I replace my bedsheet after I finish knacking. If I am on break from knacking, then I change the sheets once a week.

Awww... what a perfect little thread! This is the family section at its very finest.

Yes, a lot of the theft at MMIA happens after you check your bag on the way out! Two years ago, I was feeling like a big boy and traveled with expensive luggage on a BA flight. Everything was fine on my in but on my way out, the secure, TSA-approved padlock on my bag was cut open with what looked like industrial wire cutters. They stole my used camera and opened perfumes. They probably thought they were going to find very expensive things in an expensive bag! But God catch them, I kept my true valuables in my hand luggage. Lesson learned! Now I have a special set of cheap Walmart luggage I use for Naija trips! I also make sure that any family members that follow me to the airport dress conservatively in ankara fabric so I don't attract negative attention. No more thefts since then.

A temporary stay in fine but I know my Naija people well: they lose all shame and dignity when they find awoof benefits. If you're a man with any pride and decency, you will make your stay in his house truly temporary. If you decide to stay in the house for longer than a few weeks (3mths at the very, VERY maximum), you will be opening up your marriage to undue influence and a whole lot of drama! Remember, the key word here is TEMPORARY!!!

This is why unwise children shouldn't be allowed to get married. A truly simple situation has now blown-up into an extended family conflict. What kind of families do you both come from? Don't you have wise men and women to talk some sense into you all? Why are you jeopardizing your marriage with childish grudges and fights?

From what I have read, I can say confidently that the OP is a bit foolish and immature. She's not yet ready to live in a man's house as the woman of the house. Her sister-in-laws are obviously wrong but they did nothing that couldn't have been nipped in the bud with a few calm, soothing words to the husband in bed, a little patience, a little bit of humility, a little bit of maturity and a soft but firm touch. Now that your husband has sided with his sisters against you, what are you going to do? Pack out of the house? This is a horrible start to a marriage. I am very afraid of the future ahead of you. You need prayers, wise counsel and divine intervention. Good luck!

Sisi_Kill:

Lmao! Eleha Jawe!!

Why will she wanna come back to a place where she has to be "released"

Okay on a serious note, It is very annoying when people don't show appreciation after you let them use your property!! You didn't have to release her to them but you being the magnanimous person you are, you did and how do the repay you. . .mot a word of thanks. Some people have no idea what can ungratefulness can cause.

I remember a story my grandma told me, one man released his slaves to go help his friend clear his farm, after the clearing the other man didn't even come calling to say thanks. . .nothing. The slave owner got angry and fought his friend, the small fight between friends turned to all out war and before you know it the whole village razed down by fire, property lost, lives lost. . .all because one person didn't see fit to thank another for releasing his slave. SMH!!

My Advice, don't be angry just take this has a lesson learned. Now you know that next time you won't release your wife to any body until you get assurance they will appreciate your releasing. . .releasion. . .whatever, you get the point, no?

Abeg, no kill me with laughter! Thank God some of us can pass across a message with humor. I can't, so here we go:

@ OP, your wife is not a cooking pot to be lent out to friends and family when needed. She went to help her childhood friend with her wedding plans and was courteous enough to ask you before leaving. Instead of rejoicing with her friend during this happy event, you wicked man decided to start disturbing your wife with phone calls, so much so that she had to ask you to back off! Your wife finally returns home, a little later than anticipated, and the first thing that popped into your little head is to report her to Nairaland. My friend, it's pretty clear that your wife isn't the problem. YOU ARE THE PROBLEM! You come across as a petty, jobless man that's up to no good. Please stop harassing your wife over irrelevant nonsense. She hasn't done anything wrong. Stop allowing your bloated ego to get in the way of your marital happiness! If you're upset over this small thing, I can't imagine what you're going to do when something that's actually serious happens.

And why won't the husbands mistreat the wife once they marry her! After all, they "bought" her at a high price and feel entitled to treat her like a highly-priced gadget. I pray some of our cultures can move away from these barbaric practices. Giving your daughter's hand in marriage should not be a wealth-creation event. Stop selling your daughters into marital slavery! To be honest, a lot of Lagos weddings cost several times more than this. However, the money goes towards the party and ceremony, not to enrich the wife's family!

LOL!!!! Nigeria is run by crime lords, i tell ya! Even the banks are not safe from looters! Upside down country.

Rossikk: Eko Atlantic city will generate hundreds of thousands of jobs in construction, the service sector, including financial services, law, insurance, IT, food services, transport, retail, entertainment, the list is endless. In the long run, MILLIONS of careers will begin from Eko Atlantic related business. I don't see how that isn't a great thing for Nigerians. People talk about unemployment. Here are the jobs. So what's the complaint??

When did real estate developments start producing jobs in financial service and law etc?! It's just the same old Lagos businesses that are going to move to newer buildings. Stop peddling stupid lies, Please.

Is this a trend? The Christian thieves go to Israel and the muslim ones go to Saudi Arabia? Do they think God will treat them more kindly at these places? What happened to getting treatment in good old London or the US?

The leader of the most credible opposition party was a heroin dealer in the US. The ex-governor of one of the nation's wealthiest states was a common petty thief in the UK. These aren't aberrations. Nigeria is a country ruled by crime lords. We have flushed our previously upstanding civilizations down the toilet. Nothing is left but a criminal ruling class and a stupid, under-educated underclass. We don't need oyinbos to tell us this.

Why is this irrelevant, useless FOOL always hogging the limelight? Nobody cares!!! Just keep your foolishness to Osun State and spare the rest of the country.

Then leave! Nobody wants you! You're bloody leeches and an embarrassment to the rest of the country. Please, do us all a favor, leave the federation and go join your impoverished brothers in Niger! Chikena!

More like question for secondary school girls. No real mother will give you an answer to that question. Dumbest question ever!

Women that assume their mother-in-laws are automatic enemies are not worthy of marriage. I pray to never encounter such in my life. Why should a woman that has been there for me through thick and thin, from childhood to adulthood, suddenly become a persona-non-grata in my life once a woman comes into the picture? That is unnatural and unjust. Now I understand that there are many different grades and types of mothers in the world; not ALL mother-in-laws are decent and seeking the best for their son's marriage. But this isn't the case most of the time. Most MIL's just want to be loved and respected, that's all. I don't play with my mum; she's all I've ever had and she has a heart of pure gold (she has proven over and over again that she will give her life for me if needed). I warn every woman that comes into my life not to mess with my mum. If she can't respect and love my mum, then we have no future together. Period.

Yeah, I am a big-time mama's boy (but you wouldn't know it because I left home when I was 16 and I typically see my Mum once a year).

MLS12: Am married(Got married last year) buh I dnt just like puttn on my weddin ring cos I normally dnt like anytin jewelries .I can only manage ear rings.my hubby always puts his ring on,and has not really complained abt my ring absence,buh my sister inlaw won't let me be.she tinks am cheatn,and am sure other pple might tink dat way,hw do I convince dem,as my hubby's trust 4me is so high.

This is a classic example of a deed that's lawful but not expedient. A married woman going about town without her ring is just inviting trouble and malicious gossip. Even if your husband is totally fine with it, you should be wearing a ring because it signals that you are a respectable married woman. The truth is the rings aren't really for the married couple (they already know that they are married to each other), they are symbols/signs for the outside world.

afam4eva:

Na from where you dey you take know say i dey undisciplined. How very undisciplined of you. Why not hold an AK-47 and stand in front of your gate waiting to attack any in-law that comes close because you're the first person to get married. By the time your husband decides to kick your azz out of his house, it's still the same relatives that you'll run to.

I guess you also need glasses.

afam4eva:

People like you make marriage look like work. You don't know that by marrying your husband, you've also married his family.

Undisciplined men like you annoy the heck out of me! If you're not man enough to safeguard your house and your wife's sanity from your intruding family members, then why bother with marriage at all? Why don't you move-in with your family and make babies with the family she-goat? Of course, every man wants his wife to be on great terms with his family but there are limits and boundaries to everything. I won't let my family just pop-into my home for extended stays without notice because it is unfair to every occupant of that home. I would expect the same courtesy from her family members.

I guess it's a different issue when you live in a giant Naija house with guest quarters. Otherwise, there's just no excuse for family members that won't leave young married couples alone to enjoy their lives.

chaircover: Jenny No be the X5 O! This na just the common 3 series

Lagos hot die. I rarely complain about the heat and I always laugh at the "wanna gonna fucka" peeps who get off the plane at MM1 in Lagos and start blowing grammar & taking off their t-shirts showing their dirty vests in the Immigration queue

But this time I really felt the heat and was even scared to go out.

Those tickets will not come down o! Me sef I don tire! all for what? chicken or beef

LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! There is always some ghetto kid blowing foreign accent, removing his shirt, complaining bitterly and wiping his sweaty face with a GIANT dirty towel. I am grateful that my days of economy-class are over. I just whisk right past that long-ass line. Aunty CC, I pray that your days of 3-series will soon be over! Time to upgrade to that X5 nah, haba!

I think it's pretty obvious that the majority of Nigerian investors in this project will be using stolen government money. This is neither new, nor surprising (go check out the large inventory of empty vanity projects sitting around Banana Island as evidence). Overall, I think it's a good thing. It's better the stolen money is reinvested back into Nigeria than for it to be parked in offshore accounts, never to return home. Of course, most of the money is probably going back abroad via checks to foreign construction companies and financing banks but ... whatever. It's a private project; they can do anything they like.

ronkebp:

I missed you though!!!! thought you were in jail!!!

Who wan jail me for this land?!!

*beats chest and roars*

Things got a bit busy and hectic so I took a break. I would come in here occasionally to see what's up but the template change really pissed me off so I didn't reply threads. How have you been, madam? Still seducing your husband with ponmo and sexy alanta dance?

There is a bit more to this story than meets the eye. I am particularly disturbed by the specific manifestations of the SIL's hostility: taking away her child and locking up her household items. I hate to break it to you, but your brother (or somebody else) has been sharing some family secrets with his wife and you might be shining the light up the wrong alley. What is your history with your brother? What in your past would warrant him describing you negatively to his wife? A woman doesn't snatch her child away from a friendly relative for no reason. She has heard something about you and your showing up unannounced like an illiterate villager probably brought all her pent-up feelings about you to the surface. Good luck and next time, please spend N50 to call the young family before moving-in for a week!

Yepa! I take a quick break from Nairaland and I completely miss Aunty Jenny's public meltdown! Chei!

Poor Aunty Jenny just couldn't take all the stories of dismemberment and outright murder and she fking flew over the cuckoo's nest! Pele, it go better. It tire me too oh! The posts make it seem like Nigerian men are savage beasts that can't live with women. Nah lie oh! There are many great Naija guys out there; their stories just rarely make it to the public domain. Have you ever seen the following breaking news headline: "Husband Worships His Wife?" Didn't think so.

Don't get me wrong, Nigerian men can be savage, untrained beasts but those men are the anomaly, not the norm. And all you foolish women out there standing by your equally foolish, wife-beating, men should better learn that this is NOT normal; please pick race as soon as you can. A man is of absolutely no use to you when you're 6ft under; he will surely move on to find his next victim and leave your kids hungry and wandering the streets in dirty clothes.

Geez, anybody would pass for Solomon to Nigerians these days. She's pretty much on point most of the time. Other times, she's just your typical naija market woman.

This section has been pretty sad lately. I just got tired of all the horrific stories with little sign of progress so I voltroned and traveled to another section for a while.

Stupid, dumb woman! A wholesale national disgrace! Dancing around the market like an over-fed elephant with absolutely no regard for reason, protocol or common sense. Imagine shutting down Lagos for a full working day to say thank you for South South women? Even the most powerful First Lady in the world, Michelle Obama, can't do that.

And then she'll go back sulking to her husband when Nigerians call her out and tell her the truth about her foolish, illiterate ways.

naijaking1:

Another deluded, imaginary, and con-artist? Or a psychiatric ward run away patients

You must be that pudgy stepson that's been writing apologies lately. Perhaps you should focus your energy on grammar classes; and only then come back to vent and rage. Your papa would have been better off flushing that tuition money.

obowunmi:

Trust me that this woman is corrupt. Her useless niece lives in a 4 bedroom flat in NYC. Where them get money? The one that married Akunluyi, Rogues! Thieves.

Not all Nigerians are fools like the US would like us to believe.

A four bedroom in a nice neighborhood in Manhattan costs between $1 million and $65 million. I seriously doubt her salary as a minister is enough to afford this and still keep her neck swathed with diamonds. Let's not deceive ourselves, please. Our thieving masters can't steal our heritage right under our noses and then we believe it when they tell us the billy-goat ate it.

The US happily turned a blind eye to Teodoro Obiang's stolen loot being laundered through US banks for decades until 2004 when he practically transferred almost all of Equatorial Guinea's treasury to the Riggs Bank in Washington DC and then the stink was too high to politely ignore. Let's not mistake a self-serving endorsement of a kleptocrat as evidence of the kleptocrat's virtuousness. Madam is a bloody thief! The sooner we all embrace this, the better.

The Israel-Iran situation begins to deteriorate and the US starts praising a thieving Nigerian oil minister: it doesn't take a genius to figure out the math. The US doesn't care as long as it gets its quota of oil imports to offset a potential tightening of oil supplies. I honestly don't blame them. I would do the same thing to satisfy my own interests.

tpia@:

weird!!!

anyway, try UI since they seem to have some exchange programs with the US in place already.

some american students have been there for cultural studies.

I was going to suggest UI but then, I don't think it's Performing Arts program is strong at all. It has a very strong African Studies program though.

Overall, this lady needs to just give it up. Nigeria is not a place you go for fun! There are better and more stable countries for cute reconnections with Mother Africa. She's better off going on a safari.

I doubt any Nigerian university has a study-abroad program. Do you have on-the-ground Nigerian friends? If yes, then they are in the best position to help you do your initial research. You might be able to take some classes as an "exchange" student but I don't know how that process works and I have never met anyone that has done this in Nigeria.

I seriously considered study abroad programs in African countries ages ago and the only programs my undergrad school would approve were in Senegal, Mali, Ghana, Kenya and South Africa. I ultimately decided to study in Paris (it was cheaper, more convenient and had a better selection of classes to satisfy requirements in all three of my majors). If you are looking for classes in Nigerian Dance, then Unilag or Yabatech might be good choices to explore. If you're looking to learn an African language, then your options are much broader, depending on what language you're interested in (of the Nigerian languages, Yoruba tends to have the strongest departments.)

Again, reach out to your on-the-ground friends in Nigeria and see if they can go make in-person inquiries at Unilag (most of these universities just aren't wired to respond efficiently to electronic/paper inquiries and it might be almost impossible to reach a knowledgeable administrator on the phone.) Otherwise, reach out to departments of African studies at US universities and see if any of the professors have any recommendations. African Studies is a small enough field that most of the professors in the field would know someone that has done some field work in Nigeria. Good luck!

y me:

I love the smell of sand when its about to rain [b]to the extent I pack sand from the ground to che[/b]w. . . . Gross!
I love the smell of emissions from cars. . . . .
I love cigarrettes smell tho I hate smoking with passion

Are you writing in from Aro hospital? Who the fck chews sand?!