Business / Re: Folorunsho Alakija And Her Husband, Modupe Separate After 30 Years Of Marriage by Melst: 5:45pm On Mar 10 |
jeromestarks: I can NEVER marry a woman who is wealthier than me. And I will never allow my wife to be richer than me. Never!
Women misuse power. They tend to insult men at the slightest opportunity they get.
Your marriage can not last if your wife has as much money as you. Please help me relate this to Bills and Elon’s marriages. Dangote too to mention but a few. Beautiful analysis by the way… 2 Likes |
Travel / Re: Share Your Experience With Commercial Drivers Since The Removal Of Subsidy by Melst: 4:16pm On Jun 28, 2023 |
LONEWOLFJOHN: what do you do for a living? Because the way you sound, you don't know anything at all Okay |
Travel / Re: Share Your Experience With Commercial Drivers Since The Removal Of Subsidy by Melst: 6:35pm On Jun 27, 2023 |
LONEWOLFJOHN: passengers are yet to wakeup to reality! Price of fuel tripled, transport fare are suppose to be triple, now people are begging drivers to consider them but yet fueling point are even cheating on their meter. How do you want driver to survive! They zoom off not because they prefer to go empty but they are avoiding bad market who will occupy space for next bus stop Anybody tripling transport fare because cost of gasoline tripled is very greedy. Why will you want to make triple profit? This is why our naira keeps losing value. Because if transport fare triples and every other thing triples, what has anyone achieved? Even double is on the high side. Because the normal thing is to spread the extra cost of buying the gasoline on all passengers. So if you used to use 1k on fuel to carry 20 people @ 200 naira, and you now spend 3k, the difference is 2k. Divide 2k by 20 and that's 100 naira increment per person. Let's stop the unnecessary greed please. Are most of them not blowing empty? 1 Like |
Politics / Re: Buhari, Atiku, Tinubu, Obi: 4 Lessons Nigeria's 2023 Elections Taught Me - Reno by Melst: 9:09am On Jun 16, 2023 |
NwekeUG: Buhari, Atiku, Tinubu, Obi: 4 Lessons Nigeria's 2023 Elections Taught Me - Reno Omokri
Former presidential aide, Reno Omokri has shared the four vital lessons Nigeria's 2023 presidential election taught him, IGBERETV reports.
Reno wrote on his Twitter handle;
https://twitter.com/renoomokri/status/1669329071124168704?s=20
Obi it is then. Because not only does a trader knows the way, he leads the way, he goes the way and also makes profit from the way. We Nigerians need and want profits from the blessings of mother nature to this dear country of ours. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Properties / Re: How Long Does It Take The Probate Judge To Issue Letter Of Administration? by Melst: 2:13pm On Jun 12, 2023 |
Orangedreams: Dear property colleagues, men and brethren, please who is familiar with what it takes to obtain letter of Administertion in Lagos state particularly after after 21days newspaper publication?
This is my first experience with obtaining LA at Alausa Ikeja. Our Lawyer has been on it for sometimes now even though we heard it takes about 6months to come out. But my worries now is that we did our mandatory newspaper publication of the property in early October and since after then our lawyer has been saying we are at the issuance state.
My question now is, since the publication has since past, why is it taking so long for the LA to be issued by the probate judge? Please are there people here who are familiar with how long it takes to issue LA after publication?
Please allay my worries and expectations. Thanks
Please did the court require your surety to have a CofO? |
Family / Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Melst: 4:55pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: Thank you all for your excellent contributions. Please note the following:
1. They said the man abandoned them, but what if it's not actually what happened, so let's not be emotional.
2. I'm not paying the bride price to the biological father, but there should be an understanding between both fathers at this point. because if the child was taken away from the man or if he had acted as a child then, both parents can come to an understanding so that my wife won't hurt any part of the tradition in the course of our marriage.
3. I know that my mother inlaw would be angry, but I still feel it's my right to know. What if something bad happens to my wife because she married in a way that violates her tradition (give Caeser things to Caesar)
4. I'm doing this for my fiancee not me, because as far as I've paid my bride price nothing can come to me, but if anything comes to my wife, it automatically affects me. So it's not just her and her mum's business.
Thank you as you put this thoughts into consideration as well.
Please excuse typos It's not seeing the man that is wrong, it's your motive for seeing the man that is totally flawed. You sound like you don't even trust the family you are marrying from. And if your reasoning holds any semblance of truth, why did the mum not do same to her current husband? If it were to be the other way around, would you look for the biological mum to verify the man's story? I hope all these madness you are reading online against women is not affecting you? If you are all for brokering peace between them, then make them see reasons with you why he should be involved. Preach peace. But if your intention is to form detective, then leave it for your family members to do that. After all, you should investigate the family you're marrying into to avoid stories that touch. And you men are actually very much capable of abandoning your progeny. It's not news. It's as old as the future. The question should be, why did he not fight to be part of her life all these years? You should be miffed at his level of irresponsibility. Not looking for a way to vindicate him and label the mum as the problem. That's callous to say the least. And remember she was adopted by her stepdad so he's legally her father. 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Worried About My 1year Marriage! by Melst: 1:35pm On May 26, 2023 |
You have to address the root cause. I have noticed that women are better at handling stress and certain crises than men. When I say root cause, not of the sexual inadequacies but of the high blood pressure. Because it's that same issue that is translating to your sex life. It's not every man that will lose millions this minute and have the urge for sex the next.
Some people are emotionally mature enough to separate various aspects of their lives but others can't. So failure in one aspect, or perceived failure in one aspect affects other areas of their lives.
I wouldn't say you not being sexually attracted to her or not loving her is a problem because from your story, you are sleeping around. So it's not like you are that kind of man that needs to love a woman or have a certain attraction for her before having sex with her.
My advice, sort the root cause or try to separate it from your sex life with your wife. And you need to stop having sex with those ladies because they will only make things worse especially if you have a conscience. Because I don't know how your stuff will have the decency of going up after cheating on a woman you swore before God and man to honor and respect. A woman that has done nothing to you but love you. A decent woman. You need total reconfiguration. Your mindset, your values and morals. There's a gap. You don't in your attempt to solve a problem, add to it and hurt someone in the process. Except of course, you have chosen to be like these married randy men that have no regards nor respect for that institution. |
Family / Re: Marriage: Specs Or Peace Of Mind? by Melst: 6:54am On Sep 04, 2022 |
truthsayer009:
Hmm seeing this beautiful writeup, I pray God gives you what you want. Although I don't know how old you are, this is also an important part on people's expectation. Finding someone you love & that loves you back the same way is almost impossible. It is usually either they are crazy about you OR you are cray about them, somehow one of you will have to settle. To be fair, I haven't seen a 50/50 love combination before.
That being said, a man that looks like a monkey figuratively but gives peace of mind is also very dangerous for your marriage, whatever you do. Still make sure you are somewhat physically attracted to your partner because sex will always be a chore if the attraction is not there, take it from me. I am 100% sure of this.
It is hard having sex with someone you aren't attracted to. Well, beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder, and attraction, especially that emanating from genuineness of thoughts and feelings rarely depends on just physical. That's where chemistry and love comes to play. I have seen an azz man head over heels with a lady without azz. Most times, we don't even know what actually will tick that part of us. The most handsome guy I have dated wasn't the one I was most physically attracted to. Amen to your prayers. May we find that genuine love devoid of deceit. Because marrying wrongly is deadlier than not marrying at all. In my late twenties by the way. Sorry for the late response. |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: 2 Years Contract Job Or Permanent Staff. by Melst: 11:16pm On Aug 16, 2022 |
tshtsh:
Yes I worked in the IT department of a bank as a computer science grad. Got the three years experience while trying to get a job at a better structured organization. As that didn't work out I used the three years experience to claim work experience points for Canada express entry. Got a PR and now working at a multi national software company in Toronto. Nothing spoil. Lovely. Good for you ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) . And it continues. Brain drain... |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: 2 Years Contract Job Or Permanent Staff. by Melst: 3:31pm On Aug 16, 2022 |
tshtsh:
Both contract and permanent staff positions at Zenith bank should be seen/taken as temporary jobs. If you did not join the bank in its early days and work directly with Jim Ovia you are likely to regret spending a long time there. Even the IT guys with entry level salaries of 6M + know this used zenith as a stop-gap job to a better job. There is no growth on that job. I agree. Sadly most jobs in Nigeria have similar attributes. It's just a stepping stone. Gather the experience you need, build and develop yourself and move to higher positions in other companies or industries. That's the best way to grow career-wise. |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: 2 Years Contract Job Or Permanent Staff. by Melst: 8:07pm On Jul 29, 2022 |
exco90: Hello Nairalanders,please I need you to clarify me on something Two year contract job with zenith not far from home 200 to and from with 110k per month in akowonjo/ Lagos or permanent staff Job with 75k per month in ilupeju oshodi lagos 900 to and fro.. please which one should my sis go for.. we have till tomorrow to accept one of the offer ... Please which one is better Zenith bank so called "contract job" is actually easily renewable and you get converted before four years to full staff and you enjoy certain benefits too. It's much better in my opinion. The job is also very secure as long as you don't commit fraud. Plus you can easily move to other banks with the experience. That is if of course the person loves banking job. 3 Likes |
Family / Re: House Clearance Sales.. Come In Here!!!! by Melst: 3:45pm On Jun 30, 2022 |
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Education / Re: Apply For 2022/2023 PTDF Overseas Postgraduate Scholarship Scheme by Melst: 5:59am On May 28, 2022 |
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Romance / Re: My Neighbour And His Girlfriend Have Been Living Together Like Married Couples by Melst: 10:31am On May 23, 2022 |
JONSYN7154: Am from Benue and I married an Igbo Lady and I can confidently tell you that they are awesomely GOOD. Awwwnnnn. Exactly what I'm a product of. Tiv, idoma or Igede? My mum was awesome, God bless her soul. |
Family / Re: Marriage: Specs Or Peace Of Mind? by Melst: 6:20pm On May 21, 2022 |
bukatyne:
@bold:
Beautiful. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) . Thank you dear. |
Properties / Re: Should I Complete My Mother House Or Build Mine First? I'm In Dillenma Pls Help by Melst: 3:49pm On May 15, 2022 |
Barrister026: Hello all,
This is difficult situation for me, my mom's house has been left uncompleted since 2014 just the foundation and probably 2couch were placed ontop since then it's been there because she had to send my siblings and I to higher institution. Now am of age, doing quite well for myself. I think am finally ready to build a house, was thinking about getting a land 100 by 50 and raise 5 bedroom flats... but on the other hand that my mom's building had been left uncompleted since it's a family land, relatives are starting to say somethings and sometimes I could see the shame on my mom's face when she goes to her family compound. Almost every months they always call her to come clear it that it has become harbor for snakes and pests. So I thought why don't I just complete it for her first.
The issue here Is immediately I told my fiancee she said it's a good idea but kicked against it. That I should build mine first, before completing my mom's. That it can wait.
I also confided in a friend of mine, he said almost same thing, that my thing is different from our own. Saying am not the only one my mom gave birth to, if I complete it now I should be ready to share it with my siblings no matter what when the time comes.
I'm confused and need advice on the step to take. I would really want to complete that house for my mom I Know it would mean a lot to her..I'm really confused.
One way or the other somebody has to develop it, if I the first son don't do it now that am financially stable. Then my younger bro will do it, trust me it won't make sense that way that's just my fear. This is a dicey situation. And if you choose either, you'll not feel completely fulfilled. I'll advise you do both but prioritize one. Compulsorily, do buy your own land. Then you can start working on your mum's. These beloved parents of ours don't give notice. Mine didn't. I was barely settled when I lost both. I know all the plans I had for my mum especially. My consolation was that at every stage even while I was a still a student, I always got her something memorable. I denied myself of certain things just to make her smile because she deserved it. You know that kind of awesome sacrificial mama. The point is, do both simultaneously but prioritize hers. Once your younger siblings are able to, they will support you and make the work go faster. It's your family house, it belongs to all of you so it will still remain your property. May God fill you with wisdom to go about this in the best possible way that will be beneficial to all involved. Cheers. |
Family / Re: My Father Dragging My Mom's Property With Me, how the Issue Was Resolved by Melst: 8:59pm On Apr 21, 2022 |
immortalcrown: You said your mother inherited the property from her father. You said your mother's siblings tried but failed to collect the property because your maternal grandfather, before his death, gave your mother the property. So, as long as your father legally married your mother and your mother died, your father owns the property. The only thing that can change it is if your mother legally willed the property to you before her death. Did your mother write a will concerning the property? If yes, who does the will mention as the owner of the property? If no will, your father owns the property. I am not typing anyhow. I am educating you. But I am not forcing the knowledge on you. You have the right to reject the knowledge if you detest the knowledge. There's no law in Nigeria that says when a woman dies intestate, her properties belong to the husband. Non at all. The law says her properties belong to the spouse and children. And the sharing ratio is to be determined by the court of law. So he has equal claims as the dad. And if he's able to prove that the dad only wants to sell and squander the money, and the judge is sensible, the dad gets a smaller ratio. Then customary laws are there too that are followed. In some parts of Igbo land for example, ladies don't inherit so it holds in some cases where applicable. Lastly, only a shameless man drags his wife's property with his son. In most cases, such men are the squanderer. Ideally, he should be building something for his children to inherit, not selling off family properties. 1 Like |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: How Much Is My Salary? Help!! by Melst: 5:19pm On Mar 18, 2022 |
GboyegaD:
Being charitable outside is corporate social responsibility and a means of selling itself so not totally altruistic. Employee focus is also a very important management practice and comes before CSR in terms of priorities and hierarchy. You are first responsible to your employees before the society. |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: How Much Is My Salary? Help!! by Melst: 4:40pm On Mar 18, 2022 |
GboyegaD:
A company is no charity organization and expecting them to do this means you are not been fair to them. But they can be charitable outside right? But not to the workers bringing the money. Last time I checked, charity begins at home. Workplace is the new home. |
Technology Market / Re: Professor On Any Type Of Generator. by Melst: 10:55pm On Jan 28, 2022 |
suco01:
That particular TEC 2.5kva is always not a good deal but u can still give the suggestion a shot I will. Thank you so much |
Technology Market / Re: Professor On Any Type Of Generator. by Melst: 3:13pm On Jan 28, 2022 |
Gptech:
If you have a service center close to you, take it there. They are at PZ Cussons. I will. Thank you |
Technology Market / Re: Professor On Any Type Of Generator. by Melst: 12:49pm On Jan 28, 2022 |
suco01:
What's the kva of the tech gen. Wetin u dey use the gen for after a year don dey give issues. Consuming too much oil, do u mean it shorts oil, if yes does it smokes, any oil leakages, what load do you use it to carry for every 5hours daily. Also if u run ur gen for 5hours daily endeavor to change the oil every 2weeks
As for your mechanic he isn't truthful to you cos no tec original piston and ring dey outside especially those TEC wey dey carry tiny ring, there is generic of 7k and 20k own both won't last either or last more than 2months with your usage.
If you can't cope
Will only advise conversion to sumec which u will change shaft rod, connecting rod and piston assy
2.5kva I'm surprised also. TV few bulbs and fridge. It was working fine with no issues until recently. I will look into your suggestion. Thank you so much. I appreciate your response. |
Health / Re: Excessive Itching In Private Parts by Melst: 3:37pm On Jan 27, 2022 |
Notaket: Hey guys, I think I need your help. So for close to 2 weeks now, I have been having itching sensations round my private parts and I noticed some rash around my dick ..
Have been to the hospital they said I had prunitis and gave me some injections and a drug called loterine but it's 3 days now and I still have this serious itching around my laps that surrounds the private part .. My bums itch me too despite frequently changing boxers etc...
Please I need help from anyone who has experienced this before.
Mind Everytime I have sex I have used condom... Any recommendations will be good. Thanks I suspect scabies. Do you have the rash on any other part of your body? And if it's scabies, it will take a while even after treatment commences for the itching to stop. Go to a good pharmacy with an in-house pharmacist and show the rash to him/her. The appropriate drug will be prescribed. All the best. |
Technology Market / Re: Professor On Any Type Of Generator. by Melst: 10:02pm On Jan 26, 2022 |
Gptech:
At such usage you should be changing oil every 2 weeks at most. I will do that. Thank you for your response. |
Technology Market / Re: Professor On Any Type Of Generator. by Melst: 6:18am On Jan 25, 2022 |
hopefulLandlord:
Changing the piston and rings should solve the problem. Thank you |
Technology Market / Re: Professor On Any Type Of Generator. by Melst: 6:18am On Jan 25, 2022 |
Gptech:
Do you mean you turn on your gen 5 hours every day? How often do you change oil? Yes. 5 hours everyday. I change it monthly or every three weeks. |
Technology Market / Re: Professor On Any Type Of Generator. by Melst: 3:40pm On Jan 23, 2022 |
Good afternoon.
My tec gen of over a year is giving me issues. I bought it new from one of their verified distributor. Lately, it started consuming too much oil. I top it every two days and change it every two weeks. Until recently, I hardly turn it on. I use it like 5 hours daily. The mechanic is saying the piston is bad. Will changing the piston solve this problem or should I just continue managing it like that? Also, what is the likely cause of this problem? Anticipating your kind response. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: The Lady I Wanted To Marry Pretended To Be A Graduate To Me by Melst: 10:07pm On Dec 27, 2021 |
victorian:
You are so right. But for someone that believes so much in pure undiluted love, it will be difficult to accept this. My boyfriend asked me few days ago what I do with money. Imagine. Someone that I don't ask for a dime and he doesn't send me a dime either. Knowing fully well that I'm taking care of my siblings. Asking me indirectly how much I have in my savings. Guys these days are something else. I'd understand if a girl is checking out all these in a man, but why would a man be questioning a lady he doesn't spend on about her finances? Real men have gone extinct ![sad](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/sad.png)
Smiles lemme say this , if your argument makes sense? definitely I will step down and accept u are right. And alot of people online here are either fake, bullies or vile in expressing themselves, which is appalling.
Only few people like yourself and some few gentle men and ladies I have interacted with online, think and talk sensibly. The rest are bunch of headaches. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png)
Then, with the way the country is, values, morals, ethics are thrown away, While people, I mean a whole lot of people in nigeria worship money and worship the rich in quote. Most don't care about character or values. Same goes with relationships, these days. The girl is not working or she's not financially comfortable to an extent, guys will not take her serious.. Likewise a guy too. If he's broke without a job, trust me most ladies will look the other way. They won't come close.
Anyways it's good to know u are Naija based , nice mentality.. I hope u will practice it in real life ![smiley](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/smiley.png) |
Romance / Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Melst: 8:56pm On Dec 23, 2021 |
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Romance / Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Melst: 7:15pm On Dec 23, 2021 |
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Romance / Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Melst: 3:37pm On Dec 23, 2021 |
Letshegostaff:
This story looks Familiar... You and your ex finished from OAU? Nope. And here I thought I was unique ![undecided](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/undecided.png) |
Romance / Re: Have You Been Engaged, And Later Didn't Get Married? What Actually Went Wrong? by Melst: 3:01pm On Dec 23, 2021 |
FalseProphet1:
The truth is he never genuinely loved you.
Love isn't meant to be selfish, if he sees you as something to relief himself without taking into consideration how you feel, then you should be glad that you're no longer together.
If I'm to advice you, I'll say cut off permanently from him, cos guys like that can ruin your relationship while enjoying his marriage.
Guys like him are dangerously manipulative and can do anything to get what they want. Human beings are naturally inclined to be selfish. I have come to understand this fully. Even the Good Book by implication says you must love yourself first. So nobody will love you more than they love themselves so they will most often times put themselves first. Only very rare people are self sacrificial for the benefit of another. I'm someone that values friendship a lot and he is really an amazing friend. I was naive and innocent. Right now I'm wiser and can't be manipulated that way again. You have a valid point though because he once tried to. 2 Likes 1 Share |