carammel:
It is a known fact that men cannot take quarter of what they dish out to women from same women.

unfortunately, women are getting wiser

carammel:
It is a known fact that men cannot take quarter of what they dish out to women from same women.

unfortunately, women are getting wiser

pcguru1:
She stopped being a victim that's all I see

Yes bro

lalanice:
wehdon Sir, instead of you people to just condemn both acts and call wrong what is wrong, see the long lie,lie post you came to make instead. I hope you typed all this with a laptop and not a phone o.

I hope so too. And it's not copy and paste. Meaning he took his time to type that kind of long epistle and still made very little sense

Mindfulness:
Revenge is very sweet.

very very sweet

*On a Radio program*
A husband has been cheating serially on his wife for 5 years with different women.
He doesn't even bother to hide his philandering ways from his wife.
He comes home late on many occasions with lipstick stains on his shirt.
He leaves home sometimes for days or weeks to sleep around with his sugar babies.
His wife often sees compromising pictures of him and his side chickens on his phones.
His wife has stumbled many times on sex chats he exchanges with his side chickens.
This woman lived with the pain, humiliation and betrayal for 5 years.
One faithful day the kids were not home, the woman asked her husband to join her in the living room to watch a movie.
He agreed and joined her.
She slotted in a DVD and the "movie" showed the woman and another man having sex.
The serial cheat of a husband had a heart attack immediately he watched his wife having sex with another man.
He became critically ill afterwards that he couldn't function again. Of course she left him and moved into her own house.
The Radio presenter then asked his audience if the woman cheating and making her husband watch her in the act is right or wrong?
Come and see men fuming...
1st caller: That woman is so wicked!
How can she cheat on her husband and make him watch it.
It's unacceptable!
Even the Bible doesn't support what she did.
2nd: That woman is so evil.
3rd Caller: What a heartless woman!
See how she has ruined her poor husband's life by cheating on him.
The thought alone can kill a man.
That woman is a she devil!
4th Caller: That woman is a Jazebel!
She didn't even consider her children before cheating on her husband and rubbing it in his face. Did he consider his kids when he was doing his own?
How will the children cope with a sick father.
5th Caller: Why didn't that woman just leave the
marriage instead of hurting her husband that way?
She should have just divorced him.
What did she gain by doing that?





It's funny to know that most men think women don't desire other people when they get married. They do. The only thing is self control. Women of these days are not like our grandmas that depended on their husbands for everything. Our mothers endured because they had no choice. What you won't take from your wife as a man, please don't do it to her. It's better you ask for a divorce. Ever wondered why most men die before their wives? Ever wondered why people celebrate mother's day more than father's day? Ever wondered why kids love their mothers more? Kids are not blind. They see it all. And even though you think you're enjoying and having fun right now, think about your future when you're old and sick. The side chic will be no where to be found. Only your wife will be there with you. God bless us all

joeeee240:


SURE. NOW YOU'RE SMARTER. BANG THEM ALL AND RECEIVE SENSE

thats your personal opinion. I'd never cheat on a woman I claim to love. I'd get a divorce if I get tired or something. And I still don't believe any woman should stay with a cheat. There are so many wonderful, richer, hotter and faithful guys out there. Women shouldn't settle for less. They should learn to walk away for their own sanity. U wish you the best. Just don't give the poor woman std. God won't forgive you

joeeee240:


AGAIN WITH THE PROSTITUTE CRAP. MAJORITY OF WOMEN FOR THEM SEX IS NOT JUST SEX. YOU SHOULD NOT GO THERE. ARE YOU OK? COMPARE PROSTITUTES TO THE NUMBER OF STRAIGHT WOMEN. GUY THINK ABEG. THJS IS A NATURAL THING, SEX IS SEX FOR MEN AND NOT THE SAME FOR WOMEN. IT IS NATURAL. THIS HOW WE ARE WIRED. WE ARE WIRED PSYCHOLOGICALLY EMOTIONALLY AND BIOLOGICALLY DIFFERENT. DON'T SAY CRAP YOU DON'T KNOW. THE GUYS YOU KNOW IN REAL LIFE ARE PROBABLY PÛSSIES AND WEAK ASS BROKE ME THAT DON'T THE MALE PSYCHE. DID YOU JUST SAY THIS IS A REASON FOR WHY AFRICA IS BACKWARD? DUDE YOU'RE FÚCKING DAFT. THIS IS A MORE ACCURATE AND ENLIGHTENED MENTALITY. ..SEX IS SEX FOR ONLY MEN. I LOVE MY WOMAN BUT I MUST CHEAT ON HER IT'S NATURAL. THIS IS A MINDSET THING. AS LONG AS MY HEART IS STILL WITH HER.

ok

joeeee240:


THAT'S THE PROBLEM YOUR MAKING AND IT SHOWS HOW NAIVE YOU ARE. SEX IS NOT JUST SEX FOR WOMEN. THAT'S A FAT LIE SEX IS MUCH MORE THAN JUST SEX FOR WOMEN. THE FACT THAT YOU THINK MEN AND WOMEN ARE WIRED THE SAME WAY IS YOUR PROBLEM

sex is just sex for some women. Prostitutes sleep with over five men daily and they don't see it as anything. So don't even go there. How will you even cheat on someone you claim to love. How will u cause someone you love pain? Not to talk of all the stds we have presently. God save women form people like you. I'm beginning to think the kind of guys that come to nairaland are different from the ones I mix with in real life. Can't believe people still think this way. Well , this is Africa. And that is why our Africa is backward. One day, we shall get there

joeeee240:


EMPHASIS ON "FOR SOME WOMEN" WE'RE LOOKING AT A MAJORITY HERE. SO DON'T BRING THAT UP. SEX IS SEX FOR MEN AND NOT WOMEN. CHEATING IS FOR MEN. CHEATING IS NOT BAD AS LONG AS MEN ARE CONCERNED BECAUSE IT DOESN'T CHANGE HOW WE FEEL ABOUT OUR WOMAN. INFACT I'M THE ONE THAT SEES LIFE AS MORE THAN SEX BECAUSE WHY WOULD A WOMAN THINK OF ENDING A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN CUZ OF SEX WHEN ALL OTHER PARTS OF THE RELATIONSHIP ARE STILL INTACT. YOU'RE THE ONE MAKING SEX A BIG DEAL. THIS IS A NATURAL STUFF. SEX IS SEX FOR MEN. ONE WOMAN IS NOT ENOUGH FOR A WOMAN ONLY IN SEXUAL MATTERS. CHEATING IS NOT FOR COWARDS

I hope you'll understand also when your woman sleeps with another man. I hope you'll understand that she sleeping with another man doesn't stop her from loving you. Sex is sex for women too. And they see hotter guys too. It's all abt self control.

joeeee240:



YES CHEATING IS ALLOWED FOR MEN. NOBODY'S ARGUING WHO CHEATS MORE DON'T BE AN ÎDIOT CUZ IF I WAS TO ARGUE THAT MEN CHEAT MORE. THE FACT THAT A WOMAN CHEATS MEANS SHE LOVES OR HAS FEELINGS FOR THE NEW GUY. FOR MEN IT IS DIFFERENT. MEN SHOULD CHEAT AND MUST CHEAT. SEX IS JUST SEX FOR MEN

sex is just sex for some women too. Just the way sex is just sex for female prostitutes. They sleep with different men without getting attached emotionally. Cheating is not for anybody. People cheat cus of lack of self control. Cheating is bad. We should stop trying to justify it. Cheating is bad.. It causes std and the rest. There's more to this life than sex. We should try to be productive. Only cowards cheat. If a woman is not enough for you, why not break up or divorce her and sleep around?

Billyonaire:
If she is my lady, I will cheat on her multiples of times until she looses weight.

she can't even be your women. Cus you sound hopeless. That woman there will feed you and your immediate family

joeeee240:
YOU DEY TALK NONSENSE. MEN ARE ALLOWED TO CHEAT ABEG. WE ARE DESIGNED TO CHEAT. CHEATING IS RIGHT WHEN IT COMES TO MEN. CHEATING DOESN'T MEAN HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. CHEATING FOR MEN IS PROPER

lol fool. And cheating is not allowed for women? The earlier you realize people cheat because they want to cheat, the better for you. Women cheat as much as men. If not more sef. Just pray you don't jam one. Things are changing. Mo gender has monopoly of cheating. A woman cheating on you doesn't mean she doesn't love you too. How does that sound? I'm sure not too good. Do unto others as you want them to do to you. Don't ever dish out what you won't take.

IamEmem:


OK, I never knew she is married cos she is a strong feminist.

exactly. That's to show you that broken marriage doesn't have anything to do with feminism

braine:



It's people like you who cause imbalance in this world. I won't reply you again.

I'm sure you've learnt one or two things. Take care bro

braine:



If you had thought about my initial post about women being subordinates to their heads according to the Bible, you would have seen that I never meant that in a derogatory way. Not all subordinates are treated with disrespect. You only read to reply/fire instead of understanding.

there is no subordinate anywhere bro. We are all the same. Cus I'm sure it wouldn't sound good if I should call guys subordinate too. We all need ourselves. A married man and woman are partners. Equal ♒

braine:


Why you come carry this matter for head like gala? No so the thing pain you reach?

lol I'm just educating you. Women are not inferior. We are all equal. And don't ask for what you can't give. Marriage is give and take. Treat your spouse the same way you'd love to be treated

charleff512:
The Woman Would Have Done Something To Warrant The Fool Of A Bassey To Nurse The Ambition Of Bedding Her.Married Women Should Earn Respect From The Opposite Sex By Their Actions And Inactions.This Case Has Been Seriously Compromised.The Guy Below Me Opinion Is Like A Nose And Every One Has One.The Beauty Of Nairaland Is Diversity Of Reasonings On A Matter.Learn To Be Civil On A Public Forum!

wooow. A woman got raped and you're still blaming her? Africa my Africa. Where did we get it all wrong. God have mercy. Kai

tensazangetsu20:


But many women don't know how important communication is. So many women can't even keep a Conversation and they expect their relationships to work like seriously.

most women focus on their kids only once kids start coming. And it's not a good thing. Boredom is a bad thing. Once someone else other than your partner starts making you laugh, then there is fire on the mountain

tensazangetsu20:

Many people don't know that one of the major reasons a man cheats is boredom. Me I have made up my mind that if I can't find the kind of woman I know I can communicate with and she's interesting I will just have kids. Beauty will fade and sex will reduce but what will remain is communication. Many women need to learn how to communicate.

a man cheats cus he wants to cheat. There's no excuse for that. If he's tired, he cn divorce her. Communication is very important. Very very. You need to talk about everything. May God help us

tensazangetsu20:
Marriages tail because of lack of communication.

You need to be able to have and enjoy long conversations with your spouse.

My wife and I have been married for over 12 years now and one thing I can tell you that makes our marriage a success is communication.

We communicate. A lot.

We talk. A lot.

We discuss about everyting from our days to our kids’ future, from the weather to religion, from sports to politics, from business to friendships.

Any topic you name it, we sure have discussed it at least once.

Everything.

Sometimes we just laugh because we talk so much that we sacrifice our nights of sleep.

Partners nowadays have less and less time for each other because life is hectic. But you need to make sure you have enough time to have meaningful conversations with him or her and that you keep it up daily.

If you follow this advice, then you will increase the chances of the success of your marriage or partnership.

Just keep talking.

The above is someone's else comment on quora and from it hes not bored in his marriage.

Braine, come and learn oh. You need to communicate with your partner. Partner is the keyword. Not slave. Be looking for submission.

braine:


I'm sure you were taught how to have manners at home, but you refused to learn.

for real, you need to get married to a submissive woman on time. Before you give yourself hypertension and die. She's going to giv you the manners and submission you're looking for. Idiot.

braine:



You son of a poor church rat obviously don't have sense, so your talk is irrelevant in this matter.

Head . You better work hard so you'll be able to go to your village to marry a submissive woman ..

IamEmem:


Bro, chimamanda is not married, never heard she is or got married. I stand with you, rather than gender equality or women empowerment, pride, misunderstanding and infidelity could be the cause of high rate of divorce. Only weak men go against these concepts. Everyone need to approach marriage with the mindset of giving his/her best to make it work, it is a lifetime journey. God help our generation.

she's married. Amen

bezimo:


That is why Africa has far better marriages than the nonsense we see in the west.

In Africa. The wife typically assumed the submissive role unlike in the West were the wife typically feels she can always square it up to her husband which often ends in divorce.

far better marriages indeed.

banmee:


Yes you are right. It is better to treat women as slaves in africa and instruct them not to complain.

Daeylar:





How can he be happy?
He is looking for who to control because he is a 'man' and gender equality is teaching everyone that they are equal regardless of gender so who will be be left for him to control? but you want him to be happy?

lol are you minding him. I'd be happy too oh. Imagine knowing you deserve the world just because 'you're a man'. Nonsense. No be only head. Gender equality is not the cause of broken homes. Or u want to tell me gender equality is what is making some men cheat? See Chimamanda, dunno if I got the spelling. She's a strong feminist and she's still married. I know so many feminists that are happily married. It has nothing to do with gender equality. Stupid men everywhere

bettercreature:
DOnt mind them,gender equality is the major culprit,it's going to be very difficult for a lady to lose control of her home if she is very submissive
You can't put yourself on the same scale with your husband and expect your home to last we are no American or European
Men and women are not equal stop the shiiiiit

we are no Americans or Europeans but you can use their gadgets, wear Italian suit abi. The world is moving forward, you're going backward. Only in Africa. No wonder Africa is soooo behind.

majekdom2:
Michelle is submissive to Obama. Go figure. For every man, there is a woman and each have their roles in marriages

it's a two way thing bro. A submissive man will get a submissive woman. Check Obama well too. He puts his wife first. Have you seen the way he treat his wife? Go figure too. Not all these useless men we have everywhere

braine:



No, we are not equal in God's eyes; men are the head, which means women are subordinates to men, divinely.

lol mumu. No be only subordinate. Like you can stand beside Michelle Obama and look her in the eyes. See this poor church rat claiming head.

Sniper12:
dey deceive yaself. When u empower dem dey wud not be submissive most times. Go to UsA or UK women walk away from marraige like play or dont get married. Our grandfathers had many wives divorce was scarce.

lol I don't blame you. I'd not want women to be empowered too if I were you. Cus I'd be scared of them knowing how to walk away from toxic marriage. Keep living in denial. There's nothing u cn do abt it. U cn choose to marry from ur village so as to look for a woman to walk on. This is 2017. Wake up and smell the coffee. Women empowerment is going to get stronger and better. The only thing u cn do is to kill yourself. And who told u our grandmothers were happy. They endured cus they had no choice. No time for all that again. I'd pick one okonjo iweala over thirty of you one million times. Head ko, leg ni

Sniper12:
No solution. We have been copying western value and shits. Women empowerment and gender equality. Deal with it lol. Even some pastors self der marriage don crash

really? Shouldn't you be happy that women are getting empowered?. And gender equality is not the cause of divorce. We are all equal in God's eyes.




Op , you didn't mention infidelity

theblessings:
just pray dat u dnt see ursef in such situations, divorce is hell, esp wen u already hv kids for ur hubby

divorce is not hell. It's not the end of the world. It means you know your worth and you don't want to die. Your kids will understand. Your life should be your number one priority. Bn sad is unhealthy.