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Sports / Re: Ivory Coast. Vs Nigeria: AFCON 2023: 0 - 1 On 18th January 2024 by Lifeitself: 8:05pm On Jan 18
That bros nor follow for commentary
sucess001:
It's painful to listen to Amokachi

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Romance / Re: Have You Noticed USA Whatsapp Have AI Tools While Nigeria Don’t Have ? by Lifeitself: 4:50pm On Jan 04
There is AI chat bot for Nigeria too. Ask nd I will show u
Romance / Re: Does My Female Neighbor Has The Rights To Be Angry Cos I Brought A Girl Home? by Lifeitself: 8:22pm On Dec 05, 2023
Beremx:
do you expect her to congratulate you for bringing a woman home? Naturally she ought to be jealous na. When a woman keeps bringing food for you to eat, it's a signal she likes you. Couldn't you decipher that?
Just make amends with her not necessarily apologizing.
But how can you make amends without apologizing? That's the problem grin grin
By living with the person as if nothing happened grin grin grin grin
Romance / Re: School Days Experience You Won't Forget by Lifeitself: 7:39pm On Dec 05, 2023
I had a funny painful experience. It was during my JSS1 days and we were working on the school farm that faithful day, as I worked and was tiredly hungry, I decided to pluck pepper to eat in the farm to alleviate my hunger.

Omo, Community hear the matter cause na rush dem rush me reach my papa house as I don almost join my ancestors. The most painful part na that "who send you" question
Romance / Re: Do You Need Someone You Can Talk/chat With?an Accountability Partner? by Lifeitself: 6:50pm On Nov 25, 2023
What are the terms and conditions.... I am kind of interested though

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Family / Re: Frustrated With My Wife by Lifeitself: 9:27am On Apr 11, 2023
Permit me to say this to all of you commenting cos I can clearly figure out that you people forget that the wife has needs to be met and plus she is not a full time house wife. So please, cut me some Slack, let the OP satisfy her needs if he can identify them and the wife will reciprocate. Biko, she was Married, not bought. Just my Piece
Family / Re: Frustrated With My Wife by Lifeitself: 7:01am On Apr 11, 2023
tomi4life:
I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl. We didnt court much during our courtship because of long distance.

I really have a problem with my wife and not sure what can be done to address, now I must be very honest am not sure there is anything I can do I just want to use the platform to vent my frustration.

My marriage has not been very good, lately myself and my wife leave like room mates and not lovers, despite the age difference between me and my wife she doesnt really respect me. For the 6 years we have been in marriage 3 things have caused all our fights: cooking, Sex and finance

My wife rarely cooks in the house, things around welfare are not taken seriously, actually in a week, my wife can cook for me just 1 time. She cooks for the children and baths for them daily, we also have a help who does alot of cooking. She rarely askes me what I will eat, honestly I always have to go to the kitchen to sort myself, sometimes I buy food outside from eateries and bucker. Sometimes when she cooks it usually very late 10pm. I have complained severally and what happen is she tries to change, after a week, we are back to the same state. My wife can do without cooking for me for weeks. It really really pains me cos am a foody and I knw hw my mum treats matters of food. she is this person that forms busy, either she is busy with work or some church activities, she always has an excuse. She goes to work only ones a weeks the remaining 4days are remote. To address this issue I now order soups from major restaurant outlets, An example is today easter sunday, I had to tell our maid to prepare rice for myself and the kids, cos my wife was in church, we all went to church but she decided to stay back, knowing fully well no food was prepared.

Sex: [/b]our sex life is very boring, when we got married we always fight about sex, cos anytime I ask for it she always complain she is tired, so what I now do is ask for it only sat morning, brethen this is only day I get sex. If I miss that day, it is still next week. We sleep in different rooms, she sleeps with the children in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in another room. I can tell most time she doesnt enjoy it and never ever askes for it, I always ask and initiate it. She just lays like a log, even kisses is a no no, except she is really on, which rarely happens.
[b]
Finance:
I have always earned more than my wife, when we got married, I was earning 3 times what she was earning, but she changed jobs and got promoted severally and we were earning the same amount. she also does alot of side runs where she gets 200-300k monthly as side hustle, there was even a time she was earning more than I did. I dint let it bother me I continue to foot the entire house bills. 95% of the enitre house of comes from me, she only pays the maid , buys cooking gas and my sons diaper. Every other thing in the house is covered by me, house rent, school fees, project, all the bills. I give her 75k as food money monthly. I have continue to question her why I should give her food moeny if I still have to end up going out to eat. I think the only reason she sometime listens to me is cause i still provide the finances for the house. The time she was earning more I could see how she belittle some of my decisions. I just prayed to God, cos I noticed the respect was gone, when I talk to her about her role as a mum and mother to the home, she says she is working, she is busy, I mentioned to her that the money she works is for her, she doesnt share with the house, I have never asked her for it and am not against her working, she however should not neglect her responsibility as a mum. That my role as a father, God helping me is to provide, and this is why I work. I also noticed when I got a new job and my salary increased she kinda off felt jealous she didnt tell me but i noticed it, she began to aggressively look for jobs.


I really dont think we have that initmacy, we are just there, my wife cant come to tell me anything bothering her, she keeps to herself. Funny part is she is a very religious person, my wife will sleep with bible on her hand, wake up with bible pray and serve in various church unit, I however dont think she really understands what she reads. She also has a very bad temper sometimes when I raise certian issues, the ways she talks sometimes I have to hold back a response if not the whole thing will escalate. There are days I will raise certain issue up, the next things she mentions is " let just dissolve this marriage as it is not working" sometimes , I just refer her to her bible cos the utterances that come out of her mouth makes me doubt her understanding of Christianity.


I have never assaulted her, we have nt had any physically fight, what happens is most times when we have issues, I dont speak to her for days, then she come back apologizing. Sometimes when am wrong I also apologies.

Am not saying am perfect, I know there are areas I can do better, like in the buying off gift, I rarely buy her gift, not cause I cant but Cos she earns well and I believe she should buy whatever she needs with her money my wife earns approximately 800k monthy.


I expect my wife will support me but it like she is stressing me. when we go see my parent or our parent, it is all smiles, they dont knw hw stressful their daughter is, she even forms trying to serve me food and all.

Dont get me wrong she has some good side, but this thing is really getting into me. I dont drink, smoke or womanise, divorce is also not on the table for me.
All I can say is all through out this period you have failed to understand your wife and didn't invest heavily in building your relationship. Also, try to fill up her inadequacy in the area you mentioned, and your love life will blossom.

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Romance / Re: Isoko Man Leaves A Beautiful Young Lady Heartbroken And In Tears by Lifeitself: 9:00am On Apr 08, 2023
Divay22:

Omo their shiit scares me abeg...
I no fit..
Pele... its better to be safe. I just want to tell you, not "all" are bad
Romance / Re: Isoko Man Leaves A Beautiful Young Lady Heartbroken And In Tears by Lifeitself: 7:56am On Apr 08, 2023
Divay22:

A combine demon abi grin grin grin
Just about the perfect one cheesy There are very beautiful souls you are yet to meet love. Be very open minded sweetheart and you will find us just the best
Romance / Re: Isoko Man Leaves A Beautiful Young Lady Heartbroken And In Tears by Lifeitself: 3:07am On Apr 08, 2023
Divay22:

Isoko or uhrobo?
BOTH
Romance / Re: Isoko Man Leaves A Beautiful Young Lady Heartbroken And In Tears by Lifeitself: 5:40pm On Apr 07, 2023
Divay22:
Lol
I'm loving one isoko own o..... Be like i go hold feelings first grin grin grin

You see that urhobo cheesy grin na punishment from your village people
you have always been meeting the wrong ones. They are in every tribe. So, dnt generalise pls.
Sports / Re: Chelsea FC Confirm Frank Lampard As Caretaker Manager by Lifeitself: 3:11pm On Apr 06, 2023
The right way to go

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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: If You Focus On One Of These 4 Business Model You Will Make N250K N1M A Week by Lifeitself: 8:06pm On Oct 08, 2022
I am interested in VA but ur contact is not showing... can you reply me with it??
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Chelsea Vs West Ham (2 - 1) On 3rd September 2022 by Lifeitself: 5:20pm On Sep 03, 2022
Cucurella na wasted money dem take sign am
Omoluabi16:
Is it just me that prefers Ben chilwell over this cucurella guy? angry
Romance / Re: How Old Were You When You Saw This Movie? by Lifeitself: 7:25pm On Feb 20, 2022
I fit come learn work for your hand
Lalami3232:
I think I was in SS2 when I did, but I don forget sha.
Nowadays, I no fit get time to watch movies because my life na to dey on laptop to write code everyday and night. Whenever I come nairaland or Facebook, just know say na because my code dey give me problem with serious bug. Aside that, I no dare sitdown to watch film, else money go pass me.
Guys I get good news for una, babes I get bad news for una. The news be say I wan create an app wey go make toto dey get LAST SEEN. This cheating wey una dey cheat don too much


I don talk am before and I go talk am again, "instead of you to die as a yahoo boy, die as a software engineer/developer"
Religion / Re: Prince Dele Banjo's Letter To Kumuyi by Lifeitself: 5:37pm On Jan 23, 2022
Ffidelity:
I want to confirm.... Can deeper life sister get engaged and married to a non deeper life brother?
Anyone deeper lifer with a valid answer should answer me, please
yes, why not

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Technology Market / Re: *** sold**Super Neat And Sleeky Samsung S8 4gb 64gb No Crack For Sale by Lifeitself: 8:00am On Dec 29, 2021
Price
Computers / Re: (PRICE REDUCED) Lenovo Yoga 730, Core I5 12gig RAM , 256GB SSD FOR 180k by Lifeitself: 7:58am On Dec 29, 2021
100k
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Location
Investment / Re: USDT For Sale At Affordable Rate by Lifeitself: 6:47am On Nov 07, 2021
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Investment / Re: USDT For Sale At Affordable Rate by Lifeitself: 6:19am On Nov 07, 2021
575/usdt
Investment / USDT For Sale At Affordable Rate by Lifeitself: 10:55am On Nov 06, 2021
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I am in Delta... can you waybill it
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65k
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That's what I have to offer
Computers / Re: Clean As New Us Used Dell Inspiron N5050 6gb Ram 500gb Hdd *sold by Lifeitself: 8:56pm On Oct 14, 2021
Ur location
#70k

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Computers / Re: New Dell Latitude 3410 by Lifeitself: 5:58am On Oct 06, 2021
How much
Computers / Re: Grade1 Uk Hp450g2 5th Gen Core I3 @115k by Lifeitself: 12:41am On Oct 04, 2021
75k

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