Tonero5200:
Hi.

Honestly speaking am really worried, have dated my fiance for sometime now. So we finally decided to tie the knot.
She suggested we do it this year November and I concurred, so we've been saving towards it ever since.

Last 2 months I made my intentions known to her family, that I will like to marry their daughter. Due to the conversations I had With her parents, I told them I wanted it small.. because am not financialy buoyant.

But To my surprise, her dad said I shouldn't worry about it, they are going to support me ( which is most likely Normal)

(They gave me traditional rite's, which I sorted out by myself)

With the traditional right drawing close, last month I learnt from my fiancee..her parents are planning to buy 2 cow for the traditional and white wedding. (I was surprised)

The following week, the hall she choosed for the reception of the white wedding, has already been paid for by her dad which was about 500k excluding the decorations which they also took care of ( even though I opted we could have done the reception in the church)

But my fiancee told me her dad is inviting alot of well-wishers home and abroad to come celebrate with us.both his fellow staffs and all.

* I bought 2 bag of rice and groundnut oils

* We paid for the cakes

* We paid for drinks

* We sorted things out (invitation cards, pre shoot photos)

But was surprised 2 days to the traditional marriage, more expensive drinks were rolling in.

On the d day of the white wedding, I realised, they cooked more than 8 bags of rice ( coconut, jollof, banga and fried) meats were surplused.
Alot of people came from her family's, while my own families were just there.. they did get the message.

Someone even said it to my mom face. THAT THIS GIRL PAPA TRY O.

please, I don't want to sound like am a bad person or I don't know good.
Offcus I appreciate her parents efforts, but am just a little bit worried.

As a man, won't this come to haunt me in the future?

You are a lucky man. The father can establish/ connect you to be successful. Just abe a loyal faithful husband to his daughter.

Congrats

MrPresent:
This is a true life story.

The lady in question is so confused on what to do.

Please advise her responsibly:

(Matured Minds Only)

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Good morning, I am married into a very wealthy home, my husband is the eldest child, they are four, 3 male and a female.

Last two years I got a nanny, she's 32 years, my husband is in charge of his father company, his father has houses everywhere around the world but he's leaving with us, because of loneliness, he lost his wife 12yrs ago and since then he refused to marry again, he's 65years old but still young, I have a supermarket, so my nanny cook and takes care of the home while I'm away, my nanny has been sleeping with my father in-law but I didn't know, March this year we found out she's pregnant and she said it was papa that was responsible, when I ask her how long she has been sleeping with him she said since last year.

I was shouting at her when my husband shut me up that I shouldn't talk to her like that, that she's not a child, my own house help! When my husband talk to his father about it, he said the girl, that is my nanny has been his companion that he wants to marry her, mogbe I said over my dead body, my own maid, instead of my husband to be on my side he said if marrying the girl will make his father Happy that he has his support, the house we are living is build by my father in-law, it's a duplex, Mummy as am writing you my husband and his brothers followed my father in-law to pay my nanny dowry, they came back yesterday.

I didn't go with the children because I can't Believe my father in-law stoop so low to marry my maid when there are other women out there, last night I was talking to my husband and he told me to stop referring her as my nanny that she's now Married to his father therefore I should be calling her "Aunty mi", and my kids who usually call her Aunty should start calling her "Mummy", and I asked him what will she be calling me, he said anything she likes.

I am just here crying, someone I brought into my home has now turned madam over me, what should I do, and I can't tell my husband to rent another apartment when he has a duplex, papa can't leave either because he want to be close to his son, how long can I take this, please I need advice. Thanks. Married for 10years.

What a Life!

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What Are Your Thoughts?

She would be in the comment section reading.

My piece of advice, it's good you are a Yoruba woman, The adage says ' bi Ase bi eru la bi omo' It's very certain that you didn't come from wealthy home. Your luck was that you married into that family. Staying in the Duplex built by your father in law says it all. If you allow pride and jealous ruin your marriage you are OYO. Shouldn't the lady be happy it was predestined that's how her narrative would be change in life. Change your attitude about her. She is now a bona-fide member of the family and your step mother in law. Tutor your children to treat her very special. If you are not ready to take this advice, the best option for you is to quit the marriage over what is not tenable. As you are happy in your marriage enjoying the wealth built by your father in law, Let the new 'MADAM' your step mother inlaw enjoys her husband. Her unborn children has the same stake and rights to her husband wealth. Accept your fate. Peradventure this type of luck happens to your sibling.Your mom would have been the happiest mother in law now. Bye

Mercychen:

Are you sure you're ready and mature enough for marriage?

Are you financially comfortable to some extent?

Can you conviniently cater for three as at now?

What are your prospects?

Let me tell you, marriage is not only all about those butterfly in your belly feelings. You must be ready in all ramifications otherwise you'll jump out almost immediately when the nitti-gritti of marriage starts hitting you left right and center. And I mean the bills, financial burdens and responsibilities of marriage. So if you're not well prepared to shoulder all that or go through it, you better sit back and work harder before jumping into it.

Marriage is not lalaland or a fun park.
It's not childs play. It's a serious lifetime venture.

This is the best advice. Are you mentally and financially prepared for what this writer said.
God will guide you.

SpecialAdviser:
Nice move. I am one person that believe the best approach to any agitation is to find a common ground to agree and move forward.
Nobody gains anything by being adamant and being stubborn to the plight of the people.

In any violence we all lose. Peace remain the best option. Nigeria cannot make any progress in an atmosphere where some people are short changed and maltreated.
- Release Nnamdi Kanu
- Restructure the country
- Grant Biafran remembrance day
- Fight Boko Haram with geniune heart
- Vote in Igbo president, after all they always voted you.
- Stop marginalizing any section.

All these will help reduce agitation.

God bless you!

BryanZino:
Hello guys, I'm new to posting on this forum so I don't know the best section this post should be.
As I type this, I'm currently sick and there so much anger and pain within, I haven't been able to eat or drink since I got the news from my neighbor who told me that my landlord came to the house with a strange face, broke the locks to my apartment and packed my things out, I sent a relative to confirm and she said everything is outside but he went with my TV set.
I called the landlord to ask what he has done, he blatantly lied telling me I sent my 'brother' to clear my things off the apartment that he has reported me to Police.
Yes, I owe him 8months rent and I've away for 13 months even before the last year rent I paid expired. I told him I'll be back by November and I'll pay once I get in.
Pls even though I owe him, it doesn't feel right stealing my property and throwing the rest in the rain
Pls I'm lost and dire need of legal advice
Edit: while I'm not absolving my self of the guilt that I owe the landlord this long and purely due to loss of job (covid19 problems) and there's no way I go there and get my stuff without paying the backlog. [code][/code] he freaking broke in and kept what he desired for himself and lied he didn't. Haba, this is wrong na

You are a crook and a criminal. You owed a man for 8 months, you have been away for 13 months. You don't have legitimate means of living. You have been in hideout for 13 months. Can't you transfer his money to his account?
You are looking for advice online when you are already guilty.
You will land in Police cell. The Landlord patiently waited for 13 months. Please fear God!

Richy4:

I feel really sad for the woman, Assuming she was my younger sister that I never have, I will just ask her to leave that marriage because there is nothing to salvage ..I will help her pack her things and ask her to come and leave with me... what an insult to her dignity and sensibility...She made a mistake though by telling the other woman's husband instead of confronting her own husband..

However, If Mrs was not attached to her name, she will not die...If she doesn't wear a ring in the middle of her fingers, she will not die... If she can't have sex, she will not die as a matter of fact, having sex in that relationship might kill her faster...

It indeed feels really great wearing the bigger trouser ...

Tell her that her life is in danger. As she stupidly broke another woman's home. She won't know peace. With her action has she wins the man heart.
There are issue we need to apply wisdom and common sense.

She has gone extreme and should be ready to face the consequences.