DavidTheGeek:

Give her some space to decide.

With her dad having an heart attack she's all about making daddy happy now.

Also it's a waste of time trying to "reason" with a girl.

If she's in love with you already, her dad's instructions has little to no effect - she will always come back to you.

This is a good time to include future projections into your chats with her if you've not being doing that.

yea..thanks..man.would do just dt..

magikalz:

She wants to stop talking to you because??....her dad told her to stop....why?
This doesn't make sense unless I'm mistaken. How old is she?

She is 19..

DavidTheGeek:

Not wanting to lose her is the beginning of losing her.

To win a girl, you have to risk losing her.

thanks alot bro.this quote right here might have saved me from doing something utterly terrible and downright needy.
that fwb girl I told u about,well things changed and she wanted more apparently,we just started dating and yesterday,she was like,"that she has to stop talking to me,not cos she wants to but cos everything she does,she feels she is betraying her dad"...her dad saw our chat once and told her to stop talking to me..and the man had a mini heart attack on saturday (thank God,he is okay).
I was going to try to appeal to her emotions today,but after seeing this your quote..I'm not going to make any move,I'll just give her space and stay clear.
abeg is that not d right option

Heloct:

Lol. Nice pick up lines.

thank u...had to brush up my skills. u wouldn't mind if I slide u a pm now,would u?

Heloct:

Oral B..

I'm more of a dabur person..buh I won't mind talking to u close up..

Heloct:

I like ur teeth..wh toothpaste do u use??

paiz:
Me: Are you a hausa?
Babe: no, why?
Me: cause you are driving me north (nut)

"are u a hausa??"..what type of English is that??..d girl would go deaf from hearing that biko..
o gbagala penalty ya n'ime throwing

lilmax:
finally? admission is that hard?


got admitted at 15, finished 19.....it's a shame finally is used in same line with admission

not into private university..or into all these courses like edu/physics,philosophy,psychology.
we mean confirm admission into palatable courses on and public university.

inkdbetty:

Wa-u. Quite Unfortunate For Me.

yea..very unfortunate

inkdbetty:

So what are you on apart from nairaland?

whatsapp

inkdbetty:

But I Have Not. If You're On Twitter, Just DM Me.@IamBettyUdo

I'm not really d social network kinda person . not on twitter

inkdbetty:


PM does that work with the web? Because I'm not using the app.

sure does...check ur email

inkdbetty:
Is like you people need to redefine the defination of the relationship... TALK(shift sex btw you two to the side first) before everything blows up in your face. Ask her what she wants, figure out what you want. Reach a compromise or a decision, and everybody is happy.

thanks alot dear..very nice idea.
btw..I went through ur posts.seems u love poems..I'm also a poem lover and writer.
wouldn't mind a pm from me..or would u??

Lawlahdey:
What about my dp?

Just keep going kwanu..forget the thread na.

Lawlahdey:
You dey craze?

Just saw ur dp.sorry ooo.just ignore my thread and keep going

okay,so I'm in this fwb (friends with benefit)relationship with a girl.i do like her and tried to define it at some point,but she was dragging her feet about dating.so I left it at that,kept on having sex and regained control of the relationship and she was like any of us can sleep with anybody and it won't be cheating because we re not dating.
fast forward to today,she travelled back home and I told her that a girl writing post utme might have to crash at my place.anyways,the girl arrived this evening and this my friend was now texting me asking me to describe the girl whether she is hot and pretty and fat and bla bla bla.
the post utme girl is kinda hot and also mature not a baby.so when I described her to my friend.she was like enjoy yourself and use a condom.i was like.."okay then,chat later,gotta be a good guest".
she now bursted out ooo and was like I'm taking time to reply her text sef that I must be very"busy"...then she was like "chat later?,I'll never chat u up ever again "
i kinda feel guilty cos I dnt really plan on doing anyfn with ds post utme girl,she is asleep already.i did make my friend a Lil jealous,now I think I might have driven her over..
abeg any advice on what to do next or make i just ignore her

XavierBlue:



when ya discussing with her again.. Use reverse psychology on her.. Ask her if you look like any other guy to her.. feign annoyance... Do this when the conversation is at it speak.. When she's laughing and smilling and wnt more.. Yo feign vex tell her something came and go off.. She may or may not call you after that.. or may try to appease you or try to put u back to nice guy mode by forming vex too..

What ever.. Ignore her for a day or two... then show up like something never occurred..
you may text..

See ya big head and tiny eyes..

She replies and you take it to where u want..

And by now.. She will have a change of mind about you.. She will like the new you..l

You said friends with benefits.. what do u benefits?

okay..she finally called nd I teased and all dt..buh never said d important thing..now what do I do next..cos she believes that there is an important thing

XavierBlue:



when ya discussing with her again.. Use reverse psychology on her.. Ask her if you look like any other guy to her.. feign annoyance... Do this when the conversation is at it speak.. When she's laughing and smilling and wnt more.. Yo feign vex tell her something came and go off.. She may or may not call you after that.. or may try to appease you or try to put u back to nice guy mode by forming vex too..

What ever.. Ignore her for a day or two... then show up like something never occurred..
you may text..

See ya big head and tiny eyes..

She replies and you take it to where u want..

And by now.. She will have a change of mind about you.. She will like the new you..l

You said friends with benefits.. what do u benefits?

we dey knack o...steady knacking..my bro
I'm even d first to visit there

DavidTheGeek:

I'm not aware of your issue.

I don't know what happened between you two and why you're ignoring her.

What's the problem and how did you guys get to this point?

knax :
okay guys..so I'm in a fwb relationship with a girl or something of that nature.i tried to define the relationship to her,but she said that she likes things the way they are and defining it can make things harder and uninteresting.she does however try to get me to admit that I love her...and I never accept it.she also tries to make me jealous by bringing up issue that her ex is still contacting her..
and then she tries to make it look like her pvssy gat me on hold,that I can't do without it.she'll be like "U re not getting any pussy"..and I would fire back and say " I'm not getting any of ur pvssy,u mean,buh I can and will get any pvssy out there,if I want to"...and then she'll start feeling bad.
my point is,she doesn't want to define it,but she acts like we're dating,always texting me first and asking me what other girls told me or what they did when they visited me..
I feel like by trying to define d relationship I handed my balls to her..and I want it back.i want to be in control again.and I don't want to fall in love with her,even if I am.
.and any other person reading this..una

XavierBlue:


ERM.. That good.. You did good bro..
you are retrieving your balls back.. Now u give her attention Nd leave her hanging.. we want her to miss you don't we?.. From your view she isn't missing you enough..
We want her to want to see you.. All depends on how you're gonna play it..

Did u send her the messge?.. She should be curious..So we can use it against her..
And the answers you seek are all over the pages of the thread...

How about you send her

"Hey trouble maker.. What troubles have u been upto lately... Call me.. Something important to tell you.. Bye."

When she calls you don't pick.. don't.. Maybe after the third ring.. You pick..
She : Hello.
You : Wow.. your voice.. were you crying ? you missed me that much?

What ever her reply just continue teasing her... But don't tell her the important something..Tell her it for bad girls not good girls like her.. She may say she's bad.. tease herl..

l I don'tthink ya bad enough.. you'll tell your mummy I spoilt..

Then when the convo gets interesting, you tell her u gotta go.. hang up..

Just go through the thread..

aii..thanks alot.would do just that.
although there is a slight issue,she never calls more than once.she never calls any guy more than once..I asked her why,she said that it makes her look desperate..

XavierBlue:


With the knowledge bestowed upon me By oga harddon, I'd like to give a shot at this..

*breaths in* Ok.. if I were in your shoes here's what I'll do..
I'd make her jealous then leave her.. And she will come running back.. How would I accomplish this?

Well. from ya narration, seems you guys have the rapport and comfort.. But you sound needy boss, you sound needy..
To deal with this needy shit I'll advise you to come aboard this thread in the right way by starting afresh.. Impossible huh? You think it is but it ain't.. I myself went through it from page 1 to the last.. You too can..


You handed her your balls when you tried to DEFINE the relationship... And that class 1 neediness. she text you first.. and so what? can't you ignore? Dont give her afuck). Just read her msg and don't reply.. I do this all the time.. I'll read her msg ignore and continue chatting with other girls.. If you do this properly she will be thinking..
" Why is he not replying me.. But he read it and didn't.. Maybe he's chatting with other girls"
She will be jealous.. an that a good thing..

Let her know you've lost interest in her by subtly ignoring her.. if you use to call her twice a day.. Don't care again.. She should do the calling..

And then after a week or so you can send he this
" How horrible was ya day cheese balls? Anyway.. met a new friend last week.. damn shes so fun.. I'll may let you meet her.. if you're lucky .. And guess what? I have something to tell?"

She'll be jealous first.. and then ask what?.. then you ignore again.. maybe after a day ..

"Sure you wanna hear it? Not sure you are ready.. No.. You ain't Naugty enough to hear it.. Gotta go.. duty calls.. Bye.."

She'll call and text but ignore.. until you feel you have your balls back.. then u apply the drills of harddon on her...
Go out and meets girls.. And then you'll have your hands full chatting with other girls than giving one all the attention..
Go through this thread from page 1..
Permits my blunders. I don't proof read..

Cc.. Harddon.

okay bro..I've ignored her for d past 5 days now..I did call her once on monday buh she didn't pick..and then I saw a text from her "sup"..I hate people "suping" me.
so I just ignored her,she called me that night and I didn't pick.the next day she sent a text "i saw ur missed call,sup?"..and I also didn't reply..and ll this is via sms o not whatsapp.we don't chat there.
however now,I want to chat her up or call her,cos I think I've ignored her enough..how do I do it and what do I say..
XavierBlue,Davidthegeek,harddon

any medical student in abia state university here??..please pm me..or even quote me.

missbeckykisses:
He doesn't last in bed, any small thing I want to come.. That's why I left him anyways, dude was a chronic Masturbator before we met

hey,u school in abia state university??

IamLEGEND1:
As you don hype yourself reach, the plenty sense wey you get suppose tell you say dating no be for everybody.
STFU, sit down and be humble. Trust me, if you're a tiny fraction of those things you say you are...... The right girl will find you eventually.
I know you think you have a Supreme sense of self awareness but introspection is a funny thing...... You can rarely, if ever give an unprejudiced account of yourself.
You say you're simple, but you may just be a slob.
You think it's humility but you're just patronizing.
You think you're the quiet intellectual, you may actually just be the creep who keeps staring at people for no apparent reason.
Reevaluation. readjustment .... That's how the best people operate.
Don't be stuck in your ways and think anyone who doesn't fall in line is below you. I know a lot of shit_but lord knows I wouldn't want to talk about cleopatra with anyone I just met.

u are right...Maybe I should be flexible and not so stuck in my ways...and I do try to give an unprejudiced account of myself..i can and do see things from different perspectives. and no,I'm not a slob and I don't dress slovenly either..
thanks though..I appreciate the criticism.
In the end,we are who we are

okay guys..so I'm in a fwb relationship with a girl or something of that nature.i tried to define the relationship to her,but she said that she likes things the way they are and defining it can make things harder and uninteresting.she does however try to get me to admit that I love her...and I never accept it.she also tries to make me jealous by bringing up issue that her ex is still contacting her..
and then she tries to make it look like her pvssy gat me on hold,that I can't do without it.she'll be like "U re not getting any pussy"..and I would fire back and say " I'm not getting any of ur pvssy,u mean,buh I can and will get any pvssy out there,if I want to"...and then she'll start feeling bad.
my point is,she doesn't want to define it,but she acts like we're dating,always texting me first and asking me what other girls told me or what they did when they visited me..
I feel like by trying to define d relationship I handed my balls to her..and I want it back.i want to be in control again.and I don't want to fall in love with her,even if I am.
ikp120,oga HARDDON..and any other person reading this..una advice biko

Tenkobos:
A girl or something of that nature??

not the girl..as in d relationship or fwb ish

okay guys..so I'm in a fwb relationship with a girl or something of that nature(the relationship).i tried to define the relationship to her,but she said that she likes things the way they are and defining it can make things harder and uninteresting.she does however try to get me to admit that I love her...and I never accept it.she also tries to make me jealous by bringing up issue that her ex is still contacting her..
and then she tries to make it look like her pvssy gat me on hold,that I can't do without it.she'll be like "U re not getting any pvssy"..and I would fire back and say " I'm not getting any of ur pvssy,u mean,buh I can and will get any pvssy out there,if I want to"...and then she'll start feeling bad.
my point is,she doesn't want to define it,but she acts like we're dating,always texting me first and asking me what other girls told me or what they did when they visited me..
I feel like by trying to define d relationship I handed my balls to her..and I want it back.i want to be in control again.and I don't want to fall in love with her,even if I am.i still don't want to
*modified*

okay guys..so I'm in a fwb relationship with a girl or something of that nature.i tried to define the relationship to her,but she said that she likes things the way they are and defining it can make things harder and uninteresting.she does however try to get me to admit that I love her...and I never accept it.she also tries to make me jealous by bringing up issue that her ex is still contacting her..
and then she tries to make it look like her pvssy gat me on hold,that I can't do without it.she'll be like "U re not getting any pussy"..and I would fire back and say " I'm not getting any of ur pvssy,u mean,buh I can and will get any pvssy out there,if I want to"...and then she'll start feeling bad.
my point is,she doesn't want to define it,but she acts like we're dating,always texting me first and asking me what other girls told me or what they did when they visited me..
I feel like by trying to define d relationship I handed my balls to her..and I want it back.i want to be in control again.and I don't want to fall in love with her,even if I am.
ikp120,HARDDON. guys beg..make una advice me

Vivly:
What about the junior colleague you started dating?

suddenly she stopped talking,no texts,no calls and didn't pick my call either or reply my text..so I just stopped..

Evaberry:

Three categories of people I won't consider getting married to


1. A doctor


2. A lawyer


3. A banker

why?? .doctors are awesome people.they are one of the most hardworking set you would ever meet.also,things rarely faze us,we have seen it all..and we re extremely good at stress management. why don't u want a doctor?

Hey guys,I have a Lil problem or maybe the world has a Lil problem.first off,I'm a geek I admit,and I wear glasses,I'm myopic (my glasses are designed,like Clark kent's own,original ray ban designers).I'm a medical student,300level.I like to think that I'm intelligent (my results so far has been awesome,glory to God).I am an introvert,very well exposed though but I prefer to observe than to talk.however when I'm in my small social circle,I'm the funniest craziest person u'd ever know (I've done some pretty crazy stuffs,jumped on a horse without a saddle and rode it,I'm did fall off sha,took d microphone from the mc in front of everyone at an occasion just to say "there is no meat in my rice ooo",it was a dare sha.Pecked a cadaver in anatomy dissection,lolz,and even used my scalpel to measure d length of his flaccid penis,and so many other crazy things,).I play football in my spare time (defensive midfielder,solid one,we came third in my uni's vc cup competition).I'm an ardent video gamer..certified..ps2,3,pes,God of war.
I also watch movies alot,like I said I'm not the social type so I spend a lot of time alone or with my best friend turned brother..I like to think I'm a good writer,my article has been published in vanguard once..I play drums as well.my taste in music is kinda different I love "the lumineers","fun","coldplay",the radical face,sleeping at last,brandi callie,Rachel yamagata,Christina perri,Ben Howard,Joe Brooks,Don Williams,Lady antebellum.the songs in my phone are not so popular but they make a lot of sense and in another universe,perhaps a better one,they would be a lot more popular.
Now to my point of writing this...I am awesome.i like to think I am,but all these things I mentioned above,you would never know all those things by looking at me . I'm that guy who stays at the back corner of the class looking at everybody and assimilating what they are doing . I've always said that if I'm to be granted one power then I want to be invisible. I like quietness and simplicity.but nigerian girls,well most nigerian girls always go for the shouty guy,you know,the guy on vintage shirt and jeans and big boots with dreads and who is always showing off.
I'm not that guy,I've always been a simple dresser,I wear my jeans ,polo and pams. I adore being free in what I wear,sometimes I might put on boots,but nothing too flashy.i don't like people noticing me at all,however on formal occasions I dress well and I have a good fashion sense..
My ex did complain about my dressing before she broke up with me,she was like she has to deal with me being casual all the time around her friends(i banged one of em after we broke up though)..you see,she was the social media type,she had so many followers on IG..Facebook,guys were literally begging her.but I'm not,I'm not on any social media except WhatsApp and this nairaland and she couldn't understand that.she wanted me to flaunt our relationship and dress to kill every time but that wasn't me..I don't need to show off,I love myself the way I am.i did not show her the kind of family I was from,I didn't want her to be there just for the money,but on her birthdays, I spent enough money on her.when people see her walking with me,they ask "besides the fact that he is fine,how did he manage to get this girl".you see people judge from d way I dress,and they believe that she was way above me,but in reality I was leagues above her..I loved her because I simply did.i gave her my Samsung galaxy 5 that time,in exchange for her infinix hot 2.but nobody knew that,they saw her with the phone and thought she is rich..he is broke.
Suffice it sure that she broke up with me around September last year and gave an excuse that we can't get married,she sees me in her dreams bla bla bla,and she left me for a dude like that,she told me bout him sha,he works in an insurance company, i saw his instagram page,he dresses well.but it turns out that he works for my uncle (mum's younger brother) insurance company.i found out his pay grade and well it's okay sha,although I am way better,if she wanted to leave me,she should have left me for someone way way way better not someone like him,although nd ways she wanted to keep me around as side bf,you know to always have sex with,but I refused.
Back to the topic,now I dunno what I have with this new girl I'm seeing,but it might be over soon.my question is why don't nigerian girls see good things??,why do they always go for the flashy things that re not real.i don't like flashy girls (I had a lapse of judgement with my ex).most times,the quiet ones are actually the best and they are real.if I decide to start dressing like all this guys I see with chains and all,I'd start getting girls like flies,but I wanna be true to myself and be who I am,but all I keep getting is just heartbreaking and unbelievable responses.lol,my guy wore my puma feinty(I hardly wear it) and borrowed my jeans,wrist watch,wore my cologne to see a girl and she was just tripping all over the place..because he dressed well,not really cause he has something upstairs (not saying he is dumb,he is a good dude).i went to a pool to swim nd met this slayqueens,i ignored em and jumped into d pool and swam for some time,brough out my s7 edge(it's waterproof) and took pics inside d pool,this attracted some of em to me and after some pics together,i struck a convo with one,it took me 3 mins to strike out,she was literally umm..i dunno.she us an english and lit student and i tried talking bout shakepeare and his weird lifestyle with her,but she just didnt even know him,i switched to charlotte bronte (jane eyre),lord of the flies,arms and the man,lion and jewel,she was fucking quiet,couldnt contribute shit.i felt bad and then i decided to talk about tonto and her divorce,mercy aigbe and domestic violence,and she picked up there
Why are people like this??okay her friend wore some kind of silk gown over her swimming bikini and I was like " you look like cleopatra, except that this cleopatra would outsmart octavius himself.she didn't even get the joke.i wanna meet a girl that is interested in intelligence,creativity,medicine,ideas...someone I can connect with intellectually,someone who can stimulate me,unfortunately I haven't..all this girls talk about is toke makinwa,kardashian,bey,tonto bla bla bla..where are the intelligent girls,girls that won't just wrote me out because of my dressing,girls that can see you,the "you " behind all the clothes..I'm not saying that I'm broke o biko kwa,I come from a comfortable home nd I don't lack whatever I need.but I want someone who would like me for my personality and not my background or what I am..
I expect some criticism here and it may look like I'm tryna boast or something but the truth is nobody here knows me..so I can rant here and go back to my normal life of being that cute tall guy u barely notice..
For those wey go shout summarise it..oga,no strength biko..so read it.its fun..i hope

oga HARDDON

RoyalBlak007:

♤ You mean you dont

♤ see ßarcelona signing Coutinho?

nah I don't...Liverpool are not ready to sell
my club arsenal are just ...fvking chuggers..why would u bid for someone and not buy him after they've accepted the bid..
Chelsea just bought..wait lemme drinkwater first..I'm coming..