SWATMan:


Balderdash!
I guess you are not a married man. This is the worst advice I have seen so far on this topic. You don't seem to understand that if a woman packs her things out from your house because of any issue devoid of threat to her life then she has humiliated you. It is different when it's you that sent her packing and in that case, you are bound to do as she and her family wishes.

And the cycle continues. You know nothing. I rather divorce than endure that. Mr. Married man

ChybuzzDD:


Unfortunately, some of these people issuing out yeye advice here are kids that are yet to marry.

I hope you are not in that category?

Work out the maths

Fiscus105:




And you dnt think ur advise is not a foolish one? Did you ask OP who drove her to her parent's place? .........Wife ran away, it's duty of husband to go out and carry her back.

Abi you misinterpreted Op, thinking his wife travelled with husband consent?

The person that drove her to her parent house should be the one to drive her back Jare', she should even thank God that she married good husband that still take her back after rubbish.

Nothing kills a marriage faster than ego, nothing restores a broken marriage better than forebearance

PeerHub:


I've met kins-people. They're also saying I should come bring her belongings.

That I should act like a man and just over look her childish behaviour and manners.

I called one this evening that It doesn't sit well in me to come over to bring her belongings. What he said was he's not interested in this anymore and hanged the phone on me, I took time to call back and he didn't answer.


I had to call my woman and talk things out that I can only provide her with the money to get back home. She went silent and could not alter words afterwards.

We have a son together though. And I'm concern about my child.

He's just clocked one March 30th.

You dont get it still.

Go and tell her parents what you hate in her, first and foremost. leave every other thing. Go and establish that so you can know you will be getting a redemmed soul not the same crude one that misbehaves

PeerHub:


She's from kogi... Egbira Okenne

Don't be quick to take her back. Go ad tell her kins-people all you dislike about the marriage in heir presence first and foremost. Prioritize your needs. She should be the one serving, not asking you to worship her

PeerHub:



She doesn't want to back else I come pack her things, I told her I was going to pay the the transport fare, she still insist on me coming.

Not that I can't go and bring those things back to the house, but to me It feels like I went to beg her to come back.

Is there dignity with doing that?

This is more of a personal decision and desire oh. Only you know what you want and only you know what it feels like being in your shoe

PeerHub:


The funny thing is I gave her money about a ₦100k to start something with, gave the fund to sisters husband to keep.

I don't want to go deep with this money matter.


Still gave her some money to start selling foodstuffs at home, make subscription available every month still she won't stay in the house.

She just wants to be free. Doesn't want to work, but want to be free to do as she please and go around neighborhood. Is she an Ijebu lady ?

PeerHub:



Hmmmmm.

I don't have issues with her coming back, where I have issues with is me been the one to come bring her belongings back to the house.

She's this nagging type, she someone who wants you to please her 100% even when she know you're not equal to fulfilling it.

She's someone who chooses other people apartment to hers, even when I've told her I don't like her sitting or doing anything in others people's home.

When I'm busy with work on my phone, that's when she wants to have a conversation.


She's someone who will not do anything for you until when she pleases.

There's alot of things she's doing which I talked out with her but she's not ready to heed.

You have legit points though. Make sure you state your concerns in the present of her kin before he returns

If you want to prove manly, you can act dismissive and tell her to find her way home same way she left. This way you retain your honour and dignity intact. It's also doable too. But state your needs and wants before allowing him her return oh otherwise, aluta continua

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How about talking about the issues in your marriage with a counselor rather than point out her flaws.

EXAMPLE. Panacea to her sitting down at home can be easily controlled with either getting her a shop or Dstv and Solar and a work engagement to keep her home

Baba40:


You are wrong bro... Mine did 4 different times, the last was the final

Is your marriage his marriage?

PeerHub:
Hello There ��
I'd like you guys to help me on this... My wife packed her belongings from the house exactly a month today. Now she wants me to come bring her belongings back to the house from her parents.

As a man, is this right?

100% So. Yes

If you rely on advice here, you'll get it wrong.

She has already figured the part she got wrong in your issues so you don't need to overflog it or play the ego card by saying, you left yourself, return. She wants to be needed and as such, you're almost re-proposing to her. Hence you need to reach out, while she meets you mid way


Any other counsel about from this counsel here is to scatter your marriage patapata. The choice is yours. I have spoken

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