Pls Missy_B, I am a man with so much love & passion for cooking. Kindly send me to my email jiokeh@yahoo.com
Thanks in advance babes.

t.adewara:
Please can anybody tell me how to activate GTB mobile banking, do I need to go to the bank?

No adewara, you don't need to go to GTBank. If you have downloaded their mobile application - the GTMobile java app, follow the instructions and make sure the mobile number you will enter during the setup is the number on you GTBank account details. Basically the number you receive your alerts on. After you have set it up, you can now add in your wallet your GTBank Naira debit card. It's a piece of cake actually.

Internet banking in Nigeria and even anywhere in the world is safe as long as you observe the rules. I have been using GTBank mobile phone app since last year and it has all been uhuru. I also use the Internet bank service of Access bank and GTBank to do series of transactions and I have never had cause to regret it. To put your mind at rest on your Internet banking transactions, I'll suggest the use of tablets as they are not prone to attacks like the PC (most especially windows PCs). An iPad, Blackberry Playbook or a Mac is your best bet as they have near perfect anti hack architecture. However, as someone has rightly mentioned, your best security is you. Shine your eyez well well.

Please run as fast as your legs can carry you. Its a job SCAM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

However this story might have come about, it has a message. The message is scary if you guys are not seeing what I'm seeing. The country Nigeria is headed for the windup that the US intelligence report realeased. First it was the Niger Delta, now Abia state, the Boko Harams are there unleashing their own. A civil war is imminent if the government doesn't do a U-Turn from the order of the day. The masses are waking up and gradually the resistance to bad and dictatorship type of governance is building up. Who knows the state that will be next and before you know it, it will snowball into a revolution.

God help Nigeria.

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@goodson
Yes it is very possible to have a befitting but small wedding with you budget. This has always been one problem I have with our system. Why should I invite the entire universe to come and witness my wedding? Its not compulsory. With your 150 guest expectations, make it a strictly on invitation event. Food and drinks is where most of the expenditures go to.
Breakdown:
2 bags of rice @ N14,000 will serve the 150 guests. Drop extra N75k for ingredients & the take away pack to package the food. For drinks buy the following:
5 cartons of non-alcoholic wine = N25,000 (60 bottles).
5 cartons of canned minerals (assorted) = N10,000 (120) bottles.
5 cartons of amstel malta = N12,500 (120 bottles).
5 cartons of Heineken = N15,000 (120 bottles)
10 cartons of 75cl bottled water = N10,000 (240 bottles)
You are done with drinks. Anybody that offer more should go to a joint after the wedding.
For your suit, go for mass produced italian suits = N25k, shoe = N5k, shirt = N3k. For your wife, rent wedding dress N20k, her shoe = N3,500, accessories = N10k. Her friends should help her for her make-up.
For venue, use the church hall, if they dont have, use a school field hire canopy & chairs. Put away N70k for that. DJ = N30k, Photographer = N30k. Your wedding and engagement ring set = N35k. Wedding cake and decorations = N40k
Total expensis = N432,500.

Done deal! Your wedding has come and gone within ur budget without breaking the bank. You'll have abt N15k extra for miscellinous expensis . HAPPY MARRIED LIFE IN ADVANCE.

Nb: Chances are friends & families might throw in financial assistance. If that happens, you can use it to up your game a little. Like paying for your best man's suit & ur wife's bride's maids dress.

@ poster, move on. I've been in this kind of relationship before. At the end, there was nothing to show for it. I thank God for the move I made by leaving her. Today I'm happier & have a wonderful woman who'd give her life for me.
She is very tactical if you take a real survey on the goings so far. She wants to frustrate you out as she doesn't want it to seem she was the one that ended it. Pls don't fall for the crocodile tears, it didn't go beyond the eyes that shaded it. I can imagine how long she recited the act to put up prior to you guys meeting after you found out she was in naija? I'd advice you quit wasting ur time any further. From all pointers, if you don't do it yourself, she'll eventually do it; dump you.

Wow! All the while I've been on Nairaland, this is the most interesting, most advanced, most helpful & most family-styled thread I hav come across on NL. No bickerings, No self aggrandizement, No lofty demeanor. I feel like becoming a PA. MyPeace, you have just proved to be what the second sylable of ur handle said. "Peace". Keep keeping it real & putting smiles & confidence on the faces of the generation-now. This is a HAPPY FAMILY.

@Ujujoan
You made a great point. I've heard stories in line with your arguement. But in life, we all do have choices & upbringing also plays a great role. I have chosen to be good. It though sometimes could be very expensive, I cannot change who I am.

chaircover:

Yes there are still a few of them around - I am married to one and on top of all the qualities you mentioned I have great in-laws too.

I'm in Nigeria not America or UK. I can proudly say I am all that and more. Its painful my woman is so blind to see that. She is on her knees now sha begging and I am wary of taking her back. Will she be able to change truly? Sometimes these things don't change as they seem to be who the individual is. I have read a lotta books and all indices points to the same "You Can't Change A Person".

@ poster:
I'd have to be blunt here; DON'T DO IT. I sure do know what love is & know for sure it could sometimes becloud our sense of judgement. Most times, realities never reverses for love. Don't deceive yourself with "I HAVE A STRONG FAITH". Faith doesn't come cheap and can only be faith when it is unshaken. Can you convince yourself you won't have an atom of doubt on not ending up with sickle cell children? Even when the realities stares you on your face everywere you go? Don't start what you can't finish.

My final word; DON'T RIDICULE GOD. Walk ways and remain best of friends.

@ tope2000: in all sincerity, will the stinkingly rich guy be your choice or you are kidding? I had to ask you because you are the only respondent so far that didn't go for the average guy. I once had the impression most pretty chicks will go for money security just like tope2000 so as to keep up with their social outlook. Why is the scale tilting the other way? Is it that there is a clear cut difference between boy/girl thing & marriage? I need these answers & it better be honest. It will help me draw a final conclusion on a matter clogging my head.

Oh sweetie, enjoy your union. I'm happy for you. God treasured it so much that He saved it for the last. After creating the heaven & the earth, made man, he the created marriage by making and giving Adam a gift of a woman. Your hubby is a lucky dude. Love him and adore him for the days of your marital bliss to be long.

@ dae: Average meaning he's self employed and at the moment can afford to fuel his car, pay his rent as at when due, provide for you/him, can afford a luxury of a BVULGARY perfume for u as ur regular, a £299 pounds engagement ring and a little extra when the need arises without breaking the bank. Meanwhile, you have ur regular well paying job.

Wow! I'm amazed all my respondents so far are going for the 1st guy. I once thought money plays a great role on who an average pretty naija chick chooses to settle down with irrespective of the underlying factors. As long as there is financial security, they are good to go. The reasons usually ascribed to such decisions being "I DON'T WANT TO SUFFER"

Hmmmm! Are the winds of change blowing?


Keep the responses rolling in.

Just my curious mind. Ladies, who among these men will you likely choose as a husband. An average guy with a good car & a nice apartment. Faithful and God fearing. Respectful and supportive of you in your chosen career. Who can afford to take you out to the movie or indulge you once in a while. Has a great family value & respect for the family institution. Is intelligent, good looking, romantic, adventurous, great sense of humour and above all, loves you like there will be no tomorrow. He has a listening ear to your problems and always have a handy advice cum suggestions whenever you need one and spends quality time with you.


Or this other guy very rich irrespective of where the money came from, throws you a lavish birthday bash, sends you to the UK every summer, wants you to be a stay at home mum because he doesn't trust you won't cheat, is a chronic womanizer, doesn't pray with you or believe in prayers, is not always around, buys you a 4x4, and is just marrying you not necessarily because he is crazily in love with you but because you are beautiful. He gets his female callers calls right under your nose with little regards how you'd feel about it? And is always out with the boys while African Magic remains your only companion.


NB: Please guys, pardon me if this topic or anything near it has been treated before. Sometimes the search doesn't just leave so much to desire.

Thanks all for the heart-felt responses so far. The celibacy was her initiative & I consented to it. We needed to build our relationship/marriage right. I'm one guy dat's been there done that & hav told her all abt it. We smooch, kiss, there's public display of affection when the opportunity presents itself. I also kno she's a time bomb waitin to explode sexually but I don wanna take advantage of her weakness there. Funny enof, the relationship looks so good from the outside but on the inside, a lot is wrong. Someone did make a good point, "maybe she's ignorant on how to handle a relationship". Midway into the relationship when I wanted out due to her nonchalant behaviours as regards the us; this was before we got engaged, she admitted her ignorance on how to handle a relationship & pleaded I giv her time to learn. I advised her to talk to her married colleague at her work place. She agreed to but did she? I can't say. I worry about that cos a woman doesn't need to be tutored on that. Its a natural instinct.

Is she a virgin? Yes she is and despite her travail in life she held tight to it. I respect her for that. However, my love for her wasn't based on the fact that she is untapped. I didn't get to know about it till 2months into the affair. Before I knew about her V state, normally I'd try to initiate sex whenever she comes around but she'd say NO! & I'd respect that. She was wary of telling me cos I once told her in one of our dates I didn't intend marrying a virgin. My point; my love happened so fast, wasn't 4her V. Never hav I felt such a surge of emotion in such a record time. It was the moment I saw her & it has never seized to grow stronger even with her funny demeanour. She swore she wasn't seeing any body. Said she didn't need to cos she believed in us. <ALL THAT MIGHT JUST BE STORY sha>. Funny enof, my aunty got a prophecy from her church she's the one for me. She's been told similar thing too. Also, in my bid to seek God's face concernin us, I was given d same prophecy. Does this prophecy thing work?

Been out of town & out of internet connection. She came as promised and I made good my plans. We had a long talk & I re-affirmed my dissatisfaction on her mode of handling the relationship. I touched on so many areas that she is lacking. As usual she went on the defence. Finally, I told her I'm calling off the engagement since it didn't seem to me she wants it as much as I do and she is not ready to be committed to it. Initially she tot I was bluffing, but when it dawned on her I was serious her mood changed and tears filled her eyes. Did I tell u guys? My baby is so proud. She held back so hard to cry but no sooner she stepped outta my apartment than she started to wail. Today she's a bit repentant at least she tries to call or sms but nothing much has changed. I'm trying to start something new now and she is aware of that. She's begging I shouldn't leave her that we are meant to be together. I love her so much still but don't want to end up in an unhappy union. Pls my people what ya'll advice I do?

JJYOU:

wicked man. you wan break my sister heart you say you wan break news. which kind news?. i beg make you leave her jeje for another man to meet in peace. hope you find peace to treat her right.
i think i like you for seeking counsel and being calm.

wish you luck

@Magz darling, If you know the entire story, you'll conclude she doesn't know what she's wants.

Anyway, I have broken the news at last and now guess what; the table has turned. I'll let you guys into the details on a later date as work load is too much today.

Thanks for all your contributions so far.

I'm breaking the news to her today. She called to tell me she'd be coming to the house. I'll let u guys into what went down. Ha ha, today is the Hang man's day. Its painful though cos I still love her silly. I just hope I'd be able to do it.