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"Here is another thing you do. You cover the LORD’s altar with tears, weeping and groaning because he pays no attention to your offerings and doesn’t accept them with pleasure. You cry out, “Why doesn’t the LORD accept my worship?” I’ll tell
you why! Because the LORD witnessed the vows you and your wife made when you were young. But you have been unfaithful to her, though she remained your faithful partner, the wife of your marriage vows."- Malachi 2:13-14(NLT).
A significant action that takes place during a wedding is the exchange of marital vows between the individuals involved. A vow is a solemn promise characterized by deep sincerity. It is more of a spiritual exercise than a physical or emotional exercise. Though it is witnessed by many, the ultimate witness is God, who takes every of our words seriously. It means that even when those who stood as our witness forgets what you said, It is always fresh with God, and he holds us responsible for our words when we go against it.
While some people use ring to symbolize their wedding, some use the bible. Either of these should serve as a reminder to us that we should do all we can to abide by our vows. If individuals in marriage constantly remind themselves that their marriage vow is sacred, and it is neither a poem that is chanted carelessly by children, nor a past tense but a present perfect continuous tense, a lot of spouses will not be misbehaving in marriage.
When you make a vow, it means you must do all you can do to fulfill it. Don't let the society, tradition, friends, parents, challenges or anything stop you from fulfilling it. It takes hardwork, not of the man alone, but also the wife because it takes two to tango.
So, whenever you are tempted to lust after a lady that is prettier than her (there will certainly be one), remember your vow. When you see a man that is richer or more handsome than him, remember your vow. When there seems to be a delay in childbirth, remember your vow. When you are provoked and tempted to raise your hands on her, remember your vow.
Do we still remember our vows? Lets reflect on them, and check if we are still abiding by it. It doesnt end when you said it on the altar. The action actually starts from there. Because you promised to love in health and sickness, you promised to honour your spouse with your body, you promised to cherish, adore and protect your spouse. So, whether you exchanged the vow in your sitting room, the church, the registry, or wherever, the Lord is aware of it, and expects you to do all you can to fulfill it.
"It is better not to make a vow than to make one and not fulfill it."-Ecclesiastes 5:5.

A friend told me the story of a man who had a revelation. In the revelation, he saw himself in his own burial ceremony, standing at the back of the hall, while the wife and children were sitting on the front row. Every one, to include his neighbours, colleagues at work, and even church members came out in turn to pay their tribute. A lot of good deeds were attributed to him, ranging from dexterity at work, to selfless service, and many more. But he noticed that when his immediate family were being called upon, they had virtually nothing to say about him. And right from the revelation, he felt the guilt that he had not been setting his priorities right.
Many atimes, we have the intention of working hard to earn good money to take care of our families, get to the peak of our career, be the best preacher in town, and later realise that these has eaten deep into our time and schedule, that we rarely have time to bond with our family. On some occasions, we are so much involved in spiritual exercise, that we deprive our spouse and children the needed attention. We work with so much dexterity in the office but rarely help our wife with household chores. Some of us are funny women /men in the office but a "lion"in the home; We accord respect to every one we meet on the street, but treat our spouse with contempt; generous in the church, but find it difficult to provide for the family; have a shock absorber for insults outside the home, but will dare not tolerate the slightest mistake from our spouse; we take time to hang out with friends but feel there's no need to hangout or spend quality time with our family..."at least you see each other everyday". Consequently, We realise that while our colleagues at work, church members or the society at large give us credit and thumbs up, our spouse or children's thumbs are down because we have no time for them or because we dont have good records with them. While It's good to work, and not a bad idea to be spiritually inclined to our creator, we need to know that our relationship with our family is something we dont have to toil with. Hence, we need to strike a balance.
We should ensure that we do not build our account or career at the expense of our home. At the end of the day, if we achieve all these, without a family to fall back on, its like we've achieved nothing at all. No matter how busy we are, we need to make time for our family. We need to invest in our family financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually. The impression we create in the life of our family last forever.
Do our spouse, children, or even sibblings thirst for our love, attention, time, support? Let's make out time to give it to them.