So, I'm here after a year of writing everything. Still patiently waiting. A lot have happened this one year. Sometimes I feel down and alone, work place issues and all those things.
But something happened at the beginning of this year. The first bible study I went for, we were told to cast our care on God, and I did. This has really helped me. I feel more calm, I pray and I confess God's promises.

The thing is, I believe this waiting period is a seed time and a time to develop myself. If I'm busy with positive things, I won't find myself thinking or feeling down. Sometimes I use all those things that I've been able to get to console myself. At least I'm not idle.

I've learnt how to drive
As a teacher, I've developed the aspect of coding and robotics, I've grown in my career.
Most importantly I'm learning fashion designing. I'm able to sew beautiful dresses for myself now. I'm very happy with this.
While I'm still waiting, I'm looking at changing from an educator to a tech guru. So help me God. I've started learning web development.
I don't know where I'll need all these skills.

Although waiting period is not an easy period,but I believe this phase will eventually end, I don't want this time to be wasted, Iso I'll add value to myself by God's help.
I'm also looking at going into buying shares, but I've not learnt anything on that.
I'm not close to where I'm going, but I'm taking a step at a time

Good day everyone. I'm a young girl, a little over 30. I want to start investing in stocks but I don't even know how to start. Pls is there any book, platform where I can learn from. Please help your sister o

You both a need a strong spiritual father to talk sense into you..... Your wife is hiding something from you I hope you look for competent man Of God to take up your case.. ..

Peal1910 please respond to your DM... It's urgent

Peal1910 please call me.(Taiwo obinoral1179)

madridguy:
The local government chairman for the area go just dey happy for this development.... Having 3 major markets under your command enough enjoyment for him.

the man go dey flex steady

He has said the truth. It's not by force to agree

Time they say heals all wound. You will be healed with time. Miscarriage is not an easy journey, but you need the help of the Holy Spirit.
Please see a doctor for thorough checkup, give it time , your ovulation will come back to normal.

So my brother in-law's wife put to birth some months ago(DH is a twin, he got married a year after our wedding).

When the wife put to birth, I took breakfast to the hospital, we got talking and DH said I won't stay long because I'm going for extra lesson that Saturday.

My mother in law's reply was that I should reduce stress, I should always rest on Saturday. When we left the hospital I asked my husband if he hasn't seen people selling in traffic that are pregnant, I don't believe going to lesson on Saturday mean anything.

I like working o, I can't stay idle. I need to make more money.

kristana:



I follow @mdpeoplesdoctor on Instagram and she is really good. I wish the Op can contact her. I pray God answers her prayers soon too like he did your friend.

Thank you for this information

sisisioge:


It is well my sister. Sorry about your experience at the hospital. Naija hospital is the worse! No empathy and low competence. Yet nobody holds them accountable.

You could have waited another two weeks or so to see if your body would expel it without an infection. After all, your pregnancy hormone was steadily declining....no be everybody dey get the infection.

Anyways, on to your strong healthy viable baby next! You will kukuma carry him. But pls give your body rest and try to get to the bottom of why you kept losing them. Besides, do you know that our body renews itself after a while if we take the right care? May God bless you and yours. It is well.

Hmmm..
When I go to hospitals, I always pray that God's hand will come on the doctor o. Just simple evacuation, the way the doctor was reacting in the theatre sef and one of the nurses.... Health is wealth.
People don't know what they enjoy when they get pregnant and deliver easily

If he will actually do everything he said, Nigeria will be better. I hope all these are not empty promises.

2022:

January to March, nothing really happened. But as I was approaching the month of May, the month I was meant to give birth to my baby, I started feeling sad. Thank God I didn't slip into depression, coupled with the fact that I usually see other people that we got pregnant at the same time giving birth to healthy babies. Why didn't my own stay. It wasn't easy but I survived.

I sometimes make a joke about it that maybe the baby doesn't want to come to Nigeria.

During that period, people were just giving birth around me, I was hopeful and still hopeful.

December 2022, I decided I was not going to put myself under any pressure. It's the end of the year, there's a tendency for you to feel oh, this year has gone again. Christmas and New year was like normal day to me, I didn't attach any special event to it. Abeg I need my mental health.

I will not wish losing a baby for my enemy. It's an unpleasant experience. Thank God for His mercies. People will think that is it not just pregnancy, you will have another one. A friend called me sometimes ago and we got talking, he said 'I thought you are strong', I said I thought I was strong too. God is my strength.

Please always check on people, don't assume they've gotten over it, some of them still cry in their closet, they will come out and laugh with you, go inside and cry again. Be nice to people please. This is one of the lessons I've learnt this period.

Some say, I don't know how he/she will take it if I talk about it, there's a way you will talk to people that they will appreciate you. Some people around you are lonely and in the midst of people, please check on them.





I'm not a good writer, please manage my English.

So, everything went on normally throughout the first week, I went to work with the normal pregnancy symptoms. I was told to go for a scan and they discovered heat beat, by then I was already 6weeks gone.
One week later, on Monday I noticed that the pregnancy symptoms has reduced, so I decided to go for another scan in another hospital on my own. The man said the heartbeat is not all that strong, and so it's a threatened abortion.
Threatened abortion ke, I went to the hospital the next day - a teaching hospital, they said doctors are on strike, I went to their emergency O&G. Their reply was they can't attend to me because it isn't an emergency because I'm not bleeding. Aha, what's this now, I said I'm seeing brown discharge you are telling me until I bleed. They eventually wrote series of test, I did the test but never went back with the result.
I was told to repeat scan after two weeks, the two weeks was very long, so I repeated scan that Friday evening and it was early fetal demise. Jesus, I didn't really cry that particular day because it hasn't dawn on me what happened.
Monday I went back to the teaching hospital and they said they will do evacuation. Evacuation ke, after serious thinking I decided to go on Tuesday for evacuation to avoid infection.

They delayed us till evening, I eventually entered the theatre. The doctors were not friendly, the one that wrote the materials to use didn't write the correct ones, hubby had to go to buy the correct ones. Paid for blood and for the procedure

The pain was out of this world, I couldn't cry, tears weren't coming out....
To be continued

This rain on Monday morning will cause enough traffic o. I don't like early morning rain in Lagos at all.
I didn't get to work on time this morning because of traffic.


One thing I've learnt on this journey is that, I won't let this situation keep me down, I'll keep on developing my faith in God, because I'm very sure faith in God works.

Also, I won't stop developing my career. I'm a teacher, YES! I've been able to develop myself in various ways, I make sure I learn new things always. Late last year I started brushing up my programming skills, early this year o started learning how to drive. Thanks to DH, he has always been supportive.
While I wait, I'll keep learning new things, keep getting better, keep developing my faith in God.

bThe Miscarriage/b

I tried another cycle of clomid in July 2021, I went for follicular tracking, no be small money o, three times. The third time, the scan said the follicles is yet to rupture, I was sad. In my mind I feel like that month has gone again. One thing is, when I'm down about this issue, I can be down for days, crying, but I will eat o. Even if it's small. During all these process, I placed myself on natural food, stopped taking soft drinks and fast foods.

So, in my mind I was like July is gone. During that period, the boss I was working for relocated, so it means I didn't have a job. I started submitting CV. About the time I was meant to see my menses, it didn't come. I felt like it's a normal thing when it's time it will come. But I noticed implantation bleeding, I thought it was just a normal menses.
I noticed I was purging almost everyday but I thought it's because of the water I was drinking. That was how I finished August o, no menses, I refused to do pregnancy test.
You know there's a feeling you have when you do pregnancy test and it's negative. I can cry for days, so I decided that I was not going to test again until I'm very sure.
But I was purging, feeling cramps, still I didn't test.
September 13th, I started a new job. September 1st, we started fasting and prayer in church, I joined.

Around September 22nd, Saturday morning I decided to test, because I saw blood, so I told a doctor who said it's likely an infection, so I bought ciprotab. That Saturday morning, I decided to test before starting the ciprotab since I don't even like taking drugs, that was how I entered bathroom o and alas, I saw two red lines.

I didn't believe. I quietly left the bathroom, went to where my husband was, showed him the test and said this is what I saw o, but I'm not sure. I tested again still two lines, I didn't believe. I wanted to do blood test. I called a church member and she told me she will do the blood test for me the next day, and Viola I was confirmed pregnant. It was unbelievable.
What I thought its still going to take time, happened just like that, I was happy. Hubby was happy. That was how I became a pregnant woman o. On Friday before I tested, I noticed I didn't feel like eating boiled eggs but I thought it was a normal thing.

.....to be continued.
Please I need your comment so that I can continue

I did HSG, almighty HSG. Although not painful as I thought and the result was fine. That was in February 2021.
I kept confessing the word of God. One thing I'm very sure of is that God's word can't fail, I'm sure of that one.
Fast forward to May 2021, we had a special program in church and I joined, I prayed with my own heart. I even got names for my babies. I like twins so I'm trusting God for twins. Initially I love identical twins, two girls, hubby want two boys. Eventually I settled for a boy and a girl. I have names for them already.

Doctor prescribed clomid for me in June, the first cycle want successful that was June. I didn't feel really bad but I still felt bad. I went for convention in July still trusting God for my miracle, my twins. I came back, menses came again. I was sad a little but I kept holding on to God's word.
July again, I tried another cycle of clomid. This time around something happened....




Hope I tried a little, I'm not a writer anyways

Foodqueen:
Your husband should visit the hospital too.

U will smile soonest.

Best wishes from this side

Thank you

I've learnt something on this journey

Don't think people waiting for fruit of the womb don't have responsibilities, they do. Tests upon tests, money for medication and all that. They may even be spending money than those that have children already.

Please check on people. Be friendly with people. Stop making insensitive comments around people.

So, I got married December 2020 after COVID-19 lockdown. It was a modest wedding and one of the interesting day of my life. Family members were present, people came from far and near to attend my wedding. What an interesting day!
Everything went well to God's glory and I return all the glory to Him.

I married as a virgin because I believe sexual purity is very important according to the Bible, so I kept myself for my husband.

That month was a very interesting month. New bride, holiday period, good husband and everything, things were very smooth. Marriage is sweet o, especially when you marry the right person.
After the euphoria of the event, reality begin to creep in. January, I didn't see my period, I was happy small, abi I'm pregnant ni, lest wait and see. Malaria also show face, menses no come, that was how I carried myself to lab o for pregnancy test. But alas it was negative, I said okay no problem.
February menses no come, wetin dey happen na! My friend that married in October called me say she don pregnant o, tor, wetin I wan do.
One thing about this journey is that you don't have power over it, if you do you can easily use your hand to take the sperm and egg, but you can't.
Naso I carry myself go hospital o, doctor wrote test: hormonal profile, almighty HSG. I asked Doctor Google about HSG, some say it's painful, others said it's not. Long story short I did all the test. HSG result was okay, hormonal profile- hmmmm, it's well.






Pls I need your comment.

Waiting period sometimes is not easy, but what are we going to do, we keep moving, we keep going.
Yes, I've just been married for two years and some months, someone may say it's too early, but you know what, it's not easy.
I'm not good at writing, but I hope I'll be able to get my mind out on this page.
Your comments are highly appreciated

I created this topic in diary section. But I want to move it here for comments.

I believe I'll come back very soon to share my testimony on this same page.