7 SIGNS IT IS TIME TO LET GO

Is there a perfect relationship? No! Is there a perfect person to love? No! Is there someone who is easy to love? No! Is there any compromise that comes easy? No!

The difference is in the nature and attitude of your partner. The difference is in the willingness to make it work. The difference is in the decision to fight for it together.

Are there times when it is best to let go? Yes! There are times when fighting for it brings you pain and...

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There are some habits we need to put to check as long as we want our relationships to grow.

The coming together of two individuals with different mindsets and upbringing is a process that takes time and making a relationship work requires a lot of effort and commitment from us. Sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead.

There is no magical relationship and there is neither a perfect spouse. What we have are two people whose imperfections complement each other. Two persons that have determined to help each other grow.

Relationships they say do not die a natural death. Most times our actions and inactions lead to the death of something we once admired and longed for.

Ever looked at your Ex and asked yourself questions on what attracted you to each other and what went wrong...

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A lot of people ask if the club is a good place to meet your partner and I ask myself is there really a place where people can go and they are sure of meeting their significant other that has all the qualities they desire in their spouse.

Maybe I have been oblivious of this “significant other Disney island”, lol.

It is quite sad that people have a prejudice on where to meet their significant other.

If the pace where you meet your partner matters or determine their character or personality, you might as well tell me that sleeping in a garage will definitely turn me into a vehicle.

People go to different places they feel will suit their mood at that particular time and it just does not mean that their being there automatically makes them a good person or a bad person.

To some, it is not meeting the person at a club or anywhere that they are worried about, but the reaction they get from their friends or family member when they ask them how they met.

They may not literally express their disgust or disappointment or happiness to you, but their action and expression do that for them.

You know that facial reaction that cannot be mistaken to mean disappointment followed with the rolling of eyes.��

It would have been better the person openly said to you their mind and opinions of which does not matter what their thoughts are...

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Have you ever had to deal with a withdrawn partner�‍♀️? Have you ever had to seek help in your relationship as your partner is no longer expressing their love for you like they always did?

You know there is an issue but your partner is not willing to express that. You are there with your partner physically but emotionally you are distanced?☹

The days of man are characterized by problems from one angle to another and most times we unconsciously carry these experiences jealously which people see as baggage...

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Can broken trust be rebuilt? You ask after allowing yourself be so vulnerable to someone that they hurt you and betrayed your trust in them.

Trust is a very important requirement for relationships to thrive and no matter how perfect you are as an individual, there come challenges that can cause one to do things that can consciously or unconsciously affect the trust one has for the partner...

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Have you ever come across this line of words “to love is to give and not to receive? Has it ever made sense to you? Ever thought of what it could really mean? It is not rare these days to hear, I just want to get married to a man that will take care of me or I just want a woman that will take care of my children, etc

Sadly, these days we attach reasons to loving people and when the reason for loving them is no longer there, our love grows cold and then vanishes as it is not taken care of.

What is love?
Everybody has his or her own definition of love. We know or maybe I should say in our little heads we want people to show us affection in some ways that befit us which makes us say they love us.

Love as I will always define it is a choice. A choice to give you a whole of me, a choice to accept you just the way I expect...

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What do women really really do with their money? you know this is not the first time I will hear men argue about this and those different times i witnessed such argument, one or two out of them boldly defended their wives. So recently, two men were having a discussion as they transfer money to their workers for their monthly pay. So Mr. xyz transferred his own salary to his wife and just immediately called the wife to inform her and request that she transfer it back to his account.

Mr. abc smiled and said “if she keeps the money there is nothing wrong, after all two has become one. Mr. xyz smiling also said “if she keeps the money she will still come asking for money for food and upkeep, so it is better i keep the money and from there give her money for food and upkeep. Mr. abc said, I don’t know why women are like that, if even their money is overflowing they will still come to you asking you for more. What do women really do with their money?

Mr. xyz smiling countered ...

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Are you in a toxic relationship?
A lot of people talk about toxic relationships but are not aware they are in one. Are you in a toxic relationship? Toxicity is a serious red flag in a relationship and very harmful to one's health all around which includes emotional, spiritual, psychological, etc.

What does toxic mean? Toxic means being harmful in a pervasive way. So when your partner is said to be toxic, it means he/she is unsupportive, unsafe to you, and self-centered, etc.

A toxic relationship will always stall your growth and make you doubt your capabilities. That partner that would not let you go but would not also treat you right. They demand you love and treat them well but do not reciprocate that. You beg for their attention and intimacy. Things you give freely to your partner, you beg for it to be given to you.

Qualities of a toxic relationship...
A toxic relationship is characterized by self-centered ness...

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The magic is dead, she said to her friend. In the movie I was seeing this morning, this lady opened up to her best friend on how she is going to get a divorce. Surprised at that, the friend asked why as they looked happy together and she responded “the magic is dead”. They no longer seem like they know each other anymore, they both got busy with their lives, they got busy with taking care of the children and paying the bills that they neglected the person they are married to. And now they are at the point of getting a divorce as that seems like the best thing to do.

But then I ask, “does the magic just die? Or do we gradually watch it die? I presume that anything we desire to see it thrive through the test of time should be properly guided and taken care of be it Marriage, relationship with our spouses, friends and God. No relationship just happens. No relationship just becomes desirable, we all have to make little little contributions to that. Just like they say..

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loffama:
The magic is dead, she said to her friend. In the movie I was seeing this morning, this lady opened up to her best friend on how she is going to get a divorce. Surprised at that, the friend asked why as they looked happy together and she responded “the magic is dead”. They no longer seem like they know each other anymore, they both got busy with their lives, they got busy with taking care of the children and paying the bills that they neglected the person they are married to. And now they are at the point of getting a divorce as that seems like the best thing to do.

But then I ask, “does the magic just die? Or do we gradually watch it die? I presume that anything we desire to see it thrive through the test of time should be properly guided and taken care of be it Marriage, relationship with our spouses, friends and God. No relationship just happens. No relationship just becomes desirable, we all have to make little little contributions to that. Just like they say..

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Dear women, being successful is not gender based. Every human being is designed to grow and multiply and this for women should not only mean child bearing and taking care of the family. It also includes pursuing careers and becoming successful in your choosing careers. A lot of us women are in relationships that we put in our very best to make it work. We invest so much time, energy, money, opportunities, strength to ensure that it is working out but most times in the cost of achieving that, we completely ignore ourselves and the growth we all deserve.

Nobody wants to be associated with unsuccessful person and that includes that man you desire...

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Sitting down and reminiscing over your past, does it bring pain, hurt or happiness to you? No matter how perfect we may think our life is or has been, we all have a past. Our past is made up of different emotions, some we are proud of, some we are not. Some hurtful experiences that we just cannot LET GO. It hurts so bad that we have grown used to the pain. Most people have consciously and unconsciously become depressed.

Life is full of ups and down. Life is not a bed of roses and adulthood isn’t what we all envisioned it to be hence we need to grow a tough...


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Imagine�� having the opportunity to return acquired goods after months of usage because they no longer meet your taste? How great will that be? ��Returning a product not because it developed fault within the first year of usage but because you no longer find it interesting and you get a replacement immediately with no new pay? Sounds cool right?�� Majestically, I walk into RANGE ROVER market place just to switch car ���.

Unfortunately, this is very relational to entering a relationship with a mindset of “if it doesn’t work out, WE MOVE”. This is a common mistake people make in relationship.

I genuinely understand that nobody wants to invest time and energy to build or nurture what does not seem to hold water of survival. I also know..

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I went to the mall to replace my perfume. They were out on my usual and I had to go through the process of making a choice again. I walked to and fro the perfume gallery sniffing at each cover of the perfume that got my attention. I was looking out for fine cover, attractive names and alluring scent. I kept on with this until I got to the one that really fit my desire as at that time. I smiled ��! Finally! Hurried to the cashier to make payment. Used this physically beautiful thing and realized it was just beautifully designed. Yes it has a lovely fragrance which tends to wear off quickly. It was so disappointing.☹☹
And this happens to most of us a lot when we confuse attraction to be love. We all need to understand that being attracted to something doesn't mean you love it. We really need to be calming down��. I am attracted to guys that wear neatly ironed clothes especially whites�� and that does not mean that I love every guy that dresses well. You could still dress well...

Which do you think is better or is acceptable? Falling in love or growing in love? LOVE�� is a wildly used word but commonly misused, abused or misunderstood. We all want to love and be loved right back. Nobody wants to grow old alone. Which makes us all wish love is less complicated and easy.

So most times we get this feeling that our heart tells us “this is love”. Those feeling of butterfly in your tummy. Those cravings and desires of talking to one person every day. The small acts of love that sweeps our face with smiles. Surprises at work, surprise dinners, birthday parties, the evening walk, those lengthy conversation where nothing in particular was discussed that leaves you smiling to yourself, pillow talk and the list goes on and on. We always tell our friends ” I think I have fallen ...

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