Young man, you are mistaken lust for love. When you love someone, you take good care of her and also plan well for her life. You are so attached to this girl because she feels free with you and also open her legs for you easily at any time. You left this girl because she cheated on you and when she was dating another guy you were still having sex with her which was the main reason the guy abondoned her and her baby. Remember what she passed through as a single mother as a result of your mistake in her life. To me, this girl has a sex emotionanal problem and cannot do without cheating in her life. This type of lady is not good for marriage and should be avoided, especially now you are looking for a girl to marry. If any guy wants to make a good marriage, the best thing is to disengage yourself from any girl friend link before settling down. If you come back and start having an affair with this girl again, you may not be serious in looking for a girl to marry. There is also possibility of going back to her after marrying your wife, which may be a major setback in your marriage. Remember, all that gliter is not gold and a stich in time saves nine. It may be difficult, but hold yourself for your own good. Dont be a fly that follows the corpse to the grave.

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I dont know why someone @ 40 is still emotionally attaching himself to a girl (student) of 28. Does it mean, you don't have something reasonable doing in Nigeria? My advice to you is that, don't waste more time and money applying for anything again. Gather your money, establish yourself in Nigeria, look for a working class girl or established girl and settle down. At 40, time is not on your side. Children born at younger age are more intelligent and smarter than children born at old age. Beside, following this girl may give you the greatest disappointment of your life. Grow up man!

This is a sign that someone is not mature enough to go into marriage. Enven the Bible made it clear that marriage is between a man and a woman, not boy and girl. Some people do not know or understand the meaning of marriage. Though, in a situation like this, its the girl that pushed him into marriage unprepared. He left out of regret, that he was doing well when he was single but now he could not cope due to responsibilies. My advice to young boys and girls; marriage is quite different from mere relationship. In ordinary relationship, the young man can run away, but in a marriage, two families are involve and children as well. When you displace such awkward behaviour, you will be regarded as an irresponsible guy. Don't marry a girl that doesn't have anything doing. Either she has business or that she is a graduate with a job or that you have money to setup a business for her. Dont rush into marriage because you have one million in your account. If you marry and save money dont buy a car, rather, invest. Take these advices like seriously!

I can't make calls here in Benin. This is really affecting me.

What do you expect, when we have nonchalant, corrupt, fraudulent and irresponsible leaders who don't care about their citizens!

Its really wonderful. The best candidate for the job!

Your story is not complete. You need to open up more concerning what you do for a living, how you have been treating your wife and what you think brought about a sudden change in her before one can dish out a reasonable advice to you. Meanwhile, i see a woman whose eyes and mind are outside. Maybe, someone is out there promising her what she doesn't get in her marriage. Maybe, someone is spending on her. You need to go back to the drawing table, restrategise and come up with a good ideal on how to handle her with care. You know your wife more than we do. You have to wear a garment of patience and don't forget to pray without season. This is a period of temptation for you.

Its better you start looking for solution now, before entering into marriage. Your type waste someone's money. After one month of trad and white wedding, you start asking for divorce!