened my curiosity to read it. I managed to read it some days later when I found where he hide it.

So I'm sure the child s not his.

thorpido:
Is your hubby the first son?You have an alternative who even wants to accept the child.Tell your hubby again to consider his sister.
I can understand why the child may not stay with the grandparents.
Insist you are not adopting the child.

Yes, he is the first son. And his family respects and always agree with whatever he says.

He was the one that brought up the idea and they didn't object because he is their breadwinner and practically brought up his siblings.

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carammel:
The child should live with his grandparents,let them claim him as their child,if grandma is old and not strong,she can employ a nanny to help out.

Mother-in-law is young. She's in her fifties. The father of the child lives in their area.

I suggested to him to send the boy to his elder sister (The elder sister wanted to take the child earlier on) in Lagos. But he refused. He wants to raise the child himself. He just enjoys calling he shots.

thorpido:
What plans do they have for the sister?Is she still going to school or works?How old is she?

She is about 22yrs. They want to send her to a relative in the North so that she will live there and get admitted into the university.

Please I need mature and reasonable advice from married couples on an issue that is seriously bothering me.


My husband and I got married barely a year ago. We haven't had any child yet. Hubby's younger sister had a child out of wedlock.

When we newly married, the family was trying to keep the secret from me including hubby. (For reasons best known to them) Though I managed to find out.

About a month ago, hubby sat me down and told me the story of how his sister got unwanted pregnancy (In my mind, I was glad for that moment that finally, he has considered me a part of the family.) But then, the happiness faded almost immediately when I realized that he was only telling me because he want to take in the little boy.

The family have decided to send their daughter far away from her boyfriend. They also want to take the little boy away so that the father doesn't have access to him.

Now, hubby want to bring in the little boy to our home and raise him like our child. According to him, the child must not know that we are not his parents.

This doesn't sit right with me. As much as I try to ignore the problems this might bring in my marriage and in future, I just couldn't accept it.

This is Africa, where every woman will like her son to get the birth right as the first son. How can I give that away? If it was to be my husband's illegitimate child, I would understand. But the situation is different.


Hubby brought the topic up again two nights ago, and we had a heated argument.

When the heat died down, we had discussions, I made him realized that I will not get in the way of him helping his family (Even if he wants to sponsor the child's education from childhood to adulthood) But I just can't accept him adopting the child.

I really need objective opinion and advice on how to handle the situation.

A lot of people are still living in the stone age. Mtcheww.

Op, follow your instinct. Don't let anyone push you into doing what you don't want to.

I have similar issue here. My marriage is barely a year old. Hubby's sister had a child out of wedlock. The family want to send their daughter away from her boyfriend.

Now hubby want to bring in the little boy ( 1year and 6month) to live with us.

I am really skeptical about In-laws and kind of misunderstanding it might bring in our marriage.

More especially this in-laws that keeps me out of family discussions and keeps unnecessary secret from me like I'm a stranger.
Besides, why will I have to suffer for someone else promiscuity?

The girl will go far away living freely. While I will turn nanny.