Woreva:
Oh dear! Henmaris, I'm so sorry to hear this. But I believe GOD is still on the throne, and HE will give you double for all your troubles.
Don't worry, everything will be alright, and it shall end in praise.
#Hugs#

Dear Henmaris,Am so sorry about your loss.The Almighty will double your effort with twins soon.

MarryMeee:
I have been with my husband for a while now and I can say we have been doing well for ourselves. But i have a problem with some relatives that are turning us into their atm machine. My husband has an uncle who has always had other people taking care of his children (5children from 3 different women) for him whilst he goes out to enjoy himself without a care in the world.

Last year my in laws asked us to take in one of his daughters so she could go to school in the city. I was hesitant at first since i did not know much about her or the father, but eventually I warmed up to the idea. Fast forward 6months later, I am sick and tired of it. She does not do her homework without being forced and sometimes she skips school. I have already been called 3times by her teacher making complaints about her attitude in class and her perfomance. If you do not dig for her homework from her bag she will not do it. This girl is already 11 and she is only in grade 4 and she bed-wets.

I do not usually resort to beating a child because I have told myself that should be the last resort, but at the same time I am tired of buying things for her because she is always destroying them. She will wear her best clothes to go play with mud outside and she has turned her school shoes in slippers. She is always losing her stationery and she has torn 2 of her school uniforms already. She once broke the toilet and we had to get a new (not toilet seat, i mean the actual damn toilet) and she broke the plasma in the living room barely 5months after we got it.

As if she is not a big enough headache, her father always finds himself in my house almost every month and he will not leave until you compensate him for coming to your house uninvited. Of course he will expect you to give him money and groceries to take home.

Everything has been frustrating my husband as well and he is considering taking the girl back to her father's house as soon as schools closes and to be honest i really do not have a problem with that, but my issue is that his family is against the idea because its not a christian thing to do (1Timothy 5v8)

To those who have been in the same situation, how did you resolve it amicably and where did you draw the line?

@MarryMeee, Your story made me remember what i passed through in the hands of inlaws mine nearly sent me packing the girls dad was my husband's senior brother every month we were paying allawee from our salaries to them,i then decided to go bring the eldest daughter from the village and enrolled her in school with my money o! Immediately d babe reach abj she became something else,even attending parties,going places that i have never been even with all my years in abj,she chooses what to eat, she would never wash my childeren cloth or any chores cos i have a maid that does that and whenever am in the kitchen she will b busy with the tv. when i got tired and wanted to return her my oga refused o! and said i should leave instead.

WindUpMerchant:
Ordinarily I should be sad..but I'm not. Why? God probably gave the kids an escape route from this wicked world and parents. I ask myself..why do women go childless for 20year..praying,fasting..IVF and all.Then you have such people have kids in abundance? Smh..sleep well children.you deserved better

The story hurts me a lot, why wont she keep them with the neighbors or employ a maid to be with them any day she wishes to visit the beer parlor ....its so sad!

Child260:
Hello mamas in the house
Had a HSG test done on saturday and it showed the shape of the uterus and fallopian tubes
are normal, NO BLOCKAGE. Praise GOD for that.
What next do I do now I have been ttc for 2yrs now. Advice and suggestion are welcome.
Baby dust all.
Thanks.

I think you should detox and continue with fertile aid products,folic acid or any prenatal supplements the sabi mama's in the house will provide better advice.Baby dust to us all!

BELLOQ:
Good morning everyone in the house,this ismy first time here.Hv been ttc since 3months,and also having irregular menstrual cycle. Just got the evergreen woman,please the supplement is very effective and when do istart taking it since am on my last day of period.

@ BELLOQ,welcome to the house sis, may your stay be short as you acheive bfp soon. Oya bring your feet forward make i pour water (yoruba tradition for new wives) at lease i be ur senior here

feldido:
Why are all the names male names?
Just Wondering

I wonder o!

Loisemm:

No dear mama. I feel paracetamol will be safer now till u know which way.
*modified* I just saw mamas hv also answered u with the same suggestion. So there u go. I pray u get a bfp!
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chinelany , thanks for the link. (though it's not opening)
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Movingheight , U are warmly welcome. I pray u get ur second set of children soon, mama. Other lovely Newbies, U are so welcome too. Sharp sharp porting to preggy thread be urs.

@Loisemm,Thank you my sister, i claim the prayers like goalkeeper dey catch ball for championship!

4realwoman:
@mumchristine, How are you feeling today hope beta?

@uwasam, I just want you to kW that nothing is to difficult for God to do and also to let you kW that he will do it for you just trust and b'live.

@99billiondollar, our God is a forgiving God if not he will not send his Son Jesus christ to come and die our sins. Pl don't trouble yourself again as for children you will have dem plenty cos that is what the word of God said.

@fvine, hope you are feeling beta today? And sorry about the cold.

@anikeayun, sorry about the pains and if after taking paracetamol and the pains continues pls see a Dr.

@candance, please, biko don't ever think of resigning this Buhari season cos you will need all the money when your children starts coming. Dis 2 shall pass as long as we serve a living God the one that turned water to wine. Just b'live that he will do it for you.

@loisemm, am sure she is just angry for taking in @ d moment and looking for who to take it out on. Just let her be but for ur mum washing her plate is what I don't buy @all cos I tink it should be the orda way round. Just my own tinking sha.

@omowunmigan, how are you doing ma? Just checkin up on u.

@myzphayor, nneejima and movingheight, welcome and I pray that you get that which you look for in Jesus name, Amen.

And to all our MIA mamas pls show face let kW u are okay pls.

@all, greeting from me and do have a wonderful day ahead. One love.

@4realwoman,Amen to the prayers. Senior in the house!

mamaTB:
Happy birthday zest4allife!!!! Congratulations LAAR!!
Good morning fruitful mamas, please let's encourage ourselves with this testimony below.

HERE IS MY TESTIMONY
My husband and I have been married close to 3 years. We live in the US and I have the best health insurance plan there is, my doctors are one of the best at Kaiser, yet no child. I wondered why I couldn't get pregnant as I remembered how I would get pregnant for my ex boyfriends with ease and I did abort those precious babies with ease as well. I prayed for forgiveness everyday and I promised God that I would never abort a baby again. My pet daughters and family friends would call and say "Aunt I am pregnant and I don't know what to do", I would start praying and encouraging them to keep the baby and sometimes send them money for ante-natal care. Some heeded my advice others didn't but believe me I would cry from my heart when I eventually get that call and hear that voice say "Aunt sorry I couldn't keep it, I aborted the baby". I would think about the irony of life and how some have food but can't eat some can eat but have no food. In 2014, they diagnosed large uterine fibroid and I had an open myomectomy surgery to take them out. August 15, 2014, I spent 5 hours in surgery and when it was over, my skin became so dark and I looked very frail too. My recovery was a long one, I had severe pain and was on heavy pain killers, I was out of job for 4 months.
As soon as my doctor said it was safe to try again my husband and I got very busy in the bedroom. We tried from Dec 2014 through Feb 2016, nothing happened. I was frustrated, as I was few months away from my 35th birthday. On Feb 25, 2016, we decided to go see the specialist so we could start looking into other options available to us. During that visit, she did an ultrasound for me and turned the screen of the ultrasound machine so my husband & I could see, behold, there was a large cyst attached to my right ovary. She measured it and said it was almost 8cm and that she would need to take it out to increase my chances of getting pregnant as I only had 50% chance of getting pregnant as I couldn't ovulate from my right ovary. As soon as she said that, I remember vividly that my husband said "No More Surgeries". She looked at him and smiled and said she would like to see me in a month to measure the cyst again as anything close to 10cm requires urgent surgery to prevent further complications, so she concluded that we should plan for another surgery. She scheduled another appointment to see us on April 7. We left the hospital and I cried all the way home as all I could think about was my long hours in the operating room and large stitches on my belly without a child to show for it, I thought about all the many nights I couldn't sleep due to pain from the surgery and didn't know how to start all over again. However, my dear husband kept reassuring me that enough of all these medical reports, he said "Honey lets go to God in prayers". We started a 3 day fast the very next day and prayed our hearts out, on the 2nd day of the fast (Feb 27) I started bleeding and I knew it was odd as my period came 3 days early. When I told my husband, he said to me "Don't think about it because God is set to do a new thing". The Sunday of the weekend, we joined Salvation Ministries online service and prayed as well. On March 2, I returned from work and was trying to do our laundry, when I emptied the pockets of one of my husband's trousers, I found a folded piece of paper, out of curiosity, I opened it, behold he had written " My Wife's February menstruation will be the last menstruation for the next months, we will welcome the birth of our first child latest Dec 2016". I broke down in tears and prayed to confirm it and I hid the paper in my wallet. I remember my husband made love to me that week and for every time, he would hold my belly and pray declaring that there's a divine conception.
Fast forward, March 27 came and I waited for my period to flow, nothing happened. I imagined since I was few days early in Feb by March 30 or 31, I should have it, nothing happened. By this time I was already asking myself if this was what I was thinking. April 4, I took a home PT and it was positive, my husband held my belly right there in the bathroom and made more declarations. We quickly made an appointment with my doctor for April 5, 2 days before her scheduled appointment to re-measure the cyst. While in her office, she said my PT came back positive, but she would like to check on the cyst, she did an ultrasound and behold the cyst was GONE!!! She turned to us and said, whatever you guys have been doing is working. We went home happy and praising God.
A week later I started bleeding heavily, large blood clots were dropping into the toilet bowl, at some point I was rushed to the emergency unit. The doctor did another ultrasound and said she was sorry as I was in the middle of a miscarriage and that they can't do anything to stop it, that I should go home and expect more bleeding. She said my uterus was filled with tissues breaking down into blood clots. Devastated, I cried when we got home but my husband kept saying "God's report is different, the baby is alive". I bled even more and went back to the hospital few days after as I was losing too much blood, my doctor did another ultrasound and the first thing she said was "I can see a SAC, but it's empty. I'm sorry I have to send you in for an official ultrasound with better machines, so they can tell us if there's anything in there". I went for the official US and the Tech told me sorry all I can see is blood clots, leftovers of a miscarriage. I did another HCG test and my HCG didn't double. On our way home, my doctor called and said I should make an appointment for a D&C to evacuate the leftovers so I can start trying again. I told her I would get back to her. My husband and I prayed and we agreed that if it's the will of God, then I should bleed and keep bleeding till it's all gone but a d&c is a No for us.
I bled and bled everyday for another 2 weeks and then the bleeding stopped. All my pregnancy symptoms had disappeared, but my husband insisted I keep taking my prenatal vitamins and we kept praying. We sowed seeds, as a matter of fact my husband borrowed part of the money for the sacrificial seed. I stopped working and was just home praying for God's will. On May 5th, we decided to go back to see my doctor just to be sure that we have an all clear as to whether or not the leftovers of the miscarriage had gone away or there's a testimony, behold, my doctor did an ultrasound and her face turned red as she looked at us, she put the machine on speaker and we heard a loud heart beat at 171 HR. She turned the screen of the ultrasound machine and there was our big BABY kicking away. She called in another doctor to confirm what she had seen and the other doctor said "YES, that's a baby right there". When she measured and printed out the scan, the machine printed 9 weeks, 1 day old EDD Dec 3. My Sisters & Mothers, please thank this big God that breaks medical rules for His glory.

Congratulations Laar! This testimony got me dancing! we all have hope that it will come to pass,its just a matter of time.

mumredeemer:
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Lizzypaul, I beg leave MIL and her drama, dont let her add to the stress of ur ttc o. Mil is just being Mil, even those who have children still experience MIL issues. I can relate to this. if I wan bring my own here una go say enhe? i marry a different tribe and my eye see sheke. 'will buy things for MIL, she will turn it to weapon and stone me with it clapping her hands behind my back shouting and calling me names all because she need grand children from me. I stop buying because I use my hard earned money to buy only to become a bad person. During a little squabble with SIL where I told her they don't appreciate, SIL ask me, what av you done for my mum did you buy a car for her? "that money you claim u have, u will continue to have and spend it" I said amen! as long as I spend it on ur children too, when they flood my house every semester before they go back to school. What I do is shut them off my mind, I don't care. They don't call, I only call on their BD even though none ever call on mine. I don't care. I Use to shun their family gathering, but now I go in style, use my last to look good. They will call DH behind to serve food they wont give me, not once, not twice. I will remove snacks from my bag and eat because I always go prepared after my first experience. I don't care. My life will not stalled because I am ttc. Maybe it's a trial from God because while I was still single, we were having
girls gist, my friends were like, they pray their MIL will die before they marry their DH. I told them I want God to give me a MIL so that I will proof to them that Mil and DIL can av a good relationship because I av assessed myself and thought I have all it takes, wrong! Now they got their wishes, I got mine. Reality! God forgive me please for I was ignorant now I know MIL will always be MIL no matter what. Don't let her die but change her for the sake of the wish i made. My sis, hang on, we will conquer.

mumredeemer:Your story really touched me and i said a silent prayer for you. Your twins are already by the door! please open and let them in my sister, baby dust to us all.

Good morning all sabi mothers. I have been a silent reader for years,i once registered but deactivated. i am currently ttcing for 6 years had a set of twin in 2009 wanted immediate conception which never happened till date having tried almost everything.am currently 40 while dh is 42.Heading for ivf since age is no longer on my side registered with fertilaid (Dr shuaibu) in gwarimpa. spoke with Mumihaja yesterday and she encouraged me to come online any advice will be appreciated to make this circle successful. i have been diagnosed with high prolactin adenomiosis (have never heard anyone with this o)and currently on dostinex and zoladex injection. sorry for the long post.

Good morning all sabi mothers. I have been a silent reader for years,i once registered but deactivated. i am currently ttcing for 6 years had a set of twin in 2009 wanted immediate conception which never happened till date having tried almost everything.am currently 40 while dh is 42.Heading for ivf since age is no longer on my side.spoke with Mumihaja yesterday and she encouraged me to come online any advice will be appreciated i have been diagnosed with high prolactin and currently on dostinex. sorry for the long post.