fluid26:

Suddenly, drawing inference from your statement is inapplicable and probably forbidden?

If you say someone has bad breath, does that not imply that you do NOT have bad breath? If you say someone is an unclean, shallow, irresponsible money-miss-road douche bag with a myriad of problems, does that not define a certain class? A hierarchy of reputation? Is there no link between the definer and the definee?

What reasons did you give again? You said you only mingle with him when you're bored or when you wanna socialize. After giving such debasing reasons, you still have the impudence to say that you ONLY please God?

I don't want to appear as slaying the slain, but I feel you've got some pretty strong issues as well.

Have fun while it lasts.

You have made an illogical inference. Clearly you have a complex because your inference is from your opinions and feelings. I would explain myself again but I really don't have the energy for uneccesary banter.

nice4life: was this thread open by LadyTC? LadyTC are you still available thought you are married from your post
Back to topic, Just be honest about the friendship, let him know.I think you guys can just be friends and hangout as friends if he is mature.

Lolz available for what..?? The issue has been sorted out already.thanks though.

esere826:

ur welcome sister LatdyTC
may you be blessed with all the glory of the risen christ this easter Sunday

Happy easter sunday to you also and @ butta. And stayed blessed 2.

esere826:

No oo
Dont let my pastor hear you o
I have been a good boy o
It great living in a world of fantasy sometimes

Lmaooo funny guys on this thread. Thanks 4 advice though.

esere826:

Some guys are actually cursing girls in the same vein
(i guessed u've experienced it in this forum)
and saying its male curses that prevents them from marrying on time

it hurts both ways dear

Lol its true sha

butta: @ladyTC u sure know what you want in a Guy hmm I like the way you put it he is a Douche bag amen to that u know despite all the money he was trying to throw at you, still you resisted and refused him very and highly impressive u know some girls would not care about all the dislikes u mentioned about that dude or they just can't be bothered all they want is whatever the guy has to offer them lots of girls can't resist a guy like that u know that's y I said some girls are moved in which ever direction the goodies move. You seem and sound very decent I wish there were lots of you out there.

Yeh I think that's how him and his friends get a lot of beautiful girls and just end up messing them up and about in the end.

fluid26: If you are so repelled by his lifestyle and hygiene, why do you hang out with him at all? Isn't that a stain on your assumed reputation?

Surely, you would not want to be seen mingling with a lying douche bag with really bad halitosis?

I never said anything about my reputation, how did u conclude that from my write up. Some ppl can give person headache.I explained why I hangout with him. And I don't care about what people will say if I hangout with him.I only please GOD. Like I said am not interested in dating him being his gf e.t.c to protect myself from being hurt. I wont say he has halitosis per say I would say its lack of taking care of himself not brushing very well, just not caring.

esere826:

There are somethings that will never change from the start to the end of the world
guys will always be guys with a few exception
and girls will always be girls with a few exception

What you call wicked, we call sport (undressing ladiess)
and what you call sport, we call wicked (chopping guys)

Lmaooo no be only sport *rolls eyes*. Better be careful some girls curse guys oooo. Dnt go and meet one that will curse ur future.

esere826: @OP

Just let him down gently

das all

I have but he must be hurt cos he aint replied my message. But am good with that at least I know I aint leading him on if he had hope.

esere826:

naaa dear
there's nothing like 'just friends' in the male world
except he's probably gay or goodie goodie

Ever wondered why ur mum doesn't have 'just male friends'?

Male and female's friendsip always tend to gravitate towards p.p.'s u see

Lol bt I have platonic male friends even married now. At first yes they liked me but naa menhh they got the message eventually.I even prayed 4 one to find his wife. These r ppl I can call if am in need desperately or I need 2 vent.but truth is you are right its difficult to get to that level.bt possible.

esere826:

So u see that he is actually ur type to some extent
so let him down gently
Sometime in the future if ur still single and he comes ur way again
tell him the reason why u were not enthusiastic then, and how he has changed

he'll appreciate it and not think u're a gold digger or a broken record needing to be hooked

He has money so do I so this is far from goldigger wahala.just becos he s physically my type doesn't mean I want him or he s good 4 me. If he asks me I will tell him some reasons not all. If we become good friends I will tell him all the reasons why. He is way too immature 4 me. My choice of a man far out weighs physical attraction. If u lack wisdom and intelligence. Never in a million years will I ever consider u again. Its a wrap!

esere826:

A couple of girls were not interested in me
reasons varied from money to they having boyfriends etc (I could smell the reasons)
Some of them ended up being interested in me later, when I had lost interest in them (I naturally related with them based on thier initial reasons)

I had my cake, and I ate it
.....see what i mean

That is wicked behaviour why not let them go since you lost interest. Guys u won't kill us.

butta: @esere826 I can identify with what u mean the truth is women are like that they tend to think they know what they want and in reality most don't they are easily waivered by whatever is thrown at them

Well me am not all women. I know what I want. Am not fickle. I am a drama free kinda girl. If I can avoid drama I do, except I have to deal with it. I would rather be his friend nothing more I really can't. I wonder why its always hard to find guys that want just friendship. I actually like having male friends its stress free.

butta: @lady Tc pls why r u not interested in d Guy can u pls shed some light to at least have a clear view of your reasons

Okay physically he is my type. But he is not a clean guy e.g he doesn't brush his teeth very well I mean I got a whiff one time, he smokes too much and drinks too much and parties too much and his friends are all known douche bags. He lied about one of his universities he went to I guess to impress me cos I went there. I do my research before I even think of dating a guy.he still dresses like he is a teenager saggin his jeans e.t.c I like my guys prim and proper.he is shallow. I can say he is money miss road. There are so many things that are just off with him. I mean onetime I hung out with him and his friends a friend of his from a different click of his told me explicitly not to date that him that he thinks am a nice girl ( a married friend of his). I mean really why will I step into fire I love myself ooo

butta: Was not that hard was it ? Good girl u have lightened ur load hope he understands at least u were honest about ur feelings . Way to go girl

Lol thanks

butta: Do u know u can avoid him in a decent and polite manner without a fuss ?

I think I have done just that now.with my text.hopefully

Chrisbenogor: Yo,
Its very simple, be open and honest about it. Ask him to define your relationship, ask him what he thinks it is and where he thinks this heading. Be open enough to admit to him how exactly you see him and you are concerned that someone might get hurt if things are not ironed out at this stage.
The biggest problem is when you lead someone on and expecting them to "get" the message he might be thinking you are just playIng hard to get. If he is mature enough he will admit that he likes you in that way or you might be shocked that you are just sorely mistaken.

I actually just told him now honestly that we can't hang because I don't want to give him the wrong impression.but if he is interested in friendship we r good.I know he is interested he directly asked me out and said we are going on a date.

butta: Stop hanging out wit him so as not to complicate things

Yes that's what I will do. Bt its not like I hangout so often with him anyway. I don't have that kind of time.

fluid26: I have seen this topic before.

Anywayz, do what you may. Persistence is what he is banking on. Perhaps, you may notice something about him that keeps eluding you.

Naa its just when am not busy and just relaxing and I get invited I guess I just feel I should go out and socialize. But I am definately not interested.

ayoola2002: Ask him to buy u a new blackberry Bold 10 precisely.

Smh

Coefficient: Stop seeing him if you are really not interested, you're leading him on with the attention. Find something else to kill your boredom.

Hmmmn I guess that means I have to come up with an excuse. Thanks.

This guy seems not to be getting the picture or is turning a blind eye to the fact that I don't like him in that way. I don't call him or send him messages.bt if he asks me to hangout out of boredom I will. He asked me out on a date I said its not a date and we can just hang. He said okay. I hope am not leading him on.

I asked around and someone said the kids enjoy the warmth the body of another human give but this is Nigeria and it is hot already. Someone else said the baby feels more secure but I don't get the security. I wish I remember when I was a child and if I liked it.

What do you think? Do babies enjoy being backed more than being on the bed or it is the same for you?[/quote]

Yes there is a feeling of security. A lot of premature babies respond when in the arms of their mothers. There is a soothing feeling. Just like cuddling. They must feel that peace and security.even strength.

ozo_emeka:

how s he a virgin if he's tired of akata girls? By tired, im guessing he means beating off to them? Since he's a virgin?

You know what I mean lol. I thought I was the only one who could see through it all.but am sure he will find his virgin bride on nairialand with moral standards that satisfies him whom he can put on a pedestal while she looks down on him lolz and that will be a long lasting happy successful marriage since in life there are guarantees and he has a lie detector in him. U get me. Roflmao.....this topic is even tiring...am done!

nice4life:
how am I hard to please? Don't you know that a virgin girl has never slept with any man in her life? I am talking of those virgin girls who have been christian all their lives and come from a very strong christian home, not those virgins who have done all manner of things except penetration.But I will consider a true born again girl as virgin , who have sincerely forsake those lifestyle and repented from such.

The last bit if your sentence makes me think even if you do when issues come you will hold it over her. I think your obsession with Virgins s a deep rooted issue. Just think about it thoroughly. Like I said before I don't think you like women. And I reiterate you are not doing any woman a favour by Marrying her.

nice4life:
LadyTC where are you located? I need to come visit you so I can pacify your anger towards me

My location is not a necessity. I dont need pacification from you. To be honest am not angry. I just think your intentions are not pure 4 starting this thread. 4 all we know you are a man who is married to a virgin woman and you are looking for something else to occupy your time. Or you are a guy that likes to dis_virgin girls and keep a score. Although if what u say is true I would have liked to help your thinking pool. Bt you are like an old man set in his ways.

nice4life:

Do you have a problem with me?

So you get a girls details here and you hit it off and then what? You now tell her she is not a virgin so you can't continue with her? I mean am just taking this from your handbook. You have a Virginia friend that you previously talked about why don't you stick with her. Because I can guarantee you that 70 percent of women/ girls if they respond to you will not be Virgins. And according to your psyche they are not morally fit for you. Because you are morally upright in all ways and you are a Virgin lol

nice4life:

Do you have a problem with me?

Yes I do. Your posts are appalling well the last two. I used to like your posts but I see that u have this side to you which I don't like. Am just stating it how I see it and responding to it how I deem fit.