Nice gesture

Keep pampering them and calling them bandits..

That's too bad..... There should be a new and improved template for paying our worthy senior citizens..... The government doesn't care.
There was a country

He was only in coma and being unconscious....

ubunja:
[FOR WOMEN]
How Obsessing With Sex Lands Women In Poverty.

First things first...

HOW SEX KILLS WOMEN'S SELF-ESTEEM.
Sex is the quickest way for a woman to lose value especially in her own eyes.

A girl is raised to believe that men will do anything for sex. That men will give a woman anything she asks for, even marry her, for what is between her legs. So she grows up with that mentality that what she possesses possesses value beyond measuring.

It makes her feel special.

Then she meets a man who promises her the world, if she sleeps with him. But after the sex he dumps her. Another man comes. He makes his promises, sleeps with her and dumps her. Third man. Same story. Fourth man. Same story. Now the woman starts wondering about the VALUE and the POWER of what she possesses. Wasn't she taught all her life that it could make any man give anything? But men are hitting and quitting.

Could it be, that the power of the pussy, was overestimated?.

Is the pussy *less* powerful than women imagined? Because where's the magic? Why are men not falling under a spell?

Now because the woman went through life feeling special for possessing the Most Wanted Thing in the world, when men don't seem to want that thing as badly as she anticipated, or when they want it but for a fraction of the price she was taught to expect - it kills her. Because she has measured her worth by the worth of her pussy, if the pussy is not as valuable as she thought, then by extension SHE HERSELF is not as valuable as she thought.

That thought process is the day a woman's self-esteem dies.

Sex that leads to nowhere leaves a woman feeling inadequate, lacking, not enough - like she could have done better, because apparently her best wasn't enough. If a woman sleeps with men who treat her poorly, make false promises or don't care for her, that sex degrades her psychologically because her mind knows she's betraying herself by selling herself short. Her value in her own eyes drops to the value men place on her.

It is for this reason that promiscuous women, hoes and sluts struggle with issues of self worth, self-esteem, depression, loneliness and feelings of emptiness. Things virgins and chaste women never battle with.

Secondly...

BEWARE THE BROKE MAN'S DICK.
There are rich men. And there are broke men. A rich man impresses women financially, he doesn't impress them sexually. A broke man can't impress women financially, so he impresses them sexually. A rich man's dick is his money but a poor man's money is his dick.

Meaning a man with money feels women must be grateful for his financial generosity and as long as he meets their every need in life, it must not matter what he does inside the bedroom.

Meanwhile a broke man uses his dick as a substitute for money. When a man has no money and can't provide for his woman, to gain her respect and to keep her, he proves his worth through mindblowing A1 sex.

Sleeping with him is a suicide mission.

He puts too much into it - too much effort, too much energy, too much heart, too much soul, too much of himself - into the sex, to compensate for his other shortcomings and in the process he gets women hooked on something no responsible hardworking man busy earning a living for his family can give a woman. The productive man lacks the time, energy and skill to give a woman that kind of sex.

This is what makes a broke man's dick a dangerous and perilous thing for women. Broke men have the most high powered dick of them all.

LET'S SAY a woman dates a broke man, for whatever reason. He proceeds to screw her into another dimension. She may wish to leave because there's no cash, but she finds herself held hostage by the flesh. Logically there's no reason to stay. Sexually there's no reason to leave.

Mind and pussy are at war.

The woman's spirit longs to break free and aim for higher but the flesh refuses to disengage from the situationship. She has become a slave to pleasure. And there's no slavery more brutal and cruel than the slavery to pleasure. Because the body is in heaven but the mind is in hell. The mind is anguished at being reduced to the broke man's level where the woman can't see past her next round of sex. But the body is asking for moreeeee.

And so the woman will stay in a trance, held captive by the sex while time, blessings and opportunities pass her by.

She's being fvcked into poverty.

"MY EX GF WAS GOOD IN BED, BUT MY WIFE IS DEAD BORING".
Men always complain about how boring their wives are in the bedroom compared to their exciting Ex girlfriends who had superb bedroom skills and a wholesome love for dick: "My Ex GF was good in bed, but my wife is boring".

And women, when they hear that statement they hear it wrong. They hear like men are looking for sex queens to marry. But that's NOT what men are saying. Men are simply lamenting how it is male nature to favour women who don't have sex as wife material while disqualifying women who love sex.

Men are wired to marry prudes.

But prudes don't turn men on. Men find them boring as hell. Still, men pay fortunes in bride price for prudes every year.

It's not a coincidence that when men complain about their wife being boring in sex, the exciting woman who loves sex whom they highly praise and miss IS ALWAYS THE EX IN THE PAST. Ask yourself, "If the ex was so hot in sex, why didn't she get the ring?"

It's because men are wired to marry prudes. Even though they don't like prudes. Even though they stay missing the sex vixen exes.

THE PRUDE.
As a woman, if you have boundaries men will respect those boundaries. If you have standards men will acknowledge those standards and act accordingly. If you respect yourself, men will respect you.

But men's respect comes at a price.

When you respect yourself and when men respect you, in their eyes, you stop being "fun" because there's a limit to the things you will do. Men respect boundaries but boundaries are a turn off. They respect standards, but standards are a killjoy.

In the short term, your boundaries and your quiet boring chaste life will work against you because men will avoid you. You'll be lonely. But when men finally have their assets together and are ready to settle down, guess who is considered wife material...

"MEN MARRY WOMEN WHO ARE USELESS IN BED BUT CHEAT WITH SLUTS AND HOES".
This is the complaint of many women.

Why do men marry women who are useless in bed but cheat with exciting sluts and hoes? Why does a man married to a clean classy wife still want sex from some trashy cheap girl at the street corner?

The thing is simple:
Yes, a man with a clean classy wife will still seek after a cheap hoe. Because that cheap hoe turns him on in ways his respectable wife will never do. Dealing with a cheap hoe is exciting. The idea that a man can do anything and everything to this girl, is what makes it exciting. This excitement is not there with the respectable wife the man has at home who is the mother of his children.

Respectable women don't turn men on.

Degraded hoes do.

As a woman you can't change this about men anymore than you can change the temperature of the sun. But what you can change - the only thing within your power to change - is YOURSELF.

If men marry women who are boring in the bedroom but have fun with trashy hoes, then the thing is as simple as you CHOOSING which one between these two women you are going to be: The Boring Wife or the Exciting Hoe.

No wailing, no curses, no shouting - just choose.

But bear in mind that between the Respectable Boring Wife and the Exciting Hoe only one gets the ring, gets her rent and bills paid, gets to have the man's children, is legally entitled to some of his property and will be in the man's Will.

Do you want men to love you? Then be a hoe. Men love hoes. Because men love sex, so any woman who gives sex freely is beloved of men. OR do you want marriage? Then respect yourself and have standards and boundaries. But this will make you boring. You'll have to learn to love yourself because men don't love women such as yourself. They just marry them. But it's okay, Men don't marry for love anyways.

So you choose. Will you be the respectable boring wife or the exciting hoe? You can not be both. Because even if you can be both, men are not wired to accept these two personalities from the same woman. It's called the Madonna-Wh0re Complex. This is essentially a Good Girl - Bad Girl way of seeing women where the Bad Girls are beloved but the Good Girls are trusted.

There's a woman men want fun with. There's a woman men want something serious with. These two women are as different from each other as night is different from day. And females 100% confuse the woman men want fun with, with the woman men want something serious with. Hence females' popular lament: "Why do men feel entitled to virgins after screwing women up and down?"

"WHY DO MEN FEEL ENTITLED TO VIRGINS AFTER SCREWING WOMEN UP AND DOWN?"
Because even though men marry for sex, sex plays such a tiny role in the decision-making process that takes place within a man when he considers who to marry.

Who to fvck is a secret decision a man makes thinking with his dick that he can enjoy in secret. But who to marry is a public decision a man knows his parents, siblings, church brethren, business associates and society will scrutinise and judge; this forces him to engage his higher powers of logic in making that decision. And when logic takes over, all the decisions that the dick has made about a woman that fed into the man's lower passions (desire, lust, pleasure etc), get overturned. The woman's provocative dressing, dirty talking, superb bedroom skills and wholesome love for dick that the man finds a supreme turn on, suddenly become liabilities.

Where the dick was like, "This girl is the one. She's always ready for sex and never says no!"; Logic goes, "If this girl is so easy for me to fvck, then it means she's easy for the next guy to fvck as well. She's not the one."

And thus the woman a man gets serious with
turns out different from the women he fvcked around with.

Men hate women who play hard to get, but the more a woman plays hard to get, the more it makes sense for the man to marry her. Because he figures, " If I'm struggling this much to bed her, then I can trust her to be a wife who won't be easily seduced by other men."

Male logic: If I can fvck you I can't marry you. If I can't fvck you I can marry you.

A MAN'S DECISION-MAKING PROCESS.
It will irritate many women that the things that make a woman the top choice for sex make her the last choice for marriage.

But it's actually better this way.

For a woman to build on a man's excitement over her body is to build on sand. It won't last. It is in a woman's best interest to be chosen to be a wife for qualities that have NOTHING to do with sex, because the less thirsty a man is when making the wife decision, the more secure the chosen woman will be, because the man's decision will not be based on his lust - which is temporary - but on something more permanent: his logic. The rock that never changes.

CHASING SEX IS MASCULINE.
Men want sex. Women want commitment.

When a man chases commitment he's being girly and feminine. He's doing a woman's job. When a woman chases sex she's being manly and masculine. She's doing a man's job.

Or to put it another way:
Greed is for women, Thirst is for men.

Men have money. Women have pussy. Money attracts greedy women. Pussy attracts thirsty men. Greed is to women what thirst is to men.

Female greed is the equivalent of male thirst.

Thirst is a manly thing. And thirsty women who chase sex - Promiscuous women, sluts and hoes - are Masculine. The sluttier a woman is, the more masculine she becomes. That is why hoes and nice guys end up together. Because the hoe's aggressive sexuality is masculine, while the innocent chaste Nice Guy who values a woman's commitment and friendship is Feminine. Its the Player/Virgin union but in reverse, where the slut is the Player and the Beta Nice Guy who barely gets laid is the Virgin.

INVITATION IS NOT INITIATION.
In sex ALWAYS make your guy think it was HIS idea. Because men, for all their love for sex, have too many insecurities about it:

Man: "I want a girl who'll blow my mind with sex"
girl blows his mind with sex
Man: "You're very good at this. Who taught you? You must be a hoe!"

Men have a fvcked up relationship with sex and even giving a man something he's asking for will not stop him from insulting you:

Man: "I wish women gave sex easy since they also enjoy it"
woman gives him sex easy
Man: "You gave in too easy. You must be a hoe!"

Where men and sex are concerned, tread carefully. Let a man lead. Or he'll think the worst of you. Even though you gave him the best of you.

Have you seen those videos where a woman is sleeping next to a guy and she keeps twisting and turning, exposing ass as her guy looks on but is busy with whatever he's doing, until desire overcomes him and he starts touching and kissing her? That's how it's done:

INVITE. That's feminine.
Don't initiate. That's masculine.

Do you want sex? Don't ask for it, don't touch your man up and down, instead put on something sexy that you know turns him on then do your things where he can see you. Don't initiate. Invite. And when he pounces on you act surprised like it was never your intention to turn him on. (You must have seen this in the movies)

Is your man starving you? Don't demand for more sex. Simply reinvent yourself by working out, getting new clothes and new hairstyles to attract him back.

Sex is your only leverage in a relationship. It must always be you giving it to him, not him giving it to you. Or else he'll stop showing appreciation because he figures he's doing YOU a favour since you're always so thirsty.

All this may sound old fashioned and primitive, but when it comes to sex, men are old fashioned and primitive. No matter what they say. That is why the sexually expressive vixens they talk so highly of ARE ALWAYS THE EX. NEVER THE WIFE. THE WIFE IS ALWAYS THE BORING ONE. BECAUSE THE BORING ONE ALWAYS GETS THE RING. If by now you don't get it, I don't know how else to explain it.

"WE BOTH ENJOYED, WHY MUST I GIVE YOU ANYTHING?"
I'm sure you've come across a conversation like this one before:

Girl: "I love sex. Any guy who wants to fvck contact me. It's cheap and I offer discounts"
Guy: "If you love sex why are you charging?"

And it's true. If you love and enjoy sex why must a man compensate you for what you love and enjoy?

Sex is loveable and enjoyable but to benefit from sex, as a woman, you have to PRETEND that you don't care for it. That way you get compensated for something you also enjoy.

Women play this game in love: They hide their love to exploit a man's love:
If a girl loves a guy she doesn't tell him because it gives him too much power over her. Instead she'll do things, and act in ways, that will make HIM fall in love with her. The trick being to make the guy believe he loved the girl first, all on his own. That way he stays chasing, appreciative and thankful.

It is in sex that women play this game best: If a girl is craving sex she simply posts a provocative pic and thirsty guys stampede into her inbox offering cash to smash. That money the girl will get from the sex is actually her being paid to do something she was going to do anyways.

And that's the female game: Being paid to do something you were going to do anyways, by acting as if you don't want it.

"THAT GIRL WAS PRETTY BUT I DIDN'T ENJOY ANYTHING."
If you want money, men will give you money for sex. It's simple. Any dumb girl with a pussy can do it. But it's low value. And it won't get any woman much money because sex is cheap.

Now here's something high value:
A man, when he meets a new woman, he wonders what that woman looks like naked. What her boobs are like. How they feel. What her pussy looks like. What it tastes like. Is it phat? Is it juicy? Is it hairy? What aroma does it have? Is it tight? Will it make him lose his mind and make his head spin?

Because a man's imagination is an active imagination, all these questions form a mental picture. An expectation. Once a man builds that expectation of how sex with you will be like, YOU DON'T HAVE SEX WITH HIM. For the simple reason that YOU WILL NOT MEASURE UP to that expectation. The male mind always overestimates pussy because men are visual and the prettier a girl is, the sweeter they imagine her to be. Hence men's popular complaint, "That girl was pretty but I didn't enjoy anything".

You can have the boreholest pussy in town, but if you're pretty with a good body, in a man's mind, he's picturing you with the tightest most gripping pussy. In other words: You'll always be sweeter in fantasy than in reality. That is why the game must remain in fantasyland.

THE GHOST PUSSY.
As a Gold Digger you don't sell pussy. That's for prostitutes. And you're not a prostitute. What you sell is the expectation and the anticipation of sex. You sell a Promise. You have what is called a Ghost Pussy. You give a man pussy, but in his head not in his bed.

To men the "Promise" of sex has the same value as the sex itself. Through this dynamic a man can give you money WITHOUT you giving him sex. As long as you make him believe if he meets your desires now you'll meet his desires later. This is the high value game. And not just any girl with a pussy can do it. Because do it to the wrong man (a broke man) and you'll be dead in a ditch by tomorrow morning. Gold Diggers, as a rule, never scam broke men. Because broke men have nothing to lose. And a man with nothing to lose is the most dangerous man. If a Gold Digger owes a broke man money she pays it back in full.

But successful men are the perfect target because they're often respectable men in society and in business, so they won't retaliate if scammed because they've too much to lose if their reputation is tainted by sex scandals.

Again, this is a game not every girl can play because girls have been trained to rely on pussy. Not brains. But Gold Diggers as a rule are celibate. They don't have sex. Because sex gets them emotional. And emotions mess up their game.

If you love sex you're better off being a prostitute. Because prostitutes get paid to have sex. Gold Diggers, they get paid not to have sex. Because at the end of the day rich men don't even have time for sex.

# SecureTheBag

Epic........you're a rare specie.

Superb..... Ride on..

ubunja:
How Commitment From Men Creates Orgasms For A Woman.


LET'S START AT THE VERY BEGINNING.
Women control sex. Men control commitment. Because women have the pussy and men have the money.

Women are choosy with the men they sleep with. While men are choosy with the women they commit to.

Men are choosy in commitment because a man's commitment is costly to him in that he bears the financial costs of the relationship so who he commits to is a carefully made decision.

Women, on the other hand, are choosy with who they sleep with because sex carries so many physical, biological, psychological and societal risks for them. Everytime a woman sleeps with a man she risks Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) which tend to be more aggressive towards women and some of which can destroy her womb, she risks pregnancy which can go wrong if she gets an STI that can pass to her unborn baby, she risks physical harm on her delicate organs from sex with aggressive partners and she also risks dickmatization if the dick proves too good, driving her nuts and messing her up mentally.
A woman also risks socially when she has sex because sex with the wrong men - men who are judgemental and talk too much - will ruin her reputation in her community, church, school or workplace and bring her ratings down as far as marriage is concerned. So who a woman has sex with is a carefully made decision.

WOMEN AND COMMITMENT.
In sex women are invested and they have a lot to lose because their bodies are on the line, but in commitment they are not invested because they don't bring much to the table financially (the table being the relationship or the marriage), hence women initiate the most divorces.

Because they came empty-handed women don't lose anything by walking away anytime. A woman's power in a relationship is that she can walk away anytime, because she's not invested the way men are.

No matter how irresponsible and careless a married woman is, she's never the one who has to watch her life savings go down the drain as the marriage breaks down. It's the men who invest their life savings into a marriage. It's them who lose the most when relationships break down.

Most often men are irreversibly ruined financially by a divorce while a woman can simple marry another man.

MEN AND SEX.
When a man and a woman start a relationship all the financial costs, by default, fall on the man. He's the one expected to pay for the dates, buy the gifts, pay bride price, fund the wedding, organize a home, put food on the table and make sure the woman is provided for. Which means for men relationships costs money. And since a relationship can only happen if a man is committed to a woman, then commitment costs a man money. And because money is something a man works hard for, he has to choose his girlfriend and wife carefully or risk losing it all if he commits to the wrong woman who'll abandon him.

But on the other hand, men are not invested in sex because their money and their bodies are not on the line, and all they stand to lose during sex is some pocket change (since sex is as cheap as a loaf of bread), some sweat and maybe a tablespoon of sperm - hence men screw anything in a skirt and it is virtually impossible to get a man to take contraception seriously because he can't get pregnant no matter how careless he is with sex.

No matter how irresponsible a man is with his dick, he's never the one left carrying a baby. And STIs are generally kinder to men than they're to women. And even if an STI was to be so aggressive as to destroy a man's fertility, a barren man is less a catastrophe than a barren woman.

So men are careless with sex, while women are careless with commitment.

And men are careful with commitment, while women are careful with sex.

WHAT SEX MEANS TO MEN AND WOMEN.
For men sex offers maximum benefits (orgasms are always guaranteed and their bodies don't get ruined) while offering minimum risks - but sex is hard to get for them.

For women sex offers minimum benefits (many don't even orgasm) and maximum risks (pregnancy, disease, bonding issues with future men and it ruins women's bodies) but is easy to get.

Men go through life begging for sex. Women go through life turning down sex.

Men come from a place of sexual scarcity. Women come from a place of sexual abundance.

Men come from a place of sex without fear and without concerns because in sex men are not risking much. But women come from a place of sex filled with anxiety and concerns - due to the risks sex presents to them.

WHAT BLOCKS A WOMAN'S PLEASURE?
Although women get sex easy, the sex act itself is very dis-empowering for them. A woman is powerful out there when she's teasing men with her scanty clothing and tempting attire. But the moment the bedroom door closes behind her and the clothes come off and that dick slides into her pussy, the man has all the power. Never is a woman more vulnerable, more defenseless, more exposed and more overpowered, than when she has a dick buried inside her. Her pussy, heart and mind have all been penetrated and taken captive by the man - someone with so little to lose from the sex.

The man, hardly invested in the sex, controls the sex. The woman, she who has everything to lose, has zero control of the moment. If the man decides against condoms he'll most certainly get his way. If his dick is too big for her hole - too bad, she's going to walk funny and sit funny for the next couple of days. If the woman changes her mind and wants the sex to stop - too late, this train doesn't stop till ejaculation! If the man desires to come inside her, there's nothing to stop him.

When a woman is having sex with a man who doesn't love her and who's not committed to her in any way, she shoulders all the risks of the sex all on her own. Whatever the outcome of the sex - pregnancy or disease - she's on her own. She may use contraception but she knows no contraception is 100%. She may have the option to abort any unwanted pregnancy but most women don't feel okay with murdering unborn babies plus abortions carry their own risks. So whatever safety nets and measures exist to minimize the risk of sex for women they still feel exposed to many dangers.

And so, during the sex, while the man is lost in the bliss of intercourse enjoying the ecstasy of copulation, the woman's mind is restless with worry: "What if something goes wrong?", "What if the condom breaks?", "What if he doesn't pull out?", "What if I get pregnant?", "What if I get sick? Who will help me? Will this guy help me? But he doesn't even love me! Yes he gave me money to fvck me, but if I get a baby or a disease that money is peanuts".

Now, these thoughts are very distracting for a woman. They draw her mind away from the act she's participating in.

Instead of focusing on the action between her legs and savoring the sensations, the woman's mind is all over the place. On things that can go wrong. She's wondering what she'll do if things go sideways. Knowing fully well the man fvcking her won't be there for her should the worst happen.
All this brainwork drains the magic out of the sex. It negatively impacts on the woman's experience. It blocks her pleasure. She's too preoccupied analysing worst case scenarios to mentally relax and enjoy herself. She can't reach the highest highs of pleasure with these worries weighing on her mind. And so the sex ultimately never quite fulfill or satisfy her. Her mind is not present in the moment. She's too worried to enjoy anything. And days and weeks after the sex, she'll still worry about other consequences of the sex that may yet surface.

UNLOCKING A WOMAN'S ORGASMS THROUGH COMMITMENT.
NOW, when a woman is having sex with a man committed to her, who loves and cares for her, who values her and who has abundantly made it clear he is willing to shoulder the risks of sex together with her and has sufficiently invested in her as proof, it reassures her and gives her the confidence to cast her worries to the side. This casting away of worries, this alleviation of concerns, this neutralising of fears, this building of trust and confidence, this relief from anxiety - all this puts a woman in a safe and secure mental space. A good place. A happy place. This mental space, this good place, this happy place, is where a woman's orgasms come from.

The difference between committed, loving sex and uncommitted, casual sex, for a woman, is the STATE OF MIND she's in during the sex which in turn affects the amount of pleasure she can derive from the sex. Committed loving sex yields more pleasure.

Because sex, enjoyable as it is, has the potential to ruin a woman's life in so many ways, it is when a woman fully trusts her man to co-shoulder with her any undesirable outcomes, that sex becomes amazing for her. When a woman fully believes that a man will stand by her in dealing with whatever might happen to her because of the sex, her mind is free to let go of all worries and to focus on actually enjoying the sex - it is then that the orgasms will hit. And they'll hit more and more frequently for her.

When there are safety nets, a woman soars and touches the sky.

Inside a relationship, when it comes to sex, It's not so much the size of a man's dick or his sexual prowess that makes sex amazing for a woman, but it's what the relationship represents to her: security - courtesy of the man's commitment.

Her man's commitment to her enables the woman to cast her cares upon him, freeing her mind to fully partake of the moment.

"MONEY MAKES ME WET".
And it's not just the vanquishing of worries specific to sex that makes sex great for women. Women are historically poor and many struggle financially even though they have a job.
The worries that come with not having enough money - worrying about the bills, about food, about the cost of beauty products, clothing, her future, etc, all these are pleasure blockers in that they keep a woman's mind preoccupied - even during sex.

When a woman is a married virtually ALL these fears are allayed. She's at peace and her mind is free. This is fertile ground for women's orgasms.

Men think safe sex is condoms. And that's true. But for women safe sex goes further than just condoms. It includes financial aspects. Aspects that have NOTHING to do with sex. But aspects that, for women, have an immediate and direct effect on the sex.

And on condoms, if a woman has to use condoms to have sex with you already she views the sex as risky and already her pleasure has been blocked. Women hate condoms. And not because they enjoy less with the rubber on or they're allergic, but because of what the rubber symbolizes: "I don't trust you and we shouldn't be doing this, so let's keep our flesh from touching". Which makes the sex cold, detached, unromantic and mechanical - like sex between a man and a prostitute.
Women don't get joy from this kind of sex because it's not intimate. Because there is no skin to skin touch and no exchange of bodily fluids that build that connection and that bond where two become one.

Safe sex for women is sex where they don't have to use condoms because everything is safe . Sex that is happening at the right time with the right man in the right environment for the right reasons.

A slut who has given sex to many men for many years without getting so much as one orgasm can have her first orgasm in marriage with her VIRGIN HUSBAND. Not because virgin husband has superior skills. But because of the circumstances of the sex. The environment. The reasons. That in turn determine the quality of the sex.

QUANTITY VS QUALITY.
For a woman - as far as sex is concerned - the choice between being a hoe and being in a loving relationship with one man is the choice between QUANTITY and QUALITY. Where hoering offers high quantity sex, but a loving one-man relationship offers high quality sex.

A woman who has chosen sexual quantity is an insatiable black hole that consumes and consumes and can never have enough because unrestrained female sexual appetite is bottomless. Also a woman who, in general, orgasms easily during sex is likely to choose to be a hoe. Because she doesn't need that safe and secure mental space (which a relationship creates) to get the most out of sex.

THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN.
But, as with all things sex and romance, men and women live in different realities. Opposing realities. And sex and commitment is yet another area of opposites: while sex with commitment is the best sex for women, sex WITHOUT commitment is the best sex for men.

A man enjoys sex best when he has no regard, no respect and no care for the woman he's screwing. The woman the man holds in high regard whom he respects and cares about, sex with her doesn't quite blow his mind. It's that whole Madonna-Wh0re thing. Where the respected girlfriend or wife is loved but the debased hoe is lusted.


# MGTOW
# TheRedPill

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Registered or tokunbo? [/quote
Registered or toks with good title

I see...... By the time we find out how many millions wasted on this unnecessary structure then we would stop commending the foolishness of this governor.
God shouldn't and can't dwell in a chapel where citizens are hungry and angry....
There was a country.

Nice vehicle....... Can I get es330 2006 model and what's the price?

Too bad..... Insecurity is a major issue.

Igbochief001:
When u are igbo and u work for the government ...never ...I repeat never break the law for anyone ...cause they would always use u as a scapegoat when the time comes

The identity of the trigger happy murderer isn't reviewed yet...... The Okereke is the victim.
There was a country

Whatever rocks your boat.....

I don't blame Okorocha, I only blame the system....
There was a country

Let the Govt permit them to bury all unclaimed bodies...... let sanity be restored

RigtousSlawomir:

Damnn Niggarr!!!
The end is near

Hahaha. una no go kill person for this Nairaland.

ubunja:
How Femininity Works.

PROLOGUE.
Femininity is a woman's True Power. And not many women have it. What many women have is vagina power.

Vagina power is the power a woman has over men that is rooted in men's weakness for her vagina. Men HATE AND RESENT that power. Because it is exploitative - it preys on men's weakness and lack of self control by making them act stupid for the benefit of women.

Femininity is something different.

A DIFFERENT TYPE OF POWER.
First of all femininity DOES NOT turn men on. It is not sexual.

Secondly, femininity DOES NOT mean feminism. Feminism kills femininity.

Thirdly femininity DOES NOT mean "female". Female is gender. Femininity is energy.

All genders carry that energy.

But women carry the most of it.

Femininity is the energy of a woman being fully, proudly and unapologetically woman. It is an atmosphere. A mood. A tone. An aura. A presence. That is carried by "a woman who is everything a man is not". This energy men instantly pick up on and gravitate to. But it decreases when a woman does things that are typically associated with men or she bears traits that are typically associated with men.

Like when a woman puts on hairstyles associated with men (shaved head, Mohawk, short hair), when she dresses like men (revealing clothes, pair of jeans, pants, sneakers, caps), when she does things associated with men (whistling, cussing, swearing, coarse jokes), when she misbehaves like how men misbehave (tattoos, smoking, drinking, going in and out of jail), when she uses the vocabulary of men (words like "bros", "dude", etc), when she uses hand gestures that men use (high five, peace sign, thumbs up sign and gangster hand gestures) and so forth.

All these things carry masculine energy. Meaning they look good on men. But make a woman look less of a lady by making her look more like a man. They block her feminine energy. They make a woman appear like she's one of the guys - "tough", "strong" and "hardened" - things a woman MUST NEVER be associated with if she wants to cultivate her femininity.

A Feminine Woman is a woman in a certain state that brings out certain qualities from within men that other non-feminine women are not able to bring out.

THINK OF IT THIS WAY:
If a woman dates a weak man who can't take charge, is always complaining, blames everything on everyone everytime and never makes any decisions - an effeminate man - she'll find herself taking charge, making all the decisions and being the leader in the relationship. His softness brings out her hardness. His ladylike behavior brings out her manlike behavior.

We have both the Masculine and the Feminine in all of us, regardless of gender. But our gender determines which one has dominance. As does our personal circumstances: For example, a woman living in poverty will be masculine. And so will be a first born daughter. And the single mother. And the single mother's daughter.

SO, when a woman deals with effeminate men who are in their feminine (acting like women), her own Masculinity - long dormant - comes out to compensate for their lack thereof. She's forced to take charge, be in control, run things and solve all the problems - which is something that a woman rightfully resents because it's exhausting and she's not built for it. She ends up tired, bitter, resentful, irritable, short tempered, emotionally unstable and beset by high BP and depression because she's operating under undue pressure.

Feminine men make a woman masculine.

SO IN THE OPPOSITE WAY:
When a capable and manly man deals with an overbearing, aggressive woman who's full of masculine energy obsessed with control, is competitive, argumentative, raw, blunt and flaunts her independence; the man will wilt like a flower, become reserved and take the backseat. That will be him becoming emasculated. Him being forced into his feminine. Because his woman is in her masculine. She's making all the decisions and running the relationship.

When that relationship ends, the next woman that man will date will find him a weak man who can't take charge, is always complaining, blames everything on everyone everytime and never makes any decisions - an effeminate man. His Ex, being masculine, brought out his feminine.

Masculine women make a man feminine.

BRINGING OUT A WOMAN'S FEMININITY.
Now, when a woman dates a man who's in control, who gets things done, a man so in charge of his world that his presence alone makes her feel peaceful, secure and carefree - like the weight of the world has been taken off her shoulders and she feels like a little girl all over again hanging out with her all-capable father, that relationship will bring out a side of the woman that no other relationship before has brought out. She'll be tender, kinder, softer and gentler. She'll be more peaceful, more delicate, more girly, more playful, more colorful, more vibrant, more trusting, more rested and more alive - all this is her entering into her femininity, for the first time.

A woman's femininity is her place of rest. In the sense that she is in her element. Where she must be. Where her body, her characteristics and her mind are in truest harmony.

It is in her femininity that a woman flourishes.


BRINGING OUT A MAN'S MASCULINITY.
When a woman offers a man softness, gentleness, a safe space and harmlessness- when she's not aggressive, not overbearing and not defensive - when she's not bold, not blunt, not direct and not confrontational - when she's not forceful and not headstrong - when she comes tender, delicate, girly and, playful - - - - > which is her femininity, the man will not feel challenged but encouraged. He will find it extremely easy to lead, extremely easy to take charge and extremely easy to be the Head.

He'll find it a joy and an honour to protect, defend and provide for the woman.

Without the woman even asking. Or suggesting it.

The man on his own finds himself acting more grownup and more manly around her. She has that effect on him. By simply BEING IN THE STATE THAT SHE IS IN - which is being feminine.

The man becoming grown up and manly around the woman IS HIS MASCULINITY COMING OUT.

He is entering into his masculine. Because his woman is firmly in her feminine.

This is the power of femininity. It brings out a side of a man no amount of sex, no level of beauty, no number of achievements and no size of ass and boobs cannot. When a woman is soft, her man becomes strong for her. So her softness is not a weakness but her power that makes a man do for her. Her power is SOFT POWER.

FEMININITY IS DYING.
But feminine energy in the world is a dying energy.

Feminine energy is being extinguished by powerful forces in business, civil society, media, sports, politics and government who see it as a relic of the old world incompatible with the values of modern progressive society. Modern progressive society - through Women's Empowerment - encourages women to work for their own money so they don't have to depend on anyone (something good and proper) except for one big problem: Careers are built in the image of men. For a woman to match a man's career success she has to make massive sacrifices in her lovelife, and delay, or even cancel, marriage and child birth.

Furthermore, worklife is optimized for masculine traits. Entering the workforce women have to think, speak, act, dress and function like men - they have to disregard their own feminine traits, like feelings, intuition and unpredictability, because these are a liability in business. Instead they have to be logical, predictable and unambiguous - which floods them with masculine energy.

What woman climbing the career ladder is tender, soft and gentle? What successful woman is girly, cheerful and vulnerable?

Ambitious and successful women bear the hard traits that bring success: Aggressiveness, boldness and they're headstrong. The very traits that define masculinity or what men are. By adopting these traits, women lose their femininity and become masculine.

It is the successful woman who'll say, "Anything a man can do I can do". Which signifies a woman fully in her masculine.

ALSO, FEMININE ENERGY IN THE WORLD IS DYING BECAUSE Femininity is costly.

Here is the strange nature of Femininity:
Poverty destroys femininity. And also Success destroys femininity.

The two extremes are detrimental to femininity.

A poor woman and a successful career woman are both masculine. One is masculine for survival. The other is masculine for success.

Poor girls who have lived perpetually difficult lives develop a thick skin and a whole roster of manly traits to survive. They become aggressive, headstrong, stubborn, direct, argumentative and in-your-face; losing their girliness as manliness takes over. All these they need to survive. And all these are contrary to female nature. Because all these are masculine traits.

Poor girls radiate masculine energy.

They live in the poor side of town of which the poor side of town makes women masculine because there's no safety and it's all about survival. Poor girls dress to be practical. They have no use for makeup. They wear men's clothes and perfumes because "these last". They have the simplest hairstyles that require as less attention - and last as long - as possible (those are usually manly hairstyles). Their nails are never done because it's not practical. They reach their 20s not even knowing how to walk in heels. Their mannerisms, their vocabulary and their attitude is all about survival. Which is masculine.

A girl growing up poor dreams of a Knight In Shining Armour coming in on a horse, sweeping her off her feet, delivering her from poverty and into the lap of luxury. But that fantasy is likely to never come true.
Not because she's cursed with everlasting poverty. But because the cares of life and the constant struggle to survive have erased her femininity. And a girl needs her femininity to pull high value men. To attract men who have money she has to erase every manlike trait she acquired for survival until she's soft, vulnerable and peaceful.

Even in the rags to riches story of Cinderella the Prince first meets Cindie as a princess - someone in the lap of luxury and comfort - who arrives in a nice horse-drawn carriage complete with attending staff, not some sooty sweaty barefoot girl in rags breaking under the burden of kitchen chores. Our girl had to erase all traces of poverty and project luxury.

HYPERGAMOUS FEMININITY VS TRADITIONAL FEMININITY.
Looking luxurious is at the center of Hypergamous Femininity. The gold diggers' femininity.

This type of femininity is achieved through Leveling Up and is costly because its aim is to get money, and to get money you have to look like money. This will involve expensive clothes, moving to the rich part of town and even a woman getting cosmetic surgery. So the women who cultivate this type of femininity reserve it for men who have money to get a return on investment.

On the other hand, women who are feminine because they believe in old school conservative values cultivate "Godly Femininity", "Biblical Femininity" or "Traditional Femininity". Which is a more laid-back, girl-next-door, type of femininity that isn't tied to hypergamy. Something a Pastor's daughter will cultivate.

WORKING FOR MONEY VS MARRYING FOR MONEY.
So, femininity is costly because a woman needs money to be feminine but she can't work for that money herself because working for it will make her masculine, and she can't be poor because poverty also brings out a woman's masculinity.

The more money a woman makes the more masculine she becomes (and the harder it is for her to practice hypergamy because the less men are on her level and the less she actually needs a man). However the more money a woman is given the more feminine she becomes. Because femininity is a receiving energy. Hence the stay-at-home wife will be the MOST FEMININE woman.

A woman who wants to be a businesswoman needs to be masculine because the world of moneymaking is optimized for masculine traits. But a woman who wants to marry a businessman needs to be feminine because masculine successful men respond to feminine women. That is why gold diggers - because they pursue businessmen - are at the forefront of the current Femininity Movement.

HOW DOES A GIRL KNOW SHE HAS LOST HER FEMININITY?
Femininity is a woman being everything a man is not. Female masculinity is a woman being a man. As a woman you know you've lost your femininity when men treat you as "one of the guys".

When as a lady you walk into a room and guys see you but just continue with their coarse, sexist and crass jokes, if as a lady you join a group of men but the atmosphere doesn't change to become respectful and restrained, when they can watch porn infront of you, when they can touch you and tease you anyhow, when they feel free to prank you, when they discuss and articulate the nasty things they did or wanna do to other women - when men do such things in your presence, they no longer respect you as a lady because there's nothing about you for them to respect.

They consider you one of them.

When a Feminine Woman walks into a room, all the fuckery stops. The crass jokes, the pranks, the explicit talk, the porn videos, all stop at once. Because she carries with her an atmosphere of no nonsense. She brings with her a certain mood that gives her dignity that commands men's respect. Her entering sets a certain tone in a room. Men are afraid even to touch her. No guy presumes to greet her with a hug because she presents in such a way that discourages overfamiliarity.

HOW DOES A WOMAN REACTIVATE HER FEMININITY?
Femininity is a woman being everything a man is not. You activate your femininity by accentuating/emphasizing/magnifying that which differentiates a woman from a man. That which women have that men don't have. That which women can do but men can't do.

For example:
Men can't have long nails - you always have classy pretty nails, eg French tips. Remember, the way women look at men's shoes to determine his class, salary etc, men look at women's nails for the same reasons. As long as your nails are not done, you're like a guy trying to impress wearing flip flops.

Men can't have long hair - you're always with a good weave or an expensive wig.
Men can't wear makeup - you never so much as go to the store without applying something.
Men can't wear heels - your shoe collection must centre around high heels. Sneakers and tennis shoes are only for sports and the gym.
Men can't wear skirts and dresses - you throw out ALL your jeans, trousers and pants, and get only dresses and skirts especially in feminine colours and feminine fabrics

But it goes deeper because femininity starts inside...

Femininity is you, a woman, sitting in the car while your man fixes the tire in the rain alone because he must know who to call. Femininity is you sitting in the dark waiting for your man to return from work to replace the bulb. Femininity is never giving your man any money because he has his friends for that.

All this may sound cold and harsh but to keep a man you have to make a man feel like a man by letting him fix problems to impress you. He must see you as useless when it comes to repairing stuff around the house. Because if you get into the habit of fixing stuff guess who'll be left feeling useless - - - - - > your man.

Women don't have any idea how emasculating it is for a man to get home and be told, "the drain blocked and I called the repair man to fix it. It's OK now". YOU NEVER EVER DO THAT. What you tell him is, "the drain is blocked, I wanted to call so and so, but I waited for you".
This activates the hero in him. You're not adding to his burden, you're giving him a chance to save you.
As a woman never let another man save you infront of your man. It wounds his masculinity. The same way it wounds a woman's femininity when her man praises another woman's cooking. Even his own helpful son praised by his mother can leave a man feeling somewhat replaceable.

You have to show a man that you need him because he desires to impress you by being useful to you. Helpful Wives go above and beyond to rescue their man but are always shocked when the man, instead of showing appreciation for their efforts and sacrifices, he rushes off to cheat with some useless bimbo who doesn't even boil water. But the man likes the useless bimbo because she doesn't try to solve his problems for him, which makes him feel like a man when he solves his own problems unaided by a woman.

The more tangible a woman's help is, the more masculine it makes her and the more emasculated her man will be and the more he will cheat on her with someone useless. Which is all kinds of ironic and crazy.

It is also ironic that when a woman financially supports a man, he will oftentimes be disrespectful and abusive towards her. We see it everytime and it's puzzling and goes against all logic - until you understand how masculinity and femininity work.

The core of masculinity is to provide and protect because men are richer and stronger. When a man is provided for by a woman, it may appear like the ultimate relationship for him, but deep down his masculinity feels threatened because he can't provide. And so to assert his masculinity, the man becomes violent to remind his woman that he is stronger - even though she is richer.

LEARNING TO RECEIVE.
Femininity is a receiving energy. Because masculinity loves by giving. This is true regardless of who carries which energy in the relationship. The masculine will provide. The feminine will take.

Many women, especially women who grew up poor, have forgotten how to receive.

I come from a background of poverty. But luckily we had successful relatives who gave us a helping hand here and there.

One of these relatives was a female cousin who was a police officer whose husband worked at a bank. In my younger years this couple, every December, would ask me to housesit their home as they went on Christmas holiday. They would give me money and fill the fridge with food, telling me to take care and not starve myself.

After two weeks they would return to see I hardly spent the money they gave me and barely ate anything from the fridge. It made them feel bad because it made them look stingy. Which they were not.

But I had a hard time accepting their generosity.

The reason I didn't spend a lot of the money they gave me or eat a lot of the food they left me, was because of Guilt. I was so used to being broke and not having enough to eat that when I tried to spoil myself feelings of guilt overwhelmed me. I always felt like I was not worthy. Especially knowing that my siblings back home were surviving on the simplest of meals. That guilt blocked me from enjoying the blessings in front of me.

Suffering and poverty had destroyed my ability to receive. And it sucked.

I had to heal.

Girls and women who grew up in poverty go through this same thing. They have a problem accepting generosity. They feel guilt when given good things because they feel they don't deserve good things because they never had good things.

They have lost the ability to receive.

They need to heal.

Because until these women heal, they can't enjoy masculine men whose joy is in giving.

# MGTOW
# TheRedPill


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It does not matter..

Nigeria and 'silence them all ' syndrome....
There was a country.

It's a transient phase.....

Hunchogee:

Na so we see am.

Whatever paddles our canoe in this country is welcomed.

Do they read? Do they listen? Do they care?

And yet nothing to show for it.

All is in motion and yet no movement....
There was a country

Same brood of nitwits....

Infiniti is luxury......... Happy sales

One week one trouble

She could be one of the very few compassionate ones.

The current parochial and lopsided presidential system of government in Nigeria is horrible, useless and counterproductive. The quest for a president of Igbo extract is only geared towards "This is our own" and it doesn't curb the mediocrity we have witnessed over the years..

There was a country.
#Restructuring would liberate Nigeria.

A system that doesn't work begets lunatics that would eventually orchestrate anarchy...... The IG already mandated them to kill and maim, citing self-defense....... Make a mad man a bus conductor and watch him keep loading and shouting Yaba Yaba, even when the bus is filled up and taken off.
There was a country

Like a seasonal film, we have heard and watched different episodes on this issue....... Efforts are being made to conceal glaring facts but the end shall justify the means.
There was a country.