SangoOlukosoOba:
UGM/IPOB starting what they cannot finish

Killing a Northerner in the East

you ought to know its possible you are carrying fake news and making inciting statement

Tinubuadvocate:
Okay another one is looming again because I heard ESN gunned down a prominent fulani man this morning in owerri.

. I read that IPOB has denied responsibility saying that it is an unprofessionally handled insider's job meant to setup Northerners against Ibos again

Tinubuadvocate:
Okay another one is looming again because I heard ESN gunned down a prominent fulani man this morning in owerri.

Have you also heard that IPOB has denied responsibility. I also read from the media that that it was an unprofessionally handled insider's job meant to setup the North against the ibos

stephanie11:
POLITICSNIGERIA.COM


https://politicsnigeria.com/how-1967-civil-war-began-with-fake-news-from-foreign-media-ex-governor-osoba/

That is why fake news and propaganda is dangerous and carriers of such ought to be seriously sanctioned

ygowon:
How many weeds those guys take? But I doubt if the weed go affect them because they know who they are protecting and who their targets are.

By the way, the unknown gunmen have been known but the name fits them. In case you don't know, unknown gunmen is being sponsored by biafran revolutionary forces.

Here is a video of one of the naked unknown gunmen showcasing his joy.

https://mobile.twitter.com/Ugobest98593518/status/1398544734176649219

what is the name of the street and on which day? It's unprofessional to publicise what is not verifiable. It's propaganda

Ghabz:
Dear Nairalander,
Am a young guy planning on settling down this year. My fiance just got government job in her state (January 2021) while am still in my state hustling with my POS job.
Though distance to each other is just less than an hour & am in search of accommodation in my state. She is of the opinion that traveling during pregnancy will be difficult... She suggested resigning so that we can be together.
Pls i need your honest advice. Thanks

it will not be easy for you but you have to let her stay permanently in her home state. Join her and grow your kids. A time will come when you can conveniently travel for business and stay for months without your family bearing the brunt

Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

this happens most often with immature girls and it results in cheating with her coming back to cry and say she was naive. It's hardwork for you because you have to train her the way children are trained to become responsible adults, if not, you will not like the outcome of her friendship with the guy

AmadiAba:
Police Paraded My Uncle Who Works in Oil Firm as Unknown Gunman - Lady Cries Out | #IgbereTV

"My beloved uncle is innocent. He came back yesterday from Bonny ISLAND with his family because of his father inlaw burial that will hold on Friday 28th May 2021. He is responsible and works in an Oil Company. He came to owerri early hours of today to buy some things and was arrested and paraded as unknown gunman." - Queen Elias

https://igberetvnews.com/1391167/police-paraded-uncle-works-oil-firm-unknown-gunman-lady-cries-photos/

You ought to have named the company he works for so that the company will identify him. Quite simple

film3four:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CPTHQCUN5f3/?utm_medium=copy_link


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1IYd-jjZNxk

I'm sceptical about this. Some of such news has turned out to be false in the past. History points that in times like this, propaganda thrives. We ought to be discreet about what we read, watch or listen to as not to be misled

Doraty1:


https://ait.live/katsina-govt-deducts-3-of-workers-salaries-to-rebuild-burnt-central-market/

this is becoming a trend. Government deducting salaries of people who also pay taxes to fund infrastructure. What happened to the taxes being deducted?

Forthispost:
Hello Nairalanders. I need your honest feedback on this issue.


There is this ex of mine I dated for approximately 4 years. During the course of our relationship, I Was totally in my best power not to be the toxic one and never cheated on her but she eventually left with no viable reason. There were times she messed up and I forgave her even while we dated.
Close to the time of her graduation from a reputable state university in Nigeria, she started messing up and eventually broke up the relationship.
I was pained though but I had to forgive her and move on.

After the break up (which is about 3 years away now) we still talk (greetings on phone) once in a blue moon.

Now the issue at hand is, a male boss of mine requested that I recommend a female staff that matches a particular vacant role in our organisation .
Note: This is an internal recruitment and who ever I recommend stand a 95% chance of getting employed ( the other 5% if for village people). The role is an entry role with pay centered around 80k-100k monthly. She currently earns 22k where she works now at at our last conversation. Though she use to be a cool person before her village people entered the relationship. Over three years of not being close as before gives me no clue of the type of person she might have become now. Maybe a scorned woman or a more sensible person. I'm doing far better than when she left me and it's super glaring to her.

The reason why I need advice is this: I work at the same organisation in question and I have no plan to leave soon. I'm trying to avoid a case where she will be the one to facilitate any issue for me at the said work place. Just avoiding anything that will result in regrets.

Update: I forgot to add, she's one of the person I know who suits the role. I don't have sister who matches the role.

I created this new account for just this thread hence the moniker "for this post"

Kindly advice biko. Bashing is allowed.

If you are confident she will accept the job, and that you can attest for her conduct and character, recommend her. Once she starts working, relate with her as if you have never been romantically involved. You future is still evolving, the decisions you make now may make or mar your tomorrow. Be guided and be prayerful also. Best wishes

Shukushaka:


https://gazettengr.com/el-rufai-lied-oxygen-wasnt-removed-from-our-baby-parents/?utm_source=ReviveOldPost&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=ReviveOldPost

my instinct told me that the news of removal of oxygen was propaganda

hybrid11:
Igbo uber driver
I find this topic disgusting

You noticed? This is becoming worrisome. That ilamina of account ought to have been suspended. It's fueling unnecessary ethnic tensions on nairaland

Annoms:
I'll try to make this short.

Yesterday I was having a conversation with my fiancée about my mum's suggestion about how to go about our wedding which is scheduled to take place Jan next year. My mum suggested that we do both trad and white wedding on the same day to cut cost. She opined that we do the white wedding in the morning and hold the traditional marriage as a reception in the afternoon. I pretty much see reasons from her perspective considering the harsh economic condition in Nigeria.

I was relating this to my fiancée yesterday in a phone call, when she flared up and said I should have consulted her to seek her opinion on this marriage arrangement before going to my family to seek theirs because I said my mum's advise seems okay.

What I deduce from her plight was that she wants the trad marriage at the village (south-east) while the white at the town where we base (South-West). That was what I initially wanted but due to high inflation in the land, I'm actually tilting towards my mum advise because I can't go bankruptcy just because I want to satisfy her. Why not use a stone to kill two birds?

She wants a cream-de-la-cream kind of wedding but she's not ready to assist financially to make that happen. (she's an awaiting corper)

I told her that the cost of transportation and lodging people from the village (hers and mine) to the city for our white marriage alone is gulping about 500/600k. That's transportation & lodging alone ooo.. I'll now spend if not x2 of what I spent on trad for white.. Why not just do everything in the village and move on with our lives? We can actually have it in the village and it will still be all nice and glamourous.

She said she wants to have a say in how her marriage will look like. Her imput is welcomed. But if she still insist on having the white wedding and not putting finances into consideration. I'm thinking that she want the white wedding on the city because of her friends who will attend which is not enough reason to go bankruptcy for.

It was a heated argument yesterday. We both went to bed angrily and not in talking terms till now

Pls advice accordingly. Thanks

what she wants for your wedding is normal for girls. My worry is her approach to it; it's an indication of what you will be facing if you eventually marry without working on your communication and sense of understanding. Married life is quite challenging these days with the economic demands it places on the family especially where one partner is the sole provider

Bluntemperor:


Ma'am,you dey try Sha!
All those girls celebrating with David ,you can see them smiling and may be they even have a better idea how normal home should run, but in case there is another Davido nearby!

this is heartbreaking to parents who passed through a lot inorder to inculcate values, principles and morals in their children

YungMillionaire:
Davido na correct Yoruba boy...fear dem

polygamy is recognised in Nigeria...but I don't understand the nature of the relationship between him and his women

blazepascal:
Good day nairalanders

There is a very serious issue in our home right now .its about my sister marriage .there is a guy my sis love she cherish this guy a lot because the guy do take care of her and he's financially stable I even shared a good rapport with him and he sometimes give me free money .he also loves my sis a lot and has even proposed to her and my sis said yes she will marry him

But the problem now are my parent they didn't approve the marriage because they are triabalist or should I say triabalistic. The guy is Yoruba and we are Igbo. my parents told mY sis that if she wants to marry she should marry an Igbo guy . I've tried to persuade them yet they still remained opinionated .I don't know what to do else my sis has been crying .pls what should she do now .

It's easier to handle if the bride is Yoruba. Men are the custodian of a people's culture; it won't work well if the guy is a traditionalist.

Solsix:

How much is that?? For how long will they tolerate you if u don't make a sale?? Will that be enough for feeding and transportation?? Marketing involves a lot of movement. I have been there before.

I believe the spare time you will have can be used for side hustle. I bet the private school job will not give you the space to use your creative potentials

Solsix:
I would have advised to take the teaching job, but the pay is to poor and for the marketing job what if you don't make sales how will I survive??

weekly stipend. You will not die

Peejayx01:
Good day everyone, hope our day went well.
I want your honest opinion on a issue bothering me.

So recently I got a teaching job that pays 25k per month, this job also comes with a free accommodation, a stone throw from the school(which means no transport fare). I was offered this accommodation due to the fact that my place is very far from the school.
Also, just today, a friend got a marketing job in a popular real estate company who only pays based on commission meaning no customer, no payment, but it comes with weekly stipends for transport. This has left me at crossroads presently and I'm not sure of the best decision to take right now. Please I need your advise...

take the marketing job. That's what Rich dad says

udoji2021:
Life is sweet generally but can be cruel to others.

I was once a happy guy with a bright future but marriage is practically killing me. it all started when I become sick and was admitted in a hospital. my aged mother was the person staying with me and was responsible for my everything. inside the ward, another patient was with this very beautiful girl that was very hard working, my condition was critical that my mother will have to bath me sometimes, this girl now started helping my mother and to a point, my mother will leave her to be taking care of me and go home.

I become close to her, but i use to think that she just pity my condition and wanted to help so I did not think of having any relationship with her. I was later discharge and went home but since we exchange our contacts earlier, we use to talk often. I asked her one day to visit me which she agreed. To my surprise, this girl brought some provision for me and slept over in my house. she continue visiting till one day, I told her that if i was strong and capable, I would have loved to date her. she confessed instantly that she was really interested in me and did not care about my condition. According to her, she was born in a poor family and can handle the pressure of been broke, that she will be the happiest person if I love her back the way she loves me. I was moved with her words and to cut the story short, we started dating.

Her parents were highly against the relationship initially but when they become tired of us, they allow us to do our thing but never involve them if something happened. fast to December last year, we got married.i was not even able to pay 1h to her parents. she just pack her things and join me in my house. we were the happiest couple on Earth till things started going north.


First, we agreed to do many things in the farm against hunger next year, we started with melon farm, then groundnut and yams. we were still on this and I must confess that she is hard working but pregnancy came and this girl started misbehaving, she will not follow me to the farm again and will not even cook for me. I dare not complain cos she will insult me seriously. sometimes, I will tell my sister to cook but this girl will not eat it because the food is bad.

One night, she sent me out of the room in the night that I must get bananas for her to eat. I suffered that night till I got it from one woman on credit cos I was not having money on me. last month, she was sick and visited one private clinic, I was to 10k for her treatment but did not have the money so I told her to give me 4days to look for it, there was no insult I did not receive that night. I have to sell my yam seeds and pay. infact, I'm tired of this life presently cos i use to think that she will help me but the reverse is the case now.


please I need advice on the way forward, I want to run away from home but she is pregnant, her people refused to help us too cos they warn her before.

pls advice me

your headline is not appropriate. Nevertheless, I advise you work harder on yourself and marriage. You don't have any serious issue

ewaski:
Good evening everyone.. I am from a very humble background.. My parents did their best raising us up.. My mum used to be a petty trader.. But due to financial constraints, she stopped.. My dad is not doing badly at the moment.. Because I made sure I settled him according in his line of business.. But the problem now is that my Mom has suddenly changed since I established a business for her.. She's a different person entirely now.. Since she started earning.. I don't want to take sides in quarrels between them.. But ever since she started this business.. She's now the boss of the house.. Please what can I do..

she will soon run short of money with that attitude. Don't make her think you are supporting your Dad but you have to keep him afloat so that he will regain his place. It's a matter of time

Billionsclub:
A friend of mine called me and told me what happened to her. this happened recently.
she is a single mother. she said she went to meet her boyfriend (not the father of her child) on an outing. As they were there, unknowingly to her, her boyfriend friends and their girl friends were all there. Before you know it, the guy knelt down and propose to her, they were recording, but my friend said she refused. according to her, her boyfriend was not happy. one of her boyfriend friends called her to ask her why she refused to accept the proposal and she told him the reason. according to her, she said she has only met the boy four times and they just started dating two months ago. in order words, it was too early for the boy to propose. after she explained all that happened, I told her she did the right thing. I also told her not to take the relationship serious because the boy may want to use her and dump her because of the embarrassment she gave him in public.
on a second thought, I felt a little bad because I might have given her the wrong advice.
should she continue the relationship or step out of the relationship because of the embarrassment she caused the guy by refusing to accept

. Ladies in such situations will usually ask for time to think about it. If that was the case, then she should continue with the friendship while working hard inorder to give him an answer within the agreed timeline.

Klass99:
Saphiere, I don't know what it is about you and Zzor but the moment I see your monikers on any thread I start laughing even before I read your comments.

I start laughing and at the same time I'm thinking to myself, these babes no dey taya? Speaking of Zzor she has been scarce I hope she's okay, as for you Saphiere I am yet to see your popular slogan on this thread - the future is female .

Take care of you oh!

Odiegwu oh!

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SOURCE
Sometimes we think our partner is cheating when they don't respond to our calls without realizing they are in danger. mobilizing a search as quickly as possible may save the situation

adenigga:

Source: https://m.punchng.com/FG-suspends-Adeboyes-helicopter-from-flying

There's no need to embarrass Pastor Adeboye for speaking up against corruption. They know how to communicate him on any issue without sounding retaliatory

Lostchild:
Why are women like this?

I keep wondering why their brain is negative

I just keep wondering why their brain fluotuate

I keep wondering what is it like to be married and live with a negative women

Please. I am on nairaland for my personel. I am here to talk about myself and my experience. If my ego or pride offends you, it is OK. Feel free to insult me or ignore my write up. I still understand

My own mother spent all her life being very close to my sisters. She sacrifice so much for all my sisters including their children. But to me and my brothers she never cared at all.

She would make plans with my sisters and when problem come because of their plans, she would then involve her male children trying to use we men to solve that same problem her plans with my sisters caused

Even if I make any plans with her that will better her life, she must involve my sisters to spoil that plan as long as my women sisters involve

She would reighter give my sisters financial help than to give her any of her male children money to help them.

In growing up, she can spend heaven and earth for my sisters but not to me or any of my brothers.

It got to a point that my elder brother walk away from her an also warn me many times to walk away from my sisters if not all my life plans will continue to destroy.

I was heavily against my elder brother as he told me to stay away from my sisters. My elder brother told me many times to stop spending money on my married sisters. I never knew he was trying to protect me from these household women called sisters

Despite my mother attitude I still take care of her. I gave her all the love a son would give to his own beloved mother. I over looked her bias attitude and continue to shower money and care towards my mother and my married sisters. I was always faithful to my words as I keep my promise to them always.

My anoyance towards my mother is that she will listen and believe the lies of my sisters and disbelieve my truth. This continue to the point that I quarrel with my mother and I called her a useless woman. I walk away and I never look back.

I even separated from my elder brother because of my mother and sisters because my elder brother wanted to protect me from the craziness of the household women. I am currently looking for my elder brother so that I can apologize and say sorry the way I treated him because of this foolish house hold women

Because of my terrible experience with my sisters and women I stop making friends with women in general apart from good morning, good morning lifestyle.

I move to a new 1 bed-room apartment where the owner of the building is a woman, she lives there too. The crazy experience is that some of the lady/women living nside the compound will go and report me to the landlady and tell lies against me.

The hidden agenda for all their report is that I dont relate with them. I dont befriend them. I don't rob shouders with them. I understood that I gave them all the feeling of rejection but they forgot that they have their own husband

When these women report me to the land-lady, I will explain the trurh to her what happened and told her she should not listen to my women neighbors. Sometimes I do tell my land-lady to wait a little just to confirm the reality of the jealous report she got from them.

I told her one day that whatever she heard from anyone about me. She sould come to me and ask question. Whatever I say to the woman land-lady, she doesn't listen. She react with negative report she head from her female friends inside the compound.

I began to sense strong negative deslike from the Land-lady base on the fact that I am not loyal to her friends..

It got to the point that I clashed with the land lady last night and I warn her heavily that she sould back off from me and my domain.

My conflict with her is such that we will always be enemies around each other. I still have 6 months rent left, and I have plan to move from the compound as this land lady has violated me to he extreme. Many of the men tennant were happy the way I restrain the land lady because of her excessive control

My anoyance towards this land-lady is that she wanted me to loyal to her women friends, she will listen and react negatively to the lies of her female aproko friends than to believe in my gentle truth.

I do get along perfectly well with men but not with women

Why are women this negative?


EDIT

This my experience and write up here on nairaland is out of curiosity to see if anyone can make me to understand little more about women. I was also wondering if anyone has esperience this in their life or family

my view is that the best way to relate with women generally is to pretend to be nice. Always wear a smile. Sweet words and promises you may never keep but never let them know all is fake till you spot the ones whose virtuousness will move you

saphiere:
It's not a do or die. How many God's prophets and apostles were married?

you are right about ministers of God. Mary Slessor had to abandon her fiancee for the call; if you are willing to accept the level of calling and service the prophets and apostles gave, then I'm with you 100 percent

saphiere:
I'm so busy to be dreaming of a man. If it's God's will I get married I'd definitely get married. If it's not His will, I'm cool with that.

Some of you think if a lady isn't married she's not useful in/to the society.
This is 21st century. Change the way you think.

I think marriage is a commandment from God for our good

BlesE:
Good morning nlanders
I have live in this community where we've not had light for about 3 to 4 years, the light was restored around February after the incoming of the new community chairman, so my neighbour has not been around work's in Lagos comes back and stays for 2wèeks the very day the light came I and my wife went to meet his wife to discuss how we are going to connect our light, i called him some day's after on the phone he didn't take my call i wanted to do a temporary connection from our neighbours at the back pending when the husband will come so we'll discuss on how to get our new pole then connect from the main pole, another discussion with the wife she said the husband will soon be coming so we should just wait I had to abandon my plan and waited for like 3weeks before he came, the evening he came i greeted him trying to exchange pleasantries how's Lagos and work and all the rest thing's but was just forming activities of being busy I noticed it but didn't put much to it my wife also greeted same thing, in morning I went to work hoping in the evening we'll discuss after he might have rested only for me to see this selfloader carrying a pole to be installed, before then my wife told me that his wife came to her complaining that the husband is angry that he thought he has a neighbour that am waiting for him to come back if he's the one he would connected the light since that I let his family be in darkness I try to explain to him what we wanted to do but he didn't want to listen went to his house with my wife he said he doesn't have chance to discuss anything with me using the "f" word on me that i should get out from him otherwise he's going to fight me in the presence of my wife, he has done the connection he has light in his house. Pls house where did i go wrong.

meet the community chairman. You don't have to bring another pole except to share the cost of the already installed pole but you may ask to be billed separately

Deathisfree:
Hi Nairalanders
This is really disturbing me right now,I just wedded about 2 months ago
My mother in-law first visit was 2 weeks ago, I purposely left the house before she came because I was not really bucks up
Suddenly she came this morning around 7:30 am without a pre notice. She didn’t tell my wife nor call any of us to let us know she’s coming.

She stays about 35 mins drive to my house,my parents stays about 5mins drive to my house and they can not try such and perhaps. They are too busy for all that nonsense

I’m in my room right now alone here on Nairaland seeking for advice on what to do before I do wrong. I am planning to tell my wife when her mother is gone and warm her never to let such happen again.

it appears you don't have a cordial relationship with your in-laws. You don't loose anything by pretending to accommodate her. You may not have to part with any gift and you may politely inform her of any engagement you have; with time she will reduce the frequency of the visits without you confronting her

SATANICALLY:


https://thenationonlineng.net/chioma-deletes-all-davidos-pictures/

I may not be privy to their relationship but I think I read that her parents were against it. May God help us to always listen to good counsel