delxmaverick:



You don't need all that at the moment. Hope you have your unique reg. number?

Yes I copied it out, I have it.

kindredspirit:


Wait, this dude quit answering your phone calls ( that's like effectively breaking up with you if you're frank with yourself ) because you chose to obey your mother over him? A guy who is merely A BOYFRIEND to you? Somebody that she and your family don't know officially as a would-be husband to you?

Listen, your mum was in order. I'm proud of her. That's a woman with dignity. If your boyfriend was mature, he'd realise that your mum's refusal is a plus on your family's side. That's the type of mother whose daughter he can marry and go to sleep. He would therefore quickly proceed to put a ring on it. Then, his sour grapes would be justified in future if he asks for favours from you that you decline.

Did you say you got his mother to plead with him and he didn't budge?

My advise : Continue your attempts to get him to reason with you for one more week. DO NOT TRAVEL to see him. If he still maintains his stance that you should have disobeyed your mum's cogent reason for not helping him, then I think you should take a deeper look at the character of the man you want to get married to. This is maybe a litmus test and it is good that it is happening at this time. Your prayer should be that God exposes the real nature of your suitors, pre-marriage.

No I didn't tell his mum anything even though we talk often she asked if all is well I say yes, but breaking up jus mere reason of not coming, isn't that harsh a decision?? Tnx aniway I've been praying bliving all will be well, I'll keep messaging him at least he opens nd read them( watsapp).

SmellingAnus:
so you could even travel without your mum's permission

I can't, I won't, I'm now calm hearing u guys talk, so I ain't going no where, tnx.

yhemster:
Firstly, he's just bittered that your assistance he counted on wasn't there. I feel his pain. Anybody in his shoes will be bittered. As for his actions, it's quite extreme. But just calm the heck down. If he's ur husband you'll surely marry him. @OP, you need to ask urself a simple question. Can you deal with this kind of man if he truly mean his words? Most time y'all ladies get carried away by the thought of being married without continuously looking out for urself.
Secondly, you're panicking cos he stopped talking to you? If he breaks up with you that means you're going to faint.
Just calm the 4k down

Lol, I'm calm, tnx to u guys.

yhemster:
Firstly, he's just bittered that your assistance he counted on wasn't there. I feel his pain. Anybody in his shoes will be bittered. As for his actions, it's quite extreme. But just calm the heck down. If he's ur husband you'll surely marry him. @OP, you need to ask urself a simple question. Can you deal with this kind of man if he truly mean his words? Most time y'all ladies get carried away by the thought of being married without continuously looking out for urself.
Secondly, you're panicking cos he stopped talking to you? If he breaks up with you that means you're going to faint.
Just calm the 4k down

Lol, I'm calm, tnx to guys.

SirJeffry:
Slow down your love for that dude at least for awhile. Be on your guard and get your heart ready for any unforeseen eventuality 'cos I don't see a good day ahead. Good luck all the same.

I will let him be for, while I prepare my hrt as u said,

pabostt:


I love your Sis and Mum's approach. Your mum was trying to be on your side to ensure that the guy take a step further to affirm his love for you. Moreover, you acted right by obeying your mum since he hasn't done the needful.

I think the way the whole issue was communicated was a little bit faulty, howbeit, the guy should have been at the top of the situation. If you mean a lot to him, he shouldn't have acted childishly.

I will advise you get a little bit patient and try to make him understand that it wasn't intentional. However, if you guys get back, you should make sure he gets over that childish behavior, if he continues acting like that your marriage with him will be on a time bomb (my 2 cent).

. I really appreciate, I'll b patient will while apologizing, can't jus understand.

naijaboiy:

Okay...but on a normal you should be Able to travel out of the house na with a credible excuse.

You're graduate and an adult so I don't see any reason why you shouldn't be allowed to travel once in a while for genuine reasons.

Lol tnx naijaboiy u really nice, sure with credible reason I can travel, I'll watch till Sunday seriously I might just go see him, I no get mind pass One week.

dacovajnr:
Coming from a guy wey dey always struggle to keep relationship Serious Relationship ain't meant for toddlers...What's wrong about her travelling to help her Husband to be move his stuffs to his new apartment?? And the apartment she'd definitely move in with him after Wedding for that matter ...


Madam Op just keep pleading and ask your sister to plead on your behalf coz you're @ fault here coz as date for intro is being fixed I see no reason why you should seek your mom's consent to to help your husband to be be!Would you need your Mom's consent to cook for your man when you're married to him? Do the needful.

I will tnx a lot, really missing him, just want to hear his voice, if it persist till next week, I might just travel, I no get strong mind

naijaboiy:
Just give him space he will come around. But why are you taking permission upandan just to travel to go and see someone your relatives know already?

That one me I don't understand.

The truth is my Fam so strict, they knw him on calls not in person yet, tnx I'll give him the space jus dat matters of the heart not easy.

Sleekfloyd:

dont lose him abeg

I won't, I don't want to, tnx a lot.

Sleekfloyd:

dont lose him abeg

I won't, I don't want to, tnx.

tosyne2much:
Give it a trial till Monday.

Mind you, tomorrow is another month, so I will advise you use that as an opportunity to blow his mind with a fascinating new month message. You should know the right thing to compose

God u guys r d best, I'll do just that, hapi new month in adv.

2dice01:
good...

When he comes around dont do too much shakara o

e fa hear, na small I go do, missing him we can talk for hours but now

Sleekfloyd:
Op
to tell you the truth i didn't read all that

Lol tnx aniway

VargasVee:


I guess this isn't the first time he's up to this?

Seriously first time attitude, he knows how much our communication mean to me, especially with the distance.

tosyne2much:
I think he's only acting strange due to his disappointment for not being available due to the circumstances beyond your control. Though, his attitude is not borne out of whether you offended him or it, he's only acting cold due to his disappointment for helping him when he needed you most

I will advise you to keep pleading with text messages if he refuses to pick your call, and I trust that, with time, he will forgive you.
if things remain unchanged, then you can beckon on his mom and explain to her

Please disregard any advice that you should dump his ass. And please, do everything to get your man back

Can't thank you enough, just what my sis advice, I'll still try and plead, he was like its the house we starting our lives together in, and I wasn't even there to arrange it to my taste, he's really upset.

VargasVee:
Gee! Congrats you got yourself a man-child. But Op seriously, is your family a corporation? What's with all these permissions?


BTW, It's ok for him to be disappointed but not to be a baby about it. Your ma said it all, he should do the right thing if he wants it so bad. This is one of those signs you see before marriage and ignore, later you'll start seeking another round of advise.

The "man- child' got me laughing, but seriously we r in love but this side of him I can't tell.

Aderola15:


Airforce?

Abi?? I know I caused it for staying awhile u knw how d tin be naaa, aniway I need help now.

austyn0:
He is acting childishly for ignoring your calls in the name of revenge..... I advice you explain everything to his mom in other to reach him through her.

I'm feel he might get upset for involving his mum, I might just give it a try, if he doesn't speak to me by Sunday.

Nickymezor:
Hez just acting up... He will re trace his steps eventually. OP, jst relax.

Most grateful, I'll do jus dat, let him be, I pray he re trace back.

2dice01:
the nigga needs space


Can you kindly give him the whole universe

Yes I can, I will, won't bother him any longer, tnx a bunch.

ochobaba:
He never loved you a first cz if he truly do I see no reasons for revenge, though have seen a relationship where flimsy excuses ruined such relationships...
My sister if you to be a friend I will advice you to calm down cz he will surely come back to you!!!

I'll do just this, I'll let him be.

Airforce1:
He's not good for you

I'm tired oh been begging

Don't know wat to do

I've been an addict nairalander, posting for the first time, pls I need advice on what to do because I'm confuse, might be lengthy pls bear with me.
Where do I even start?
In summary I've been dating this guy and we are to go for introduction by September, I served in Delta state while he was working in Benin, when I passed out I stayed with him for a while like a month plus before I left for Lagos to be with my sister she's kind of heavy and need me around. He was transfered to Akure I still came down with him before I left.
The main issue here is he called me sometime last week to come and help him pack completely from Benin to Akure but I told him to seek permission from my big Sis, He did nd she told him she also have to ask my mum if I'm allowed to go,,obviously mum refused on d basis that he has not come home and I already stayed for awhile with him, he should be patient and do the right thing.
He was upset I didn't come, in a nutshell now he isn't picking my calls, not returning them nor replying my messages, seriously I'm going out of my mind,the last time we spoke was on Tuesday and kept saying me I refuse to come he'll get his revenge.
Pls is this how to revenge? His silence has been eating me up, my Sis she's also worried but don't want to get involve, I speak with his mum daily is it proper I tell her? Pls I need advice, I know its deliberate act but I'm emotionally down, can't think straight, help me fellow nairalanders, should I go,I'm tired of this,tanks a lot, insults are welcome.

I registered and was successful, but I have not sent my documents and CV pls is registration complete??

I'm so crying right now,,R.I.P blessed one,,my heart is bleeding right now.

Rip deary

mypassions:
Your mama train you well jare, the beauty of a woman is her character not her facial beauty.

Tnx deary,al d best.

Tnx deary,al d best.