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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by missiret(f): 4:47pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Tenshades: as in ehn, what vexed me most is all those giving him yeye advise here, they are not telling him the truth 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Nobody: 4:48pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
RMoneyInTheBank: Visit me without asking if I am home 1st ..you hear....you go wait taya |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Princewell2012(m): 4:49pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Ghostmode2two: I bet it with you if he ever make the mistake of telling his wife about this, this will be the beginning of their problem. Only this guy will not come here to update us. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by eyinjuege: 4:49pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Mindlog: Wow, you were very sharp for screen grabbing that |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Midas01: 4:49pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
You're yarning dust. Since you so value the western way of life why not incorporate their laws too. Once a man is married his property also becomes the property of his wife and in the event that they even get a divorce, his wife may even be the one to receive ownership of the house in divorce settlement. Resident authority kor, resident evil ni. Also, nowa most women jointly pay rent with their husbands and you're gonna prevent her mother from visiting a house that she co owns... Cry you a river. dam4sam: 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by majorbravo: 4:49pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
ezugegere: I think the OP might have a wife that travels often and he probably lives a double life, maybe flirts around with other women at his home when wifey is not around. He is just scared his mama in law might catch him red handed with another woman when he wasn't expecting her to show up. Lol. But on a more serious note, I don't see why it should bother the man if the mum lives close by. The issue should be when she lives miles away and has to sleep over cos she can't return the same day. The reasons for this are understandable: 1. They may not have planned for her catering/hospitality needs and weren't given adequate time to. 2. They may have planned to travel before her arrival and this would disrupt travel arrangements. 3. She might be the talking/gossip type and go share information about their personal/financial state to the outside world, especially if it's not very good at the time of her visit. 4. She may be a troublesome fellow/distraction who expects to be given 100% attention. 5. She may have come for money which they don't have or haven't prepared for at the time. 6 She may always give wrongful advice to her daughter and cause marital problems for the new family. 7. She may make requests/demands of the husband or both couples that he/they may not have the ability to achieve in his/their current physical/socio-economic status. (For instance: a troublesome brother in law might have been arrested for stabbing someone and she wants you to go get him out, not caring how you do it). 8. Some mothers in law don't know when to leave. They turn the home into theirs (even worse if she is a widow, cos fathers in law tend to control their erring wife in this respect and keep them at home) and even command everyone about, including the husband of her daughter. When you fall less of her expectations she starts calling everyone of her children, including your family members and distant relatives to report you that she is being maltreated in her daughter's home. In laws should learn to give new couples time to bond properly before the children start coming. Most marriages that are dissolved in old age happen because the couples never really got quality time together in the beginning as man and wife and feel as though kids were the only bond holding them together through the years till they grew up and left home. This is either because the kids came in too early (pregnancy before marriage or were constantly barraged by in-law visits until the kids showed up and even afterwards). Those who invented honeymoon are not stupid. In my opinion the honeymoon period should be longer than most people observe. Especially for couples who weren't living together prior to marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by helpee(m): 4:51pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
emerged01:you think we are in the 50s when women die in their husbands house? It is not always about what you want if you want a lasting marriage. If the man can't tolerate the mother in law on a visit, what other things won't he tolerate? Such men that don't want families around their wives are rarely nice. The women are constantly Living in fear. If you can't tolerate the mother in law you may tolerate divource. You think your wife will automatically hate her mum just because you don't want her visiting? Be considerate. When you show kindness to your in-laws your wife consider it as love 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by eyinjuege: 4:57pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
capitalzero: Some people don't like impromptu notifications either. They would expect him to have informed them at least a week earlier, and not 30minutes before showing up. I'm surprised you would even consider disappointing someone like your mom if she pops in without notifying you. Notifications are always nice, but may be urgent and impromptu at times for whatever reasons. It's not something to get angry about imo, but to each his own |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by mcdokwe(m): 4:58pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
I see no big deal so long as she just came by and wouldn't spend the night there. She's family and we are Africans. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by emonis88: 4:58pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
mutter:so if his own mother keeps coming to their house like his mother in law, won't d wife start complaining too, women n their being inconsiderate, do u think it is only d wife who has her family near by? |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by ZooOga: 4:59pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
As I posted above, I have read some wild stories on NL. Here's just a few samples. I Caught My Mother Having Sex With My Husband - Romance - Nairaland https://www.nairaland.com/2900528/caught-mother-having-sex-husband My Mother Slept With My Fiancé - Family - Nairaland https://www.nairaland.com/545430/mother-slept-fiance I Slept With My Wife's Mother And Friend. I Am Askin 4 Help Not Curses. - Romance - Nairaland https://www.nairaland.com/430217/slept-wifes-mother-friend-askin “my Mother-in-law Lured Me To Bed With Her”- Man Confesses (photos) - Romance - Nairaland https://www.nairaland.com/4729573/mother-in-law-lured-me-bed-man |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Map1(m): 4:59pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
armyofone:exactly that is the causes of poverty and lack of good orientation |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Luak(m): 5:01pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:it appears you don't have a cordial relationship with your in-laws. You don't loose anything by pretending to accommodate her. You may not have to part with any gift and you may politely inform her of any engagement you have; with time she will reduce the frequency of the visits without you confronting her |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Kriss216: 5:02pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Mariangeles:You're civil with this moniker. Henceforth, I'll be responding to this moniker only. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by InvertedHammer: 5:03pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:/ Be a man. Go out there and give your mother-in-law two dirty slaps. 35 minutes away from you? This is just one of many unannounced visits. Some of the visits will be to gossip you sef. Deal with it. You don buy market. The best you can do is leave the house when she comes. Thank your star that she doesn't stay overnight. / |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by poseidon12: 5:04pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Mindlog: 25 years old, a Phd holder and lecturer. I guess OP has beaten Lie Mohammed at his game. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Camberlo(m): 5:05pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Take it brother, she is in your house because her daughter is there. If her daughter not in your house I don't think she will visit you. Easy and don't do anything silly 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Unrated900(m): 5:08pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
This is what you get when you cannot relocate Abiiii na family Ouse u Dey niiiii |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Mindlog: 5:09pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
poseidon12: That is what OP wrote in another of his thread where he described his stepmother as a witch. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by capitalzero: 5:11pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
eyinjuege: Impromptu notification is better than not giving any. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Mrnairalandd: 5:12pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
RMoneyInTheBank: Shush your mouth! This topic is above your low IQ and poverty ridden mentality! You sound like a typical village champion! How on earth would any sane person in 21st century buy the idea of jobless and useless mother visiting her daughter’s home without pre-info. It is obvious you r from a lousy family where self respect has been thrown out of d window. It’s totally wrong for you to visit someone without informing them that you r coming to visit regardless your relationship with them. That jobless woman should go and get a job. Guys, before you settle down, look at your wife’s family pedigree and things like this would have been avoided. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Queenethofficia: 5:12pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
if you tell your wife to talk to her mom about her coming, remember you have your own mother also |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Mrnairalandd: 5:14pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Queenethofficia: If his mother respect herself, she won’t be jumping all over the place. It’s wrong! 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by dochenaj: 5:15pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:What's the big deal with your mother in-law dropping in unannounced? What's wrong with you? It's not like her visit is going to significantly disrupt your life. I don't just understand the way some of you think. Except there is something you're not telling us. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by VTJN(m): 5:16pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:the solution is to change your location, how do you feel comfortable getting accommodation within your parents and mother inlaw's environ? They can't give you prior notice, it's not possible The solution is to change location entirely, save yourself the stress of quarreling with your wife. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by helpee(m): 5:17pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
The op is just telling lies. He said his mother is dead in one of his threads and here...he is saying his own parents live 5minutes away and don't come visiting. Is it the step mum he described as a devil that will come visiting?
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Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by HIPROFILE(m): 5:17pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Bro your wife may possibly be aware of her coming but wont tell you she knows because she know you will be mad at her perhaps she forgot to inform you before the mother arrived you know they always forget things that matters... This was how my mother in law came for Omugwo without informing me shes on her way...we dont even leave in same state and not even close distance a journey of about five hours. It was the birth of our second child and our first Son after being discharged from hospital on arriving home with my family just about opening the door the next person I saw was Mother in law I was furious but the joy of the moment can not be ruined by that The thing is people may think theres no big deal in this but if a man keep allowing that I bet you will regret the outcome in future so you better cut it from the beginning even in your marriage whatever you don't want to see in your home you have to start from the beginning to stop that no pamper here. Sorry to say this “Most women don't think about what negative impact their actions can create until it starts happening and u will be amazed how they will still apportion the blames on you. To avoid ruining her stay for the Omugwo I cant tell her I don't like the way she come without my notice even though we know she must come for the Omugwo in the first place but meennn I need know you are coming.. On the other hand My lovely wife just survived the pains of child bearing I don't need to start any quarrels on her despite I was angry about that So in this case I have to try manage and overlook my displeasure then talked to my wife after some days and told her I wont tolerate such next time and wont take that from any family member be it my side. My conclusion is as a man who desire a responsible home and not house. You need to disallow anything you don't want to see in the expected home you wish to have. A peaceful home does not just exist on its own it is built by the parties involved. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Mrnairalandd: 5:17pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Camberlo: Are you guys ok? The woman should have married her daughter then. This is nonsense! Couple needs their space! Mother in law should stay away from their kids homes 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by Mrnairalandd: 5:21pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
PrimadonnaO: Are you blind? Didnt you see what the guy write up there that the jobless woman come around a lot... Couple needs a space! Only a shameless mother without class go to her daughter house under the pretence of being a mother My mother won’t do that cos i know how much she respect herself. They don’t need to tell her even though she lives close to my younger sister home. You ll beg her to visit. That’s how it’s done in a sane family where self respect is their watchword 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by emecheboy2(m): 5:23pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
Deathisfree:Stop deceiving yourself, your wife is aware. So tell her to tell her Mum to leave if that is what you want. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by emerged01(m): 5:26pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
helpee:You have a point but my own view is beyond mere visiting. It has do with overbearing mother in laws. Who knows he maybe seeing the signs so I can’t blame him. I’m a married man, some mother in laws overstep boundaries. Thank God I have a good mother in law. Mind you every coin has both sides. |
Re: My Mother-In-law Just Walked Into My House Without A Notification by chival(f): 5:31pm On Apr 11, 2021 |
mutter:My husband and I had that discussion before we got married. I remember him telling me emphatically that we would not allow incessant visits from relatives on both sides. More than a decade later, my siblings have only visited about 2 or 3 times each, while his siblings and parents visit very regularly and a lot of times, without prior notice. |
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