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I'll like you to look at it in the following perspective:
1. The fact that you invited for medicals doesn't denote outright employment. Medicals is just one of the way to screen out graduate, only in that the chances of being screened out through medicals are slim.
2. Maybe, the company isn't ready to booster their workforce at the moment and as such, they had to put you on the waiting list. A close example happens in Etisalat and some multinational recruitment such as SHELL
3. Pretend as if nothing ever happened. Look forward for other opportunities. What is meant for you will never pass you by.

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Thanks. Will ride with number 3

I attended two interviews with a company,I got a mail and lady also called that I should do my medical in a certain hospital, which I did. My medical is ok.Afterwards I didn't hear anything from the company, after two months I called the lady that told me to do the medical and she said she will forward a mail to someone. I kept calling her but she said she didnt get any mail from the person in charge. My friend is suggesting that I should visit the company but I don't have such courage. Please I need advise

chacoonder:
Oh!!!..and you call yourself a wife!!...Shame unto YOU.

Yes I am a wife, a mother and an amazing one at that, I have ABSOLUTELY nothing to be ashamed of. You can keep the insult to yourself.

@PreciousBro and@diva90 Please you guys should stop cursing eachother out. Like the Diva90 said everyone has an opinion and they are entitled to it.When someone give an advise,they give it out of personal experience,what they have witnessed or from knowledge. Dont judge people cos you dont know what they have been through.

Thanks, your words really brought tears to eyes.

Kimoni:


And this is exactly why I would advise you not to cheat on him - your conscience. Not because your husband doesn't deserve it, he deserves it and much more but this is not about your husband. This is about you, your child and the future.

There is a reason why your conscience is questioning you, because it is not right and will not end well for you. Your friend is doing it and getting away with it presently does not automatically mean you will also do it and get away with it. "Anything that does not proceed from faith is sin". Don't let the actions of someone else, even your husband change your value system. I reckon you were trained with certain values, stick to those values and train your child with the same values. The end result will brings true joy to you.

Find other legitimate ways to make you happy. There are so many things in life that can make us happy, find yours and focus on them; stop the fixation on your husband and his attitude, he is not worth it. I reckon it won't be easy but at the end of the day, you would have your intergrity intact.

PresVA:
Marriage is now do me, I do you. . Smh...

You're no different from your husband. .

It is not do me , I do you, if not I would have done that over a year ago. He pushed me to a point where I decided to talk to my ex since he has that listening ear and cos we remain mutual friends after I got married. He is somehow separated with the wife cos the lady doesn't want to live in Nigeria and he doesn't want to leave his work and join them.My husband is so insensitive after I caught him that I feel he is even angry with me for catching him.When I bring up a discussion, he just talk like am forcing him to and face his laptop or phone. From a far you will think that I am the one that cheated and am trying to make things right with him.Does he deserve to be cheated on? Absolutely. My emotions is so messed up that at times I wake up and I am willing to cheat on him in a heartbeat, just that my conscience keep questioning me.

I dont know why he started,I asked he said he it is devil, that what started as an innocent chat led him to that. I dont wait for occassions to buy him gift, the way I buy for my daughter is the way I buy things for him so far I can afford it.After I caught him, his birthday came first but I bought gift for him and invited family and friends over.My emotions keep going back and forth but I still put up a brave face but he is not helping matters.I have never thought about cheating on him but his attitude still suggest that the affair is still on. I still will have another talk with him hoping it will end up in an argument.

richyblink1:


Let me start by asking you what you think or feel made hubby to start cheating on you? Your friend is busy encouraging you to cheat whereas she won't be there when the sky starts falling. A rat that joined the Lizard running in the rain will still remain wet long after the Lizard must have dried up.

Solution; why not talk to hubby about your feelings and how it has made you disconnect emotionally. Make him understand how is pushing the very woman he swore to stand by away, make him feel your pains. Explain to him what his actions is making you go through. Tell him how you would love to restore the first love you guys shared and how you miss the sound and caring advices he always gave you. Make him understand you are going through pains because of the neglect and lack of attention from his part. Let him know how he has always been your champion and warrior in all things.
If you can't get his attention to pour out all you have up your sleeves, then put them in writing and turk it in in any of his suits or shoes. Trust me, he will return from work broken and eager to make things straight.

As for his lack of affection by getting you gifts during celebrations. Let me ask, when was the last time you got him gifts maybe on his birthday or father's day celebrations?

Often, women tend to be selfish and self centred. All they think about is what benefits them alone. Believe me, hubby did not just stop buying gifts for you all of a sudden. Something is wrong somewhere. Look for the loopholes in your home/marriage and patch them. Only then will peace, love and unity start prevailing again.

I am using a new account for privacy reason.I have been married for three years with a daughter, and I found out last year that my husband is cheating though I have been suspecting for a long time. He apologised and promised that it won’t happen again but the whole cheating thing killed me emotionally. We have this emotional disconnect, there is no more affection between us. Even when I seek his opinion about some projects am handling in the office, he will be nonchalant about it though he gives me good advise in the past. He will go to work and won’t even call to check on me at work like he used to and when I do check he will say am monitoring him. Though I don’t trust him anymore but I know I can’t keep tabs on him because that will keep destroying me emotionally. My birthday comes and goes without a gift, even on mother’s day he just woke up and said happy mother’s day without no affection. On my birthday and mother’s day in the past he makes sure that he buys gift and shows me affection. My emotions towards him have been on roller coaster. I have forgiven but I have not really moved on and I guess it has to do with how he changed. I recently connected emotionally with my ex and he wants us to start seeing each other, though I have told him no in the past but after the cheating incident I have been entertaining his calls and chats. I informed one of my best friend about him, she told me I should have the affair since I still care about him that is the only way I will get myself together since my husband doesn’t care. This bestie have been cheated on, by her husband and she told me that she couldn’t move past that until she started dating her hot big boss though they are not working at the same branch. She told me the guy attends to her emotional and physical needs. She gets raise, promotion and the guy helped her bought a land. She told me she doesn’t care if the husband is cheating or not because she is getting her groove on. She said she and her husband doesn’t make love often, when they do, is just to ease tension because there is no emotion and affection. I asked her if she has regrets and when she intends to end the affair but she said as long as it can last and she ready to move to another man that catches her attention. She told me she is emotionally stable and also good things are coming out from the relationship. Now she is cheering me to start the affair though I have started developing strong feelings for my ex and the psychologist I have been speaking with is saying I shouldn’t have an affair. The psychologist think is a revenge affair but is not because I really like the guy in question. I am supposed to meet up with my ex this weekend after work.
I am stuck between my bestie and my desire and the psychologist and my conscience. I am somehow confused so I need advice, has anyone been in this type of dilemma.