victorian:








Well most rich ladies would love to marry a rich guy
But the only thing is if she's humble and friendly enough to get a rich guy for herself.
If she's open minded and friendly, she can get a rich guy to fall in love with her and marry her.
It's not a hard thing jare.

a marriage where the wife and husband are financially rich and equal won't last... let us drop all this fairytales, it only happen in story books

victorian:







Well that's their problem

For me, I'm marrying a rich man.

That's for me o

I don't know of any other person or woman.

Na my lane I dey jeje paving my way for it to happen and it will happen

I can't shout biko

good for you, i never said you shouldn't marry a rich man.. but what you want is different from reality if it goes against reality

IcraveLove:
Is being married an achievement? I will never sacrifice my career for that THING called MARRIAGE.

great you've made your choice, be ready for the consequences when it comes

victorian:






Such wealthy men exist.
You can only say for yourself, no need generalising.

You don't know what really goes on, out there between rich ladies and rich guys.

don't deceive yourself... rich women are good side chicks.. how many rich men marry rich women

victorian:






God bless you.


Don't mind the insecure op

its reality... when i mean successful women, i don't mean average, i mean the very rich woman

Amumaigwe:


The OP is saying that wealthy women will find it difficult to get themselves men to date because women generally date upwards ie they date a man who is better than (richer, more powerful etc) they are. The question is this; how many of such wealthier or more powerful men will want to date a woman of equal or even near equal status?

exactly.. so thats where the problem is.. if you cant date down then you'll remain alone... someone like dangote wouldn't marry a woman who wouldn't have the time to do chores... yes he has maids, but if the maid plays the role of the wife then his wife becomes useless

LordKO:


The problem is that you're using your environment and your POV as standard in a matter like this, very ridiculous. How many successful women do you know?

Believe you me, 95% of married women I can proudly say I know are successful both in their careers and marriages, and some of them have money more than their husbands. I find it ridiculous to hear anyone thinks that there're no wealthy/successful women who're equally submissive.

lies... lol why do you think divorce rate in america has spiked from 10% to 50%... when i say successful women i mean very wealthy, like linda ikeji kinda wealthy, i don't mean average women..... if you say I'm not correct then, successful female celebrities should be an example.. how many of them are married?

frozen70:


You are just being intimidated for nothing

What's wrong with a woman being successful

Most families looks up to their successful daughters to finance the family budget

No matter what they are doing or discussing, they still look up to their daughter's approval because she is the one bearing the cost of it

A woman can never be lonely, there will always be someone who admires her and what they want from her is her approval

Stop having low self esteem when you see successful women, the wise men drops their ego and pride to grab them

Haba ❗❗❗

lol i never said a woman can't be successful.. i said you cant have both.. its not about what you want, its about what the reality is... how many rich men gets married to rich women?

LordKO:
It's quite ridiculous to hear that most women cannot have successful career and successful home simultaneously, even when they abound everywhere - maybe, you haven't heard of something called balance. You've to accept the fact that it's not every woman who's egoistic (selfish, self-centered, or greedy). An altruistic woman, or a principled woman who has altruistic interest towards her husband (a sane husband), will definitely maintain both successful career and successful home.

The only kind of career successful woman who may not be able to marry the caliber of man - successful and sane man - she desires or have a successful marriage with such man, is an egoistic woman.

Also, it's only an egoistic career successful woman (or man) whose definition of "marrying down" means marrying someone of lower financial status, that will not marry a man below her financial status.

In summary, one's ethical leanings will always determine their mentality - and through people's ethical leanings you know their character. Spontaneous and reciprocation of good character (goodness) is the major mechanism that enables a mutually healthy and happy marriage/relationship.

at the end of the day, this is what you want.. in reality, its different... how many successful women are married, compared to the least successful women that are married.. I'm sure we all know the figures...

Cataclysmic:
Unfortunately very true!!!

REASONS
1. Hypergamy - Despite her riches/wealth, she'll likely still be looking for a richer/wealthier man to get married to. Using a quick analogy, imagine all of the following women are/were unmarried and are seeking to get married- Beyonce, Linda Ikeji, Folorunsho Alakija, Oprah Winfrey. The pertinent question becomes: how many men are richer than these women, and even more importantly, how many of those men are still single and/or searching?

2. Prior/previous societal expectations expected men to be the providers/breadwinners of families, whereas women were more or less dependent on the men in their lives for their upkeep. Even in some cases/cultures where women earned some money, they were still required to hand it over to their husbands, who will eventually dictate how it will be used/disbursed. Conversely, in this modern era where a good number of women are self-sufficient, they really do not see the need for a man/male partner.

3. The hubris of some feminists/misandrists - Like it or not, deny it or accept it, there are a lot of feminists who are "successful" or would want you to believe so, and are desperately trying to prove something to everyone, even when no one necessarily cares. These are the ones who would be found saying any of the following: "I am independent," "I buy my own stuff, pay my own bills," "I don't need a man." Even when no one is listening or when the topic of discussion is not in direct correlation, they'll still find one way or another to chip in any of the aforementioned phrases. It would seem that they expect men to handle their (women's) bills by default, despite all their "pseudo-equality" mantra, and when they have to be responsible for their finances, without any man to pick the bills for them, that is when they start spouting off about how they are they are independent, or pay their own bills, or do not need a man and "yada yada yada." Before nko, who should be responsible for your own bills? Loll!!!

I have expressed my humble opinion: you are entirely free to agree with me, or you can kindly "e-argue" with yourself. The choice is yours!!!

you said it all... i tell women, you can't gave a successful career and a family.. they dont see eye to eye, do you know how long it would take to build a million dollar business... bezos started Amazon 25 years ago... all this while shes building a career, she wouldn't have time
for relationships, menopause would set in.. no man wants to marry a woman that cant have babys anymore

MrBrownJay1:


again, stop assuming nonsense...
A) people like Dangote (or anybody else) want to get married for different reasons and this has absolutely NOTHING to do with traditional marriage
B) whoever Dangote marries will NEVER cook and clean.... and if she ever does, it will only be for the fun of it (and certainly not as a marital necessity)
C) a career woman dont NEED to cook and clean as she would certainly have a maid/servants
D) the fact that you believe that Dangote would marry a babe so that he could have someone that can cook for him when he gets home, shows us all how clueless you are about life. the dude already had someone cooking and cleaning for him (before marriage).,,, he certainly doesnt need to get married for that.
FINALLY if you believe that this is the essence of marriage (aka finding someone to cook for you when you get home), what about married people who are both hardworking?! i guess in your world, if a wife has a demanding job (as a cleaner, for example), she can never be a good wife, abi?!?!?!?!

lol you keep countering your own points, exactly why dontgote wont get married to a wealthy woman is because his maid would do everything his billionaire why can't.. cook, clean wash, probably sex... so whats the usefulness of his billionaire wife?... what exactly is she needed for ? Absolutely useless.... men like you have been emasculated and are simps... the world would be a better place without men acting so feminine... damn

chigoizie7:


See as you gather strength and time de follow this one talk

MrBrownJay1:


and the reason Dangote dont "need" to marry a wealthy woman is because.....

if someone like dangote is getting married, its because he wants to enjoy the bliss and fun of the traditional marriage...a career woman doesn't have time to cook ir care for her husband.. so someone like dangote comes back home, his multi billionaire wife is still at work... the first question he'd ask himself is "then why did i get married"

MrBrownJay1:


as well as "unintelligent", you seem to be also BLIND... here it is again:

going around in circles... answer my question, how many rich and wealthy men marry women of equal status?... do you think dangote would be stupid enough to marry a woman as rich as him...?

Abfinest007:
not in all cases

in most cases

MrBrownJay1:


bro stop writing rubbish online, it makes you look "unintelligent"....
here is a clue: wealthy people dont NEED/CARE about marrying wealthy people, they would instead simply marry anyone they fancy. its only poor people that believe that a wealthy person MUST marry another wealthy person. again, a wealthy person does NOT care about money, they already got it.

only an insecure low self esteem man would look down on a wealthy woman, because she makes more than him.

lol yeah I'm unintelligent lol... but tell us how many rich men marry rich women

samdavjustin:


You know how many times jay z has cheated on Beyoncé? Rihanna is not married but ofcourse jumps from one man to the other

exactly, successful women are the best side chicks/baby mama.. aka linda ikeji

Funmmyastic:
Tell that to Beyonce or Rihanna.

is rihanna married?... beyonce was singing in destiny's child when she met jayz, she wasn't as successful

MrBrownJay1:
the rubbish men with low self esteem tell themselves.... is amazing!

the important question IS: why should anyone date down? instead they should date WISE and who they desire. sadly, people with money dont care who they date so long as that person makes them happy. its only poor people that focus on money!

wealthy men dont want to marry equal women because they want to use their money to control women... a woman with money cannot be controlled with money, duh!

a wealthy woman can have family and a successful career, the hard part is to find a man that wont be too insecure to be with such woman.... expecting her to be a housewife (cooking and cleaning everyday). if market women can be housewives then any wealthy women can do the same, while having cleaners and servants.

how many wealthy men have you seen marrying wealthy women? I'm glad you metioned the hard part is to find a man that wont bother about her wealth... wow you basically just repeated all i said lol

Call it crazy but its reality... a successful woman wouldn't want to date down, she wouldn't want to date someone she makes more money than, aslo wealthy men don't want to marry a woman of equal status.. so in reality if you're a woman you cant have both.. you must sacrifice one for the other.. its either you sacrifice family for your career and riches or you sacrifice career for family... its your choice to pick one...

Example of successful of successful nigerian women without husbands and a traditional family...
MOST NIGERIAN FEMALE CELEBS

Lol she'll always respect her pastor even when you get married, it would cause alot of problems... I'd say call it off.. she's not a serious person

dawnomike:
Smile... When marriage and divorce pays handsomely

if they bring the divorce ruling thing to nigeria, men wont marry again..and alot of women would be killed by their husbands

TheEnygma:
Of course , about 90% of the richest women in the world got their money from either their husbands or fathers.

make that 98%...

After you'll say there should be equality.. when you cant even create wealth yourself.. you must steal from a man first... then you scream "WE ARE ALL EQUAL" Lol we clearly aren't

After you'll say there should be equality.. when you cant even create wealth yourself.. you must steal from a man first... then you scream "WE ARE ALL EQUAL" Lol we clearly aren't

912:


Didn't it seem odd to you that what you quoted was written by an anonymous account?

Why has someone who has been posting with his account suddenly decide to use an anonymous account to retract all that he has been saying?

Anyone can make their account anonymous and post that write-up. I take it all with a bag of salt (not even a pinch) until I see that the statement is from the original op's account just as I take the response from the other account claiming to be his wife which was created the day of the post.

Sorry I am not that gullible because that post might as well have been from the account of someone trying to play a sick joke.

It's funny how you believed it even though there was no identity of who actually posted it. FYI nairaland has over 2.3million users and anyone of them can go anonymous

lol and dont be surprised if its actually one of these women here that created the account to retract his statement... tasty women trying to seek validation

912:


Didn't it seem odd to you that what you quoted was written by an anonymous account?

Why has someone who has been posting with his account suddenly decide to use an anonymous account to retract all that he has been saying?

Anyone can make their account anonymous and post that write-up. I take it all with a bag of salt (not even a pinch) until I see that the statement is from the original op's account just as I take the response from the other account claiming to be his wife which was created the day of the post.

Sorry I am not that gullible because that post might as well have been from the account of someone trying to play a sick joke.

It's funny how you believed it even though there was no identity of who actually posted it. FYI nairaland has over 2.3million users and anyone of them can go anonymous

lol i didn't even notice

These are the feminists ones that claimed strong and business oriented , saying women can rule the world too.. this is the result

richie240:

Like seriously?
After 40+ pages ?

Let's not disgrace d menfolk further, biko.

NB:
Funmisticqueen, I want to use D's opportunity to apologize (by proxy) for those unwarranted jabs and false accusations from 3rd-legged folks esp for falsely accusing u of opening a new thread and posing as d op's wife.
Forgive them pls.

go and sitdown abeg.. you're the only man, sucking up to women and disgracing yourself...after 40 pages of him watching and commenting, i really doubt his story is a lie.. all i know is nature didn't put power in the hands of women for a reason goodnight

funmisticqueen:
y'all are so delusional. I can see why the wife refrained from replying.

There's no point.

@Eyeness was right about some things.

I won't bother anymore

whatever you say...

funmisticqueen:
By who exactly?

His wife?

This is the height of insanity

you never know.. she controls the house now remember?

funmisticqueen:
After insulting me for saying the plain truth

he was pressured to retract his statement.. every he posted here originally is the truth