Pretty sad and unfortunate that the P-Square group fell apart publicly. They were my favourite Nigerian musicians.

I don't even know the genesis of their quarrel but it seems they were unable to manage their successes together and appreciate each other's contributions towards that success.

And maybe they allowed family matters got
involved with business and their careers to a detriment.

Initially thought Coldplay was Chris Martin.
And Maroon 5 was Adam Levine. Like, do I really care who's with the microphone as far as I'm getting good music?

I don't believe people who listened to P-Square growing up actually cared who wrote or sang the songs. All we knew was that both were incredible entertainers who got us rocking.

Funnily enough, after reading Paul's ramblings about the Ejaejo song with T.I, started listening to it again because I enjoyed it when it was released initially.

Music evolves through the decades so you have to reinvent yourself as an artist. Besides, you can't peak twice so don't expect people to rock with your music like 15 years ago.

Breakup or makeup nobody really cares - just do it gracefully. Like, nobody really gives a fucck mhen.

Leemzyy:
Sorry how does that get to relate with my question?

You see, same way I felt about you asking whether the school is better than yours (NTIC).

I only highlighted that the school is "one of the best" in EDO STATE because an unfair narrative was being painted of spoilt kids showing off under the supervision of a clueless school.

I may be uninformed, but I don't even think there's an NTIC in Edo state.

So your question is an 🍏 or 🍊 type for me.

Leemzyy:
Are they in any way better than my school(NTIC)?...let be honest

Do you like oranges?... be honest

Gerrard59:

Good to know. So, it is well-balanced. Why the hullabaloo about the perceived ostentatiousness? It is good when readers with knowledge of the school's exploits put out this information so the conversation is well-balanced.

Just checked: the school's alumnus Stephen had the second highest JAMB score in 2023.
- https://www.nairaland.com/8078522/top-10-jamb-score-2024
- https://www.instagram.com/p/CzwkF0WIzFl/

Good school then. They should enjoy!

No doubt the school (UPSS) is top - most considers the best in Edo state. That's no small feat.

@bolded. That's typical Nigerians on the internet for you. They hate what they love as much as they love what they hate.

Children of wealthy parents are going out to celebrate a rare occasion, what are these people expecting them to rock? 2K dresses and overcrowded danfo buses?

I see them overrating because they say it's "prom". Maybe they'll be alright if the school called it "gbedu" instead.

Very expensive school. But they try to educate their students beyond traditional academics.

Their students are mostly the best when they compete in state wide competitions.

Interesting read.

I initially saw this case of chioma and a tomato paste brand on an article on probably CNN website but ignored it because I didn't want to deal with the negative feelings afterward. Now, I've read all the comments on this thread so I have a better idea of what went down.

The major thing that didn't sit well with me was the fact that both the police and our courts are tools that work for the rich. How the woman was kept in jail for months before being found guilty is not right. Even a guilty sentence may not necessarily come with a jail term. (HEAVY) fine would be understandable. Because I don't think the treatment she's gotten so far would happen if she was a well connected and influencial person.

Aside from that, I can't have any issue if the tomato brand wants to hold an individual accountable for their claim.

That's the problem I have with people's acts and viewpoints today. Everybody wants to just do as they please and not be held ACCOUNTABLE.

Everybody needs to learn something from this. Irrespective of the side you're supporting.

Omo. I don dey become ancestors oh.

JB0707:



Abroad is not bringing out the real me, i am hardworking and supportive when i was in Nigeria too, i am only asking because that is my sweat too. Am i wrong for working and having nothing to show for it? That’s my sweat too and PS i love my husband. And I don’t think i am asking for too much

Best response so far. Thank you.
The investment is 50:50. I tried asking and i was guilt tripped and no genuine reason was given that when I became worried because it my hard earned money too, i don’t want to be that kind of wife that nag’s husband. I know he loves me, i am just confused. But thank you really

He loves you but apparently not enough to put your name where your sweat is? Where your money is? Then maybe love is not what you should demand from your husband right now but some fucking FAIRNESS. and a little bit more respect for his 'partner' in many ways, including retirement.

Let the reality sink in: because of your husband's actions, you don't have any joint investment as it stands. What you have is a pillow talk agreement written in the sands despite your 50:50 contributions.

The fact he didn't have your name on the ownership documents from the very beginning, without being told is unforgettable, in my books of FAIR PLAY.

The fact he'd refused to retrace his steps and have your full name in all the documents after you have raised the issue is unforgivable, in my book of FAIR PLAY.

Your husband may come up with a reason why he did this, but there's no valid reason worth the risk for you. Personally, I think it could either be one of the two potential reasons:

1. The Very Unintelligent Reason: Something so flimsy related to a man and husband's pride and ego of being the figurative and literal provider and showrunner of the family in the eyes of everyone.

2. The Intelligent Reason: This is the reason everyone can have but can't and wouldn't say it aloud. It's the 3D chess reason because it's all about the long game. When and IF it comes to push and shove, there'll only be one outcome.

Both reasons are very risky for you. Don't be fooled by "LOVE". All men are capable of the second reason.

Joint investment, joint ownership. In writing. In receipts. Better safe than sorry.

Flows001:

Lol

I will insist on that title, I don too examine kpekus even pass some Medical doctors sef!!

Funny enough, I brought this drama upon myself, I was the one that asked if I could check her initially when we started dating.

What led to this weird routine was that she told me I was the first guy she agreed to date, because she wanted to wait until age 20 before getting into any relationship. And as soon as she became ready, I was the best among the guys asking her out, so she was convinced she could begin the journey with me..

I believed her because I could still see some JJC traits in her when we began dating, until I stylishly asked if she was a virgin, and she said YES.

I bluntly told her she was lying, because she's an extremely gorgeous lady, black beauty 100%, too beautiful to have been able to withstand the several male predators that tried toasting her before I showed up.

So I told her that the only way I could believe her was if she could allow me check her and confirm it myself, she obliged and immediately gave me permission to go ahead and check her, after making me promise not to force myself on her.

We both kept our word and I confirmed it. Ever since then, she has made become a constant tradition for me to always check her whenever she comes to my house..

She's 100% clean down there, so I have no issue examining anytime she comes sha..

By God's grace, I will be engaging her next year, and marriage plans would commence soon afterwards..

Congratulations in advance. Not everyday people find companion that ticks all the boxes.

I think it's important I also second that guy advicing that things (especially such as this) between you and babe should stay out of your niggas sights and ears .

Flows001:


Same thing my friends told me

The last time she came, i told her it wasnt necessary, but she became sad when I refused to check her, so I had to

She always insists, I think that's her own way of being accountable and encouraging herself to keep it sealed until marriage, and also in a way ensuring she clears every doubt in my mind, owing to the fact that girls are extremely loose these days...

This year makes it our third year in the relationship now, and na so so check she dey make me check her, like say I wan conduct operation

It's a pretty wild one. Though I can laugh to it.

@bolded.
I guess that's her angle too. It does make sense to me and as long as she's comfortable with her approach and you're happy to oblige, what can I say?

Even though everywhere for good if to say you be doctor. Atleast she get free checkups. She suppose don Sama you one correct title for your efforts. Perhaps, the examiner

scrupulousblog:

How do you teach her to be a virgin when she is not?

I said SOME. Not All. It should be pretty obvious to you that that SOME wouldn't include virginity.

A girl named Mary is a virgin until the moment she's not. But she's still Mary before and after.

The point is those are not very difficult qualities to find in a woman in my opinion. I wonder if you think Virginity is the single hardest to find on the list.

Flows001:
To be sincere with you, my girlfriend has all of this.

Though she's in her final year in the University, but I can still say she's employed because she is a fashion designer who works by herself and make her own money...

I happen to be her first boyfriend, and we both have decided to let her remain virgin until we marry, she makes me check her anytime she comes around, just so I know she's keeping to her promise.

Ladies like her are rare for real

What?? I can never actually do that, or even ask for that.

Even if she allowed and encouraged me to, I just can't go that far. Just the imagination of that reality gats me in stitches here

Those are not really difficult qualities to find or demand from a woman. Some are teachable, why she can grow into others if her partner is the right person.

uuzba:

I am a man. And I approve.
Go for older guys please.
The fact that you went to school and same class with a guy does not mean he is ready or prepared to marry you.
Your partner is 5, 10 or 20 years much older than you and will support you better in this Nigeria.
We that are your age mate, will reverse back and choose a younger girl that will not argue or challenge us in the house.

And how's that working out for those men going for much younger women? Are they really getting the peace and respect from these younger women that they seek?

Because that doesn't appear to be the case going by the "true stories" narrated by men on nairaland.

Humbly asking.

Jman06:
Imagine if everybody has this mindset of not wanting children! Do you know that would lead to extinction of the human species from earth? Procreation is good for continuity of life and that is why it is good for people to give birth to offsprings.

Unfortunately, I cannot fathom a world where everyone suddenly decides not to have children. Can you?

Personally, the only reason I'm considering marriage is to have children. I specifically love children but I'll birth just 3 maximum and give them the best in life.

Hmmm. So, there's indeed a formula to your wants in children. Why not 1, or 10 children?

This attitude of not wanting to birth children is alien to our culture and is typical of those who "wannabe" like oyibos. We have many of such people especially in the southern part of the country. Such people forget that the oyinbo people they wannabe like have strong healthcare system and old people's homes that cater for the aged. If Nigerians with our poor healthcare system and bad economy want to copy the western lifestyle of not wanting children, then extinction would catch up with us faster.

If extinction is the fate of humans, I'm sure we all know which people would go extinct first regardless of their population.

I think to have or not to have children should be a MAJOR decision. Unfortunately, we have been programmed to get a Job, marry, and have children. Me included. So what should have been a major decision to make ends up being trivial.

But there's nothing trivial about birthing, raising, and caring for children. Not every person in the world is going to be able to commit to, and then have the capabilities to shoulder such responsibilities.

Fact is, if Nigeria was a less judgemental society. A few more people would be contented with the happiness and pride they find in other sources besides children.

noble2faith:


There was traditional paternity test then in some cultures. It was normally done when the baby was just born. In Ijaw culture, for instance, the new born baby would be placed in river. If the baby got drowned, it wasnt the child of the said father.

Kai, how many innocents perished.

Jayhome24:
Another madness loading......if lecturer fail her now she will go on social media and started crying foul play, go school go learn book and be responsible she dey busy dey do Avatar shit like a maqurade and dracular.

Fail her because of what?

Say you're jealous because you don't have the brains, creativity and courage to pull off something like that.

Successful people are made beyond the remit of a traditional education. People who are in the creative industry will appreciate her effort because they know her talent are not necessarily taught in schools.

....

Reading the comments, it's clear to see that most people who use wipes are less likely to wash their hands with soap afterwards. Because they really think the main benefits over those who uses water is that there's no direct contact between their hands and poo. So off they go!

People who use water are more likely to wash their hands with soap and disinfectant because they know the smell may persists.

I don't really care what any particular person uses to wipe their ass (after all, if no be doggystyle, OP for no discover the dog),

Just make sure you wash your fucking hands. I was foolish to believe every adult would wash their hands after toileting. Sote washing hands after shitting come they linked to tribes and traditions again!

placeofallure:


And Poor Things too.

Yeah, that one also did well too. And Emma Stone is one of my favourite.

flexyrule:
Don't waste your time.

I go like am, no worry.

tuzle:
u fit sleep if u na action person

Don't worry, Oppenheimer na my kind of film.

drmuchin:


E no sweet
Just dialogue
No action

That's exactly what I'm expecting.

For some reason, lizard is the animal that irritate me the most, dead or alive.

I'd rather eat other taboo animals before I consider lizard.

I always want to watch the movies for which the best Directors get their nominations.

I have to watch Oppenheimer then.

Meerahbel:
Oga go one side jare

All this while? Slow and predictable as expected.

femi4:
Stop lying
Which standard practice? Why is KPMG or Deollitte not practicing that?

What's obtainable in a saner clime is references from your past employer and reason for leaving your job.

Hr have no business asking for your payslip, you are not collecting loan or renting a house from the company

Oh, because KPMG and Deloitte don't ask for payslip that means every other company must be doing the same. Is it illegal to ask in both the UK and Netherlands, certainly not. Company asks according to their own discretion.

A lot more companies verbally ask your current renumeration during the course of your interviews with them, what you say, and the consequences of your reply about that is on you.

It may not be as common again in other countries to ask about previous salary payslips, but still a possibility you get asked depending on the company till tomorrow.

In Nigeria, it's even a miracle if the big corporates don't ask. Nigeria is part of the world. It's standard practice until the law makes it illegal.

Meerahbel:
You're very correct madam.

It was a surprised to me during a program, there was this senior HR Manager that we were in the same hotel together. She was on a phone conversation with a candidate negotiating salary. After much deliberations, she told the candidate to get his last payslip and send to him.

I had to tell her asking for a payslip of a candidate before accepting to pay him or her what they're asking is unnecessary. As a matter of fact, I had to even used this as an example to explain things to her. The woman NO GREE FOR ME OOO.

It's unfortunate that some HR practitioners are still obsolete in their operations.

Thank you for sharing knowledge.

I'm not an HR. And I don't want any company asking for my payslip. However, them asking or choosing not to ask is neither obsolete or modern. It's just what it is: corporate norms. All over the world, it's standard practice. Especially in a world where two employees on the same level or team are likely to be compensated different according to their negotiating power. The candidate is always at liberty to refuse and tell the company to fuckoff though.

I know most companies ask for payslip because of salary negotiations. However, it's just due diligence for others to ensure the candidate worked for a particular company and for the duration they claimed.

It may look like the company holds all the advantage if they know what you're earning previously, but it's not always the case.

Omo. The guy make me feel like a spend rift.

iLoveYouToo:
Last Sunday I bought at 1,150 - Lagos

I buy gas once or twice yearly. Before last weekend, the last time I bought gas it sold for 590, that was months ago.

Interesting, how come you only refill twice per year?