abumeinben:


This is why u were not called for interview....smh

iamtomi:
all the people shouting "3some,3some" i can bet that they have never xperienced it o... mtscheeww!

otijah:
WTF , as we immediately started romancing after long period of disagreement and struggling, her phone rang, and it was her friend asking for her location, she told her to come to our hotel. I was shocked and asked her were is she gonna stay if eventually she comes and she said in the same room. I asked her if she was in her right senses and she said yes that she is her best friend and can't keep her outside.

I kept quiet and was trying to rush and do the thing before her friend reaches but all hope was lost wen she called that she was at the hotel gate.

she went outside brought her inside the room and her foolish friend on seeing me made no attempt to resist entering rather she came in and sat there and both started gisting and laughing. I was soo mad that i had to put on my clothes and shoes, with my laptop and i headed for the bar making sure that non of my belongings was left in that room.

i was in the bar drinking when she called my phone and requested for food, i asked if her friend also needed and she said yes. i required for the price of the food and a plate was 1500 (3000 for both), that was when i knew i was in for some shiit.

But to cut everything short, I just picked up my laptop and phones and went straight to my car and headed home.

She later called after an hour to know whats holding the food and i told her i don't know that am at my house maybe she should call the kitchen and ask whats the problem, she banged the call and since hasn't called me again. Me wetin concern me, At least the only expenses i did was just the room payment, i know that they must have trekked to their houses that day .

Tokotaya:
If you have a dormant bank account in Nigeria, you could be on CBN’s debtors’ list. Let me recast that, if you have a dormant account in Ecobank, you may already be a debtor, without knowing it. Your name may have been listed as having bad credit on the Credit Risk Management Bureau (CRMB)’s database with CBN. It’s not a demarketing attempt. It is purely my experience that others can learn from.

I had a current account in Ecobank around 2011. My ex-employer moved our salaries there based on a nice presentation made by the Branch Manager of the Bank at the time. However, the promises made were not met, so the salary account was moved elsewhere and we all thought it ended there.

More than three years later, I had left the company and was processing a loan with another bank. Near the completion of the deal, they called to tell me I was owing Ecobank. I was advised to sort it out with them before any progress could be made. I didn’t take any loan. The account didn’t have an overdraft facility. It was a basic current account from which you could never withdraw above your available balance at any point in time. How could I owe on the account?

I called their customer care and the lady insisted I must have taken a loan. I insisted I did not, and tried to convince her to look into the account to see what could have happened. She rudely cut the call!

I made a series of other calls and was linked to their Oke Afa, Isolo Branch where the account resided and was able to establish that it was my dormant account there that ran into negative. Ecobank made some routine charges on the account and when they depleted what was there, they made negative deduction of N119 and the negative started accumulating interest that had amounted to about N2,500 by late last year when I applied for a loan.

What manner of a bank would make deductions from a dormant account? I went to the bank and confronted them. An official explained that an account going dormant does not mean that charges could not be made on it. He said a man can be sleeping, but his bodily functions work nonetheless.

I paid off the money and obtained a letter of Non-indebtedness and took it to my new bank before they could process my loan. The great worry: what if I had not applied for a loan at another bank? How would I have known? Many decades later, may be as a pensioner, one may now apply for something and they will tell you there’s a debt of a couple of millions of naira you need to clear.

I’ve commenced the process of closing the account with Ecobank. Other dormant accounts I have are going too, even though some of the other banks are arguing that their own processes are different from Ecobank’s. They argue that typically, your dormant account holds the last balance there till you reactivate it. One said if at all any customer’s account goes into red, his bank had a standard procedure to call up the customer by phone to alert him. No one called me from Ecobank.

[font=Lucida Sans Unicode]How much was N119 that Ecobank would go ahead to list me as having a non-performing loan instead of calling me to clear it. [/font

]The totality of my experience with Ecobank has been horrible to say the least. To even collect the Letter of Non-Indebtedness was a war. It took nearly 3 weeks of constant harassment to get it ready and on the day I was to pick it up, I spent three and a half hours in their banking hall.
So folks, check up on all your current dormant accounts, especially those with Ecobank.

Buharifan:
Hello,

There is a lady I got her number through 'truecaller number search' about a year ago. Incidentally, we happened to be from the same state. Based on my conversation with her I can deduced that she is religious and intelligent. She is a University student. She even happened to know one of my sisters in her class.

I made an attempt to see her when I visit home last year. She refused to see me, instead called me to thank God for journey mercy back to my state of residence. From there, I stopped calling her because me I want a serious relationship but she seems not serious. So I called off the r/ship. After about 6 months she sent me greetings on whatsapp which I accepted, and restarted the talking and the chatting.
This week she came to one neighbouring state for a wedding, and I offered to visit her which she accepted. I travelled to the state ysterday to see her. on reaching there, I called her around 5:30pm she gave the venue I can meet her but she said after sunset lets meet. After sunset, I called she said she has left the venue, I asked her to tell me where she is now, she declined. It is story upon story. She refused to pick my calls later. I decided to return to my state that night and got hone around 12:30am.

What surprise me is this is somebody I see as religious but ending up decieving me. It is a lesson.

Ayolaw2003:
On a more realistic note... I think our girls aint as bad as we paint them. I don't expect a lady who is educated to be classless and falls into every chats (especially anonymous chats). Our girls like to live shoulders-high and I think we need to accept them as they are and we (guys) can always bring them 'shoulders-down'. Its so simple....even if a girl should respond to your message 15mins or more like the Op stated, nothing stops you from asking her later why she's didn't respond in time..
Nigerian girls are the BEST in the world! I love and value Nigerian girls.

MY CHATS WITH A NIGERIAN GIRL : .

.

.
Me: Hello

. . . She: I

. . .Me: uhm,ok..how are you?

. . .She: 5n

. . .Me: how's your day going?

. . .She: (after 15mins) 5n

. . .Me: Please,kindly tell me about yourself

. . .She: Y?

. . .Me: nothing much dear,just want to
know you better

. . .She: check my profile

. . .Me: seriously??

. . .She: kk

We set a date for the date In the morning of the set date


I hail your English teacher



#KINGKONG

maverickdude:
FTC



dedicate this to all those wu will do anytin to make ftc,including forfeiting their midnight rest e.g introvert

Xiadnat:
My first friend-boy; dreamt of him like crazy after we broke up every other night, then once weekly, then monthly for straight two years even after we broke up. *sighs*.

I am over him now tho. But, gosh, did it hurt. Was for a purpose and it made me stronger.

Now, every other guy after that, when it's over I just say "sayonara", don't let the door hit your a$$. And, I spend 5 secs mourning them, and it's over.

What they say about first loves or likes......they stick like white on rice.

Blackett:
How will sharing an inconsequential dream reduce pms to 40naira per liter?

ChiSun27:




I beg.... u need to dey move forward because stagnancy is a disease... Past is past...future is great. In other news...forward ever. Don't stand in one junction...enter bus or bike and move ahead. No past relationship is worth your present and future happiness.

naijaboiy:
Why do you all have terrible Exes?

ChiSun27:
U dey go front abi u dey go back?

mczico:
hit single dropping soon

There should always be a balance between your job, your social life, your leisure/rest/relaxation time.

A friend visited me for my birthday and got a chance to tell me about the hostile work environment being created for many employees in his department by their shared supervisor.

He told me he was glad to get away for a brief vacation because he’d been so stressed out at work. He even said that his office mate, a quiet and mild-mannered woman, was pushed to the point where she screamed at the supervisor before walking out on the job—never to return. The woman had already quit once. But, the company offered her a raise to come back to the job. They promised things would get better. They did. For a few weeks. Then, the hostile work environment was right back. And, that led to the woman telling off her supervisor and walking off the job.

My friend and this woman had been enduring the stress of working for this person together. With her gone, that allowed by my friend to be subjected to more negative behavior from his supervisor.

In fact, things got so bad that my friend said that he’d been getting tension headaches. Like clockwork, the headaches came every day on his way to work. He had knots in his shoulders from being tense all day. And, he was absolutely stressed out because his harasser was making his presence known all day. He barely got any relief from the behavior.

This immediately took me back to my ordeal in the workplace. I remember tension headaches well. I also remember the sleepless nights, hair falling out, and my diagnosis with stage-1 hypertension.

What’s strange about it is that it took me a while to really register how bad I was feeling. When you are being subjected to discrimination, harassment and/or retaliation, you are so caught up in every incident at work, in avoiding your harasser(s), and in surviving each work day without being set up for failure or set up for blame that you don’t really absorb what your body is going through.

I think it was weeks before I realized that I was frequently getting headaches on the way to work. I had problems concentrating. I went from not eating to overeating. There was one thing after another going on and none of it was really registering for me until everything pretty much registered all at once. The onset of hypertension was the biggest shock.

My doctor gave me a week to see if my blood pressure would decrease before starting me on a lifetime regimen of medication to keep my pressure down. I spent that week doing yoga and taking walks outside, when I felt stressed at work. When I went home, I made myself talk to my family about something other than work. I watched movies and forced myself to be distracted.

It worked. My pressure went down, but it was still elevated. That’s when I knew I had to make some really important decisions about whether or not to remain at that job and what to do with my future.

The point of this post is to remind anyone whose going through issues at work to remember their health.

This will sound harsh, but the people violating Federal statutes at work (or dancing on the line of violating the law) won’t miss one night’s sleep if you die from a heart attack. They’ll help collect money to send flowers to your family for your funeral and they will go right on attacking the next person.

In the midst of race-related issues at work, you should make appointments to visit your doctor because elevated blood pressure is no joke. When I realized I was having headaches, I never connected it to hypertension. I just thought it was a simple stress headache. But, it was more. Visit your doctor. And, if you need to really speak to someone about your issues, visit a psychotherapist or psychiatrist to discuss your issues.

I know Black folks like to go to church and not mental health professionals, but sometimes you have to go there if you are having serious issues coping with the realities of your job. It’s not always enough to speak to friends and family about your issues. I will be the first to admit that, for a short time, I needed anti-anxiety medication to sleep and deal with the stress. Things had gotten that bad over the YEARS of issues taking place at my job.

I want everyone going through issues at work to come out of it with their health, if nothing else. Whether or not you file a complaint against your employer or you find a lawyer to assist you is secondary compared to living to see another day.

Look after your physical and mental health, before all else. That’s easy to forget in the midst of racial drama at work.

lagmostkuit:
Ah swear to fuvk, that shiit is too long!

Young03:
I swear I couldnt read this

Why has a disappointing sex life with your partner become the norm?

Everywhere I look, people preach that passionless long-term relationships and marriages are inevitable. Women supposedly lose their desires while men are forever frustrated. They claim you have to accept your miserable fate and learn to laugh about it. That isn’t funny to me.

The sad thing is, they’re often right. There are so many couples where both parties feel unfulfilled. And it got me thinking…why is that?

We’re the most plugged-in, knowledgeable generation in history. We have an unlimited supply of relationship books, dating advice blogs, and marriage counselors. We have all the resources needed to create exciting sexual connections.

So if it’s not a lack of resources, then maybe the resources are wrong. I’ve come to realize the problem is…


No one is speaking honestly. They sugarcoat everything. They don’t have the guts to admit what’s really going on. It’s the fluff perpetuated by society, religion, “relationship experts”, magazines, and dating game shows.

Guess what? Most of it doesn’t work. If it did, why do…

Roughly 48% to 53% of marriages end in divorce.
2/3 of divorces get initiated by women.
An estimated 15-20% of marriages become sexless.
41% of marriages have one or both partner committing infidelity. 54% of women admit to cheating at least once in their lives. 68% of women say they would have an affair if they didn’t get caught. And those are just the ones who owned up to it. (Source)
Get ready for the truth but please understand, there’s no going back.

Dispelling the excuses and accepting reality
You and everyone else has a hundred different reasons why you’re not having sex:

Your woman is stressed at work. There’s never enough time in the day. You just need more date nights. Life is hard and tiring. The list goes on and on.

While all of the above may be true, no one is saying the biggest overarching reason:

She’s just not that attracted to you.

She probably was at some point in the past but not currently. Right now you don’t get her turned on to the point where she can’t control herself. You don’t draw the primal, animalistic lust out of her. And she’s not getting wet enough when she’s with you.

This is where a good portion of readers will start flipping out. “You don’t know what the hell you’re talking about Nick!” They will get defensive, panic, and rationalize their lack of sex under the guise of “My partner has a low libido. She has a low sex-drive and doesn’t think about that stuff.”

Really? That’s why….

48% of women masturbate weekly.
50 Shades of Grey obliterated records becoming the fastest selling paperback in history. The series has sold a whopping 70 million copies and has been read by nearly every woman under the age of 55. Oh and it contains 98.54% more sexual content than the average romance novel.
42% of women are dissatisfied with their current sex life.
Barring medical complications (which I’ll discuss later), chances are I’m right. We are born to have sex — it’s part of our biology, just like eating and sleeping. It’s one of our core physiological needs to live happily. And if you still think I’m full of it, consider this…

Why was she having sex with you regularly before (at least weekly) and it suddenly started to dwindle? (monthly or less)
Does she really have no time for sex? Is she spending effort watching TV, on the computer, on Facebook, and other leisure activities?
Is she reading romance novels and other material that get her fantasizing about sex?
Does she exercise and maintain physical activity during the day? Then why when it comes to intimacy, she’s always too tired? Most of the time, you’re doing the physical work and expending the energy.
How often did she have sex in her previous relationships? What are the naughtiest things she’s done with someone else? I guarantee you’d be floored to hear that some of your girlfriends have had lots of sex, talked filthy, enjoyed roughness, and experienced a variety of sexual escapades.
The biggest mindfuck is when men-in-denial are left by their supposedly frigid women. Girls leave their sexless relationships and suddenly enjoy being sexually liberated. They start hooking up with guys like crazy or end up with a new man that they can’t resist being penetrated by.

You really think your partner doesn’t crave sex anymore? Stop the denial. They just don’t desire you. Now let’s figure out why that happened and what you can do about it.

How did this happen? The mental missteps
The overwhelming majority of women want to be polarized by a masculine, dominant energy. That doesn’t mean she’s weaker or less than you. That doesn’t mean you control her. That means you’re a leader of others, but most importantly, of yourself.

Somewhere along the line she stopped seeing you as that man. And it’s usually about your mental traits rather than your physical ones.

Let’s assume you have a woman that genuinely cares about you and wants to make the relationship work. If that’s not the case, then there’s a larger issue here and you shouldn’t be with her in the first place. So…

Maybe you stopped being assertive. You don’t speak your mind. You’re timid. You don’t go after what you want or want the best for yourself. You have no ambition. You don’t set and enforce your boundaries.

Maybe you lost your confidence. You have low self-esteem. You don’t trust in yourself and never take charge. You’re always negative and cynical. You get jealous easily. You became needy, clingy, dependent, and overbearing.

Maybe you let yourself go. You got lazy. You stopped taking care of your health and your appearance. You don’t dress well. You walk around with weak, unattractive body language that makes you look like a pushover.

Maybe you became an asshole. You close off and don’t communicate your feelings in healthy ways. You’re passive-aggressive. You flip out and yell at her for no reason. You disrespect her. You ignore her. You’re controlling and manipulative. You don’t have fun together or make her laugh.

And the huge one I can almost guarantee…

You stopped expressing your sexuality and you don’t tap into her sexual desires.

How did this happen? The sexual missteps
Inside every woman is a carnal beast wanting to be unleashed. The problem is she’s been raised and told by the world that her sexuality is wrong. That it’s something to be ashamed of. She needs your encouraging leadership to tap into that inner sex goddess.

Again, somewhere along the line she stopped getting to that emotional, sexual place. It could be…

You don’t flirt with her randomly. You don’t sext her anymore or make her feel sexy every day. You don’t initiate sexual contact or naughty talk. You fall into the same boring routine. You’re not spontaneous. You don’t create wild sexual adventures. You don’t talk with her openly about sex. And you don’t indulge her deepest fantasies.

You don’t walk into the room and run your hands all over her body. You don’t take her with passion. You never tease her body until she’s shaking with excitement. You don’t get her moaning uncontrollably and experiencing incredible orgasms.

The research shows that women like to be desired and taken by their man.

“In the lab, women are responding generally to scenarios of sexual assault. …Does that mean that any of us want to go out and be sexually assaulted? No, it doesn’t. The realm of arousal and the realm of fantasy can tell us something about ourselves psychologically.

The feeling of being desired is a very powerful one, a very electrical one. And I think at least at the fantasy level, that sense of being wanted, and being wanted beyond the man’s self-control is also really powerful.”

Unfortunately, you may have even discouraged her sexuality altogether. Men tend to put little effort into stirring their woman’s sexual emotions. They curl up in bed, don’t try to arouse her, and timidly ask for sex. They get frustrated when she doesn’t respond with enthusiasm.

Then they beg. When that doesn’t work, they pout or try to guilt her into it. They automatically expect her to take off her clothes just because she’s their partner. Sex becomes a chore or obligation to the woman. It gets associated with negative feelings rather than something they love and crave to do.

This kind of behavior is pathetic, unfair, and an absolute turnoff.

How to fix things moving forward
Sexless_MarriageIf you want a healthy sex life with your partner, she has to become attracted to you again. Sometimes that’s possible, sometimes it’s not. The only way to find out is by taking action because waiting around won’t change your circumstances.

Commit to being a strong man — permanently. Do it for yourself. Regardless of whether it works with this woman, you have to become the best version of you. Work on the four mental points above: become assertive, develop your confidence, take care of yourself, and stop being an asshole. Analyze which areas need the most development and tackle them one by one.
Embrace your sexual side and encourage hers. Show her how much you desire her. Touch and tease her often. Don’t beg or whine like a little boy. Always be spontaneous and make sex fun again. Ask about her wants and how you can pleasure her immensely. Allow her to share and partake in her ultimate fantasies without judgment. Incorporate what you’re missing in the “sexual missteps” section.

You need to get her to the point where her sexual drive overtakes her. Where she’s in that primal mode which she’ll do just about anything. You’ll be amazed at how wild women can really get. They’ll do things that they claim they would never do or think is gross — and they may actually mean it. But sexual emotions are a powerful force.

Commonalities and similar values are great for our daily lives but opposites attract in the bedroom. We don’t want stability, we want variety and unpredictability. We don’t always want clean, we desire to be “wrong” and to experiment with taboos. Don’t take my word for it: Esther Perel, one of the premier psychologists on sexuality and couples advocates this for healthy sexual relationships.

Both of you communicate your expectations about sex. You have to really think about what you need to be sexually satisfied in a relationship — within reason. Wanting sex 3x a day is probably not going to happen. Personally, at least attempting for intimacy on a daily basis is important.

For others, you may be happy with a few times a week. Obviously everyone is different but I would say most couples should strive for at least that. Let her know it’s not just about your needs but that you want to give her the best sex of her life. Ask for her input on how you can make that happen.

If there’s any potential medical complications affecting her sex drive like birth control or thyroid problems, discuss it together. Make an appointment with her and be the support she needs to get the issue fixed.

Evaluate her reaction and the overall situation. How has she taken to steps 1-3? Is she receptive or dismissive? Is she open and willing to discuss your sex life together? Is she being fair to your needs or does she completely shut you down? Does she want to put effort into improving your romance? Or does she make you feel bad for wanting sex?

I can’t give you a definitive answer on what you should end up doing with your relationship. Everyone’s situation is different — some couples have been together for many years, some are married with a home, and some have children. It’s never an easy decision. But I can tell you this…

Give the above a fair shot. For me, that would mean a couple months, not years. If she’s always negative or disrespectful, if she doesn’t put in any effort, and if nothing has improved, it might be time to consider walking away. You should never stay in a relationship out of fear — either of the unknown or of being alone. And don’t settle for someone that isn’t meeting your needs.

If you’re in a monogamous relationship, she is the only person you can have sex with unless you plan on cheating. If you’re unhappy and unfulfilled sexually, will you be able to spend the rest of your life like that? Will she? I doubt it.

Sex doesn’t have to get less enjoyable over time. Marriages are not destined to dead bedrooms. And stop believing that women don’t want sex as much as we do.

Find the right woman and be an irresistible man.

israelBigFame:
What of Olosho ? I spend my hard earned money on ashawo

Salex007:
GAMBLING

okonja:
18) Buying MTN data of 1GB for N3500 from MTN directly while you can as well get 3GB worth of MTN data from me at that same amount...