Supermama:
Its been five years since I got married and I am still trying. Its very hard for me to talk about this with my friends or relatives. My cervical mucus has become the main topic of discussion with DH. Everyday I wake up at 5 am to temp for consistency, and my main search history on my computer is how to conceive! However I try to empty my head by keeping journals, praying and finding places in my life to be proud of my body.

Hi!

Not pregnant yet? No matter how many TTC tricks you know and practice, pregnancy might not happen right away. Relax. Be patient. It can take a while :-)

Here's a testimony:


After getting married in 2001, Ashley and James began trying to conceive. "When we first started trying, I was obsessive and bought many pregnancy tests even if I knew my period was coming," says Ashley. "We probably spent hundreds of dollars on tests. We viewed making love as work, and it took the pleasure and enjoyment out of it." Eventually they went to a specialist and discovered that James had a low sperm count, so the couple faced the possibility that they may never have children. "I was at the point that I didn't even want to get out of bed some days. I was so depressed," she says.

The Positive: Ashley had a moment of clarity. "I just kept telling myself that when the time was right we would get pregnant," she says. "It's hard, and you often think that there's something wrong with you, and there really wasn't." Much to the couple's surprise, they got pregnant a few months after resigning themselves to the idea of being childless. Daughter Natalie was born in September 2003. They recently received another surprise: twins due in August, conceived without the couple even trying.

Praise be to God! :-)

BeeBlossoms:
Hello everyone,

Hope your day went well
I have been a silent follower for about 2 weeks now, been able to go through almost 1500 pages and I must say I love this group
Quick TTC history, I conceived 6 months after my wedding in April, that's October, but lost it in December 2014 and since then, nothing. I have steady 28 day cycle, done hsg and hormonal tests, all clear, do's last SFA was 23 million per ml, and 70% motility and normal cells, confused o, and I have tried most of the things I have read on this group already sef, any advice?

Amen @nazablossom

Hi!

Losing a pregnancy is a common experience, albeit a distressing and often isolating one. More than one in five pregnancies end in miscarriage, typically taking place within the first three months of pregnancy.

But take heart -- it's very likely you will come out the other side with the baby you've dreamed of.

If you are planning on trying to conceive, here are some tips to keep in mind:

-Know your risks. If you are over the age of 35, have chronic health conditions, or are a smoker, you may be at an increased risk of miscarriage and/or decreased fertility.

-Practice self-care. Don't be afraid to take time to care for yourself, both physically and emotionally following a miscarriage. Seek professional help if you feel you need further assistance coping with grief--remember there is no "right" or "wrong" way to endure a miscarriage. One study cited by the ASRM even suggested that couples who received psychological counseling and more intensive emotional care in their subsequent pregnancies had better birth outcomes than those who did not.

-Understand your emotions. A pregnancy after a miscarriage may bring up a whole host of emotions, from joy and happiness to a fresh wave of grief for your loss. "Unfortunately, there is no easy answer to dealing with the fear [of miscarrying again]," explains Dr. Zev Williams, director of the Program for Early and Recurrent Pregnancy Loss (PEARL) at Montefiore Medical Center/Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York. "For many women who have had miscarriages, they will feel extra vigilant and nervous." Although the mix of hormones and emotions are normal, be open with your feelings with your partner and health care provider.

-Don't lose hope. The ASRM reports that even in cases of unexplained recurrent miscarriages (meaning no underlying cause or reason for the miscarriages can be identified), roughly 50 percent or more of women, depending on their age, will go on to have successful future pregnancies. And that? Well, that's great news.

More of this can be found in my ebook "How to Overcome Pain of Waiting for a child". See link at my signature footer below.

Thank you and God bless!

oluwadamelola:
Mamas pls torchlight dis mata for me. It's getting me worried.is it normal to spot on day 10 of cycle? Its a bit mixed wt EWCM kind of. No pain no cramps but its a bit brownish. I have a 29-30 day cycle.

Is it normal To Spot Before Your Period?


The answer to this question is both "yes" and "no."

If you tend to spot right before getting your period, you are not alone. Doctors say that as long as your spotting occurs after 10 or more days of elevated temperatures, you shouldn’t worry.

However, if this isn’t the case, you may want to check in with your doctor. When you visit, he/she will first want to rule out any thyroid issues, fibroids, endometriosis, or endometrial polyps. All of these conditions can wreak havoc with your cycle and also impact your ability to get pregnant.

If the spotting doesn’t seem to be because of any of the medical reasons above, your doctor will probably talk to you about the luteal phase of your cycle.

Your luteal phase is counted from the day after ovulation until the first day of your period. It is also often referred to as DPO (days past ovulation). Your luteal phase generally stays consistent in length but can vary for a handful of reasons including illness, medication, heavy exercise and extreme stress.

Typically when a woman spots for more than a few days right before their period, a shortened luteal phase is to blame. For a healthy pregnancy doctors like the luteal phase to be between 12-16 days in length. Doctors also agree that most of the time, a luteal phase that is less than 9 days long becomes problematic in terms of being able to get pregnant.

This is because in order for an egg to have the opportunity to implant itself into the uterus, the uterine lining has to be primed and ready. And, for the uterus to be fertility friendly, the body has to have enough time produce progesterone to support a pregnancy before the capillaries of the uterine lining start to shed (menstruation). When spotting occurs, it is often a sign that the uterine wall has started to shed before the ovaries were able to successfully produce the needed amounts of progesterone. Sadly, when this happens, it is often hard to get pregnant.

So if your cycle seems normal and you find that you are spotting before your period, doctors say not to worry about it………. unless of course you have been trying unsuccessfully to become pregnant for a long time.

However, if you think your luteal phase may be on the shorter end, you will want to check with your doctor about your TTC (trying to conceive) treatment options.

ejimikeokwu:
mamas in the house pls I need your help and advice fvine, 4realwoman and other mama's pls don't read and pass. TTC has dealt with me, Jan. 5th. was my 3rd yr wedding anniversary few weeks after wedding I went back to school and dh was in another state. I used to miss him so much that even in the dream I will be having sex, I never thought it was an attack so when I told him we decided to be seeing each other at most 2 months. but it didn't stop the attack, July 2014 I was diagnosed of fibroid but insignificant and dh low sperm count and low motility was place on drug and was certified OK last yr. but in me I know that the above mentioned reports was not really the cause of our infertility I believe is spiritual. In a bid to overcome this I have been fasting praying going for deliverance but all to no avail so i decided to remove my mind in any thing sex and it had been working but in the other hand I don't respond to sex again as I used to and don't even allow my dh to touch those places that usually makes me wet he only climb and come down. this morning he accused me of infidelity and I don't blame him. mamas I need help to get myself back with out the attack occurring again. thanks for reading my long ranting but I am in a big mess. remember I used to complain of not being satisfied sexually now he thinks I started getting the satisfaction elsewhere. I love him so much that I have never thought of such let alone doing it. I graduated November 2014. and have lived together since then.

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Hi ejimikeokwu!

Shalom! :-)

Would you like to extinguish every flaming dart the devil ever tries to shoot in your direction?

Well, Ephesians 6:16 assures you that if you have your shield of faith lifted high in front of you, you will be supernaturally empowered to defend yourself against the fiery darts of the enemy. But more than that, you will be able to literally extinguish every single fiery dart the devil will ever try to send your way!

Pray before going to sleep and hold on the following God's promise.

Ephesians 6:16 "Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked."

Paul uses these words to explain the supernatural empowerment that occurs when a believer uses his shield of faith. When a believer lifts his shield high and holds it out in front of him where it belongs, that shield divinely energizes the believer to stand bravely against every assault of the devil. That shield of faith becomes dynamically and supernaturally empowered to act as an impenetrable wall of defense against the enemy’s tactics. In other words, faith is a shield to the believer!