Olalekank:

It is clear that you are frustrated

I would advise that you take a little break from posting and reflect, re-strategise and see how you can work with your wife to know the next steps.

I am done!!! I am a free man now

DisGuy:


Sorry about how it turned out oga.

She probably couldn't save much for your plans as she had to pay all her expenses and also settlement application + lawyer fees etc.

Las Las you're free!!!

Nonsense! Other mental health care assistant are doing good but her own na story story every day. Can'nt even make £18,600 for spouse visa. Abegki!!! I am free. Nigeria I am really enjoying this country. Just relaxing with nice weather. All the best to u all in the UK. When our government repair our country I no want to see Una for Nija. Lol!!!

Kenn55:
The trend continues ......

They don't realize that Nigeria is a better country at the beginning.

When their attempt to relocate out of Nigeria fails, they now remember that Nigeria is the best thing after slice bread and abroad is nonsense.

Chai, forced love

UK na country?? A country where I pay bills till bills finish my head. Nigeria is a free country and I love my country.

LagosismyHome:


I live in uk. . Trust me you dont want to see my savings account .

Both countries are good/bad to different people. One brush doesnt paint all

Hmmmm let me see it ooooo! How can someone in the UK that works as mental health care assistant for years not have saving. Shame!!

dafemnet:
Broda,stay in Nigeria if you can save 2M naira annually.

I am already in Nigeria enjoying my self and enjoying my country. Make Una carry Una UK for Una head. Lol!! I am a free man now. So happy!!!!

humblemoi:


Irony of life, weeks ago you were asking how to migrate to the UK to join your wife, but you're back here abusing the system because your wife won't agree with you to join her.
I hope Nigeria gives you more than what the UK can and hopefully your wife feels good to join you back home, if that's even a plan.

Oh I hope your phone isn't hacked as well.

Nigeria has given me enough, more than enough. I am so happy now. I can be visiting you guys with my cool cash. Lol! Lol! UK people that will save one year to come bk to Nigeria and visit. Lol

Olalekank:

Sha don't let madam come online and see these your comments

Let her see it. UK people no get money. Always living on loan. Some of them are not organised at all. Just spending without thinking of the future. Atleast in Nigeria we are still rich.

LagosismyHome:


30,000 naira when you remove RENT, food , transport. Clothes , household things ...how can you possibly save. Are you sure of that statement

Very sure. A friend she is teacher, earn 30k, pay house rent yearly for 35k( good face me ,I face you ) feed and cloth her self and have saving.

Olalekank:


I DUST MY HAND FOR YOUR MATTER

na you Sabi oooo! Nigeria my best country. Nigeria jakajaka as the singer sang, I love you so much Nija. Nigeria my father land

beryour:
Save yourself the stress, no need for more explanation. You are only arguing with yourself, besides your data go soon finish.

MTN every where you go. I have a free data and WiFi.

Lexusgs430:


You're sounding defeated........

1M is under £2K..... Need I say any more.......

Yes!!!! I know! How many of you guys have saved it in six months??

RalphJean:



He said best country to LEAVE.
I will leave it there. It was an error, only need to be corrected. Thank you


Meanwhile, this your quick decision, and ability to save millions in a few months (Most of it during lockdown for that matter). Does it effectively mean your marriage has now become marriage -by-correspondence? Kindly note that one spent more while on lock down and beside I was going to the office as essential staff

While I lived in Katsina State a long time ago, I learned some hausa language.
I wish I could translate in English:

“Makaho ya rasa ido; wai ido da wari “

Makaho ya rasa ido, ya ce ido na wari.

Literal meaning: The blind man who lacks eyes says that eyes stink.

Explanation: Don’t condemn the usefulness of something simply because you don’t have it.

Anyone able to translate please?

Literal meaning: The blind man who lacks eyes says that eyes stink.

Explanation: Don’t condemn the usefulness of something simply because you don’t have it.

Lol!

LagosismyHome:


She cannot save a penny because she has one income coming in the uk and not two and probably earning minimum wages... ofcourse that category wont have any savings. It like saying someone in nigeria earning the minimum wage of 30,000 naira and One INCOME will have any savings or be very comfortable in nigeria

So you are not comparing apples for apples. If you earn well in nigeria you will be comfortable in Nigeria, if you earn well in UK it will be the same as well , you enjoy here . Same with any country

Hmmmm! I hear you. Why can't one enjoy one job in the UK? So some one that works as health care assistant can't enjoy his/ her job? Atleast they pay them £1500 a month. Why can't that person save

Here in Nigeria I know many that get paid 30,000 they are comfortable with it. The low income earners still save in Nigeria.


You guys said one time that one doesn't need degree to get a good job. Then how can one get a good job without degree and live comfortable in the UK??

justwise:








each time you post the month increases .

It amazes me when i read from people who suddenly fall inlove with Nigeria just after their effort to travel abroad failed .

If you are now happy in NIgeria please enjoy it but don't compare these two countries.. two parallel lines

The increase of the month on matter. 5 and 6 months still the same thing. Within just this few months I have saved 1M.

Bros Nigeria is still the best country. Haba! There is nothing like freedom in ones country. UK u ride car, u are scared, u use water plenty bill increase. Lol. Is this life!! My freedom abeki

Olalekank:

I want to believe you are trolling right? Nooooo I am not trolling ooo! Nigeria is the best country, my eyes don open now. One can make it in Nigeria with good job

Let me highlight a couple of things for you
- The 1M that you are touting is mere 2k pounds lol: - yes I now. I know . How many people av saved that in UK ? Just few. U guys only live on loan. Lol
- In Nigeria, you can be shot by the people who are meant to protect you - the police. It is happening all over the world. See USA recent killing. Lol. Protection is in the hands of God.
All at needs to happen is for you to take an uber, they label you as a yahoo boy, and extort all the money in your account
- You leave home at 5:30am only to get home by 9/10pm:
Our government are working on it. Lol! We huzzle to make money, it makes us strong. Well for me I go with the staff bus by 7am, relax in the bus and at home by 6:45pm. What is more than this
- Erhm, can you work from home for a day without turning on gen or cursing the internet? That is one of the problem I will say that Nigeria has but our government are working on it. I believe it will change
- Would you rather your kids going to UNILAG or UNIBEN rather than a University in Southampton? I will prefer them go to convent university or Lagos business school. Uni lag is a very good school. No much different joor
- Have you heard of people getting rejected at different hospitals? Not true ooo! What of UK that takes longer queue bf one can see the so call GP. Appointment just 5min but, here in Nigeria the doctor takes his or her time. Your health care no make sense, different protocol. Lol
- Have you seen the numerous cases of rape in Nigeria recently without the perpetrators getting caught? It is happening all over the world

Yes, I prefer the system taking my money if it offers me good healthcare, good education for my kids, security, amenities, etc: hmmmm! Is that all ?? All for free!!! Lol. In Nigeria we also have best schools for our kids e.g British school, white sand, Corona, etc

BTW, tell me one place where you don't work hard

in Nigeria. no stress in ones job if you have a good job. With lot of benefits

beryour:
This guy is an obvious joker, while location shows London, you still come here to give us faabu of all sorts.

Ma je ki ara to nse pressup visit e oh

Leave location alone. The location was there when I visited UK 2018 and when I came bk I forgot to remove it. Let me even remove it fast. Make Una carry Una yeye London go. Just parcaging Una get, no money to show for it. See how I waisted my time that I want to come to the UK not knowing that no money. Nigeria is the best country to leave joor. All the best to u all

Lexusgs430:


Was I dreaming a dreamt......... (in zebrudiah's voice).........

So why do you want to run to your wife, in the UK?.....

Aye o........

I am not running again. I have realized it that Nigeria is a good country. If one has a good job one will enjoy this country. How many years have my wife stayed in the UK without saving a penny while me in Nigeria I have saved closed to 1M in just six months job I started. I am happy and comfortable now in Nigeria. What is the big deal in UK. What do u guys have that Nigeria don't have?? Nigeria is a rich country. I prefer it here with my family than the boring UK .

justwise:


Sorry which Nigeria?

Nigeria you know now. Our president is Buhari.

My beloved country. I just realized it that if one have a good job in Nigeria, one will be happy in this country and be happy than in the UK where one work y ass off. I am very free in Nigeria and I am not relocating again. A country that my wife has bin for years, she can't even save penny while me in Nigeria, just five months I av saved close to 1M. All I see in the UK is just the beauty, that is all. All y savings goes back to the system. I now like my country Nigeria and very comfortable.

Bigplans2020:
Hello Everyone,

I am a mother of 4, planning to relocate to the UK from Nigeria before December 31st this year, as I plan to apply for pre-settled status under the EU settlement scheme.

I have an Irish citizen son who just turned 17, and 3 other children who are Non-EU. I would appreciate some advice on how to proceed with regards to the following:

1. Safe and inexpensive place to live. I have been considering boroughs around Manchester

2. Low rent housing

3. School for my children aged 14, 12, and 10

4. Things I can do for income until I get my approval, as I gather it can take a long time

Any other general advice on how to settle in will be appreciated.

Why do you want to relocate Think twice. Nigeria is a very good country , with the little u have life is better here than abroad. No place like home my sister. I have heard a lot that UK is not an easy country to live.

Bourne007:
They are recognised. I've used for all my applications with no issues/questions whatsoever.

Hmmmm! Never heard of it in spouse visa application. You can ask any body

LagosismyHome:


your wife never talk the true story ............however if you feel you want to move to UK you can do it . Forget about that German language and find a traing school in nigeria that teaches cyber security or information technology and see if it something that would interest you . ANybody can learn anything you put your mind too. if you like it then do a masters within that IT space ........... that training in nigeria will give you a headsup into the program

Then come and do a masters with IT , meet her and it has to be one day at a time. if it doesnt work at least you done a masters in an area that has some job opportunity and you rebuild your life from there . if it works out then great .... you rebuild

Thank you. I appreciate

gratefulme40:



Why does she need to come back to Nigeria for registry wedding since you wedded in a Catholic Church? I thought catholic marriage certificates are recognised.

No Nigeria Catholic marriage certificate is not recognised for spouse visa only court registry

Tobexin:
it really obvious your marriage is a sham one! You married her because you knew he had England Pali! Pls read my previous posts, I never married her bc of paper, she didn't even have papers bf we got married.

But God don catch the woman got that Pali wuruwuru and I am damn sure she can’t fill in for you. If you wanna come to England to study it not a child play at all! You need close to 8 million. Can you affford that? By his grace Don’t think you can come to England and work to pay your school fees lol ko jo! You matter move on with your life. I don talk my own oo

Thank you

tshoboy:


It’s confusing that she’s your “wife” and there’s no wedding certificate to show for it. We are wedded in the church(Catholic church) , if you read my previous posts, u will see that we are married.

For starters, legally she isn’t your wife. She is my wife bc we are legally married


Best advise, assume she’s your ex-gf and move on. Stay in Nigeria, don’t expend costs on a student Visa with uncertainties.

Both plans include getting married and switching from a Tier 4 Visa to Family Visa. Yes, you can do that. Read more here https://www.gov.uk/uk-family-visa.

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Thank you.

dustydee:

Hi,
In my opinion, you can come with a student visa and test the waters. Just ensure the course is worth it and the school is near where she is based.
On the issue of marriage, it is illegal in the UK to marry more than one wife at a time so you will have to divorce your current wife before you marry another. Divorce is expensive and could be long drawn out except if it is amicable. If I am the woman, I could, for fun, drag it out a little until your visa expires
If you get married to a UK citizen, the process of getting a visa is still not easy or straight forward. If you are coming for a masters (which is usually 1 year), what time do you have to settle down, reach a conclusion about your relationship, start a new relationship while working on your divorce and and then planning for a wedding (assuming the lady is ready to marry that fast) all within 15 months? It doesn't look realistic to me.
Plan A seems good but I do not think you need to get married again(I am not sure if you are allowed to marry on a student visa). Get here, start schooling and working to support your spouse and then she can file for you. Please come with extra money because you will not be able to survive on 20hrs per week work.

All the best.

Thank you

LuvlyIva:
Hello house I was just discussing with a friend, she told me that my country is better than UK. She said I should not border to come to UK, that the country is hard. I told her my wife is in UK, she advice I can be visiting her. Please house I need help o for those of you that live in the UK. What are the advantages and disadvantages. Those of you that left Nigeria to UK, is UK better than Nigeria? What were the experience, Am I better off in Nigeria than UK? I am working presently and earning up to 200k, with medical, leave allowance of 200k and 13th month. (Can I get all these benefits in the UK?) My wife also keep complaining that UK is difficult. I am confused. I was just contemplating telling her to come bk and get a health care job . I need advice please my bros and sisters on how you guys were able to make it in the UK. What are the advantages of me staying in the UK. I studied Germany language, what can I start to do to get a good job. How can u guys convince me that UK is better. Thank you

Hello house please i need your advice. I am really down. I have really be thinking the way forward in been with my wife. I have read all your comments, advices and suggestions the last time I posted the above post and other posts. I am really thanksful and very great full. Many thanks all.

I have discussed with my family and a priest and they said I should try going through student visa to join my wife. That is not proper for us to live apart even if I have a good job. My family said that since we have done the Catholic wedding, we can not live separate, that is not good marriage and breaking up Catholic marriage involves lot of process but, I should try student visa and if things are not working properly, I can then decide the process of moving on with my life if my wife is still dragging her feet in joining her.

Last week my family called my wife and told her to come bk Nigeria so that we do registry and she fills my papers for me to join her OR I try to raise money to process student visa and I start up school in that way we can be together. My wife just told me that if I have the money I can do it, that the ball is in my hands. Please house I am confused, should I go ahead and start processing for student visa, and when I get it, then start school and try to see if my wife can agree to fill for me in the UK. I have started making enquiries on student visa. I also believe that studying can help me get a good job and start of my family life.


plan B is that if i get to UK with student visa, and try to make the marriage work and she refuses to agree to fill for me, I have decided to move on with my life in the UK. My question now for plan B is can I get married with student visa in the UK, how does it work? After my student visa expires can I have extension ?

For plan A if things work out well with me and wife is it possible for us to get married with my student visa? Will the process be long and complicated?

Please house I need your advice on both plan A and B I am always greatful for your wonderful advice, espicially those of you that take out y time to comment.God bless. Many thanks.

ultrazone:


I’m not in the UK but would like to chip in a few things based on the information you provided. [font=Lucida Sans Unicode]Thank you for your contribution, I appreciate

Bro, what are you doing currently? Working as Executive assistant and secretary Can it allow you immigrate to the UK or another country where she can join you too? don't really know. I wanted Canada but, there is age limit. I am in my 40's . Theresome places that if you immigrate to today, she won’t think twice before coming to join you. Like which places Pls?

Please try to make your own profile ‘attractive‘ too. My profile is very good. I work as executive in a reputable company.

Sorry if I sound very blunt but your wife doesn’t seem to be able to bear the consequences of you starting all over again. Then she come back to Nigeria. I only learn in the UK that most job one get easily is care job and they don't really pay well. Does she have personal reasons for telling you to hold on? All she says that UK is hard, one can not save, all the hard money one make goes bk to the system that Nigeria is better off I don’t know.

Slow down on the pressure. Desperation would do more harm. If she doesn’t want you to come, please don’t go. Anytime there is problem, she’ll be quick to remind you that she told you to hold on.If everything is fine then you can stay back Hmmm! Not an easy one on me, she can't waste my time like that

Here is what you can do.

Since you are interested in nursing, why don’t you get a RN license from a school of nursing here in Nigeria, and then cross over as a skilled worker.

You can do this yourself: https://www.nairaland.com/2863557/nigerian-nurses-midwives-dream-working

https://www.nairaland.com/5268048/adventures-uk-bound-nurse

Can you afford to sacrifice your current job for this new path? Not sure of that at my age .That’s a question only you can answer.

My advice is that you try to immigrate to the UK independently. That way you are better shielded if issues erupt in your marriage. Also, you’ll earn more respect in your home. If everything is fine then you can stay back.

However, if she changes her mind tomorrow and wants you to join her, please do so. That’s your only assurance that she’s willing to go through stuff for you until you find your feet in that new country.

Many thanks for your concern. I really appreciate your wonderful contribution. Kindly see responses in black bold. Thank you

mamacajah:


Oh really? Please enlighten me..which state did it or federal government handouts, apart from the northern states where they gave cash handouts initially and couldn't follow up..? mind you, food stuff is different from money.. in Lagos, for example, most of the food items were given by individuals and not fed. govt... I don't know of other states, so maybe you can enlighten me on that as well: - Here in Lagos where I live in my LGA, they shared rice for us and plenty bread from the government. They really tried. To be honest many area got things from the government

and you said 200k is plenty money here.. well, it depends on where you live in Nigeria... in Lagos, that money is not much..by the time you pay house rent sef for one room self contained, how much is left? :- [b]we only pay a year. But, in UK u guys pay monthly. My leave allowance and 13th month is enough to pay my house rent for a year. [/b]if it is in other states apart from Lagos, Port Harcourt and Abuja.. maybe like Kogi, Ondo, etc where the cost of living is minimal, then yes, that amount is big... and nowadays which job and company is permanent and dependable.. even the oil sectors have been laying off staff in recent years because of fall in oil prices and banking sector too has suffered..the ripple effect extended to real estate sector, where people are unable to buy houses as much as they did in the past..even to get mortgage is now a problem.. the investment areas of stock market, mutual funds etc have all dropped in value with low interest.. so tell me how comparable both countries are?

Talking of certificate, I thought you had a university degree, isn't that a certificate? I don't understand..I am a bit confused now with your responses.. do you teach? are you ready to learn? Yes I have a certificate in German language but, I can't use it in uk. As I was told that our certificate is not recognised in UK. Are u looking for other careers you could fit into that would help you when you join her there? I am looking at nursing but, I need a degree for it. As I hear that nursing fetches money. I was told I will start with auxiliary nurse right?
Anyway congrats on your wife getting her papers, it makes things easier... like I said previously, you can go visit her and take time to understand the environment. What your wife has, is what a lot of people are working towads getting, so please utilise it wella... Thank you.

Thank you for y response. Kindly see above responses in bold black. Thank you

mamacajah:


Sorry but this is sending off red flags..did she start complaining like this when she got her residency and not before?

She was complaining small before but as soon as she got her papers her complaints became too much. Giving execuses that I have to wait again for her to start work all over came. Last year she did alot of agency job as self employed to enable her come bk to Nigeria, then make application. She keep telling me she transfer from self employed to permanent job. I told her she can use the both, she refused.

Jayvallia:



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Oga your wife has found someone else. Simple as ABC. If I were you I'd take a leave from work to go and live with them for a while. If everything is fine then you can stay bac[/b]k. Else just carry your kaya and stay in Naija. Cheers

[b]If everything is fine then you can stay back


How can I stay back without papers. Can I stay in the UK with visiting visa but, immigration will catch me. Is there any other way I can stay legal pls

justwise:


Bros i think you should read inbetween the lines here, she doesn't want you to come to the UK and she doesn't want to return to Nigeria either, she only want to be visiting you and you are here asking questions about the UK vs Nigeria?

Ok lets just pretend as if we don't know that this marriage is in ICU.

200K is not enough to start comparing the UK to Nigeria because cleaners makes more than that and still enjoy 'free heath care' live in a relatively safer environment, uninterrupted power supply, good roads..etc

My neigbour works with Amazon and he gets about 206 hours holiday, 40-50 hours emergency holiday(go home anytimie you want paid) and 6 weeks paid sick leave a year.

6 weeks paid paternity leave, private medical benefit, career choice benefit..basically if he wants to leave Amazon they will help him to get trained for another career and you can leave at the end. If you worked there for one full year as a permanent staff and want to leave you will be given £1500 and more than that if you have worked longer.

You need no qualification to get all these and he works 4days in and 3days out weekly.

During this coronavirus problem he got 12weeks paid leave, this is not from his statutory leave allowance.

You can compare the UK to Nigeria on individual bases because there are Nigerians who are doing very well than many us here [/b]but as a system as whole..you can't compare night and day.

[b]Ok lets just pretend as if we don't know that this marriage is in ICU. :- bros I am hoping not at all. Since she got this indenfite leave last year she has bin acting strange, all plans still hanging to join her.

You can compare the UK to Nigeria on individual bases because there are Nigerians who are doing very well than many us here:- please why do you say so that most Nigeria are doing very well than some of u guys in UK? I taught the UK have every good thing in place and their money is strong and their pay is higer than we in Nigeria. Most bankers I know in Nigeria are earning very good money compare to bankers in the UK, please why? Thank you for your response.

EngrSaks:



Well I am getting the vibe your wife has gone through some hard times and doesn't want to go through those kind of times anymore when you come over especially with your talk of loans and further study.

You need to look how you will rebrand your naija skill set to fit into the UK setting, look at ways you can add value to her and not put more financial stress.

200k is not very much compared to the comfort and rest of mind you will get living in the same house with your wife and family.

My advice to you will be, talk to your wife, hear out her fears then assure her you are ready to do any type of work and not become a financial burden.

Get to the UK with your savings in hand, get any job to support her and use your savings to do some certifications in an area you want to focus on. (You can Google to find areas)

The UK is only hard for couples that dont have a common goal...if you're both ready to work and sacrifice for each other then you will enjoy the place but if one partner feels entitled and wants the other to be understanding and carry all the financial burden then wahala must dey o

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Many thanks for the advice. I appreciate