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Family / Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Life2020: 8:50am On Nov 11, 2022 |
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Family / Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Life2020: 5:54pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Helpout12345: Omo, he didn't change, it's all pretence I have made my decision and about me being a single mom, I'm used to it, what part of he is never around don't u get. So because he came and spend little time with his own children, i should forgive him. Some people are even advising me to pay the side chick off, for what. Please I'm not that desperate for a man. My children don't even no him, they barely see him, for the past 6 years I have been alone, I can't remember the last time I felt loved in this marriage. I just want him to be present for his children, I don't know if I can get that in court, I'm down for shared custody, or multiple visitation dates. I can't continue to beg for a man affection, I don't want my daughters to think this is how a woman should be treated. I need to set an example for them, I love my children, if he had been present for them, maybe I would have changed my mind and not divorce him for the sake of my children but nop he's never there. What ever he wants to do with his side chick pregnancy is his business. If he wants to marry her, I will happy support the marriage like I said I clocked out of this marriage Months ago Begging a man for affection, some people are saying I should check myself, I really need to check myself for tolerating him. 148 Likes 10 Shares |
Family / Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Life2020: 5:00pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Wawelexy: U are very wise I thought about that and I have made up my mind that I'm not going to marry again, at least not till my girls are grown up. I have heard stories about girls being sexually abused or even physical abused, I don't want my girls to grow up in that type of environment. I might have a few date here and there but let's see because my girls will always be first. Honestly I want to hear his side of the story because I'm honestly curious to hear his own side of the story. 116 Likes 5 Shares |
Family / Re: I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Life2020: 4:55pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
07kjb: I can't kick him out of a house I built with my own money, a land I brought in my own name And please am a dark beauty, thank u very much Hope u have a nice day 218 Likes 5 Shares |
Family / I'm Finally Kicking My Husband Out Of My House. Enough Is Enough by Life2020: 4:19pm On Nov 10, 2022 |
Hi, first I want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here. The last time I brought up my problems here, I vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass. The problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again. Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. I now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy. Thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him. I have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go. Thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. I have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it. Now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids Now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out. Recently, I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. But I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago. I was advised by my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce. 213 Likes 22 Shares |
Romance / Re: Help: My Husband Is Now Heartless And Doesn't Want Me To Grow by Life2020: 1:59pm On Oct 25, 2022 |
Zonefree: Yes i do, i have caught him several times, before he will say sorry and be a bit remorseful but now nothing. And i didn't starve him of sex, it's simple do a full STD test. If the results come back negative then we have sex And yes I'm going to further my education because i need it, a marriage that's not worth saving should not be saved. I did everything for him, all i need is a little support is that too much to ask. The house we live in, it's mine. I keep asking him to build his own house, even if it's to have tenants live in it. He has refused. Any money he gets he spends it on women and drinks I recently decided that i want to build an estate , he keeps pushing against the idea for no particular reason. 2 Likes |
Romance / Help: My Husband Is Now Heartless And Doesn't Want Me To Grow by Life2020: 10:52am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Hi guys please i need some mature advise. since i was fifteen, i have been with my husband. we dated for 6 years before we got married because he's my first and only love, have always had a soft spot for him but now I'm officially tired. Now i was born poor but i vow that i wouldn't die poor, since i finish my secondary school education, have been hustling. To God be the glory i have a good business that i make money from. my husband and i married young and we promise to build each other. the problem is my husband, he attended the university but i didn't, our goal was that after he graduated, he will find a good job but that didn't work out. when he was in school, i started a farming business and like i said to God be the glory it has been successful. since i had money, i asked him what business will he like to do, he said he wants to sell cars, the problem is i don't have that kind of money. car business is very expensive and i just finished building the little house we live in, i tried to explain to him and after much consideration he agreed, that yes the business is too expensive. he later decided in land selling, meaning he will buy and sell lands and also help people to sell lands. i had two small plots of land which i gave him to start up the business. at first everything was fine but i soon start to see a new side to him. as the money was pouring in so was his pride. he started coming home late, cheating on me and being rude. when i discovered he was cheating on me, i stopped having sex with him because i don't want to get infected with any STD. i kept tolerating to save my marriage, his family told me he will change, i didn't want anybody to know about my marriage problems so i kept quite. now the problem is, i have decided that i want to further my education, i want to study accounting, so that i can grow my business, now my husband is against this because he wants me bare more children. we already have twins, he said no that i should bare children first before going to school and if i do that i will have to delay my plans for another 4 to 5 years because i can't leave my baby because they will be too young. second he says he wants to start having sex with me, i said nop, he should first do a full STD test. because of that we have been quarreling i don't know what type of lady he might have had sex with and what type of infection she might have carried. he should do test first then we start have sex. thirdly he has started being emotional abusive, he insults my body and makes me feel useless, he usually tells me how other girls are looking beautiful and i look like a clown. he insults everything about me from my body to my face, my self esteem is at an all time low, i keep going to the gym and i have reduced a lot, people keep praising my beauty but my own husband see me as ugly. I'm getting tired of this marriage and I'm planning to leave. I'm not happy, i feel ugly, he cheats on me, doesn't support my dreams. i don't want my daughters to grow up and think this is normal. i know that if i wasn't the quite type, he would have laid his hands on me. each time he insults me, i just keep quite, i say nothing because i know if i say anything he might beat me. sometimes for 2 weeks or more, i don't see him. i have already made up my mind that next year I'm going to write jamb. i want to be educated. please advise is it right to leave this hell called marriage because even if i stay because of my kids, it doesn't matter because he's never around. we rarely see him. it's like am a single mom 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Help: My Husband Is Now Heartless And Doesn't Want Me To Grow by Life2020: 10:45am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Hi guys please i need some mature advise. since i was fifteen, i have been with my husband. we dated for 6 years before we got married because he's my first and only love, have always had a soft spot for him but now I'm officially tired. Now i was born poor but i vow that i wouldn't die poor, since i finish my secondary school education, have been hustling. To God be the glory i have a good business that i make money from. my husband and i married young and we promise to build each other. the problem is my husband, he attended the university but i didn't, our goal was that after he graduated, he will find a good job but that didn't work out. when he was in school, i started a farming business and like i said to God be the glory it has been successful. since i had money, i asked him what business will he like to do, he said he wants to sell cars, the problem is i don't have that kind of money. car business is very expensive and i just finished building the little house we live in, i tried to explain to him and after much consideration he agreed, that yes the business is too expensive. he later decided in land selling, meaning he will buy and sell lands and also help people to sell lands. i had two small plots of land which i gave him to start up the business. at first everything was fine but i soon start to see a new side to him. as the money was pouring in so was his pride. he started coming home late, cheating on me and being rude. when i discovered he was cheating on me, i stopped having sex with him because i don't want to get infected with any STD. i kept tolerating to save my marriage, his family told me he will change, i didn't want anybody to know about my marriage problems so i kept quite. now the problem is, i have decided that i want to further my education, i want to study accounting, so that u can grow my business, now my husband is against this because he wants me bare more children. we already have twins, he said no that i should bare children first before going to school and if i do that i will have to delay my plans for another 4 to 5 years because i can't leave my baby because they will be too young. second he says he wants to start having sex with me, i said nop, he should first do a full STD test. because of that we have been quarreling i don't know what type of lady he might have had sex with and what type of infection she might have carried. he should do test first then we start have sex. thirdly he has started being emotional abusive, he insults my body and makes me feel useless, he usually tells me how other girls are looking beautiful and i look like a clown. he insults everything about me from my body to my face, my self esteem is at an all time low, i keep going to the gym and i have reduced a lot, people keep praising my beauty but my own husband see me as ugly. I'm getting tired of this marriage and I'm planning to leave. I'm not happy, i feel ugly, he cheats on me, doesn't support my dreams. i don't want my daughters to grow up and think this is normal. i know that if i wasn't the quite type, he would have laid his hands on me. each time he insults me, i just keep quite, i say nothing because i know if i say anything he might beat me. sometimes for 2 weeks or more, i don't see him. i have already made up my mind that next year I'm going to write jamb. i want to be educated. please advise is it right to leave this hell called marriage because even if i stay because of my kids, it doesn't matter because he's never around. we rarely see him. it's like am a single mom |
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