HornyTave:
are You in Benin? hit me up on hornytave@gmail.com if you're interested in farming.

Peaceagain:
First and foremost, you don't need that job. You should be happy because moments like these ones you have had only push you to destiny. God is trying to tell you that your destiny is big. Don't settle for less. And you don't have to bend over and let people f*** you in the back. You deserve respect and you should demand it from whomever, whenever. Cry today if you must, but go out there tomorrow and tell the world you are not one to be messed with.

MadamExcellency:
Do worry, I was sacked or resigned four times, all from multinational companies but at the end I landed as a manager in oil company.

You have been much longer than necessary in that demeaning rather comfort zone of yours and nature wants to elevate you to where you belong.

It's not the end, it's the beginning of better things.

BallingGuy:
Fvck them all!

Madam, abeg come learn Digital/Creative skills. I promise you will be a pro in few months. Coupled with your academic qualification, you can start something (work from home, or be a Team-lead in a reputable organization).

One major thing...You really need to start THINKING BIG.

Once again....Fvck them all! No be my wahala. But I am pissed!

That course wey you study, no too get value for this country. Go for any tech or creative skill. These are skills are organization (small or large) are hungry for.

All the best, dear.

Iceberg3:
@ msjackson...What!!!! Chemical engineering?!!!!?

Oh God!!!

Hey sister, don't you attend church or belong some women organisation? You can let them know who you are in they be connected.

Some coys like MTN are also women friendly.

May God make a way for you but please stay away from POS o.



****Go to Krones LCS centre 7 acme road,Ogba,Lagos.

It's a very beautiful and good engineering company with male engineers on the field but with God,you can be an administrative staff since you are an engineer.

prepare yourself with everything and prayers,go there and ask to see the Human resources manager.

paulGrundy:


Do you base in Lagos?

olaniyilukman:
@39years old, you are still teaching in private school, this life is too short than to waste your life being slave... I pity you bro but at the same time I congratulate you for leaving slave job and God will provide better offer..I knew you will be face with financial difficulties this time but I believe God will do the best.. I will see how I can help in this regard but I don't want to make promise now

clockwisereport:
My heart is in shatters like the garment of Jesus in Golgotha. Just look at what my countrymen and women are going through all in the name of jobs.

I dey vex. Make I no go write something out of anger. I will reply you later

PapaFejiro:
With your level of education, this kind of job loss should not get you worried. How much sef is the salary? You should be thanking God you are no more there.
Now you should take a few weeks break like 2 weeks to get your mental recovery and be back to your best. Forget that chewing gum girl, her mom, brother and akara school.
Either you go on social media to advertise your discipline like LinkedIn or you start forex, business of buying and selling etc.
You can start buying Ogbono or beans in sacks, wholesale and retail via social media. You could repackage and do a lot more.
Dont work in toxic environment for your mental health sake.
Send an email if you need business ideas and support. With your husband's knowledge of course.

lendahand:
Don't be depressed you sweet soul. You're being trained in self discipline. As a lady if you learn to let your assaulters shout without uttering a word, you have won the battle. Meanwhile forget about that school and look inwards to see what you can do by yourself. Don't get so hooked to your certificate. Bright days will meet you soon

kerry57:
Msjackson, listen attentively; that place isn't ur place of glory. Whatever that transpired all happened to get u to ur next level cos left with u, u will remain there. God wants u to sit back and look inwards and around u for the potentials that u need to be honored. Don't just complain or mourmour, u will see it come. Just keep thanking him from taking u out of Egypt to ur own promised land, then u shall see that promise land manifest.

Originalsly:
If you are as good as you say... give private lessons.... cheap price... parents will send their kids... especially when they realize your replacement is not as good. If you get employed at another school.... lure the kids away to the new school .... the best way to get back is let him feel it financially.

Oyerinde16:
If you reside in abuja, I can offer you something better... More of a supervisory role in a media company...

CorporateJay:
..

Hey don't despair.. Now you need to get some technical skills and start earning remotely..

Have you heard of technical writing? You can earn some money on your own without even putting up with some bad employers. $500 - $1000. Per month. It is not a get rich quick skim please.. But if you put in the work.. By December.. Things suppose dey soft for you small small

Please start from Everythingtechnicalwriting . com check out the website.. I also have an ebook I can send to you.. Send me a PM.. I will send the ebook to you..

You won't understand many things at first.. But please try.. Also try to get a laptop.. Extremely important

CorporateJay:
..

Hey don't despair.. Now you need to get some technical skills and start earning remotely..

Have you heard of technical writing? You can earn some money on your own without even putting up with some bad employers. $500 - $1000. Per month. It is not a get rich quick skim please.. But if you put in the work.. By December.. Things suppose dey soft for you small small

Please start from Everythingtechnicalwriting . com check out the website.. I also have an ebook I can send to you.. Send me a PM.. I will send the ebook to you..

You won't understand many things at first.. But please try.. Also try to get a laptop.. Extremely important

Akakanfirstclass:
you dont need to cope with any emotional trauma..
indeed all you need is to get another job
that is the best way of getting back at it.

Ezkid:
Pls start thinking big, I don't see any reason for you to be depressed cos u lost a meager paying Job anyway. Start doing little business online, if it's data sales ,POS or whatever, just do something, add value to people around u and be honest, build a strong integrity and before u know it, you will start employing people too. Those wretched teaching Jobs are just plain slavery, even lecturers self are doing side hustle.

gaby:
So sorry.

All these face me I face you one room schools sef....

You wey be teacher wetin concern school environment wey dem employ you with giatlover aproko?

I'mm juat joking and trynna cheer you up okay.

Worry not because you will land something better and bigger, trust me.

Appliedmaths:
I'm posting this to encourage someone out there.

My job hunting days started here on NL, in fact I got my first two (2) jobs here on NL after which recommendations and reputation opened more doors for me. There was one award I won in the job hunting section as the nairalander that crashes every job thread or something like that I can't remember

Below are what have been working for me so far.

Choose a career in the right industry
Simply put, "e get some kind work wey I no fit do."

I'm a very calculative person, I was kinda selective during my early days because I knew where the money was. I also understand that you have to start little, but no matter how little please don't settle for the low tier industries.

You will be behind in all facets of life, trust me on this one.

Competence
Nobody in life except your parents will be attracted to you if you don't have anything to bring to the table. Organizations will beg to have you and also dance to your terms when you have the right skill set to get the job done.

Under this point, I'll also add smartwork and personal development.

Networking with the right people
Do not hide under a rock, simply put do not hide behind your desk from January to December.

Go out and meet the people you exchange emails with, put names to faces. Have their whatsApp numbers and connect. They know you're competent, they'll be more than happy to have you on their team or strongly refer you .

You must jump ships
Make I use pidgin talk this one, dem no dey stay one place rise to the top. The people you met there will suppress you.

The people I left in my former places of work cannot lace my shoes right now. Please I am not bragging, I'm just stating the facts.

Jumping ships attract at least 40-60% and sometimes 100%+ salary increase and also position. So you decide where you'll pitch your tent.

The first 2 points will help you jump ships at your own will and terms.

On the other hand, don't jump ships too often.

The BIG God factor
As a Christian, I cannot overemphasize this. You're not the most hardworking or brilliant mind out there, in my career journey I see people with higher qualifications than me that are way behind and I ask myself many questions.

It will pay you to run with the grace of God, believe me on this one. I attend some interviews and I ask myself if this is an interview or a hangout. There was one I attended the top two officers were asking and answering themselves questions that was meant for me .

Or how do you explain when you'll put all your life problems in your salary demand (which is higher than the industry standard by 30% or so) and the company will agree 100%. Last I checked you're not the only one in the market.

I'm still on my journey, but I just feel led to share this to encourage someone out there.

ImaIma1:


Have you discussed it with your husband? What does he say about it?

Fkj2021:
She's trying to stay clear from your family and give you the peace that you deserve.

I will advise you to call her once in a while unless both of you have issues that you haven't settled.

I call my in-laws once every month to check on them.

ImaIma1:
I don't think it's normal that she has never ever called you to check on you. Does she call her son (your husband)? Does she call her daughter(s)?

If she sees and accepts you as her daughter, she should be calling you. From her behaviour, you are still an outsider to her. Does she tell her own children that they should be the only ones calling her? Would a mother not check on her children?

That's my opinion.

MadamVanessa:




Is there anyone both male and female that doesn't have a reckless past? personally, if I love , I love, I don't believe in the philosophy of digging one's past before settling down with the person; because to be very candid, there's nobody past that's palatable.

Na sex she had no be say she kill person, or no be say she give you disease. Na knack she knack, u been de knack too before u even meet am. The abortion she committed, even house wives of today , commit abortion too. So It's an old story.

Meeting you , means starting afresh with a new chapter. people with trust issue have the time of going back to dig at one's past and if look closely their past too may even be more messy.




Look for more justifiable reason to jappa after knacking the poor girl, don't come up with this childish and RECKLESS excuse.
Poor girl wey had no qualms about sleeping with a married man? 'poor' indeed.

Teettyllayho:
Seriously, your post just described exactly what my husband does. I used to be unhappy and nag him for not taking me out, buying me gifts or even giving me money.

See, everything changed when we changed our residence. I used to think that taking myself out requires thousands of naira, I discovered it doesn't when we got to my new area. I work from home, and as an introvert, I have few friends. But, I connected with an old friend of mine who has kids. She stays close by. So, what we do is, we set out dates to go out and have fun with our kids.

You have to create your own happiness in marriage. Never ever revolve your happiness around a man, or he'll never respect you.

After going out, I'll take as much pictures as possible (showing me and the kids) and post them. I celebrated my birthday with my kids and a few friends last year and I was very glad I did. Life is too short and the memories we create are what make people remember us when we're gone.

Besides, you can't change a man. A stingy man believes he's wasting money by taking you out. But when you take yourself out, you'll be happy you did, regardless of what he says or how he feels. You owe yourself happiness, please stay happy! I have learned to create my own happiness and I'm happy I did.

Sirqt5:
she's not 32

Framed:


You just opened your dirty mouth waaaaa to vomit rubbish. What in her post tells you she forced the husband to marry her? When she corrected that misconception you still opened mouth anyhow and said don't attack me. What was the attack in her telling you not to draw conclusions on things you know nothing of. You would have sounded better with your mouth closed. Nonsense and ingredients

Saintmary:




Don't attack me Ma'am, I'm just responding based on what I see from your post.

Saintmary:



This is what you get when you force a man to marry you.

Kobojunkiee:
Then make time for your own self. Go out every other day with your kid. You don't need to go far. The library, the zoo, festivals, malls, etc. Back when I was young, I even used to take a walk through Tejuosho markets, Oshodi and Even idumota for sightseeing purposes alone.

Do this for you and break free from the boredom and doldrums. You need to snap out of your fantasies to make the best of your reality.