Jenny

Thanks for the insight. I would not automatically consider someone who came over to the states illegally a criminal. If I came from a country with lack of opportunity I might do the same. My story should be very clear at this point if you read my previous posts. Came over to this country with no papers. We date, I got pregnant, we married, and he still does not have his citizenship. I cannot further clarify myself but it should be able to comprehend. Thats the puzzling part. I really need to know where the mum was at before he flew her down here. Her flight originated from Dallas. But she could've flown there and he could've just paid for her flight from there. The mother would not fly down here without a very very good reason. Until I figure it out I am keeping my son safe and filing my court documents. Thanks ladies for your input!

favouredjb

why would you say its clearly that he loves the woman. You could've let your comment to yourself. We are not discussing whether he loves her or not we are discussing my situation and safety of me and my child? Your literacy seems to be challenged because your post is not clear english. Shame on you!

Mama gee I am not sure what you mean by unecessary. I am sure your life is perfect and you haven't needed help for anything? You could've left that comment off the board. People go through trials and tribulations and for you to make snotty comments make it worst. Some of you people are insensitive and probably do not have blood flowing through your body.

Also I would like to add I saw an email where he sent her a pic of our son. She then said this is our son. He did not stop her from talking bad about me. She told him to bring my son home to Nigeria and he said be ready to fight because I am not going to let him go that easy. It looks like he loves this woman and is honest with her. I have never seen an attachment this strong considering she is in a different country. Can a man love that hard from afar? He told me he is using her for something but I cannot even imagine what that could possibly be. It seems like he tells her everything that goes on here. She knows we are not living together because he told her. But he lies to me. I just needed to vent and I thank those for listening!

I do apologize for not being clear. Basically I married a Nigerian that illegally came into the country. He got me pregnant we got married. I have discovered for the past 2 years he has been communicating with a Nigerian woman back in Gabon. She even calls my phone and harrasses me. Since he is taking care of her and her mother I do not know why. I am going to meet with a lawyer this week to see what I can do about this. He obviousy doesn't respect or love me. And the safety of my son and I could be in danger. I am trying to figure out why he will not divorce me when I cannot file for him. I feel humiliated but I have to lean on God, be smart, and get the heck out of this mess and marraige before I get involved in trouble. They are probably doing scams. I saw where she was trying to convince somebody to talk to his brother so they could get her money. I stuck around to see if God would move in this marraige but its time for me to move on. We have been seperated for a year so I am glad that happened because I feel more safe. If this is not clear than I do not know how else to express myself. I am just trying to figure out what benefit would he have staying married to me when I cannot file for him? And also why is he flying the mother down The lady is from Gabon and they only pick about 30 people each year from that area so the chances are very very slim she will get citizenship! Thanks for all the replies and God Bless!!

I am in a situation that is probably familiar to most. I married for love but unfortunately the igbo man married for other reasons that are unknown. Now before anyone bashes me or makes insulting comments. I made a mistake and I am going to learn and grow from it. Moving forward I have discovered my husband has been chatting with lady from Gabon. Now she has to apply for Lottery every year and she hasn't gotten picked yet. Also my husband came in the country illegally and after talking to lawyers I cannot file for him without him leaving the country or getting the 10yr bar. Recently he flew her mother down for the weekend without my knowing. I am trying to figure out what are they planning to do since the lady cannot fly to the US? Has anyone experienced this? Also we have been seperated awhile and he keeps promising that he is using this Nigerian woman for something but yet he will not divorce me. And they talk about my son like its theirs and she told him to bring my son home. It doesn't seem like he is using her so I am stomped. And yes my next step is divorce to protect me and my son. But I really would like to be enlightened to what they are planning. Is there anyway for him to file behind my back and sponsor her Why fly the mother down?