@Cutehector - If we have children, we will let them learn and explore all kinds of religion, and if they want to practice a specific type, we will support them. We don't want to force religion on anyone - we have discussed this together. This also applies to both of us, too. So, if his views are changing, and if my views are changing, we would support each other. I hope this clarifies!

Thank you to everyone so far, for your take on my situation.

@Cutehector & @kilokeys - I am definitely open minded to learning, but I will not be forced into something I am not comfortable with. At this point, I know he is questioning some things he has been taught, so his beliefs could be changing. However, this started before we met, and he needs to continue his discovery of this on his own, without my persuasion.

@HerexG - I have told him that I have to meet his family before we even attempt to make one ourselves. I am hoping he will invite me to come with him when he goes back home at the end of the year. Thank you for the warm welcome!

@jcmaiah - As of now, no one on his fathers side has married outside of their race or religion. He could be the first. On his mothers side, not all follow the same religion, and have more diverse experiences. I am hoping to go with him at the end of the year, if I am invited. He has a baby face so I will always look a bit older... ha. Please forgive me, I am still learning pidgin and I am not entirely sure what you said below... Something about not having a child, being a village witch, Him marrying a Naija in order to be welcomed home?

@bewla - Comot!

@Muafrika - I have no faith, so life is what I make it

I will try to keep this short and to the point...

Background: Him - came to Canada for school. Been here for 2yrs, now working here. Practicing Pentecostal, from a leading family in their community. Second male born. Me - born and raised in Canada. Atheist, Caucasian. 3yrs older than him.

We met through an online dating site, he pursued me. We met. Our connection is strong and deep. And at just 4 months into this relationship, life is wonderful and complicated.

We talk about marriage and children - our future together. But there is a slight problem... His family. He knows that I will be an issue for his family. He feels he needs to tell his parents in person about me, when he goes back to visit at the end of the year. We fear they will not accept me, not bless the relationship. His family is his foundation, his rock, his life.

-they think a western woman will keep him away from Nigeria, they will never see him again.
-His family knows no Caucasian people - none.
-I don't believe in god, and probably never will.

These things are not issues for me, or for him. I would want him to visit home. I want to go with him. I would move there with him. I would be a wonderful first Caucasian person to meet, ha! As for religion and spirituality... I like learning about it, and I support him going to church... It is what keeps him, him.
He has mentioned a few times that I might be worth it, worth potentially being disowned from his family. When/if we have a child, they would come around... and we would be accepted, but that could be years down the road.

I would never ask him to give up his family over me, never. In a perfect world, his family would be just as open minded as he is, and accept us and our relationship.

Am I a fool for thinking this might work?

Thank you in advance for your kind advice!