its a fetish...

People are wierd.... Google Sexual Fetish and you will see stuvv

JoeEeL:


After one nigeria has finished dealing with u, u'll remove "Nigeria" from ur moniker.

U'll only asnwer "Guy"

unfortunately i don't have another country...

its shamefull whats going on in Nigeria.
Other countries of the world are moving on and growing but some elements are still dragging us behind.

real shame

i have come to understand that;

You are elderly does not guarantee wisdom
You are wealthy does not guarantee smartness
you are popular does not guarantee moralily.


Live your life and dont let any body make you feel less of yourself.

True

no other suspect...

they can push for a mistrial

Kobojunkie:
Do go ahead with the Vasectomy as you already have two kids and there is no reason why anyone in what is an already overpopulated world we live in should have more than 2.

As for the other, please consider marriage therapy like your friends insist, and maybe also suggest mental health therapy for your wife as well. She sounds like someone who depends on you a lot and many people who do that typically do so out of fear that they cannot take the wheels as far as their own lives. A typical human being, living in what is today's world, ought to have drive and ambition, even if tied together with the raising of a family of their own.

Yes, many folks appear lazy and unmotivated on the outside, but on the inside, a struggle is going on in their attempt to make sense of their existence and worth as individuals. A few appointments with a mental health therapist may help her realize the problem she has become in her own marriage.

solid points...

but we are all humans, just like she has limitations to her mental capacity, so do I. there is a limit to what i can also take.

However, maybe the therapy might be worth a try

faithfull18:
Not everyone is ambitious, some people are contented with the little they make but this life sef, very few meet people with their type of energy.

Well, it probably balances out that way because a lazy person ending up with a lazy person will be a huge disaster.

i agree
But i am irked when someone around me stays jobless. there should be effort.
Everyday cannot be rosy, i could loose my job what do we fall back to??

marriage is a joint effort, two happy people coming together to create a happy union.
Shouldnt be like fostercare, like i adopted someones daughter with permission for conjugal rights.

ALT Monkier for this, Am an old NLer Hence...

I got married 2 years now. I have a baby 1 year old and one on the way, 6months in.

Before we got married i always hated this dedicated wife church matter because am a practical person. I guess i let the signs slip. My wife is too spiritual, she prays every 12 midnight and sings deliverance songs in the shower. NB she wasnt like this before we got married cos we co-inhabited for 4 months right before marriage.

Presently she works with my uncle (N40k monthly). Its a simple Job that doesnt require her presence. She hardly goes there, maybe once a week, I have advised her to try to visit at least 2 hrs everyday notwithstanding if there is no activity as she gets paid monthly. Right after we got married i enrolled her for further studies (ICAN professionals) and she dropped out after passing one course out of 4. She only pushes herself when we quarrel - then you see her going to work, posting her personal business online and stuff. She failed 4 job tests for tier 1 blue collar companies and i am beginning to think it was on purpose. She is also opposed to travelling abroad.

i work in a big organization with a monthly of over N5ook. I drop minimum of N100k monthly for upkeep. this is besides the other expenses i make during the course of the month. NB - i Pay for everything at home.

The other day i told her to tone down on her church (its a small church like a prayer house, they claim her aunty is diabolical and has sealed the destiny of the entire family) as i think they have a grip on her. She quoted Ephesians 5:25 - Husbands love your wife. Explaining how i should treat her nicely and stuff. i in turn quoted VS 22 (wives submit to your husbands) elaborating that submission is holistic and what not. After which she flared up and threatened to deal with me if i ever attempt to subjugate her.

Honestly, i feel like she wants to be a housewife and this worries me as i hate lazy people.
There was a time i lost my sex drive due to stress. I had to psych myself to find her irresistible. This made me aroused whenever i see her, but she wont stop praying.

Frankly i have applied for a vasectomy and made inquires for a divorce. My friend says i should try therapy but i feel exhausted.
Why do people have to make marriage so hard.??

This seems like a Nollywood drama but this is my life. I feel bad for my child as she will be taking the head of my action/inaction.

JustAPartOfMyStory