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strangeworld: An informat told me that about 3months ago my husband took a lady to his friends house during office hour to have sex with her.
I then confronted my husband which he denied, but when I presented him with facts, it was then he Confessed to the said issue and apologised.
However I find it hard to let go, I can't beleve he actually slept with another lady. Am so depressed as a lot ve been running thru my mind.
please I need advice 4m married woman who had caught their husband cheating how they handle the situation.
Thank you

Hi i am sorry for what youre going through right now. As someone who experianced the pain youre going through and still dealing with it. The betrayal will always linger in your mind and every time u see him talking to another woman your heart will race faster . So in my situation i chose my health and asked for separation because the pain was just too much to bear but people are different so if u want to cry do so and if u want to scream do so as well to ease the pain. Dont let him off the hook easily for as long as youre hurting let him feel it. Man can be very selfish. Its always about them in relationships but if u were to be the one cheating he will paint u black to hid whole family. Hugs and get someone to talk to as well

Thank you to those who provided solution to my predicament, my hubby's friend passed by and found us with our situation, he spoke to him and made hik understand that I need time and space to work things through in my head. I am now at the lodge with the kids and I will take them to the day mother tomorrow when I go to work and ask for leave if they can give me. I am from Lesotho and he is Nigerian. We have been married for 9 years have two kids aged, 4 and 2, thanx again for understanding when I was so confused and senseless

Since am using my fone I don't even know how those smileys en up there at all, but its fine have a laugh at my expense. @ busybody thanx that's what I have been trying to say all along but I wasn't making sense.

I have always known that Nlrs are harsh that's why I hardly posted here but this situation is way above my head so I needed a good advice on getting hubby to calm down and stop talking unreasonable and I get its your fault and you're creating a story. Well thanx for your help

I think you're a cold person. You're taking my pain en confusion as a joke. I said he locked us not me. He left yesterday with the kids so I couldn't leave them and I waited for him to come with them so that I can take them with. I am angry and hurt by my husbnd but I am not going anywhere without my kids ever! I am a little confuses en probably not making sense en u find it very funny. Go on laugh at my pain someday it will be you

Efemena_xy: ^^ Abeg e! It's not a real story jor! Just some Nollywood test script.

4hours 20 mins later and @poster never log off, dey try create sensation. Madam Mokatse, today na sunday, abeg go church, purge your mind 'n stop accusing your husband (if u really have one) of committing fantasy crimes.

He did lock all of us in de house, including himself. I wasn't on nairalend de whole either I have been logging in and out. I just wanted advice from mature people before invoving my family on what to do cos he is really acting weired. I don't need dat much attention believe me I just need other woman's point of view dats all

It was in the morning, she was cleaning the tv room and hubby was going somewhere so I decided to come talk to him to leave the money for the kids's winter clothes so I went to look for him in the garage only to see that his car is still in and I heard the radio in the tv room so I thought he was there only to find them deep in a passionate kiss!

I think am going mad or something cos I never said de kids are not here. He left en came back yesterday with them. He just locked all of us in the house. I did pay the nanny but I wasn't willing to stay with her a moment more. As for her job security we are in south africa and she is south african and they know their rights a lot believe me so if he forced himself on her she would have called the police and have him arrested as well as taking us to unions, so no the nanny is not a victim here. As for hubby I am lost for words really. He is acting weired and desperate.

Now I know how the other Nlrs felt when they were desperate and seeking help from mature adults here and they get accused if creating sensation. Believe me I've been in nairaland for a long time to suddenly create stories of this magnitude! My husband cheated and when he got caught and realise that he can't say I am sorry to get things de way they used to be,he is threatening suicide and u tell me am creating stories!!!!!! Give me a break!

I was trying to get a solution that doesn't him humiliated, I've logged on with my cellphone. He might have hurt me deeply

but he has always been a good father en I know he loves them even if our marriage doesn't survive this. He is still my husband and the father of my kids so I need an amicable solution. I just can't of any right now cos I am confused, angry and hurt. So please advice me on what to do cos my rationale has left me completely

Hello Nairalanders I have been on nairaland for a while I just don't post much. please help me I am so desperate right now. Yesterday I walked in on my husband kissing out nanny, and I have been so shocked and angry since then. I immediately fired the nanny and started packing my bags to go somewhere to think. He took all our car keys and dissapeared with the kids the whole day so I am still in our house. I am so numb I can't even say that I am in pain right now because I used to vouch for him as the faithful husband. I just want to go somewhere because I need space from him but he has locked us inside the house saying he needs me and he is sorry. He refuse to understand my plea for space saying he wants to be part of my healing, that he needs me and that he will commit suicide if I leave him. I feel so blackmailed, cos he says he will kill himself and the kids. At first I didn't care or believe him cos I have my own pain that he inflicted but I can't ignore him when he includes the kids. Shall I call the police on him for imprisoning us? Please advice me

wow! how stupid