I know asking immediately will bring up her defense skills and might deny it's from the room, possibly saw it under the bed or any means of defending it... So I did as if nothing happens and went out....
Zoom she picked it up and hide it.... It's a clear term she's guilty and still contemplating if I've seen it or not... So she hid it...
Giving time was to see her reaction how best she will come out but she didn't call and never bothered while I didn't call her or change in attitude till I put it to her...

uboma:
Immediately you found the condom sachet, you should demanded for explanation. Turning a blind eye and waiting after some days to bring it up was where you goofed.

It really weak me my brother...
Like seriously...

GayPontiff:
She tot the used condom fell from your pocket


Wondafu

My brother no single remorse... She's confident I do whatever pleases me.... She doesn't give a damn...
The point is I almost sold all my life investment to send her to UK by December... God saved me...

Liposure:
Your wife is a liar and cheat (no shame at all). Her type is capable of anything. Good you found out on time before its too late. You ve just escaped the danger of fathering another man's offspring. Fingers crossed.

Yes, we fixed our wedding last year her family concelled it that they don't want her married to Yoruba man... She's an Igbo lady... So we both agreed to do court wedding and leave our lives pending wen they will change our mind... The pressure from her was much as she said that's only guarantee that to secure the relationship... I gave in and do the court marriage
She once told me the child will be dark and won't resemble me...
She doesn't give a damn... Very confident and never bothered... Infact she's giving me ultimatum to leave the house I paid for that she's taking it up...
She said the child will know his father after 1 year..
It's been a difficult time for me... Just needed all the gist to move on...

CarlsJaz567:
This is really serious!

However, let me clarify what you just said. So you are married via court wedding, but yet to complete the traditional marital ceremony due to her family cancelling the planned event?

If that's so, my guess is that your wife is probably carrying someone else's baby. Well, I think you should wait and carry out a DNA test to ascertain if the baby is yours.

However, regarding whether to continue your relationship with your wife, that is a great matter for you to unravel yourself. Was she insistent to the end that the used condoms is not connected to her? Is she showing signs that she still treasures her marriage with you, or is she merely shrugging her shoulder with attitude that says that 'you can go and hug the transformer for all she cares'?

How has she been behaving before this discovery of yours, apart from the 'no sex again before bride price' ultimatum stuff?

Answers to all these questions, and more probing and diligent soul-searching from your side would help you decide if she can still be your wife.

I can almost deduce from your narrations that she doesn't care much for you. Maybe you forced yourself on her and she was really interested in some other person.

Well, May God help you out.

Dated over 3yrs, due to tribal concern and family non acceptance, we agreed to do court wedding in May 2020,
She got pregnant June/July and everything changed.
She stop having sex with me and told me until bride price is paid wen it was her family that concelled wedding fixed.
She went out for work in Lagos here, so my cousin came visiting ... She said she can't stay in same house with him and went to put up in hotel.
I visited and next morning before work bought her food.
She called for paracetamol while at work, rushed back to get for her only to enter her room and met used sachet of condom on the floor.
I took note and did as if I never see anything.. went out and before coming back she picked the sachet and hid it.
I left she never brought it up for over 5 days.
She's back to work...I asked and she said she tot the condom sachet dropped from my pocket hence she never asked.
I've stopped all communication and currently trying to move on...
Gotten new apartment and wanna pack out of the house before I made head news...
I told her paternity of her pregnancy is questioned but she said after a year the baby will know her father...
The point is while sleeping with another man with 8 months pregnant of pregnancy she claimed is mine....
Kinda confused!

Mod help a brother..
Kindly push abeg lemme learn!