Reading most of the responses above I feel people need to be more educated and more open minded about adult care and Nursing homes. Having a nursing home cater for elderly ones does not mean abandoning them. It actually shows how much you care for them and how much you want to ensure they live long.

Did you guys know that Life expectancy of Nigerians at Birth is 46 years? and at age 60 it is 15.5 years? and in a population of about 165mill only 3-4 % are 65 and above? This is so because there is no social security, pensions are unpaid for those that are pensionable, most families cannot afford basic health care for the elderly as such they manage and in the process give their loved ones less than the best leading to their early demise and at the same time ruining their marriages and careers. The elderly are isolated socially from their peers and so have little reason to live longer thinking they are already too old as it is?

Do you also know that the government does nothing to cater for the elderly?

On the other end of the spectrum we have poor quality Nursing homes. If there were good quality homes with the assisted living houses where an elderly couple or even one of them can be accommodated in a well furnished apartment  within the facility where all their needs are taken care of from Medical to social and all the kids have to do is pay and visit. I feel this is very good as it will not end up destroying your marriage, your parents will not feel deserted and you will be rest assured that they are in good hands.

People have to open their eyes to see the world is changing and if we try to stay stuck to the Typical tradition of maintaining our beliefs about family then maybe we should not go look for white collar jobs and stay home fetching firewood and selling groundnut in front of our houses. That way we will not have to worry about balancing modern life with traditional values.

This reply is to lucabrasi who basically says Nigerian police are unpaid and still put their lives out there to protect the public I want to let you know its not true, first no one forced them to join the force so risking their lives is just a job if they don't like it they can quit.secondly extorting from the masses and saluting criminals with sirens is just as evil so personally that woman should be given a naval cross for bravery while under attack by robbers. LMAO!!!!hehehe!