FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

Oh no no noo. This one no follow. Even me reading this, my heart is boiling

Uniqueaccountant:
Start ICAN finally. ....passed the paper I wrote out of fear...didn't attend tutorials for it just youtube videos. Scored 72

Pls, where can one get ICAN FORM. I am interested.

gaby:
I give this one maximum of 2 years, him and Wike go naked and disgrace themselves for market square.

He might play and fake to be loyal in this first tenure. However, when he has secured his second term, na fat time we go understand the meaning of roforofo.

I don't envy him one bit.

It is already happening. Is it a prophesy coming from you.

NaughtyBrainiac:
I understand your point but it doesn't work like that everytime.

So many factors will determine this.

Your Location
Your pay

A Bank worker in Lagos on the same level/Grade as a Bank worker in Ilesa Osun state for example:

They earn the same amount, let's say 300k.

The one in Ilesa will get a 2 bedroom flat for about 150k per annum.
The one in Lagos(let's say around Ojota/Oregun) will get the same flat with same facilities for about 600k per annum.

Some people also don't mind using 3 months salary to pay rent in a case where choosing an accommodation close to workplace gives them peace of mind and significantly reduces stress. Health is Wealth you know.

Overall, it can be justifiable if one has genuine reasons for going for an accommodation that gulps about 3 months salary. The person will make up for it in other areas like cutting cost on gadgets, devices, vacations, gifts, wears. Some will not even pay tithe to make up for it. It depends on individual.

I love this your advise.

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Eduek59:


I don't think there's any point trying to make salary and 9-5 workers feel discouraged about their current jobs

We should encourage and help them see the possibilities available online

I mean you can earn no less than 200k-500k monthly if you have a high income skill and the most interesting part is that you only need your phone and Internet connection to get started

I would love to be mentor through you. My salary is not encouraging. 08139451055. This is my number for an easy communication. I am looking forward hearing from you sir.
I will be grateful if my request will be accepted and considered through your good position.
Thanks.

Eduek59:
it's not easy for them. The most annoying part is that as cost of living is increasingly high and unbearable, their salary are not being increased to meet up with the high cost of living in the society/coupled with the new governance.

Let's help share this information to them as there are millions of opportunities online to make cool money remotely. Thanks man.

Good morning from here.
I would like to learn from any information you can help me with in regards to opportunities online to make money remotely.
My salary is nothing to talk about. I need your help.
08139451055. This is my WhatsApp number. I Will be grateful if my request will be considered. Thanks.

emmanuel596:
Work on your body and the things you eat.... you'll only feel body shamed when you actually knows there's something wrong with your body.

Ps
Unless you have a medical condition that won't allow you work out you have reason to be recklessly fat and obesed

.

Hello bro, how can one with a small body achieve this.

Bros can you help me with your digit so we can talk. Gat to learn something from you....

Bros. Gud day from here. How is the work.

I will love to know where u are repairing phone in Abuja. Wants to learn something from you.

Maybe we can know one another well.
You can help me with ur digit, so we can continue via any other social media.

Good morning mortals.
I be wan ask, apart from Lagos which is the hub for business and commercial activities, which other States or cities is good to start up and run a business.

I need una concerns.

Please anyone here that knows about Q1 group of company.

A friend of mine has been disturbing me to join Q1. That they are into logistics, sponsoring of education abroad. Please how true is all these information.

A friend of mine has disturbing me to join Q1. That they are into logistics, sponsoring of education abroad. Please how true is all these information.

[i][/i] All I have nah God give me.

Can soneon stay in a job that pays 60k monthly and further his or her education. Or should the person learn a skill.
Your opinion is needed.

EngrXrix:

Depends on the location sha. But hold from 500k upwards.

Am talking of places like JABI,MPAPPE,LUGBE,NYANYA AND ANY OTHER PLACES one get an accommodation of 90k.

I want to know prices of getting an affordable single room self-Con in Abuja......

Someone that earn 50k,is it possible for the person to start a family in Abuja.

I need a response on this

As a 50k salary earner,[color=#990000][/color] will it be enough for someone to start a family in Abuja. From the way things are going in the country......

I am new here in Abuja. Pls where can one get a conducive and affordable self con,which is closer or close to Wuse2.


It is urgent. Ur opinion is highly needed.

Good morning brothers and sisters. Pls I just say make I used this medium ask una dis......where can one get a an accommodation with a cheap price in Abuja that's close or nearer to Aminu Kano crescent. .

Your candid advise is needed.

IyaOmo1:
Dear Great Nairalanders

I am in urgent need of your advice on a decision I am about to make that could shape my life and my young family in about few months from now.

I am currently running successful businesses which give me a steady minimum of N1.5M per month with a potential for expansion. I have been nursing the idea of going to UK on a study Visa by September this year with the hope that I can get a well paying job that could surpass my current earnings here in naijja. I also intend to keep my naija business running but we all know trusting people with kind of investment can be tricky and risky.

What assurance do I have about earning more and having a better life in UK? What happens to my businesses I already built up in Naija? What happens to my properties here in naija?

Your advice will be of great help at this critical decision making moment of my life. Thank you

Sir, abeg connect to this type of opportunity.... Abeg.

b][/b]Best skills to chose. I need your advise from this forum. I have done a mistake before,which I don't want to repeat again.
I want to know between been a Chemist,learning of tailoring,and learning on how to repair an Ac/fridge. Which among these three is the best to chose. I need it as a side hustle to my education.

Your advise is highly needed. Thanks. :

[b][/b]Best skills to chose. I need your advise from this forum. I have done a mistake before,which I don't want to repeat again.
I want to know between been a Chemist,learning of tailoring,and learning on how to repair an Ac/fridge. Which among these three is the best to chose. I need it as a side hustle to my education.

Your advise is highly needed. Thanks.

Bastard1stborn:
Hello ooo, do you mean Auxiliary nurse or chemist? I won't ask you again

Chemist.

[quote author=yesloaded post=108035072]It all depends on your passion

Both profession is good just that you need more more to setup standard pharmacy than what you need to setup standard tailoring business
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OK.

SolomonGrundy:
WTF! Op is retarded. I'm outta this thread.

MASTERMIND04:

Did he tell you he wants to study pharmacy?
Always try to read and understand before giving your opinion.

Thank you

yuping:
Just go for the pharmacy technician.

Please elaborate more on this.
Which one is Pharmacy technician.

[quote author=TheGift post=108035803]

What do you mean “venturing into pharmacy”? Do you mean opening a pharmacy I.e drug store? Or do you mean studying pharmacy?

My general answer is what do you have a PASSION for, the TALENT to perform and a market willing to pay for it.

That is , the one that gives you the best balance between DESIRABILITY, FEASIBILITY and VIABILITY. [/quote


Yes am talking of selling of drugs. I mean opening of a chemist.

Bastard1stborn:
Pharmacy as in Pharmacist or Chemist?

Lol. Don't mind my use of English.


I mean CHEMIST.