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A friend in dilemma.

There are two guys.

One was contented and very shy. When he finishes school and couldn't get the job he wanted which is a government job his family persuade in to go into business which he reluctantly agree. But the business was a disaster. He doesn't have the human relationship to make it work but he's still doing it for lack of the government job he want.

Don't get it wrong, he's a good person. very quiet and reliable, his quietness is what makes my friend likes him until she saw how its affecting some other part of his life. My friend said she can't deal and want to leave him. There are other complaints too which include,

* The sex life is boring. and The kiss is horrible
* Not innovative
* His future is bleak according to her
* No self development

what my friend like about him is that he's FAITHFUL

The other guy was innovative And got a good human relationship. When he finishes good school and couldn't get job, he went into I.T since he study computer science . He started his own company and do a lot of self development. Within months he started, he has align himself with customers that needs his service. He now works with people in film production and other I.T related. He was hitting on my friend and my friends saw potential in him than the other guy. The sex was great and it's a good kisser. My problem with this guys is

* He checks out girls
* My friend has to always go extra mile to meet up to his standard which I think it's good thing. You should be with someone that makes you a better person but she saw it as a problem.

The problem now is my friend has break up with too shy guy but his family has called my friend and were begging her that their son were feeling down and she should tell them the reasons for the break up. She couldn't tell them especially the sex part.

Now she was at place last night lamenting on which guys to go with.

So I decide to throw it to the house

Good morning

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Hi nairalanders

So I have been dating this guy from our uni days. When we are school, we are both dedicated to each other and never far from one another. So when we finish school we were both looking for job. I want to settle down but I know we couldn't get married if we are both jobless.

Fortunately we both landed a job however my job was juicier with the whole package but his was not but I did not care. I know him to be dedicated and I know it will land something nice later. I thought we will get married especially since he came to spend the last sallah with my family.

The problem started at a time like that when I told him I bought a weave of 50k. Many people in my office are rocking weaves that are much more than that besides I can afford it. Then he said I have join the brasillian queens that the only thing they knew is slaying . I told him this is the only expensive weaves i ever bought and that I don't buy anything more than 8k but just to have something nice in my closet, that's why I bought the 50k weavon.

Then he went on about some of his friends wives that are working in good place and because of that they did not listen to their husbands again, that they become too proud. I tried to explain that we cannot compare our relationship with others but I don't think he cares to listen.

Since then he has been misbehaving, hardly calls nor message so I confront him about that and he said will I beat him because he doesn't call

Now I know the problems cannot just be because of weavon or is it. Maybe he's tired of the relationship. We 've been together a long time. Even though I am scared to be alone or even to start over, I decide to reiterate his attitude. I did not call nor message too. It's so heart breaking. You should be worshipped by your guy for being brilliant and hard-working not treated like trash.

So I ask the question, is it insecurity on his part or I did something wrong