Good evening everyone, i have 20k to giveaway to two people who are sincerely & genuinely in need of it.

Those who may need the money should kindly send an email to raymond44peters@gmail.com, stating the reasons why you need it.

The two most genuine will be given the money. That’s the Little i can give from my pocket.

Merry Christmas in Advance Everyone.

Thank you all for your concern and heartfelt advice. I've tried to apply some of the suggestions and things are gradually taken a good turn.

For those who felt it wise to insult me,thank you also.

DrGroove:

Guy,you better stop embarrassing your mother (even if we don't know her )...You should be thinking of how to be settled,make money n spoil ur mother with goodies.. Imagine ur mum is begging ur dad for money but he is forming he doesn't have cos he got other stuff to do.. stuff like what? it won't pass beers n girlfriends.....


Use ur head.. Mother is all..Good or bad,right or wrong. ur father can never be like ur mother to u.always support ur mother!

I'm sorry to disappoint you but I have equal love for both my mum and dad.

I can't take your advice. Thanks.

Lalasticlala can u put diz on home page please?

pickabeau1:
wat exactly is your issue

marque

The way my mum bad mouths my dad in our presence just to make us have resentment for him is troubling. So I came here to share the problem and see if I can probably put an end to it.

SAMBARRY:
Hahahahah she's putting you on a guilt trip don't fall for it




I do that a lot for my baby brother to have my way when he's proving I'm a man bull sh




if she wants to start again invite your dad to into the matter and settle it amicably. You will see she will stop bad mouthing your dad





but if you have the money you can give her though. I see your dad is right

I've actually thought of telling my Dad about it but I felt it may make the problem bigger than it is. I don't want them to be acting like enemies in the house.

Am still a student and so I don't really have anything to contribute. My mum helps me with pocket money sometimes but I don't think she will even give me anything this time around and am to resume school soon.

raumdeuter:
Manipulation and blackmail has always been the weapon of some women

It's just sad bro

sunnydayasaba:
Sorry u find urself in such situation, i will advice u invite ur mum out to maybe a nice restaurant for a drink and chat if u can afford it just to make her look special and try to find out d circumstances surrounding most of such decisions, it could be a past feeling of hurt or she never loved your father even though there married, such things happens. Try to make her talk and after let her know the consequences of her actions to the family, her decision doesn't only affect ur dad both the whole family, imagine ur sisters getting married and treating their husband in same manner, they might be send packing if such man cant tolerate like ur dad. Even your dads health is at risk here, he's not talking doesn't mean he's happy or less bothered. So man up and take charge to fix things now that you still can.

Above all, Ask God for wisdom so u can use the right words when addressing dis issues. Gud luck

Thanks so much for this. I never really thought of some of the things you said. Thank you.

fromnigeria:
Tell her point blank what she is doing is worng and make it clear to her that she will not succeed.

I've tried my best to explain to her the best way I can. She's my mother and I can't be rude to her.

I don't understand what is going on in my house. Any little thing that happens between my mum and Dad she will call us (the children) and start telling us what happened but always putting the blame on my Father.

She has never explained anything and made it look like it was her fault. She is trying to paint a bad picture of our father in our eyes.

This has been going on right from when I was little but as I grew older I began to see things in a different light.

Anytime my mum brings up an issue concerning she and my Dad I try to look at things differently and see things in the other way before concluding. If I tell her what I feel and it's not in line with what she said,she'll get angry with me.

The latest was the one that happened recently. My mum was planning to go to her home town to see her family and so she needed some money from my dad to add to what she had already so she could buy some food stuff on her way. It is good to note that my mum had already travelled Last year during the Christmas celebration to see her people and my Dad gave her the money for everything she bought.

My mum works and gets paid too but she didn't use any of her money to buy those things last year. My Dad footed the bills. Now she wanted to travel again this year and My Dad refused to let her go because we just moved into our new house and there are some things which have to be bought and fixed in the house.

My Dad told her that if she wants to go it's her choice but he wouldn't give her any money as he has got some other pressing needs at the moment. My mum got angry about this and she told us.

I saw things from my father's point of view and tried to explain to her why it happened so but she got angry. She said I must always support him and that i'm not acting like "a son she gave birth to"

She has not talked to my Dad since then and anytime I greet her,she ignores me. I have two sisters,an elder and a younger one and i'm the only boy. My sister is at the ripe age of getting married but she is also supporting my mother in this,sadly.

My father doesn't seem to be bothered much though as he still goes about his normal activity but this problem is really troubling my mind and I really wish there could be an end to it.

Do mothers have to unnecessarily incite children against their fathers?

Is that why grown up children tend to cater for their mothers more and forgetting the struggle of their fathers even while they are still alive?

Matured advise please.