Mariangeles:


Has she tried to contact you?

Mariangeles:


Has she tried to contact you?

LuvB:
Good evening all. I decided to write my story here as a last resort . I'm in pain . And I sincerely hope I can get good advice here .
My story dates back to 2004 when I met this gorgeous lady in my 200level. Though we were in same class ,i never realy took note of her till 2nd year . I just walked up to her one afternoon and we started talking ,went home together and we became really close friends. Shortly after ,my gf broke up with me ..not that we had a problem but she was graduating and felt she couldn't continue with me as I was way younger . I cried .went to my friends house and she consoled me . one thing led to another and we had sex . This was my first sex and wasn't so great . But that marked the beginning of a series of heart breaks . We started having sex regularly and I soon became very good at it . To the extent we couldnt get enough of each other . We had sex at every given opportunity. Several times a week . This is despite her being in a relationship. I on the other hand took her as my gf . Loved her so much . We were inseperable .Went everywhere together Fast forward to 2009 she got married and told me we couldn't continue our illicit affair.. I've cried many tears for this lady cause I truly truly love her ..I became a playboy but nothing could fill the void she left .I tried to forget her . I also got married . Somehow we got employed in the same place of recent .We got talking again. We are so so close . Next thing we started an affair . Just like old times . This lady has kids and I do too but somehow we CNT help it .The attraction is so much . My problem is that I feel used . I know I can't have this lady for keeps cause she belongs to another but I keep thinking about her . She on the other hand seems to forget about me once we are done having sex . Though she says shes just trying not to jeopardise her marriage ,hence the occasional "radio silence" I don't know how to keep her out of my mind . I love her so much but for the sake of my sanity I need to let her go .She claims she feels something for me but I really don't know what .Sometimes I just feel used . I really love this lady though . I can't lie.
Please I would really love to break the chains .
I need advice not insults . I know I've sinned but I'm human .
Someone please help me . Its been 2weeks without her touch and I feel like a fish without water . The truth is if she calls me up now,I would still rush to her . I feel complete when we're together . its insane

mariahAngel:


Easier said/typed than done.

You guys ehn...
So, are you trying to say you'd let the betrayal slide so easily?
Let's assume that children are involved ooo

OK. Let us put it this way: Your wife is the woman LuvB is cheating with.... oya go

NoToPile:


Then it has more power as long as its still a secret, once you confess the chain is broken and anytime you want to be controlled by your kini you might at least think about hurting your wife all over again , this your case is not looking ordinary anymore, Too much sex has caused something else.

You need to break free and it starts with confessing to your wife.


I wish you Good luck if you eventually decide to tell her, she will most likely forgive you anyway as long as you don't do it again.

NoToPile:


Thank you, somebody has finally said it.

Premium tears loading, do you want to lose all?

The devil is drumming for you and you are dancing, I pity you OP.

You will have to tell your wife if you want to be totally free you better go and pray if you are a Christian and you confess to your wife only there in will you be free. Saying it out is the very first step to being free oo.

culf:
Tell her how you feel, tell her about your anger and your love.

Afterwards discuss with her best way to end it which will be very difficulty. Best option is to move to a new location, do away with all her contacts.

It won't be easy

eazzzy1:
When you get caught, the feelings will vanish. When her husband kicks her out you won’t find her attractive anymore. There’s that subconscious feeling that you are better than her husband. Sleeping with someone’s gf or wife can be exciting but it always end in shame for one or both parties.

If you want to be with her, break her home and divorce your wife. Make a secret video or audio recording and send it to her husband. I’m sure if you end up together you won’t trust her.

If you are serious about leaving her, next time when you kiss her, just remember she sucked her hubby’s dick the night before, so basically you are sucking dick.

Another method is to think/know that if she’s nacking you she may be nacking someone else too, so you aren’t special she just belongs to the street.

Takotsubo:
@LuvB,
You should understand that you're a side dyck.
Your function to her is sexual gratification.I don't know why you're allowing your emotions to control you .

She has made it clear (according to you)that she has no plans to leave her husband/ family or mess with things in her home.

For reasons best known to her,she chooses to have sex outside her husband and you voluntarily chose to supply the d yck.

Nothing like soul tie here because it would imply that she's emotionally invested when you say she's not,unless soul tie is one sided.

You should know your role .Either you accept it ,do your job well and stop crying or you move on and face your family which is better .

I'm pretty sure you know that if push comes to shove,she would choose her family a thousand times over you.

Sorry .

Thanks... I've drawn strength from mature comments here

bukatyne:


Your village people mean business with you.

Imagine you developed another soultie with one of your numerous escapades.

SageMK:
You're cheating on your wife and you're not even remorseful about it. You're a disgusting person.

I don't what you feel for that whóre.
But one thing I know is it's certainly not love.

If there's any chain you need to break, it's the marital bond between you and your spouse. Set her free & continue chasing waterfalls as a fish.

Roheemah04:
I understand how you feel...the truth is change your location, don't get to see her every time...and pray pray pray...

Don't confess your sins to your wife...it would make matters worse...

Confess to God , flee from adultery...... it doesn't end well

Jimbadly:
You can't stay without her, yet you didn't deem it necessary to marry her initially. You need a brain check.

I blame the useless adultress who gives you free kpekus to fvck. I pray her husband catches both of you someday and shoots off your dick.

davidhobo:
Bros...sorry, oh

lenghtinny:
Indeed, only fools fall in love

bukatyne:


Men can have sex without emotions doesn't mean all sex would be without emotions.

And the more the sex partners, the more the ability to have sex without emotions or bond.

The OP has slept with two women if his story captures all his sexual history:, if he married the first woman, his marital/sexual life would have been almost perfect.

As it stands, it almost seems the OP is cheating on his side woman with his wife.

Munzy14:

lol, she opened your eye to sweet apples... Just allow her be, she didn't use u anything, she helped your ministry..

Just, like a deflowered lady can't stop getting enough of the man who opened her honey pot.. until it becomes an issue.


Sex is bonding, you guys always forget.

you are married, start seeing ur woman as her, and ur entanglement with her will fade away slowly.... Unless she handles u differently from how your wife does, then u start teaching ur wife how best u love your fantasies.


This life sef, imagine mounting on aunty nneka but na aunty Patricia deh your mind.


Erase what u have with her, and focus on your wife.

Mariangeles:


There's definitely a spiritual explanation to your bondage to her. Part of it could be because she's the first woman you ever slept with.
I also believe she's spiritually superior to you. The desperate yearning for her is draining you spiritually and slowly sucking the life out of you.

One question though: what is your attitude towards your wife as you have strong feelings for another woman?
She must be suffering

SUPERPACK:
Wherever you are right now, stop whatever you are doing and place your right hand on your head and repeat after me, ''I am a mad man and I need deliverance.''

GboyegaD:
You need to help yourself. Think about your wife being i. Such a situation, how would you feel? Use the energy from that pain to do away with her. It's not going to be easy however, it is doable.

devlishGINGER:
I you should delete her contact or try to offend her and not apologize... If she feels hurt, she may not want anything to do with you again. That means problem solved...

bukatyne:
@LuvB:

Is your lover's name starting from B?

That was on a lighter note.

What you are experiencing is called a soul-tie that's why she seems to be the only one who completes you. That is why your heart and soul is still invested in her.

As long as you see yourselves, you will keep sleeping together and defiling your marriages.

I would not be surprised if while sleeping with your wife, you call your lover's name or your wife knows your body is with her while your soul is elsewhere.

Is the lady using you, it seems so. Perhaps due to your 'obsession', you are a better lover than her husband so she is enjoying the benefits of marriage to the man while enjoying your ministrations on her body.

You are also using your wife: she is providing you a home so you have the time/emotional resources to galvante with your soul tie.

She married the man because he was financially ready: you married your wife because your obsession was no longer available.

Right now, you are fetching water inside basket by diverting the emotional resources meant for your wife to this lady that cannot yield any fruit.


What is the solution:

You need God to break that soul-tie. Go to Him in repentance for constantly defiling your marriage and ask Him to break that soul-tie and fill your heart with the love of your wife. Pray He restores your marriage (if your wife is still interested).

You might have to change jobs and loose her number (although something tells me you know it by heart).

It is well with you.

izzou:
One of the attributes of an Adult is the ability to master himself or herself and manage his/her emotions

She's married. What's so hard there that you can't move on? If she was dead, will you kill yourself too?

Grow up and let the woman be. You have a wife and children. Focus your attention on them.

I just feel for your wife and your ex's husband. They obviously married wrong and underserving spouses