bukatyne:


The mother is a failed mother and the father a pervert.

I would not be surprised if the father rapes the daughter.

Just curious : how come you and your neighbor know so much about them?

thought of that.

sapien:
Good evening, Fam.

I moved into this new area on Lagos Mainland some couple of months ago. However, I just noticed that my middle-aged neigbour in the next building has a penchant for stripping his quite voluptuous, 16-year-old teenage daughter naked in order to punish her whenever she offends him.

I made some enquiries from my other neighbours and I learnt that he has been engaging in this "ritual" for the past 2 years. He sends his wife - the girl's mum and his 2 other children - boys - out of the room, strips his daughter naked and starts whipping her until he is satisfied. I was shocked when I further learnt that the mother had never protested or raised an eyebrow against her husband's weird ritual, but she would rather walk out of the house quietly until whenever the husband was done with their daughter.

I want to enquire if there is any NGO that can take up such case in Lagos and environs, if reported or, better still, if there is any alternative solution to this seemingly case of perversion.

sounds messed up

If a child needs to be caned. It should be done firmly and in private.

Ishilove:
I'm an advocate to factory resetting flogging, but the flogging should go hand in hand with counseling. You flog in part, counsel in part. You should also know where to draw the line when using the cane. So many of us were abused as kids so we see excessive flogging as discipline.

There's a difference between disciplinary flogging and downright abuse. Finding the thin line is where it becomes dicey.

The thin line not knowing where it is may be a reason not to flog.

lacapine:
. Even my biological child, I flog. She doesn't see herself as an outsider and we have such a good relationship. If we didn't, she wouldn't have stayed 6 years and refusing to go. Mind you, she travels home.once in a while and comes back on her own accord. She understands the reason why she is being flogged and this morning, I sat her down and was talking to her again even though I was tired of talking.

Does the child cry when you flog her? If so let her finish crying then it is a good time to talk to her

lacapine:
I have a 17 years old maid who would be 18 in June. She came when she was 12 and she is like family now. She is in SS1. My problem is her issues with boys. Always keeping boyfriends of which I discourage her big time. Had to ask her why she keeps them, she said because her classmates/ friends have boyfriends.

I have screamed and threatened but she will still keep. What am I doing wrong? Should I allow her just keep them? I teach her sex education though but she says she isn't sexually active. Today, I saw the picture she and the guy posted on facebook holding each other. I lost it today. I flogged and punished her. I'm I being too hard? How do I help her? We wanted to help her till university days but with these, we are scared and reconsidering sending her back after ss3.

How best do I handle this situation.

it does seem here the child required correction. Losing it isn't a good thing. Especially not with a 17 year old. She needs to understand the reason she's being caned is her behavior not that you lost it. After the flogging I would minister with her an d talk about what is expected of her

that young child it seems to be too severe

she's pouring chemicals into the soup. Is she trying to kill someone or just acting like an angry thoughtless child?