cococandy:
Simple.

I detest men who don't remember you're a woman when it comes to collecting your money but will be quick to remind you you're a woman when they want to have their way.

Sophyrocks: I have a very big problem with the word 'Delegate'. Nobody can delegate stuff to me like that o. We Must come to an agreement. Just as it is improper for a woman to delegate chores to her husband, so also it is improper for a man to delegate which aspect of the home the wife is to be financially responsible over. You are to plead and come to an understanding. Communication NOT Delegation. You are asking for help in your responsibilities, YOU ARE NOT TO DELEGATE!!

By the way, since men naturally are to provide basic needs, food inclusive, what is it about 'Soup items' that this man cannot provide? He claims to want to provide food items, doesnt that include soup items?

I think i get where the wife to be is coming from. Perhaps the way and manner her fiance went about the communication of duties looked autocratic/domineering to her. I also think its awkward to remove soup from food items. You are to help out with responsibilities on your own free will.

mechanics: i guess as much, even d word sounds strange, now dat u knw ur man to b is into cult pls just disengage any business wit hm n meet ur pastors to assist u in prayers cos he may nt b hapi n he may fight back, but he wil nt succeed, al d best madan

zamirikpo: i like being very blunt u wil soo regret ur life if u endup wit dis guy.....run my dear run for ur life nd happines d grail msg is no place for a christian. jesus christ is d only way to the father. read ur bible @madan.

remsonik:
Why not try enlighten us about the grail message since u claimed posters on here are only making derogatory remarks. Madan pls be very careful abt going into that marriage. Have u noticed that all the people who commented in favour of the grail message couldn't enlighten or convince us about the truth of the grail message.
A lot of them in the religion are blinded and needs deliverance to be freed, the bible says do not be unequally yoked!!!
It is well with you,ur own hubby will come. Keep trusting God.

dexmundo: madam I am very sure of all reasons why u must not marry this man. I have listened to grail message lecture on radio. it involves spiritual probing even If they deny its occult. this movement does believe that God no longer speaks through prophet, apostle or even to Christians. They only believe the grail message as the message currently acceptable coming from God. their teaching combines the bible teachings and traditional religions. now how can they now claim that traditional African religion anchored on ancestor spirit believe is not occult? most converts to this religion are learned people whose lives were never transformed by the bible even if they claim to be Christians. one problem we have is that catholics over rationalize spiritual things because they don't teach them deep bible truths.to believe the grail message cos it is syncretism. to us as Christians that religion is pagan. remember, the bible warns a Christian must never be joined to an unbeliever in marriage. I can prove that to u in many verses if you don't know. so don't marry him. run for ur life. if u have any other doubt call me 07067064993. and I will explain to you from scriptures why u must put love, respect aside and abort your plan of marrying him. know that the purpose of marriage for Christians is building a godly home and heaven at last. thank you

cybug: lady,

Do you wish to spend the rest of your life with this man?

If yes, you don't have a problem here..

Don't let people all these people's advice ruin your happiness.

It is better that you're marrying a grail message member..

cos, they're far better than most of our christians brothers..


Grail message is not a cult... They have centres spread across the nation.


You can be going to church/mosque and be member... It doesn't stop you!


Cheers

great289: i saw ur post 'my people ve waited for so long abt dis marriage' what i understand is that u are eager to marry, (maybe cos of ur age)
my dear marriage is everlasting, u ve nt wedded and dia is a pro nw what if u get married hhmm.
My advice is think beyond grail tins, cos it seems d bad impression u had abt dem influence ur thought. U shld ve no the kind of man u are abt to marry so u wont regret in future.
For me i'd remain single forever than marry the wrong person

pweedyuz:
im nt saying u havent been to church b4
im asking if uve followed him to his grail service to c hw its lyk
if u can cope with it nd all

pweedyuz:
He denied nd said its nt a cult
sister,,are u saying u havent gone to check awt d church to c if its "God's church" ?
i mean hes ur future husband nd if dis grail stuff is d only tin u worry about in him....u are suppose to have check it awt....u know,,follow him one day to c hw dy do tins
nd if after everytin,u feel dey are nt worshipping God or probably u dnt like dia method of doing it or sumtin,,,,,,U FLEE

Lyk u said u r a strong Xtian nd kids will b involve in dis marriage so u need to tink about dem!!!

kadas01: You can marry a Grail Adherent if you truly love him and you also know fully well that he loves you too! Please let me summarise this piece for you briefly! The Grail Message - In The Light Of Truth brought by ABD-RU-SHIN is "never" and would "never" have anything to do with the "occult"! I don't know what your fiance has told you about The Grail Message but let me use this medium to state that The Grail Message is a Message addressed to earnest seekers, as well as anybody who is sincerely seeking for The Truth from The Most High Creator!

Please don't let anyone deceive you to start having a false and negative perception about The Grail Message. The Message is a book you can read to find out if anything occult exist in it! But I know you would never find anything occult in The Message because The Bringer and Author of The Grail Message strongly and in all totality condemn whatever has to do with occult practice!

The Message is the only Spiritual Word Standing on Earth today that admonishes all human beings including earnest seekers to completely "free themselves from all darkness"! Please my sister follow your heart but be guided that The Grail Message is The Best Gift given to mankind by GOD THE FATHER.

Best wishes!

benjibabs: Hey Madan,

I don't know much about Grail message, but I just scanned through a couple of lectures in the book on their website (http://grailmessage.com). See the excerpt below from the creation of man:

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Thus the great epoch in the development of Creation had come: On the one side in the Gross Material World stood the most highly developed animal, which was to provide the gross material body as a vessel for the coming man; on the other side in the Ethereal World stood the developed human soul who was waiting to unite with the gross material vessel, and thereby give a further impetus for spiritualisation to everything gross material.

Now when an act of procreation took place between the noblest pair of these highly developed animals, there was incarnated at the hour of incarnation not an animal soul1, as hitherto, but instead the waiting human soul bearing within it the immortal spirit spark. The ethereal human souls with predominantly developed positive abilities incarnated in male animal bodies, corresponding to the homogeneity; those with predominantly negative, more delicate abilities in female bodies, which were closer to their nature.2

This process does not support the assertion that man, whose real origin lies in the spiritual, descends from the animal “primeval man”, which could only provide the gross material intermediate vessel. Even today it would not occur to the most extreme materialists to consider themselves directly related to an animal, and yet there is now, as there was then, a close physical relationship, hence a gross material homogeneity, whereas the really “living” man, that is, the actual spiritual “ego” of man, has no homogeneity with or derivation from the animal whatever.
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Interesting, right?!!! I also checked out the lecture titled "11. Christ said…!," and had to run as fast and far as my legs (or mouse) could get me out of the site.

A lot of great advice have been given on this thread already, so all I'll say is: a word is enough for the wise.

stanech: And the award for the most confused governor of the federal republic of Nigeria goes to..











Alhaji Rotimi Amechi !!!

stanech: And the award for the most confused governor of the federal republic of Nigeria goes to..











Alhaji Rotimi Amechi !!!

stanech: And the award for the most confused governor of the federal republic of Nigeria goes to..











Alhaji Rotimi Amechi !!!

stanech: And the award for the most confused governor of the federal republic of Nigeria goes to..











Alhaji Rotimi Amechi !!!

femidejulius: Not many married people are lucky to have a man like u have. He is a very honest man. What if he decided to be going to church now and immediately u marry him, he ask u to immediately start following him to d Grail Movement? Or don't u think it is possible?

The most important thing is he is a good man with whom u can spend your life with. Contrary to your view, I don't think Grail Movement is a cult of some sort. For instance, they also believe Jesus is the son of God. They just happen to believe in things most christians are either not sure of or too shy to admit as at today. They for instance believe in reincarnation. I have a friend who is a member.

If I may ask, why don't you try to know about the Grail Movement by following him to their meetings? It won't cost u a thing and it will in fact offer you the opportunity to have first hand information on the Grail people. I remember my girl also use to think Catholics are idol worshippers until she followed me to the church.

Your man is not forcing you to leave your faith. U should respect his too... He is according to u, a good man ;good enough for u. Good men are scarce.

Think carefully before you decide. Good luck

Vikky014: Op grail message is like a cult to me o,went once whn a frnd invitd me to their public lecture,

andromida: What is the grail message all about. You need to know this and be completely at peace with what they are all about before you proceed.

andromida: What is the grail message all about. You need to know this and be completely at peace with what they are all about before you proceed.

sexymoma: Sister has anyone ever told you marriage is a lifetime thing...

How are you sure he's gonna allow you go to church when you guys finally get married
And you know too well that God detest divorce.. So if you wanna get married to this man You have to think twice.
Now let leave this and talk bout the future of your kids.
What are they gonna grow up to believe, In God or your hubby's
And like you wrote, you're a strong Xtain

Wisdom is the principal thing, and with all you getting get understanding.
Think Twice Sister... Think Twice.

sexymoma: Sister has anyone ever told you marriage is a lifetime thing...

How are you sure he's gonna allow you go to church when you guys finally get married
And you know too well that God detest divorce.. So if you wanna get married to this man You have to think twice.
Now let leave this and talk bout the future of your kids.
What are they gonna grow up to believe, In God or your hubby's
And like you wrote, you're a strong Xtain

Wisdom is the principal thing, and with all you getting get understanding.
Think Twice Sister... Think Twice.