^^^great, thanks!

One of you Moderators hid my post here, https://www.nairaland.com/1230869/caption-rihanas-pic and somewhere else. I would like to know why.

Thank you.

^^^okay, sorted.

Rikki Jai – Barman

UKAj: She is very heathy and negative. Same as my son. We both understand her risk, but we took appropriate measure. Discordant heterosexual couples who are free of other STDs are at very minimal risk when they try for a kid when the egg is ready to fertilize. The criteria is that the positive partner is undetectable and have good cd4 count. At other times, however, they should practice safe sex with the correct use of condom.

I'm not prescribing this to anyone though, but we were lucky it worked for us. We are both in europe though, and we get all the medical help we require.

Nice one, glad it worked out well for both of you. However, you failed to mention how you sorted the church issue…might help couples in a similar situation.

Looks like Azealia Banks, definitely something she would do.

For me, it is ‘Nothing at all’, a track by Santana, featuring Musiq Soulchild.

There was this chick I was pursuing back in the day, who refused all my moves. I played the song to her one night as I felt it captured the frustrations I felt at the time. Turned out to be a lovely night indeed, one of my fondest memories ever and I get to relive the experience each time I hear it – it was my first.

To all condom adherents, condom use does not eliminate the risk, they use phrases like ‘highly effective with consistent and correct use’, ‘reduce the risk’, ‘high degree of protection’. What they forget is that the ‘heat of the moment’ can turn the smartest person on the planet to a blockhead using them inconsistently or incorrectly. The best way is still Abstinence, followed by monogamy, then finally condoms.

mobuch: This is a disaster,
Any benue people in the house?
We want to see you comments

Lol, okay, I am 50% Benue and I have commented. Now, what are you going to do, shoot me?

madanne4real: http://amazingmemories.park-resorts.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/finchingfield-village-essex-e1323785758440.jpg

Please follow the link and see the picture of Finchingfield village in Essex not too far from where I live. If every village is developed in Nigeria, people will live there and not create problems for themselves.

Nice one, I also live in a village in Essex, it won ‘village of the year award’ a few years ago but has not been able to win one since then, so it is living on past glory.

@ Topic, it is typical, Nigerians and the culture of waste, instead of investment. The average Westerner starts with a one-bedroom apartment, moving up to a three or five-bedroom property as he partners up and has kids. When these kids move out/he gets older, he gradually downgrades, until he ends up in a retirement home.
As usual, you can trust with a Nigerian, it is all about excesses and quantity, instead of having a quality life.

Kanye’s rap take “white people get money don’t spend it, or maybe they get money buy a business, I rather buy 80 gold chains and go ignorant, I know Spike Lee gone kill me but let me finish. Blame it on the pigment …"

babaskool: e be like say u dey craze kettle calling pot black.....so because ur there u don't want others to come thunder go fire ur mouth

Lol, you no well, I agree with him 100%. If they send all of us home and we develop Nigeria to Britain’s standard, you too will benefit.

The UK is becoming an increasingly hostile country to foreigners, though I cannot say I blame them. However, they should be careful they do not dissuade immigrants to such a point that it affects their economy.

On the plus side, if they frustrate the residing migrant family members and they all go home, they will use the expertise/experience gained to develop their respective countries. Maybe that is what is required to move a country like Nigeria forward.

JEMMYP: This really gets me wondering, my colleagues were arguing on the issue one day and the guys and amlost of them were on the opinion that when they are ready to settle down they will just select from their two or three girl friends, the one that they feels is well behaved that suits what they want in a woman and marry her. that love sets in afterwards. So i am asking, Do men really marry these day for love?

Lol, love is a strong word. I think Men marry for different reasons i.e. procreation, societal concerns and to do ‘it’ legally as told in the good book.

I know I cannot get married to someone I do not have feelings for. If you call those 'feelings' love and it suits you, then fine by me, but personally, that word has long lost meaning to me.

Nice!

You have said it all; it could also be attributed to ‘keeping up with the joneses’ in fashion and the likes, not being content with what they have, etc.

Nice to see Nigerians making positive news headlines, particularly as it is in London.

Children from balanced backgrounds, (with a father and mother figure) tend to perform well.

Hmm, I hope he does not get his unclad behind beaten.

temisukanmi: Most guys go for ladies wif flat tommies, is there any reason for these?

Guys let us knw your reasons, ladies ‎​U̶̲̥̅̊ can also comment if ‎​U̶̲̥̅̊ fink flat tommy is the best.

Well, I think it shows discipline and a commitment on her part to looking good.

Yes, it will portray her as the African queen she should rightly be.

In addition, as long as the shape of her head is perfect, not the type that will have gallops and potholes.

GARRI (x7):
As expected folks have started foaming in the mouth, angry that someone has the audacity to expose the lies and deceit in a book written by their legend. Instead of disproving the points raised by the writer, they're asking for his achievements.

No matter how highly rated you are, the moment you start spreading poisonous lies and deceit, you lose your respect. It's sad, but that's where Achebe has put himself. He will be remembered for his bitterness, deceit and bigotry..

Well said, still, he is, at his very best, human. No matter how impartial a person claims to be, you still see character flaws. Moreover, since he was involved in it, it is possible he honestly could not see the wood for the trees .

@ Topic, interesting article, one of the reasons one should look at both sides of a story before drawing a conclusion.

The Ring – that part where the scary little girl crawled out of a TV, I could have sworn she was coming out of mine.

ifyalways: She wrote so much about the societal class segregation and so little on how to curb it.

The answer, I believe lies in the passage, where she spoke about the constitution and her personal experience as a kid.
The Nigerian government needs to go back to the drawing board, re-examine the constitution and enforce equality at all levels. They should lead by example i.e. trade the ‘oga’ mentality for the originally intended ‘public servant’ image instead of their bullying attitude. If you treat people like animals, they are more likely to behave like them eventually.

In addition, teaching kids simple courtesy regardless of the intended recipient’s creed or social status is important, as they represent the future of society. If majority of the kids are brought up to feel everyone is equal, it should ‘in theory’ reduce it.
The British educational system has a stage in the child’s education where they start telling them to report to authorities if their parents hit them. I suggest Nigeria borrow this concept but use it in a better way by judging the child’s home training by character and feeding these results back. The Government can then use the carrot or stick approach to correct this with the parents.

Ivynwa: Ada Nwaubani made it sound like her parents didn't teach her and her siblings to respect and appreciate everybody whether maid or not. She is writing about a good topic but spoilt it by bringing in her family upbringing and relationship with maids therein. She said that it is in recent years that she learnt to accord due respect to maids (the "thank you" and "smiles" ), like was she treating them less than that before? Some of us lived with maids while growing up and still appreciated and respected them. One of the househelps I grew up with was getting same stuffs, dresses etc parents bought for me, it was as if we were twins. We were taught to treat them like our own siblings too so it isn't every family that looked down on maids as nobodies.

On that note if Ada had cut out that part about the maids and concentrated on her topic and found other good examples and areas where the poor are snobbed and the rich exalted in our country that would have been a nice write up.

I don’t see anything wrong with what she said. She showed her upbringing a part of the problem, which I feel is a necessary step towards a lasting solution. She could have adopted a ‘holier than thou’ attitude, but she did not, this I find impressive.

Truth be told, we all know what the problem is, but seem to shy away from working towards a lasting solution, as it is embedded in our orientation right from childhood.

This is definitely a step forward, but why not manufacture some of the components in Nigeria too? Is that asking for too much?

Always been a sucker for Lexus.

Guess I will have to start saving my ‘pesos’, so I can afford one of them when it finally comes out.

binger: PURPOSE OF THREAD; Solely to eradicate the ideology that most things about ones ex is bad and detestable.

BODY OF THREAD; When relationships turn sour and probably end in a permanent break-up,we most times,tend to blame our former partner for the 'ship wreck'.Invectives are usually used to address the past relationship and of course, your ex.Obviously my point is proved right if you recall the way many folks describe their ex in the numerous topics that have been created here concerning past partners.

So,time to exonerate them(exes) of all bad labels.Try and reminisce on those good times you shared when the relationship was all bloom.Those times you confessed your love to he or she.Then share one good thing he/she did for you in the past.It might be a huge sacrifice or a lil' kind deed that makes you smile whenever you remember it.

Lets hear from you...

She gave up her most prized possession, never used before, even though I tried hard to resist…

Damn, she set my loins on fire, pity I ended up being a jerk…

@ Topic, I guess it is about studying your victim, not about Alpha Male/Nice Guy stereotypes that will vary from female to female.
The perfect victim allows for the perfect chase – Robert Greene in Art of Seduction.

As we have different personality types, a good hunter knows his prey and knows how to apply strategies unique to her kind.

bilms: Role models are very important. They help us become the person we want to be and inspire us to make a difference.

Choosing wisely means that you are influenced correctly and will help you be the best person you can be.

Choosing and emulating a wrong role model makes your characters difficult, a wrong model misled you in to doing what is wrong andclaiming it is right.

young people are having problems in identifying good role models and are now looking to the wrong people and places,which explains the rate at which bad behavior had spread in our society.

This is why is important to ask, who is your model? IS your model worthy to be emulated?

lets us know.

Never really had just one role model, had many along the way, each with their own unique attribute.

*Kails*:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFPz0BgHgBI



One of those moments where you
think about someone and these songs
end up blasting through your speakers .

#awesome

Lol, went to their ‘RNB Superstars 2’ concert just before valentine’s day, one of the sisters asked “how many of you are in love”, many shouts, “how many of you are married”, fewer shouts, “how many of you are in ‘we don’t know what the f... this is”, plenty of laughter.
Found that really funny as that was the situation that suited me and my female counterpart, thought i’d share. It was a nice concert, even though the sound could have been better, also featured Ginuwine, Dru Hill and Silk.

Anyway, listening to Eminem featuring Nate Dogg – Till I collapse.

Kobojunkie:

No to bOko-haramism but yes to terrorism in the homes? Come on now!!! Either you are against terrorism completely or you are not. Which one?

This is where we are at a variance; I wasn’t referring to familial relationships, but to ‘the others’ you mentioned, specifically business and services.

I do not believe people should be terrorised/suppressed, talk less of within a family; I wanted to point out that the entire system is wrong if you have to do so to get some basic services – as this is what seems to work. Else they don’t respond or they term you ‘mugu’, ‘mumu’, ‘jjc’, or ‘ajebutter’.
I do not live there, so you can imagine how it felt experiencing all that, worse still, having to behave ‘in Rome as the Romans do’.

abombom:
lol...no op is not a bad pal. He knows about this thread. Op took his permission b4 doing this.

I hope the OP is not at the other end of the scale, the westernised type that will say ‘you are silly mommy’ or ‘shut up mommy’ all in the name of being ‘free’.