feddy27:


I've been trying to wrap my head around it o cos my huggies little snugglers newborn can be used up to a (10lbs) 4.5kg baby so I'm wondering hw size 2 will fit a newborn...lol

i started my baby on size 2 huggies snug n dry cos size one was small for her and she was 3.6 at birth.
this diaper thing is nt just my weight alone sha cos i hv bum bum n hip so my baby follow suit.infact at 4 month she ws on size 3 huggies.

thanks sugah n all mamas that contributed.....i so much appreciate u all.may the love that bond this great family continue to wax strong .
this thread as really helped alot of ppl cos its very easy to pour out ur mind as it is without painting it or feeling ashame.
i love u all.

Loisemm:
Mnit ,I have one more contrib to this matter and then I will return to reading this my favourite thread quietly (I learn a lot here. Very versatile thread).

Later, you guys or him or damn even you, can consider building a house or having a business or a strong investment solely in your name.
You will feel so loved and secure. And of course, by extension he will secure his children's future and well being.

My current landlady has a big 2 storey house built by her husband for her. And it is in her name alone. They have other houses too. She has a big shop managed by her situated on the first floor.
I talked about this wise and loving act of her husband to my Dh so much that he said ,'its okay. I know where you are going. I will build you a house too'.

I pray o

thank you so much...i appreciate all contributions here today.
i feel so relieved cos i cant even tell anyone around me.cos everyone feels this are perfect couple who hv everything going for them.
thank you so much

AlphaHandmaiden.....
We don't hv a joint account.instead he fund my personal account for the house upkeep which he know I manage it well.
infact the issue of managing his fund is nt a problem cos even to my face he praises me in front of his friends when issues of fund n home management comes up.
We have account for our 2 kids wch he fund monthly and am d only signatory to it.
the dollar n pounds domiciliary account he opens after our marriage am his nok but his bro is still the nok for his salary account
yes he is d main braidwinner in his family


Missmalachi...thank u so much.he as me nt to talk abt it again that he will effect all the changes when he is ready.

zaynie...thank u so much.
Am an accountant so my default am trained to be prudent.
I live a very simply life which he loves abt me.
We both don't hv kids outside this marriage and am his only wife.
I am the one that brings all the ideas of investment wc he agrees on.

Am his nok to his dom acct and I also hv access to his other acct only via atm withdrawals.
the issue is dat he is trying to please his family by acting as though he is in control of everything.
thats why am against d bro being the surveyor in the first place.

mimibe:

Try and get ur marriage registered, it's very important. I have been married for 5yrs now and it has not been so easy with extended family from both sides, u guys might not get the full potential of ur marriage if extended family is involved in decision making in ur home. Talk to ur husband as a wise woman, you got all the powers.

thank you.....i will call my lawyer and make enquiries about that.

loisemm....i am praying so hard just that wisdom is profitable to direct n that's why am trying to make sure my kids get what is rightfully theres.I don't know why dh has refused to see it

Aside this issues,he is a swt n caring man

@ peggygee....i work so standing on my own when push comes to shovel is not my problem.my issue are securing the future of my kids

Thank you @ akorkor.....but even if I did nt contribute to it, what abt his kids?We hv been married for 3yrs and we dated 4 8yrs b4 we married.so all he is today I was involved from the scratch.so he can't even tell me I don't hv right to every achievement made

@ akorkor.....yes am working.although I started working January this year so all this while I hv been a stay at home mom.havin his kids n takin care of the home.so my dear we both hv everything even if my money is nt der cos I made all the sacrifices.beside I earn 80k monthly while hubby earn btw 800k-1m monthly.i even hv to struggle to spend my money on d house cos he ensure he provides everything.

@ zheemub.....i hv oooo all he keep saying is that he will and I shld gv him time

realdentist:
Mnit, you're not being paranoid. You're only thinking ahead, which is what every wise woman would do. It's not about him providing for you now, but about u and d children being taken care of in the eventuality of his not being around. and with the in laws already stopping the court wedding, I diplomacy in this issue. My own approach

my dear...i hv sat him down n talk to him yet no improvement.all he keep saying is that am i wishing anything bad happen to him.
he doesn't like d idea of someone reporting him also.

to think that we went to uk for vacation this August n he was like we shldnt let his family knows.his reasons was he dont hv money for der demands.

AlphaHandmaiden....<br>
Thank you so much for contributing <br>
My money is not involved in any of the properties and that is not even an issue.<br>
2ndly....the church that wedded us is a registered church so i dont know if that count.<br>
My major concern is not even about now but abt d future.<br>
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@sugah.....b4 we married,his brother has been his next of kin and he has&apos;nt change.<br>
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Jazzyjazzy..... i did change of name on news paper n had an affidavit to support it .i dont know if it is same as you explain.

sugah:

Of course its an issue. [b]The question is not if he can provide for you now,

thank you.
i cant really raise d issue of WILL now cos it will look like there is more to it.

if d court marriage was done,i wont be bordered abt whose name are on d properties or nt.

Good morning mothers....

I am one of u but had to use this monika for this issue.Pls i need advise

I married some 3yrs back but i hv this issue am still unable to solve with hubby.
1 week to our marriage,hubby family put a stop to our court wedding saying dey dont do court wedding in their family.hubby begged me dat we shld do d church n traditional that we will do d court secretly wc i agreed to.since d past 3yrs he has nt agreed to do it.
Now to my 2nd issue we hv gotten 4 landed properties in diff location and&nbsp; they are all in his name.not even in our two kids name or both of us name.
I know i didnt complain abt d names in d first two properties but d last two i did n he still went ahead to do it.i know d reason is because his elder bro is d surveyor that works on d land b4 his lawyer work on d document so he is aware of it.so i feel he is doing that so that his bro wont tell d rest of d family.infact i dont even know what to think again.i stopped him from using his bro as d surveyor but he says he cant use outsider wen he has one.

He feels i dont lack anything and he provide all we need n even do house chores n what hv u so i shldnt complain abt this.

Pls mamas i dont know if am being paranoid abt a non issue but am really takin dis serious and its affecting us.