I have been married to my husband for a long time now, my husbands younger brother got married to the sister of a girl that i have been hearing my husband has been messing around with in Lagos.

I have told my husband that this is an appalling behaviour, but my husband has still been refusing to listen and is carrying on , also the sad thing about this, is my brother-in-law that got married to this girls sister knew this was the situation before he married the sister and still went ahead and got married.

This said brother-in-law use to eat in my house play with my children (niece/nephew) is aware about this situation and is still condoning this behaviour.. Kindly advice what can be done? thanks in advance for your response.

Its unfortunate that some MIL'S are terrible, as a mother u pray that when the time is right your son will get married and settle down. When there is a major issue with your husband, it is your MIL you should be able to talk to as a mother, but noooo, not the one that i married her son, she is a devil i am sorry to say.
(Just briefly) There was a family meeting that was called where our marital issue was being settled this was a matter that i had complained to the MIL about earlier, that she ignored that turned major. When they asked my MIL what is upsetting you about your DIL, when my MIL started talking about me, i had to wonder if my MIL was talking about me or somebodyelse, it was unbelieveable how a mother (MIL) can be so awful and destroy a home, even my husband had to look at his mother if she was ok.

Right there, my mother wanted to give them there dowry if not for the fact that my husband said he wants his wife.
Unfortunately, she will not have anything to do with myself or her grandchildren thats how awful it is, i have placed her nicely in the hands of GOD to deal with her, because at the end of the day i am someones child and i have never been disrespectful to her.

Please, if you have children, pray from now no matter what age the children are that they marry into a decent family and have a good MIL.

Tolexander thanks for your response, my thing is, what is stopping my so called new sister in law to be, trying to destroy my marriage by any means so that her little sister that is having an affair with my husband can come and join her in this family.

We started having kids at the age of 23 for your information.

Please excuse this lengthy story but I am seeking advice.
I have been married to my husband for 25years now we have 3 children and 2 grandkids we are in our 40’s started young with the children. We have always been very happy in our marriage and also have had our ups and down.
My husband’s job takes him to different places and I as wife have always followed. Now I am in London and he is now in Nigeria. I have been having this feeling that my husband has been having an affair but I kept trying to disregard it.
One day when I went to pick him up from the airport I used his phone to call the taxi… (Ok I own up I did snoop as well). He had texted his brother in London a ladies number, I asked what was that for he said it was nothing. I memorised the number and stored it.
Again he came to visit I realised he had been phoning and texting this lady, i asked him what is this all about he started giving me stories the girl is crazy she is stalking him I had to look at him twice, yes you are my husband but why would someone want to stalk you.
I have been praying to God to take control of this situation but it keeps getting worse. This year I wanted to go to Nigeria for valentine’s day, my husband told me his brother was going to be in Nigeria around that time why don’t I postpone my visit to another time, I said to myself, last time I checked valentine day is for couples and not siblings. I went to Nigeria, getting to Nigeria I see my brother-in-law and a lady he said this is his girlfriend my spirit didn’t really take to her, I even had to call my mum in London and tell her that there is something about this my brother-in-laws new girlfriend that is repelling me. Well I shook it off and was still happy for my brother in law that he had now found his future wife as he said, I made the girl as comfortable as I could being that she would be coming into the family I told her about the rest of the family in the UK because that’s where most of all the family are (Mother in law, father in law, siblings). Most of the time I would leave my food and drink in the presence of these people, including my husband, and go to the bathroom. (You know what I mean). Thank God, came back to London in one piece.
I still couldn’t shake off the thinking of this girl that my husband said was stalking him. I decided to go onto the famous social media and search her out, to my surprise there was a picture of my brother-in-laws new girlfriend and the so called girl my husband said was stalking him together in a picture, clicking on the picture it shows they are sisters.
I called my husband and told him, he didn’t say anything or seem remorseful, for a whole month he didn’t speak to me, he came four days ago for our daughters’ graduation and says lets sweep all that under the mat and try again, let’s not throw 25yrs away. But I think to myself how can I be in a marriage with the sister of this girl if my brother in law decides to marry her and what kind of husband exposes his wife to something like this? I am God fearing but there seems to be a but in this matter.
Thanks in advance for your comments