Hello poster. I can see you are use to a pattern and a system. If I were you I would try breaking that pattern now. You have an opportunity to escape destruction now. Go ask people who have or married violent and authoritative women to honestly give you their views. Mature out of your current state.

SweetHearted:
I am from a family whose first born is a female. She is followed by 3 other females. I am the 5th child and the last born is also male.

When we were younger,my sisters use to beat us because they were older and stronger than us. The eldest sister will beat the 2nd child to the last child.The same with the 2nd child. She beat the 3rd to the last child.

So I was brought up under authoritative females.

This has affected me because I find it hard to accept a gentle lady.

I only feel attracted to authoritative and violent ladies.

I find such ladies so attractive that I have never and can never date a girl unless she is authoritative, stronger and more assertive than me.

I always want to be close to women that behave like my sisters when we were younger. My sisters loved me but they showed the love through inflicting of pains.

So I tend to associate a woman's violent behavior to love. I seem to have compassion on women who behave violently and authoritatively.

I only find it easy to be working under a woman. I can't lead but I want to be led by woman. I can only work in a place if the head is a woman.

The last place I worked as a teacher, the head of our department was a woman. She complained that I was so obedient and submissive to her that I never even try to challenge her in any of her decisions unlike other teachers. She doesn't like such men, according to her.

Please I want to know if there is any man that is like me out there.

If so, what do you make of it.

Alpha001:
Happy new year NL.
I am posting this here because i really need help and i know a lot of people visit this section. Please i need urgent help as i don't want to continue like this in this 2019. Don't come and start insulting me please.

My problem is that i easily get angry and my anger doesn't go away easily. Very little things make me angry. Things that are not supposed to make me angry.
I can live in a room with a person for one year or even more without saying a word to the person just because he/she angered or did something bad to me.

I'm a quiet guy. People say i'm an introvert. I always try my best to avoid trouble. I am in my mid twenties buy have never been in a relationship.

This my problem of easily getting angry and keeping malice has been troubling me. I don't like it but still can't stop it. It is affecting my relationship with my family and close friends. And how can i even go into a relationship with this issue i'm having.
I find it very difficult to completely forgive.
I always envy those who are sociable and who don't easily get angry. I always wish to be like them.

Please i need your help/advice. Please this is not a spiritual problem, so don't start telling me about deliverance.
I would appreciate if this can be moved to the front page.
Thanks.

Hi. Do you feel you suffered abuse or neglect especially from your dad when growing up? Maybe your mum or another woman had to take care of you without the help of male? Are you a mummy's boy? Could you also be angry about something you don't know exactly what it is? Take some time off and ask yourself questions, do research and then seek solution.

Where did he get this from? 9ja made pastors make una fear God o!

Nice one Op Do you remember Owen hargreaves?

It depends on what we mean by "impact".

Delivar:







Who is Sophie Alakija? Many of us wouldn't know her and why she made news if the poster hadn't attached "Wizkid's Ex" to introduce her. Use your brain.

What is "use your brain"? People asked questions and you have to resort to such nasty words?

Do we have to tag it "Wizkid ex"?

The day your eyes get opened you will regret ever wasting your time praying such prayers and encouraging others to do the same.

Omooba77:
It is common these days to see people making mockery of men of God due to one thing or the other. If you know the Bible; even when a man of God err, it is not appropriate for people to speak ill of them. Rather pray for them and leave them to God for judgement.
We can all learn from 2 Kings 2:23-25. Have a blessed Sunday.

OP how did you arrive at your conclusions? Have you heard of the word brainwash?

swave7:


Has your query been resolved?

Hi, yes I got help. Thanks

JONNYSPUTE:
. Ask her mum,she has the answer to ur question.

You wrote it and I would like you to explain why you thought her life will be incomplete without a man. Do you know what toxic parenting is? Dont be quick to support things like this.

Toxic parenting. How I wish Africans can understand the concept of toxic parenting is!

JONNYSPUTE:
Your mum is a woman like you and she knows the truth that you cannot be complete as a woman without a man.

Who told you that she cannot be complete without a man?

STEVOMAX:

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Hey.Could you check your number again? I couldn't find you on whatsapp.

Hi guys!Thanks for your prompt replies. I will contact you soon.

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teelaw4life:


It's not really peculiar to Nigeria. A lot of stories like this in the U.S. Contractual agreement wouldn't let me divulge specific details but I've edited books for at least 4 people in the U.S who had crappy parents. Especially the Mums. Most times though, either one of the parent is battling with some form of mental illness.

One example that i can point to and is easily verifiable is Aisha Tyson's book "How i retired at 26." (see the cover picture below)
I do agree though that it's a big problem in Nigeria. Hopefully our own generation having experienced a parenting style to not adopt for a child duly learn and treat our own children better.

Thanks a lot. I didn't say Nigeria only. I know in the US it happens but not so much in Europe. Its is a mental health issue in many cases. I have been doing my research as well.
A major problem is that the society does not help in this matter. We hope for a better society.

No parents are perfect but one should not go on in life damaging a child. A child is not your property. Please let the younger generation learn this lessons.

This is a peculiar situation to developing countries like Nigeria. It is why they are backward because they destroy their children. No one who grows up in such environment will be close to his parents. I know many who suffered the same and they walked away. This is because the parents usually don't stop this harassment. They keep doing it even when their kids are grownup and have their kids. My own opinion is that for protection sake I may have to stay away from them for a while. It is complicated but one has to act safe.
Not trying to blame anyone....

Javanian:
Due to the numerous "i want to start programming, which language should i start with" threads on this board i decided to create a thread that will address this issue. I am not a wonderful writer and i won't say i know it all but i will try. I urge every one on this board to correct me where i err an also contribute in whatever way you can to make this thread worth it. I will try as much as possible not to be biased in this write up.

I am not going to go into detail in defining what programming is because i will assume before entering this thread you should already know what programming is. But in summary programming is the act of creating whatever you want with your brain and computer programming is the act of creating whatever you want with your brain and a computer. You can read more from

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Computer_programming

Programmers could also be called software programmers, software developers and other big-big names you can think of.

Feel free to ask your questions, i will try and answer the ones i can my Ogas in the house will help me with those i can't answer

Please every Programmer should try as much as possible to check on this thread once in a while to help answer some questions Newbies would like to ask.

I encourage people to start with python. It is easier to start with and understand. You can build on the knowledge gained from python to learn other programming lingos.

Not having enough enough oxygen in the body and indeed the brain can have terrible effects in the life of a person.It could affect your daily life, friendship/relationships etc. Let's take time to find out what could possibly wrong with us or around us especially when it lingers for some time. The following are the effects of not having enough oxygen:
1. Damage to specific brain regions deprived of oxygen. Various brain regions tend to coordinate different functions, so some functions might be severely crippled, while others remain intact. For instance, the injury survivor might be able to understand language but unable to speak.

2. Changes in mood or personality.

3. Difficulty with memory, including the ability to recall facts, names of objects or people, recognize faces, learn new information, or recall autobiographical facts.

4. Changes in motor skills. A number of brain regions help coordinate movement, so if these areas are damaged, you may struggle to walk, write, or engage in other functions.

5. Chronic pain. When the brain is damaged, it may incorrectly process pain signals, causing you to feel pain even when there is not an injury.

6. The inability to feel pain, or to correctly respond to pain signals. For instance, pain in your arm might feel like pain in your leg.

7. Difficulties with impulse control. Many brain injury survivors develop addictions, aggressive behavior, or sexually inappropriate compulsions.

8. Symptoms of mental illnesses such as depression or anxiety.

9. Dementia-like symptoms, including confusion, memory difficulties, and signs of rapid brain aging.

Somethings that can be done to increase oxygen in the body:

1. Make sure your apartment/office is well aerated.

2. Go out for a walk.

3. Do more exercises.

4. Eat less fat. Etc.

Don't always think that you are under any demonic attack or something because of strange feelings in your head. Check your environment and make a change.

You can google too find out more symptoms and what could be done.

source: https://www.spinalcord.com/blog/what-happens-after-a-lack-of-oxygen-to-the-brain

Maychang:

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately, the challenges and how tough it has been as a first born child.

Why is Life not fair to us?

This has been my thought in recent days. I think were the problem starts is that many parents have less experience by the time they have their first child..So they abuse them; that where most depression starts from. They(parents) decide for them or want to..The child get confused. Now, these things might not show until he is a grown man... A lot to explain.. But talking about prayers.. I believe it's one thing to pray, it's another thing to pray rightly. Another thing is that firstborns should not to add to their already damaged roots which only God can sort, by getting involved in immoralities. Lastly, is that you've got to fight!Fight! Fight!

Dear Op, please deal with any frustrations first. Then you can handle the issues.
Ask yourself questions you can answer. Take time to do this. You said you are very hardworking ,which means your could be under some pressure from work. Also, try to find out what other pressures that keep you irritated. You need to be systematic. Are you dealing with some forms of depression? You might need help yourself. From there you can handle your mum's issue. A person that is not "complete" in mind would find it difficult handling the slightest provocation. What is your relationship with other people? Did you just get out of some crisis? Please deal with this. If you can reduce contact with your mum for sometime do it. This is to avoid any silly reactions to her "attitude". Remember in the end there will always be a solution. Take it easy!

EdoNation:



BUT I HAVE NEVER SEEN THIS KIND OF CREATURE IN NAIJA BEFORE OOO

Really? I used to see this animal in some parts of Benin back in the days. I like the creature. It is a slow moving creature. I was thinking it is already extinct.

I believe it is not possible for any country to opt out of the current monetary system. It is the system right now. It has been like that for hundreds of years. An not until something new comes up, It will remain.
As for the system being unfair. If the originator(s) did that in with such intent, it is possible that it worked for then.I doubt if it still the same. I heard the use of money started in the modern day Turkey.If that is true,you can tell that it is no longer in their favour. What I think has happened over the years is that competition has brought out even the most disadvantaged economies/countries into a better state in terms of the benefits of having a monetary world system. I know there are manipulations in the system. Nothing can be perfect.

Ginaz:


I never had any experience.. .....

If I were a psychologist I would be in a position to say if it good or not. But you don't need to worry so much. Try and at it. Maybe you should start by going out alone then get used to being free with people you don't know. One has to do something that is the secret. Out door exercise would be of great help to you on this.

Ginaz:


No, why this chilling question.?

If you have not always been this introverted, you may have to find out why now? The reason for the question is that some experience just make you "draw" back like a snail withdraws into its shell. But you know, sometimes there could be no reason for worries,It could be a stage in life.
It could also happen that you are becoming wiser. But try mixing up with people even if it means just meeting up at cafe or something. Such friendship doesn't have to go beyond such a place.
I hope I made sense to you.

Ginaz:

Nairalanders, please am I too introverted or what? Is there something I'm missing? Please.

Have you had some terrible experience in the last year or so?

I vote Mimzy cc: NLJega

Go Sweden!
But the Italian side have experienced men!

Lacomus:
No one is perfect, basically the moment yu step out to socialize get ready to meet different kinds of personalities, My one Kobo is Never underestimate or overestimate the power of friendship.

You are right!I think we all point fingers whereas the other four point back at us. There is a saying ,I can't remember exactly how it goes.
"...If everyone heard of what the others have said about another,there will be only 2 friends left in this world"-unknown source. There is a truism in that. To me the only two friends are a deaf, and a blind man. The blind man could whisper something without the deaf knowing and the deaf could gesticulate with his hands and body without the blind knowing it. God is the only consistent friend. Even we have problems with our siblings we never say ,they are no longer our siblings. Footballers are paid millions and they will still fail at the most crucial times,yet the clubs don't fire them.So why do we expect others to be perfect towards us and we aren't perfect towards other?All I can say is that man is complicated. We owe no one nothing. One has to be wise when dealing with people,it is that simple.
Sometimes those we call friends are not friends but acquaintances.
/Jbrodaly

sinceraconcept:
what about Eminem who hates his father and mother? Nicki Minaj who hates her father etc. Not trying to encourage hate for one's parents but........

Thanks a lot for educating me on that.What i stated was that-"I have never heard ...."But please find out about what these stars really think. Also the way a Nigerian would hate is different from the way westerners hate.Just the same way a Nigerian would love.Example you can see this links:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D-jyxaADosE
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2773285/Nicki-Minaj.html