tayo_ast:

^^dats not tru.
i bet she frustrated d guy. May be guy has more dn poster tinks

you are probably right. I told him that I could help him to stop wasting his precious time if I knew his plan for me.

ayettymama:

i will say this and run away

IGBO MEN ARE FULL OF poo!!!!!!

*runs away*

lol. I did but he found me. lol. I'm not a good runner though. hehehe!

guys, I hope you'll be able to help now!

Pweety4me:

[color=#770077]Is he well educated?

he is.

Pweety4me:

How did he get your number?some randomn igbo man?y did u not ask him wat him meant?

no, we are friends.

During an heated argument with  my Igbo friend (because I refused to answer to his text messages) I asked him what did he want from me. His answer was: "I don't want anything from you. you are too complicated. take it easy". Later in the same conversation, when I asked him politely to stop contacting me, this time, his answer was: "is this necessary? So you want to stop our friendship for a nonsense unimportant thing?"

Can a man tell me exactly what did he mean?

What if the same guy told me that I'm too complicated and I love attention a lot?

this guy is funny ohh. Now, that I'm asking him what did he want from me he is telling me that I'm too complicated, What is this nonsense!!!

y me:

if he is not ready for commitement and you are then tell him to back off

I told him, but it's like he can't understand.

I stopped communicating with this young man because of his lack of commitment, and after trying to make up here is what he has to say: ''You can run, but you can't hide''. What are the implications for me?

When I was younger, I was dreaming of falling in love, but life is not easy at all oooooo.  The one I love is playing (even if he's tall, good-looking with swag I don't see what I'm stripping for), and the one I don't want is madly in love with me. Hey! God, what do I do wrong? House, I need your prayers to forget even the name of this man. I need a miracle; it's been 2 years. Oh God, why me now?

Guys, it seems like the topic scares you. ok!

MRbrownJAY:

come on,thats too much work, sneaking around like a thief. . . . . . . . . just buy the latest Blackberry, relax and install the soft on the phone, put the phone back in the box, wrap it in pink ribbons and offer the phone as a gift to her and get a thank you s-h-a-g from heaven in the same process. et voila!

but lets all remember that a good, determined cheap will do so whether spyware, a beat down or tied to the bed post.

loooooooooooool, don't fool yourself!!! Finally, women have the answer.

feelncrazy:

@A-40, thanks for warning me, No disrespect ever intended ever to anyone, My sincerest apologies to anyone I have offended, for certain. Also, A-40 you hit the nail on the head, Haitian man had no respect, not for God, himself or me. I ran the other way so so quick. Also no Ganja smoking going on here, But i tell you the truth, my man is thee greatest man I have ever met. We are both Christian and place God very first, then each other. Honestly I was tired of being stronger than most men I met. He is a strong man of strong faith, character and heart. I respect that and I respect him. He runs this family, what he says goes, no questions asked, but in return, I am so spoiled with love. It is good.

good for you sister!!!

ec3l:

Hmm mito again.

"I'm not a Naija men hater; I can't be. This is exactly where I got confused. I decided more than once to stop calling him, but when I stop and if he realizes it's for good he'll start on panic mode calling or sending text wanting to know if I'm OK until I start calling again (I don't believe a man should do everything while the woman is just playing hard to get; I'm a moderate feminist, and he knew about it because I told him), 

Moreover, why did he tell me he liked everything in me and he didn't care if I changed or if I became bigger or smaller because I was special to him? Why did he beg me to come visit him last summer and telling me if he's frustrated it's because of financial issues?,  Why telling me I need not to let our attraction/affection dies? Why telling me if we met it is God plan (and made up a whole story)? Why did he complain about the fact that sometimes I don't care about him? Why telling me he'll one day run money on me (when I most likely won't be in the need for this)? Why the mix signals? Why sending to me 'I miss you' messages? Why asking me to come for this holidays season? Why is he obsessed by my culinary skills? Why started to call me name like baby, sweety etc and if I refused he would get mad? Why holding me back whenever I wanted to move on?

I remember that once he called me, and a friend of mine picked up the phone, but he hung it up believing that it was my father. When I called him back, and told him it wasn't my father, he spent at least a month trying to know much to convince himself that it was nothing. Moreover, last summer during my stay in his town, he made it clear that he didn't want me to go out alone. Thus, tell me now why is he so insecure or jealous?

The funniest thing is that he always tell me that he wants me. I recently asked him why does he want from me. He didn't reply. When I insisted he told me that he honestly didn't know.

This is exactly why I changed my cell phone number though. Thanks for your comment!"

I copied this from another forum, can someone tell what does this confused man want from this poor girl? Nonsense.

I was surprised to hear about cell phone spyware. It seems that they work like a charm. These devices allow people to monitor your movements, read your text messages and listen to your calls. So no more cheating and lies! Phew!!! lol!

sjeezy8:

naija guys aer very romatic its the babes who are like tyrannosaurus rexes. Very stiff

Cmiller:

<it al depends on wt is it dt is goin around,if u hv played her or any of her friend den cal it truce.>

good point!!!

190:

i dont even understand whats happening here~

OBLONG:

   <u dey kolo mental>

lol. You have just been asked for your reaction, but not your judgement .

A pretty girl whom you didn't treat well before by disrespecting her got fustrated, and told you, one day, that she loves you and can do without you. You believed her. Obviously, her confession busted your ego, and you thought that you had the situation under control because she would do exactly what you wanted since she's in love. Thus, you believed that your player's skills were impeccable.  After some time, if she calls you to tell you that she was playing you too in order to teach you a lesson because what goes aroung comes around while laughing at you (you didn't have the time to chop her though ). How would you react?

ec3l:

Hey mito, i think u r mature enough 2 handle dis situation. Unlike some girls here, u chose to ignore all de abusive and senseless posts, dat's a given.
Sending him dat mail is really admirably brave coz most girls dont come forward dat way.
I think u should take it easy wit him now, occupy your mind wit other stuffs so u could think less of him.
your clearly obsessing over dis guy and its not rit coz u might suffer some serious emotional crisis if he decides to use it against u.
He now knows how u feel, let him make d choice, a couple of green lights at here and there would do but dont appear desperate.
If he decides to kick it off wit u, happy are u. If he decides otherwise, well u could try other guys, DOAweb seems available

Thanks a lot for your comment! Besides, I have other suitors, and even my ex-boyfriend (he's rich, an young engineer and just launched his own company) wants us to get engaged, but I can't lie to myself; I won't desappointed him. I'm not desesparate, so I'll try to behave properly. Thanks again!

Chykason:

I believe it is only guys that'll crave more for a lady. Ladies are supposed to treat like a queen, u know.
He is d one supposed to run after you.

Chykason:

If you love something, let it go and watch from a distance. If that thing keeps coming back to you, then take it fully cos it belongs to you.

@poster,
hope you'll put all these advices into good use.
Cheer up!!!

I'm not going to run after him. I just wanted him to know that I misled him for almost 2 years now. For the rest, his behavior will determine what will happen. Thanks!

poro:

bliv me mito its has nothing to with dignity but pride, becareful however dont rush cos u sound more confused than certain about what u want and u dont sound coherent, else hw can u be so inaccessible to a guy u av his pics, but if u r real then get closer as friend, share moment, time and thought together, mutual respect then let the situation take charge, dont jump at him u only make a fool of urself, cos first love doesnt av to be 'must love'

Thanks for the advice! Even though I told him how I feel because it was unbearable for me, I don't intend to jump at him. There is certain things I expect from a man before going in any relationship with him. I do have a strong feeling for him, but he still have to prove himself to me if we are to go any further.

semid4lyfe:

Poster, as u dey go insane. . .e just remain make u n.@ked, dey chop from dustbin and dey waka aimlessly for road. . .I'm sure u can handle it. . . .Nothin' do you!

I hope that you never fall in love to experience this kind of situation. You are forgiven.

DOAweb:


Having read your email, you now have my RESPECT mito, you tried 

If he doesn't respond to this with maturity, I suggest you free yourself Sharply.

Remember I said IF.

The guy was so happy when he got the e-mail. He told me that what I did was cute. However, I feel better now. At least, he knows.

Igwe.:

another share case of disturbia.
@ poster,
hold yourself together my dear, I'm sure you'll soon get over it,

This is not new as long as I'm concern, and have experienced it with most of 'em girl while i was growing up.
some guys are naturally shy and wouldn't hesitate to back off if turned down by a girl.
in a more serious note, get yourself occupied with your studies, the guy is not into you. to me it was just one of the mere random wooing most teenagers do when their brains are idle.

Neither him nor me are teenagers. He's 25 years old, and we are age mate.

Guys, this is a copy of the e-mail I sent to him this morning:

''In december, I decided to make some change in my life for the new year. I wanted to be happier because I was tired of arguing and demanding for respect (it is why I told you that you won). Then, one of my actions was to change my cell phone number in order to stop contacting you. My last step was to block you from my e-mail adress list, so you won't be able to reach me anymore. I did it, but after some time, I realised that I didn't talk to you first. This is the reason why I called you again.

I'm a very proud person,and I don't have the audacity and the strenght to talk to you even by phone (I tried though). However, I found a beautiful song from P-square that say how I feel and probably will feel in the future. Here is the
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VxnTyB1Wqdg. The title is ''I miss u die''.
 
Phew! Now, I no fit shut anymore,  Na wa oooo for me! Take care of yourself!


p.s. After this e-mail, I'm sure that if I ever run into you one day I will die of heart attack lol, ''


Now, you are free to judge and condamn me nairalanders!