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Oga - we are all entitled to a past. I had a bit of a similar issue with my husband during the first year of our marriage. Truth be told, it was God that got us through that one because he made it such a big deal and, to me, it really wasn't. I got to a point where I got so tired of defending myself and just gave up and gave it to God and God brought peace back into our lives. Don't judge your wife oga - none of us have the right to do that.

Interestingly enough, Naija Divas: The Premier Online Community for Young, Married, Nigerian Women in the Diaspora - www.naijadivas.com - has a similar story but from the female perspective.

This all calls for what I like to refer to as a "come to Jesus" meeting or a "real talk." Your husband sounds extremely distracted and I cant begin to imagine how you feel. Ndo oh? But please remember that you have an obligation to your little one to try everything in your power to try and make it work. I would encourage you to - one night - send your daughter to the baby sitter and schedule a time to have aserious conversation about where we are headed as a team/unit. Men are over oblivious sometimes and he may need to hear the words (as in your feelings) come out of your mouth before it hits him. Stay strong, trust in the Lord, do not lean on your own understanding and he will guide your path, He is good like that. Aunty you are strong, you will get through this.

BTW - there is a new premier online community for young, married, Nigerian women in the diaspora - www.naijadivas.com - COMING VERY SOON! Iwill be launching it this weekend. If you would like to share your current story or a success story of your marriage (AMEN!), let me know. Ndo oh?