Successfulben:
Another gay spotted

Just like your father.

How about how to identify men that are ritualist, has water spirit, is living dead, cursed from birth, mother has witchcraft, has ancestral spirit etc

When will all these stupid men realize Breast is not a private part. Women wear bra to support their breast not hide them. Men and trying to control women because they can't control their sexual urges is irritating and disgraceful . 95% of men are perverts.

Smartb0y:
As a man, you aren't obligated to marry, don't let hearsayers manipulate you.
They won't help you bear the burden of performance when your dwelling is on fire.

As a matter of fact,those nonsense mouths that manipulated you into said marriage are still going to be the same ones that does the criticism.

When a man makes a choice they term it "fear" , "insecurity".

You as a man aren't allowed to have standards.
Shame tactics....wiles of females and simps.

Because a man decides not to conform to societal standard, you term it "scare".

Marriage is not important and you can procreate without getting married but when you see women that isn't married with kids you start calling her all sort of insulting names lol. Life always comes full cycle. I wish more men will actually adopt this idea about marriage so they can get insulted and abused by other men for it. Experience as they say is the best teacher 😂.

Victor2707:
Another set of humans with brain disorder.

They are more sane than you and will live a better life than you as well.

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Reminderz:
any girl that doesn't wear bra in public and make her nipples visible is an olosho... even if she's married... no responsible person will do such a thing.

Your mother didn't wear bra so she's an Olosho as well.

SAMBARRY:
and the annoying part is that they buy it at ridiculous prices.you go see wig of ₦50k,₦100k,₦700k and you will see girls prostituting, stealing and lying to get it

Meanwhile many of those who are involved in it have no business skills,no job,no degree just fooling around and hanging around cinemas,hotel lounges, clubs and bars waiting on who will give them attention.when they don't now see the attention they are looking for, they'll take it a step further by doing nude photoshoot

No business skills or job but they are richer than you 😂

Adesuwag:
Low self esteem. And a lot you girls look transsexual with d damn wigs on.

African hair ain’t bone straight.
Your black hair defys gravity and you should nurture and respect her.

And regardless of how natural your factory-synthesized wigs look or feels,
it’ still but screams acceptance.

You’re woman and that’s enough.

Imagine someone bragging about spending $300-$700 on hair wey no be your own…..
osino “good hair don’t come cheap”. awwww rich kid.

This generation of black women are terribly misguided.

I hope you got better investments cos the days are getting darker.
And don’t forget to love and take care of your natural crown.

Shut up that useless thing you call a mouth. What do you know about being a woman and why do you think women gives a feck about your useless opinion on how they should dress and style themselves.

Horus:
I hate wigs. One journalist discovered that most of the human hairs used to make wigs came from corpses of dead people.
When you buy wigs, there is no possibility of determining the source of the hair because the labelling on the packaging is misleading.
You wear wigs made with hairs coming from dead bodies and you don't even know it

No wonder some of you foolish. Most human hair used for weaves and wigs is obtained from Asia (perhaps most often China, India, and Korea) That’s partly due to economic reasons and because of the physical properties of hair from that part of the world – tends to be very straight. Hair from Africa and the Middle East tends to be kinky/curly which limits its use in wigs and extensions. In India, a large portion of the hair is sourced from Hindu temples where hair is donated for religious practices, particularly in honor of the Hindu God Vishnu.

ChizzyBuna:
I will expose a dark secret about wigs
that happens in India and Indonesia

The long hairs of dead indian women are cut off before they burn the body (cremation). They don't bury in india

The long hair of the dead woman is then sold to wig makers who package it as wig and sell to Africans.

Basically, 60% of Nigerian girls are walking around with a dead woman's hair.
No wonder they act like they are possessed

Shut up. Majority of wigs are made from synthetic hair. You that wear cloths and drive cars of dead people you think you are normal?

abduleez1:


Of all the misconceptions of Nigeria and other African countries na this useless stereotype I hate pass. "Dem get light 24/7". That Nonsense talk dey vex me ehn. 🤦‍♂️😡 People wey e no fit pass their city wey light dey with population of 1million people you go come dey use am dey compare cities like Lagos and the whole of Nigeria with 30mn and 220mn plus people respectively.

Nobody asked you guys to breed like rats. For such a poor country your population growth per annum is outstanding.

Cromagnon:
what is she going to do with it?
You think predators will be looking at Awoof and let it alone? You women have no idea how violent the world is? Ïtmgd left to the man cos he can defend it.

What is the man defending?

GloriousGbola:


shhh that is what they call benevolent patriarchy these days. when we were in uni, an uncle sent a thinkpad to my sis. he said he would not send me one as i should be able to hustle for it. benevolent patriachy everywhere

At least someone is learning something. Same way in the Igbo culture and most Nigerian culture is the man who inherits his late father property when they are older daughters or how it's the first born son who inherits the kingship. Repeat after me.......Benevolent Sexism.

akwesenana:
Madam, I have defined what I mean by 'walk the talk.'

Did women rights movement make women reject being treated preferentialy.


And I take objection to that 'blind' word.

If the women rights movement was not walking the talk how did they accomplish the level we have gotten to today with more to come in the future? Benevolent sexism remains sexism.

CrystalTiger:


Its always the man who has to come first as far as sacrifice and hustle is concerned...

So now you have a problem with traditional gender roles and stereotypes?

akwesenana:
Walk the talk ie. refusing to jump on a bus in the middle of nowhere first, shutting a door and reopening by oneself when a bastardd patriachary slave tries to call one a weaker vessel amongst others.

You didn't answer the question. Are you blind to all the accomplishment of the women rights movement over the years? Without walking the talk how was those accomplishment fulfilled.

akwesenana:
On paper, she wouldn't count as a feminist.

The problem now is: do feminists walk the talk or it's just online. 'Cause I never see where woman vex say man open door for her.

"Do feminists walk the talk or it's just online"

Are you blind to all the accomplishment of the women rights movement over the generations?

liveLongNprospa:


Lmao... Man go tell you something about man.
You wey never live as man go dey argue with man about man.

God bless you dear

Is it not your fellow men that are fighting against gender stereotypes and organizing Men rights movement? Is it not your fellow men who suffer abuse in marriages but can't come out and seek help due to toxic masculinity and for fear of being shamed by his fellow men? Is not men like you that suffer rape but can't talk about because they will be seen as weak?

liveLongNprospa:

There are about 3billion men give or take.
What is a constant amongst majority of men is the protection of women and children when there's problems.

We see it among mammals too.
Those men that you listen to complain will sacrifice their lives for their partners and children. Sometimes you think it's because we want to be heroes when most times it's just how it is.


I grew up thinking like this. When I got married, it opens you up to a whole other level of responsibility to your partner..
You are legit making a vow to protect with your life and that becomes second nature to you.

Of course like everything there will be outliers for sure but even some of those outliers will react to certain things because it's your nature.


So again you are not a man.
You don't know how we think or what we feel at every second of our existence.

Please do not reduce what it means to be a man to talking points in forums.
I can't even begin to cover what it means to be a man.

Don't tell us we are being 2nd class or that we shame men who want to speak up. Those same men still wear the badge of pride when everything passes and the women and children are safe.

Lol your nature is not to protect women. It's shameful you can't see how you have been conditioned due to Gender stereotypes and patriarchy over the years to thank that a woman needs your protection and care. Those are things rooted in benevolent sexism like I told you before. Same way patriarchy has forced women to see men as masters to be worshipped which leads to toxic masculinity. You are defending being oppressed and wearing it like a badge. We have seen Men being shamed because they don't want to conform to gender stereotypes. They are Nigeria men in Sudan who don't gives two fecks about the women there and would jump on the first bus but due to pressure and fake masculinity would shut up and go along it.

liveLongNprospa:


Nah.. You are assuming how a man should feel.
You are not a man.
You don't know what kicks in for a man when we are in such situations.
You don't know how we think in such situations.

So again, how did you come up with majority of men feeling like 2nd class citizens when you are a woman..
Abi did you live your life as a man at some point?


What do you think it is to be a man?

Nothing like assuming. Men rights activists are there for anyone to look at their mission statements and what they are fighting for. Men discussion boards are also all over. Men speaking out against the patriarchy and Gender stereotypes are all there. I don't need be dead to know a dead person.

Why do people attempt to copy cultures that are free, fare, just and accomdating with zero gender stereotypes and misgyony? Beats me. Give this man a visa to the West and he won't think twice before running away.

liveLongNprospa:


Oppressed? 2nd class citizen?
Lets get into this.
As a man, why do you think I would feel oppressed or a 2nd class citizen because women are getting rescued first?
Have you lived as a man?
Do you think for all men?

I don't need to be dead before I know a dead person. Treated as inferior to your fellow gender in this particular situation says it all. What about men that wants to leave Sudan immediately with the women or even before the women but due to Gender stereotypes and fear of being perceived as a "weak men" just shuts up and goes along with it? Patriarchy affects everybody but men are too scared to admit it.

GrammarNazi1:

After the weak/unwell have been evacuated, what's the next set of people to be evacuated if people must be evacuated by sets? The men or the women?

Why does it have to be or and not both?

liveLongNprospa:


Hmmm so the days my wife also holds door for me to pass, it means she's calling me weak ba?

Benevolent sexism is self explanatory.

liveLongNprospa:

Leave what Chimamanda wrote. We know where she stands.
Let me tell you how unrealistic you sound.
In a war situation like that, people go into survival mode and that means the people with peak physical condition have the best chance of survival.

Pick 30 random men and women with 15 representing each gender, you'd have alot more men stronger physically, who can run faster, jump faster, probably fight better.
You'll most likely be much of a liability in that situation which in turn will be a drawback to the entire group.

It is not a nice situation, it is reality.
So again while in most cases we all support the call for equality, in cases like war situations we will have women and children getting preferential treatment.


And it is always funny when that happens and you barely get news of women standing up in that situation to say "no I'm a human being like you.. Let only the kids and injured be rescued first"

Again.. Reality isn't nice sometimes

Equality in comfortable situations is easy to propagate. When shit hits the fan that's when you know the real you👍

Its an evacuation. There's no need for gender to come into play. Like Adiche said "Protect those that need protection, irrespective of their gender.". Even when your Gender gets oppressed and treated like 2nd class citizen you will still defend the patriarchy.

liveLongNprospa:

So if I hold a door for you, am I calling you weak?
If when we get married and I carry you into the bedroom, am I calling you weak?

lmao.


Benevolent sexism refers to attitudes about women that seem positive in tone (eg, women should be cherished) but nonetheless connote inferiority to men based on fragility, lack of competence, or need of help and protection.

liveLongNprospa:


You have still not answered my second question.
In this situation in Sudan, would you refuse the preferential treatment given to you as a woman..
Yes or no

I answered you perfectly with this speech from Adiche.

Kholiwe:
This reminds me of what Chimamnda Adiche said. "" She said holding doors shouldn't be a gender thing. We should hold doors for each other, or anyone that needs such help...not just because she is a woman!
She went on to add that, in the event of danger---the first set of people to be evacuated should be those that are weak/unwell. Not only women and children.
Protect those that need protection, irrespective of their gender. ""

liveLongNprospa:


Lmao she said it and that's fine for her.
Would you consider the act of chivalry an insult to your worth as a woman?

Act of chivalry rooted in sexism and gender stereotypes of women being weak? Yes I would.

liveLongNprospa:


I am actually okay.
I have a wife and mother.
I like every other man would ensure that they get preferential treatment in such a situation.

Question is would you as a woman accept the preferential treatment or refuse it in such a situation.
That question should not be hard

If you are ok with your life being treated like a 2nd class citizen then that's your business. If others are not and want to fight to be treated equally then it's also their right. They are men that are not ok with it that's why they are men activist and Men rights movement. Always speak for yourself.

This reminds me of what Chimamnda Adiche said. "" She said holding doors shouldn't be a gender thing. We should hold doors for each other, or anyone that needs such help...not just because she is a woman!
She went on to add that, in the event of danger---the first set of people to be evacuated should be those that are weak/unwell. Not only women and children.
Protect those that need protection, irrespective of their gender. ""