But the fact from my perspective is this.. Everyone have issues, none is without one, u've got too.
So i will tell u this; if that's the only issue with her, like u said "she's a good girl", then help her work on it, help her curtail her expenses.
How?
First.. Fnd out what she's been spending on, even if it takes u both to visit the bank, request for her transaction details, just try to know what she's been spending on.
Secondly.. Ask her to always tell u before she gets anything.
Third.. Table the issue to her parent constructively.
Though girls don't like been monitored, and at initial she'd feel uncomfortable about it, but calmly explain to her, let her know its for her good. But also, know when to stop, and give her the liberty she truly deserve. At least 3month is enough for that.
But while doing all these, don't let her feel dejected, don't abuse her, but care for her, let her know it's for her own good. Always tell her it gonna be fine, that someone day she will wake up dept free.
The transaction statement will help u in knowing two things; if she spends extravagantly on stuffs (Hair, bags, wears etc) or if she spends it unnecessarily (on irrelevant things, like drugs,clubs,tf to friends etc).
If she spends it extravagantly, try to curtail that, if ur efforts fails then don't marry her because she's definitely going to be a liability and may do stupid things to make money u either go broke or refuse to give. But if she spends it unnecessary, then help her work on it.
You can't just leave her, because everyone has a problem, and that's hers. You may leave her, get entangled with another lady who's problem is much than hers. No one is perfect, so if you love her, help her work on it. It should be that you tried and it doesn't work than just letting her go.
You'd say you have been trying, but no, you have been trying in paying off her debts, not trying to make her stop what leads to the dept.
That loan app stuffs happens, maybe she had a pressing issue and didn't want to tell you because you've been doing more already, then took 100k, had to lend from another loan app to pay back, that happens a lot.
Woman are many out there tho, but wife scared bruh, so be wise. Goodluck.
The report of the incident here on nairaland is not complete.
The real driver if the truck abandoned it and ran away once it was engulfed in fire.
Ejiro was just a passerby who sensed the tragedy that was to happen if the tanke exploded There were hundreds of people around that location. It was close to a busy market.
So ,he took the risk to enter the burning tanker, and moved it a safer place to save lives. That was what happened.
So my ex girlfriend who dumped me because I wasn't rich enough for her, chatted me up and requested for an urgent 35k. I told her I'm having issues with my bank, but that I'm going to ask my girlfriend to send her the money... She got very upset! How did I offend her??
Look at how fresh they look. Can you bring male prisoners and they look this fresh? Not possible. No matter how you fine tune them, you will still see malnourishment, starvation and maltreatment allover them.
Man, everything you have said is real 100%. It's happening. Stop complaining, make the moves.. Visit churches, if you're a Christian. There's a way, it's just a minor thing sha. If you don't know where, I can help you.
My sister by Name Okonkwo Precious have been missing since on Thursday 23rd December around 3pm. We have been on the search till this very day and she's no where to be found. She lives at; No. 4 Surulere off Kokoro Abu street, Ikorodu Lagos.
Please if seen, kindly report to the nearest police station or call; 08068329529 Or 08157846705. Thank you.
Don't send any video to any one! Don't even dare. It's better u delete it off ur phone. Once u send it, it will definitely go viral, and this is were our gov has power. Going viral means your brother will definitely be arrested.
If you say it exists without dropping proof and you expect us to believe you, why should you have a problem with someone asking you why it hasn't been used to do anything tangible? Many of you need to take critical thinking seriously,even if you no go school.
Hasn't been used to do something tangible? Like seriously? Okay, good luck. Because if I drop the proof you're asking of it will seems a lie to u.
Should we ask Hazard of real Madrid, Dembele of Barcelona or Bale of Madrid the kind of food they eat or they no get money no.
Nutrition helps too. But as a player u need to be conscious of tackles, avoiding them. These players are don't apply caution. At times it may be due to the body system, at times due to weather. Bale And Hazard were always fit while playing in EPL. So what happened? It's either the doctors in Spain, their weather or their kind of food.
The whites can be stupid sometimes. One of the main reasons they keep losing so much money to fraud. You have got to work hard and smart with your team, to earn the victory or trophy, or nothing for you - that is why Johan Cruyff said that in a game of football, the team the makes the fewest mistakes, win.
It does exist! Life is spiritual, before anything happens physically, it has already happened spiritually. Your next question will be, why haven't they use it in winning bet? I'm waiting...
stop spitting trash so players like Wilshere, Ansu Fati and co don't eat nutritious food. if them kick u for knee no injuries if your nutritious. reason well pls
This players above u mentioned, including Dembele... They don't play with caution. I have watched Wilshere and currently Ansu, wilshere hanged on a lot with ball, Ansu runs without control, putting his legs against every tackles. Watch Mbappe, no matter his speed, he jumbs or falls with caution avoiding dangerous tackles. I play football too, I understand better about avoiding leg tackles. Watch Salah too.
DoggoneDogg: I've always said footballers use jazz.
Explain to me how Messi and Ronaldo always avoid long-term injuries every season for 10 years straight despite the attention they get. Highest na 3 or 4 matches dem go miss.
These guys dey use soap baff forget.
If truly u have been watching football, you would have notice how conscious Messi and Ronaldo plays. Specially Messi.
iamwhat: I am seriously confused and scared at the same time.
My cousin sister has been staying with us since age 5 and nobody knows she's not our sibling because we took her as one of us, she finished from the most expensive secondary school in our town and we gave her everything she needs.
She told my younger sister that her friends boyfriend is a yahoo guy and I noticed she has been misbehaving lately.
I received the shock of my life when my younger sister discovered her POS business money was not complete and she told me she suspected Toyin because of the clothes, Shoes and bags she buys nowadays. Lo and behold, she conducted search in her bag and she found 200k in her bag. She told the Money from there and after some days, My cousin started looking for the money but she didn't tell anyone but asked our maid if she found the money.
We confronted her yesterday and she confessed she took the money. My brother is suggesting we take her to guard room but I think that's inhumane but I'm so confused at what to do right now... I don't want us to maltreat her, I'm looking for the best way to treat this issue without causing any physical harm to her.
Since she has been with us since age 5, I feel sending her to her family won't make sense because she didn't grow up with them, I am suggesting a professional counsellor/therapist but my siblings are saying I'm behaving like Oyibo, they aren't buying the idea at all.
Please I need your advise on how best to handle this issue:
If she was your biological sister what would you have done? She's part of the family and should be treated as one. Help her grow rightly by cutting her off those irrelevant friends, monitor the things she spend on. Stop telling her not to do this or that, but rather give her reasons not to do them.
Foreverdope: Nigerian singer Wizkid recently made a guest appearance on Jimmy Fallon’s The Tonight Show and he treated the audience to an amazing time. The Made in Lagos (MIL) performed his hit single, Essence, and he was joined was his friend and colleague, Tems, to deliver a beautiful performance.
Tems and Wizkid brought their full energy on stage as they serenaded fans who can’t seem to get enough of the single which has been tagged the summer jam of the year
6. Walking around aimlessly where elders are seated.
7. Eating food prepared for visitors.
8. Refusing to eat.
9. Coming back home after sunset.
10. Eating at the neighbour's home.
11. Generally being too moody.
12. Generally being too excited.
13. Losing a fight with older age mate.
14. Winning a fight with your age mate.
15. Eating too slowly.
16. Eating too quickly.
17. Eating too much.
18. Not finishing your food.
19. Finishing your food and Scraping your plate.
20. Eating and talking.
21. Eating your meat before finishing the food.
22. Dropping oil on your clothes while eating.
23. When you eat your launch before 2:00pm.
24. Sleeping while the elders in the house have already woken up.
25. Dragging your feet while walking.
26. Stumbling and falling while walking
27. Looking at the visitors while they are eating.
28. Looking at an elder eye ball to eye ball.
29. When an elder is talking to you and you blink.
30. When an elder is talking to you and you stare and not blink.
31. When you look at an elder through the corner of your eye.
32. When your mates are playing street football and you join them.
33. When your mates are playing and you don’t join them.
34. When you don't wash your dish after eating.
35. When you wash your dish improperly.
36. When you almost break your dish.
37. When you break your dish.
38. When you bite your nails.
39. When you don't bathe.
40. When you bathe too quickly.
41. When you take too long to bathe.
42. When you take too much toothpaste on your brush.
43. When you’re beaten in school for misbehaving.
44. When a car almost knocks you down.
45. When a car knocks you down and you don’t die.
46. For not answering when spoken to.
47. For answering back when spoken to.
48. Beaten for going to Church or Mosque late.
49. Beaten for borrowing shoe/wears from friends.
50. Greeting/prostrating with only one hand or hands not touching the ground. Ladies going on one knee.
51. Misplacing your pencil, biro, erazer, sharpener or mathematical set in school.
52. Misplacing your Songs of Praise(SOP).
53. Misplacing your Brighter Grammer.
54. Writing on your textbook or coming home with torn textbooks or notebooks.
55. Coming back home with dirty, rough uniform/socks and damaged sandals.
56. Sending you on errands and you stay too long.
57. Sending you on errands and you forgot what you're asked to buy, or you bought something different, or you broke the egg or poured the grind pepper away on the way.
58. Going to neighbors room&parlour to watch TV.
59. Going to a girl's house to ask after her from her Dad/mum sitting outside in the evening. You've killed her.
I am addicted to wrist watches and shoes. I mean expensive watches. And I am not poor. I have more than 30 wrist watches. Just one of those watches can pay some nigerians monthly salaries for 5years or more I buy like two to three shoes monthly. I don't even know how many shoes I am having....
Can you gift me one watch and a pair of shoe for my Xmas?