My husband is making it difficult for me to train my children, we can't agree and he is not ready to do his part, he says daily it is my responsibility but he is frustrating that responsibility he said is solely mine. They disregard instructions, and are very hard to stay calm. teachers are complaining, we changed location and their new teachers are complaining already.

When I say no phones or tablets, he insists they go ahead with their gadgets, he'd say am disregarding his orders. Last month, I had to break one of the tablets as they have been on it for over 5 hours!!! and he keeps asking them to continue when I say stop. He frustrates my efforts trying to teach them simple things, he'd say am taking too much time. Hey, this he says every time, if he comes home and sees me with them trying to read or solve simple maths, he complains it's enough. He prefers they waste their time on phones or tablets. It is now so bad that if I don't hold USB cord my kids will not obey. This struggle has started since age 4 or since I can remember them trying to walk. Becuase it started with him speaking babbles or unknown language and when I say no, he is expected to speak well for them to earn from him, he'd argue. That escalated to my only son having delayed speech and my husband continued to babble to a 6 year old boy. Some family members rebuked him but he'd say who are they. I had to start praying against him as I see him as the problem before he stopped babbling.

I started employing teachers to teach them as I am always busy and don't meet up to help them often as I desired, but he opposed it vehemently. He argued like he was going to pay, I told him the expenses are on me but said it was waste of money and most times he'd hurry the teachers to go before their time was up.

Last night, I had informed the kids today would be a no-gadget day, and that they should read, they are on holiday here already and I bought books for them to read and scheduled an outdoor activity for them. My husband condemned the swimming activity and say it was a waste of money and that they should play at home or wait for when they can have it for free.

I am not where I want to be, I struggled a lot in my life and all I got was the basics, and I am thankful but I want them to have the extras, the more I couldn't get as a child but my husband is frustrating every effort. I do not ask for his help in all these, all I want is cooperation or stop instigating these little ones before it is too late to get them to obey simple instructions, get use to doing things right, or follow guidelines.

He even faults assignments, like how? He just believes after school children should play and play. I cant simply ask my children to follow rules, he wants us to live as we like and with no order.

I don't even know the place of the law in my case, am so tired of his way of life, I struggle to get things fix at home. I had to remind him several times, shout or do things all by myself most times when am tired. Oh, it's been a rough ride with this man.

One of my children is really laid back, he had speech delay, and of course affected him with reading and many things, you all can imagine my struggle alone. I need help, my life has been a struggle, and I don't want these kids to go through the same but he is not getting it.

I can't agree to his slow-motion life, no way.

I am frustrated. If you have passed through this as a woman, how are you managing it well? If you think he is complaining because of his money, no. All the expenses are on me, I don't trouble him for money at all, not even a share of it.

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I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

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