The only thing I have to say is that you married from a very poor family. Remember, poverty is not about abundant rather the thing of the mind. Your wife and in-law are mentally poor. I know of a man that refused to allow her daughter to marry simply because he trained the girl and she secured a well paid job. It took years for this girl to liberate herself.
Solution:
You are too predictable as a man. This gave them the opportunity to treat you the way they did. You easily trust people which is good but could be detrimental to yourself. Wear some elements of unpredictability from now on. Speak less. Don’t divorce her but but save it in your memory that she is from a very poor family that can go to any length including deception to acquire wealth. Be careful, that family has the capacity to eliminate you.

I don’t support violence of any kind. However, this girl and her sister must have really provoked this driver. If she want an app that will show her exact price, let her download and stick to inDriver. Bolt clearly tell riders that actual price could differ from the estimated price. This same driver would have successfully concluded at least 2000 trips. How come he doesn’t beat up the previous riders? We need to hear from the driver pls.

What is going on in Lagos is something that shouldn’t be accepted anywhere in Nigeria. Yes! People take one way but should their car be impounded and sold to criminal bidders? What happened to first offender act? What happened to suspended sentence and fine, their drivers license could be seize, fined, plus community service.

There are situations whereby the other side is bad, either take one way or turn back. Suddenly you see that some people are hiding somewhere to seize your vehicle for government inability to repair the road.

One way is not clearly written in some of the places on the mainland. Before you know it, some mean loooking agbero will block you and tell you to come down from your car that that place is one way. They charge from 50k-200k if you are lucky otherwise they will impound your car. Lagos State attempt to enforce this law has opened an avenue of illegal streams of money to the very corrupt enforcement agents. They make several millions daily to their pockets.

This is a 19th century law that shouldn’t be anywhere in Nigeria. Cars are very expensive now, plus the extremely difficult economic condition. Then suddenly, there is an inhuman law to impound cars at will.

All well meaning Nigerian should protest this law otherwise something worse will soon be birthed as it relates to our fundamental right.

And for the criminal syndicates that specializes in buying people’s car, continue!

Legally, based on the constitution, this is a criminal act by the state. It is against the fundamental human right to legally own a property. Yes! Lagos state may argue that they are acting based on state’ law. A state law can’t be superior to the constitution. Even when this same Lagos was using a 19th century law, arresting people every last Saturday of the month in the name of sanitation. A competent court of law ruled that it was an illegality and Lagos state was forced to stop such archaic law.

Lawyers need to sue the state government about this to avoid such illegality. This kind of act is not in effect in any of the civilized world.

FalseProphet1:
I see Samsung brands overtaking iPhones in cost, design and effectiveness.

You are right but Samsung need to work more on security and parts. Thief’s are scared of stealing iphone with iCloud. Parts is another thing that Samsung lacks. How can I buy a new Samsung phone of 300k but when it has screen problem, I have to pay almost 75% of the worth to buy new screen.

Ask her out first, if she accepts, then good. Ensure she ask for the phone before you buy it otherwise lockup even when you are in relationship with her. Never help someone that doesn’t ask for help!

Let me talk to you as a brother.
You really need to buy sense for even nursing that idea. It is really a bad one!

I will never date any girl that doesn’t have a functional phone! She is broke! A broke girl can take you 360 degree backwards. They lacks gratitude with load of entitlement mentality. Jappa!

Who tell you she doesn’t have phone? I have seen many runz girl hide their phone for their new catch. They believe you should buy them phone if you want to speak to them. Sense fall on you!

You really need to learn how to forgive. She made a mistake and admitted that she was childish. Take her out to a private place outside your house during weekend and have a honest conversation with her explaining to her how you were hurt by her utterance.

I would advise you to forget she ever hurt you from that moment. Drop the issue of marriage first and work out the Achilles heels. Marriage is soppose to be consensual not forcing you.

You have to really drop the ‘me’ element of you if not pride wouldn’t let you forget all she said. Finally, I don’t know where you reside but it is really disturbing to say she is becoming an evening newspaper at 26. In Lagos here, girls don’t want to commit to marriage at that early age.

I called it the money test. To take any girl serious in a relationship, she must pass the money test. I would advise you to complete the test and see her true color. Kindly call her and asked her for some money that you are pretty sure is within her reach. Tell her that you have a serious need let her bail you out. She will never pick your call again!

SamuelAnyawu:
This man is Good and hardworking.



213 newly drilled boreholes?

If you have been to Borno especially Monguno, Damasak, Guzamala and Abadam, you will understand that water is their 1 priority. A 100% desert zone that you will have to travel several kilometers to see a borehole. Drilling borehole there isn’t a day job! I have been there. Most of the borehole there were drilled by the world bank. Pray that nothing will take you close to sambisa otherwise water will be your no 1 priority.

As long as there is a system called Almajarai, Boko Haram will keep having thousands of fighters. The first time I visited Borno, I understood perfectly that boko haram will never end till the almajarai system end. I can authoritatively say that this ban is not about covid 19 but it is security. Initially the elite thought boko haram will kill only Christian but unfortunately, no! This same system is creating a robust workforce for bandits. The senior almajarais are there in millions with no single viable skill except the ability to read and recite the book.

Your ex has an unfinished business with you. Interestingly, he understands the fact that you love money....anything alert can turn you on! Imagine you sending your account no to someone you considered your past.....

Let me advise you Bros I know you won’t take it. That girl has a serious relationship. It has nothing to do with the bank stuff. If she doesn’t have then she is very daft and you have to flee from her because even older women in the village understand that bank due malfunction.

You need to double your hustle if at all you want loyalty from young girls. My job working closely with young girls around lekki really helped me understand how modern girls behave especially when I listen to them discussing how they are edging(edge is their language when they get a customer). Bro, your babe is a successful business woman. She is selling something which you think you are the only customer. Wake from you sleep Oga! When I hear guys complaining here that their wife changed because they are having financial challenges, I knew exactly that those wives were once runz girl. I felt so sad for their parent and their future husband!

You really need to work on your self esteem if not that woman will show you pepe.

Obviously this spike in Lagos figure is due to the returnees but they will never admit that. The good news is the increasing numbers of discharged patients. They should understand that lockdown wouldn’t flatten the curve.

Indiscriminate lockdown is an enemy of the people and a handiwork of lazy leaders. Our leaders are good at politics and will fail at anything. Their critical reasoning skill is zero. dynamic problem solving skill is zero. Just copying America. How can they lockdown a place like Ebute Meta were people cannot be confine to their rooms? That is a theoretical lockdown! In practice, there was no lockdown. The solutions such a busy area is to advocate and enforce the use of face mask. Nigeria is peculiar that lockdown can’t work. Who will enforce the lockdown? The men in black? There is interstate lockdown but people are moving freely just with 2k per checkpoint.

Many people are saying they should lockdown Lagos. Unfortunately, lockdown without massive testing and tracing doesn’t work. Why lockdown without strategy? The proponent of lockdown should learn from Russia who ended their six weeks lockdown few days ago. They were getting average of 10,000 cases daily despite lockdown. Few people understood the security breach during the lockdown in Lagos. Who will enforce the lockdown? The men in black? or soldiers that are combat ready to shoot civilians?

The issue currently is testing. Russia tested over 6 million persons with average of 10k cases daily with 40% of confirmed cases without any symptoms. Wuhan is planning to test 11 millions people. Even Ghana had tested over 100k. Why is Nigeria testing just over a 1k daily? and most of the test is people with some kind of symptoms. When are we going to test everyone in Lagos and Kano?

Halfway reading your story, I discovered your problem was from that babe you call your wife. A man ought not to struggle once he is married. Why? The Bible said whoever has found a wife found a good thing and obtain favor from the lord. Wise men study trends. Initially you got a 90k job, your wife started cheating and you lost it. Then, you struggled till you left her then your deliverance came. Let me tell you, things would have still be hard if you didn’t leave her. Did you know why you struggled so much? Every home is build by a woman. Once she started having affairs, it will have negative impact on the man. She started cheating long time before you knew. I support your courage and most importantly your decision to exit hell on earth. I am still surprised you are calling her your wife. She left you long time ago.....A little advice Sir. You have a good job now, please saved as much as you can. No job is permanent! Look for business you can do while working. It will help you. On a side note, any day you go back to her, watch and see yourself descend low again. You dodge a bullet!

The Number of new cases is decreasing while people been release is increasing. This is fairly a good news for Lagos in the last two days compared to when Lagos was on 150+ daily. People have to understand that lockdown without massive testing and contact tracing doesn’t work. Russia lifted their lockdown yesterday. They were very disciplined yet, recording 10,000 cases daily with 40% asymptotic. To be honest, lockdown wouldn’t work in Nigeria with just few test conducted in the last 3 months. If testing capacity can be increased by 50,000 daily, Nigeria will kiss this virus goodbye in the next 30days but even 50k had not been tested since inception.

The truth is that physical banking hall is now outdated. Almost 80% of work done there can be done online. When Wema bank introduced their full digital banking platform called Alert, it became a game changer. Banks are going digital! However, I think this could be a fake news......where is the source of this news? Access bank or bloggers?
All the branches listed are about 80% of all access bank branches. They can’t close that at once. I am seeing some areas with 2 branches and both closed. All the branches in Ajah closed? All the branches on awolowo way closed? Broad street? Alaba? Trade fair? We really need to confirm this news...

Wallade:


You and a number of ladies responded to this story like inexperienced adults or babies.

Have you not seen people that invest and lost their investment. Don't you know some people can't even be entrepreneurs.

You must understand that challenges are part of of life. As you grow older, you will realize that we can never really avoid challenges, we simply have to face them and manage. That is life.

Haven’t you noticed that almost 90% enterpreneurs who made a mistake in business and lost their money came back stronger and become richer? Mistake happens but resilience is the answer. No one is castigating people with paid job here but the issue is that most of these workers believe their job is permanent like they own the establishment. The moment they are sacked, they go back to business unfortunately 95% of them fail at this stage because of wrong motive. Read about micro entrepreneurship, it will help you Sir. No one said he should have resign and start his own business. What we are saying is that, they are so many business he would have executed with almost zero risk but he didn’t attempt it because he is kind of visionless.

Your brother made a mistake and he is making that same mistake again.
1. His very low self esteem pushed him into this marriage. There is nothing wrong with been short what is wrong is his inability to believe that he is wonderfully and carefully made! The moment that bitch told him he is short, he was soppose to let her go but he keep begging and begging because he want to be boasting that his wife is beautiful. See the result!
2. Your brother is empty inside. I am very sure he has not read any personal development book in in the last five years? He had that kind of opportunity but he spent all his money? No single investment? He fails to know that even the so call permanent job are not permanent? Let alone a temporary job. Some women hate vision less man. He gat no vision!
3. My one cent to him.
Let him leverage on his social capital for now and forget about that girl. If he could use his influence to get federal job for 2 people, that is the only positive I see in him. He could leverage on his contact for now. He will be fine last last.

This man doesn’t has any business in Nigeria. A serious business can’t be close in a day. He should be ashamed of himself for been unable to compete with others in Nigeria. There is what we called corporate governance in accounting. Meaning, every human being irrespective of their tribe and nation would misbehave once a loophole is identified. One of the key role of the CEO is to build systems or business process from purchasing to administration and sales that will combat corperate fraud which can be evaluated using a system call auditing. Until this fellow understand this simple concept he will still fail even in India.

My brother the issue is that your wife is still very deep into her ex. You discovered 3 things 1. Her ex was the first to call on her birthday. This one reason alone is enough to end the relationship before the progression to marriage. She doesn’t has any respect for you and she is doing that right now. Normally, she should had ended all communication with her ex after exing him. Women can be emotionally attached to their past, that is why most married women drop their formal telephone lines immediately after marriage. Even if she cry heaven that there was no sex between her and her ex, I can authoritatively assure you that there was because of the continuous communication between them. 2. You discovered that she was communicating with her ex exactly between 11-12 midnight which can only happen between 2 lovers. Use your head Oga! 3. She disrespect you. This last point only applies to a relationship when the women is in love with someone else. She will pick offense with anything the man does. Either good or bad.
Finally, forget about that her birthday story. E no follow for this Matter. The fact that her ex call her at 12am on her birthday means there were prior communication between them.
Advise: others have advise for a DNA. Sir, try and do that before you travel to the USA if you must travel with her. Don’t be shocked by the results of the DNA because she has a skeleton somewhere.
Secondly, next time she ask for a break, kindly send her to her parents let her stay there like 2 yrs. before she ask for reunions you would have been married. Don’t be scared of losing her because she might wreck you if not careful.
If she didn’t ask for a break, use the silent treatment and scare the hell out of her till she ask for a break. If she didn’t ask for a break, but keep disrespecting you, boldly summon her and give her a break.
Finally, it seems she is financially capable than you? If that is the case, that should not scare you, because you can’t do because of money and stay in hell in your own house. Though we need to hear her own side of the story also.

My observation:
You talk too much and such a person lose respect from both the wife and the in-law. My brother, Concentrate on your finance and personal development for now. Let her be! When she see reasonable changes and wants to come back, make it hard for her to come back. Don’t be scared of losing her. She and her mother will respect you next........
Seems she is just a house wife? No vision and ambition on her part? Be weary of such women, they are there for the money only! When the going is tough, she leaves you to sort yourself. If I were you, I will declare myself single and hustling.

You have to be very careful. The cultist boy will soon impregnate her and your parent will blame you.
Your case is not different compared to other first born with younger siblings. I have my simple policy..... any of my younger sibling that disrespect will be vanished immediately. I don’t tolorate nonsense from any of them.
You must understand that you only have responsibility for your life. There is a sowing time and result of the seed. Time will tell her the result of her escapades.
You wouldn’t like my advice, but it will be better for you if you take it seriously. Send her back home with immediate effect!

I didn’t see your old post but from this post I observed you are not really sorry for cheating on your husband. You have loads of excuses for your action. Kindly note this, there is no excuse for cheating even if your husband is unable to meet your romantic needs. You are very lucky he didn’t injure you at the point of your disclosure. I figured He is very calm and man of few words. The issue with such men is that, once they make decision, it is final.....no Abeg. I would advise you at this point to face your front and stop begging him.

Let me tell you why your husband is very scared of you...... he is not very concerned that you cheated(past action), just that he is not very sure if after testing another man, you will still remain faithful! And I am very sure, if your husband didn’t take this drastic action, you will cheat again and again.

Finally, You took your husband gentility for granted. That is why you have the effrontery to tell him to his face that you cheated. Few men can hear that and remain calm. You were soppose to have explained the issue to either your pastor or any one that your husband really respect. It is that person that will devise a strategy to revealing it to your husband not you.

In conclusion, don’t be bitter with yourself. I guess you married the man because there was no young and rich men available. I would advise you, kindly take time and renew your mind. Study the Bible, download and listen to tapes of anointed teachers like apostle Joshua Salman. Once you are a totally renewed person, pray to God to show you your purpose in life. I am very sure, when your husband sees you as a renewed person, he may have a rethink otherwise destiny may link you with some one else.

Received hope and faith! You may loose your husband but not Christ. You are bless.

It is technically over. Stop bothering yourself especially due to the fact that he is not in Nigeria. He is online but doesn’t respond to your call at night. I would advise, kindly look for a man close to you.

Let me advise you as a man. The challenge people have is that they had made up their mind before seeking advice. I am very optimistic that the only advice that you are seeking is how to make things work between both of you not the best thing to do in your situation right now. You are so much in love that you just want your relationship to work and I am very sure that you are so devastated right now but let me advise you.
Thank your stars that the man open his mouth to tell you that. It might pain you but you have to move on.
Those words are break up line for mature people. In summary, the bros said you shouldn’t waste your time that you have to look for another man before it is too late. He said even if you people eventually get married, there wouldn’t be happiness in the home because he doesn’t love you. His exact word is ‘I know you love me, but babe move on, I don’t love you, stop pushing yourself on me’ only the guys understand this translation.
See babe, your man is somewhere. Don’t waste much time, otherwise you might miss him. My own relationship lasted four years but we have to go our separate ways because we where not compatible. We tried but it didn’t work. Today, she is happily married and I am about to get married to someone that is very compatible with my ideology.
The fact that it didn’t work doesn’t mean you wouldn’t make a good wife. Look at the last presidential election, the best candidate didn’t emerge winner because of some factors like zoning, region, ethnicity etc these factors obviously were beyond their control. Likewise in relationship, once they are factors that is beyond your control, kindly move on, don’t try to make it work.
Hope to hear your testimony with someone that you guys are emotionally connected soon. Remember to take yourself out regularly, love and cheris yourself. You are wonderfully and carefully made! Never made same mistake twice. You were not soppose to go back to your 2017 in 2019. Backwards never, forwards ever! No past memories is as good as the one that lies ahead. There is never a better yesterday! So

6ixT8:
Foolish and insensitive friend. imagine how the so-calleg friend handle the suicide discussion...

The friend handled the discussion well. She tried to encourage her by calling her strong woman and asking her to follow her to fellowship. Unfortunately, she doesn’t has enough experience to identify the word in red ’’if I am still alive this time tomorrow’’ at that point she would have escalate it maybe to the fellowship pastor.

Until you have this kind of experience, when people tell you about taking their life, you wouldn’t take it serious.

As For me, when people talk of taking their life, I escalate it immediately because I have experienced it.

Two of my cousins graduated from the University. Unfortunately, they are more of atheist now. I tried to convince them but seems they already made up their mind. Their Christian walk is Neither hot nor cold. One told me last month that he will soon join Jehovah witness. I am not very happy the way their Christian Faith has dwindled. I hope the school will understand that they are creating more harm than good. All the world leading universities are Christian founded. However, none is creating new set of atheist. Anything taking to far has implications.