Dear friends i recide in Europe and i am about to get married with a lady from Benin city. By law here to get permission to marry is needed a singlehood certificate from Nigeria. My lady parents brought up a single hood certificate with an affidavit from the neighbouring Local Government Area OREDO and not from the LGA Ikpoba Okha where she was living before and the family still resides. Am wondering why that happened? the certificate state that she is not registered as married in that state which is OREDO but is not the state where she come from. Could any body help me whether this certificate represent fully the reality or something may be avoided?

am a white man being together with a nigerian girl she ask me for a monthly allowance 120k and money for her family 80k. but sh is not happy with that. in the same time more expenses arise like shopping goods as clothes, creams, hair wigs..... i dont understand how it is so easy for her to ask all time something without any concern for me, how i will make that money. is it a matter of culture?

Dont know what to tell her and how to move on. I would like that is me who is wrong but i cant find excuses for her so easy anumore. To be honest I want her. I dont want to break. But

kostantin:
Maybe am blured by my feelings and i cant see clear or i dont want to accept the bitter reality. I dont know. I ve spend and done a lot for being near that girl the last 2 years. Last time now she is always keeping very well her mobile never leave it alone and has pin code also i spot her has talks and ehen i appear she ends it quickly or they call her when am there she doesnt pick or when pick said i am busy i call you back. In sexual life now she doesnt want it so often anymore the most times she is doing it without will and she asks things for that. All those things make me to suspect that something is runing out of me.

Maybe am blured by my feelings and i cant see clear or i dont want to accept the bitter reality. I dont know. I ve spend and done a lot for being near that girl the last 2 years. Last time now she is always keeping very well her mobile never leave it alone and has pin code also i spot her has talks and ehen i appear she ends it quickly or they call her when am there she doesnt pick or when pick said i am busy i call you back. In sexual life now she doesnt want it so often anymore the most times she is doing it without will and she asks things for that. All those things make me to suspect that something is runing out of me.

No i didnt flert others by any means.

BLACKdagger:
But she said the truth na u aint her husband..
So why worried so much abt her sexchat.

Or u telling me u dnt flirt or hav not flirted with other gals. Physically or verbally or "medially".
Ever since u 2 started dating?.

Thanks a lot bros and sis for your replies.Really i dont know what next. I fall inlove with that girl. I find always excuses for her rubish. But now since openly stated that is her privacy to sexchat and also speak with her mates about me not so good repeatedly it is difficult to find an excuse for her supposed love to me. It hurts me that this 2 years relationship with her is mostly one sided builted more from my side. I dont want to Bleep it up but i dont know how to restore the lost trust and appreciation.

Dont know i have feelings for her. Couldnt believe what i ve seen.

Talasuma:


Bro why are you confused? Cus she clearly stated you're not her husband, why not turn her to f*ck-buddy

uzoormah:
Guy u are now the "side chick"

what means side chick ?

Last month checking my glfd mobile found out she chats sexually with other men exchanging photos and speaking like that / i love you /i miss you/ how you like to do it/..... with two of them the chatt was more close and with the other one more personal. she also speaking intimidating about me me with them. When i told her she got very angry i check her mobile breaking her privacy and told me she is just playing and she doesnt own any explanation as am not her husband. am very confused i dont know what to do next

Am 50 years old divorced oyinbo man

those dont differenciate people by their skin color ypu call them mumu oyibos but those they Bleep your country and your people for their benefit by any mean of business you respect them. how stupid you are ooh[right][/right]

midehi2:
you will see more roaming this festive period, xmas in benin is a boom, you see Italian benin babes with their mumu oyibos......time for renewal

namapapane

am looking to find out better than to draw easily conclusions by judging what i may not understand.

Masikay:
You are looking for the mouth of bini people. But we will not engage you!

pals what i got by na from the replies is dat propably my lady is more after money than after me. do am right ooh ?

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love it. am long time around

ireneony:
whiteman using ''na"
You are a suspect

is the food good there you are sista or just
plain rice

AngelSweetLips:


No the fact that you ain't no white man is the reason. Bye child. Go to school.

Ps it's I'm or I am. That's it. Easy!

is grammar the problem na

AngelSweetLips:


Go back to school then and slap your primary school teacher

Forget love because you have bigger problems

yes instead of writing i am just am

AngelSweetLips:
"Am" instead of I am? Yh "white man"

I dont know i am onto that girl to much. I dont care for small cheating or scamming since her life is like dat at least for na. But since i wish to go more seriously further with her i have reasons to be concerned. if a mutual real emotional bond could be constructed i dat conditions. I know dat many people would think to be supportive to their sis since she is trying hard for her life .............and would not like to spoil the story. But unfortunately am already too spoiled by life. So there is no problem.

Is it accustomed in the edo tradition for the girls to ask oney from their boyfriends for anything all time without any concern of how dificult money could be raised?

am a man who met a year ago an edo girl doing xxxxx in europe. i met her some times like that and fall in love with her despite the problems she carries with her especially street attitude scamming and money seeking all time. i dont have any problem with racial issues. so we have some kind of relationship but she has always a lot of secrets, asking money every time. am confused whether is dat a product of her condition in europe or she is still cheating me to make the best money she can get. me i want to marry her but am afraid. can any body help since some cultural issues may apply here.